Welcome to CDH, Vanessa. All of us here have come to where we are from different directions. Some of us are married with accepting spouses and some spouses are not accepting. Some if are single, some are gay, some straight and some bi. Some of are out and transitioning, some f us are deep in the closet. Some of us are happy to only CD a few hours here and there are some of us want/need? to present fully female 24/7.
For myself almost 4 years ago I accidently let my X find out. The first thing she did was to tell our 3 grown kids and she threatened to tell my mother and 4 brothers. I told my brothers myself and my mother passed before I could tell her. Now since I am out to many of the important people in my life I can be out as Cassie more and more.