Patience is very hard because you want to be you and you want it now. I only told my wife about a month ago. She never got angry to me but it def hit hard at first. I have been trying to be patient and having talks in small chunks without overwhelming her with information and emotion. Everytime we talk about it she cries and sometimes me too…but in the end we have decided that we still love each other and dont want to lose each other. But she too does not really “accept” the dressing. She doesnt want to see it but knows I do it at night. She also said if I were ever to decide to transition or live full time en femme that would be a deal breaker for our marriage.
So…its really hard for both parties but as time is going on I think she is becoming more and more accepting. Oddly we have had more sex in the past 4 weeks than in the past year probably 🤷♂️. Over time its been a little easier for me too, as at first even though she knew i was shaving everything I had anxiety about her touching. Now we cuddle all the time and she is ok with me wearing very basic like hanes bikini panties to bed. Im still adjusting to her seeing me in those but im so happy I can sleep comfortably.
im just sharing my story to emphasize that taking times with things has been very helpful. You dont want to overload your wife! Its still a work a in progress to be sure…
i hope everything works out for the best!!