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Registered On: October 6, 2020Topics: 24Replies: 36Has thanked: 332 timesBeen thanked: 522 timesI came out a few months ago and everything has been great. Brandy’s wardrobe has gotten bigger she got some cute heels and boots. I started thinking am I a crossdresser or is it I just like to play dress up or both. I sometimes get into my own head. How about you Is it crossdressing, playing dress up, or like to crossdress because it gives us a chance to play dress up??
Thinking out loud.
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I crossdress and seriously considering transition. When I was younger and exploring, it was dress up.
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I guess I don’t really differentiate the terms, other than the, “play” part. I feel like Birel is part of who I am, not some pretend game or something.
It’s an interesting question though, as many of you know, I have been struggling to figure out my own identity. I have noticed a change in my own feelings about dressing lately though. If I put on a dress or skirt, I’m still terrified that I would be viewed as an imposter or something. Where, if I’m just hanging out around the house in a skimpy t-shirt and short shorts, I feel natural. I feel like me. I feel like, “Why can’t I just go out for a walk and enjoy the weather like this?” Know what I mean?
Birel
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- Registered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 13Replies: 888Has thanked: 2843 timesBeen thanked: 4255 times
If you feel more comfortable in specific clothes, then it’s not for others to judge.
Who made them judge?
You’re not an imposter – that is where the authentic “you” wants to be, so it is genuine self-expression, and, if you’ll excuse the term, bugger all to do with anyone else!
Love Laura
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- Registered On: October 6, 2020Topics: 24Replies: 36Has thanked: 332 timesBeen thanked: 522 times
Yes I know what you mean and i felt the same way.Its a journey we all have gone on and have to figure it out on our own. I came out to everyone but im still going on my journey do what I do. Dress up and go outside in the back yard and progress from there it will get easier.
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Personally it’s a bit of both. I consider it crossdressing when I’m in something comfortable. Like a skirt and a cute top, jeans and a tshirt, sundress, and so on. It’s dress up for me when in a costume, a business suit, a cocktail dress, a lovely LBD, killer heels. Hope I’m offending anyone by this.
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- Registered On: February 24, 2021Topics: 3Replies: 32Has thanked: 80 timesBeen thanked: 145 times
I think everyone starts as playing dress up. I “dressed up” off and on for years but only as a closet dresser. It changed when I came out to others, especially when I went public. When Beth came out to the world she was serious. Now my male persona never leaves the house because he has no mens clothes. Beth is the only one who goes out. She is in charge, she loves her man side just as much as ever, but they have switched primary and dependant roles.
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- Registered On: May 26, 2019Topics: 18Replies: 1835Has thanked: 3389 timesBeen thanked: 6283 times
If I’m playing “dress up”, it’s on a permanent basis. Every bit of clothing on my body has been ladies’ wear for the past year – including coats and hats; and it feels right and natural for me to be wearing them.
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- Registered On: July 28, 2020Topics: 22Replies: 810Has thanked: 7339 timesBeen thanked: 3387 times
I don’t see it as either… I just want to feel feminine… inside I feel like a woman… unfortunately, I was born with the wrong genitalia. 😢
I don’t feel masuculine at all… at least how I think masculinity would feel. It’s difficult to describe.
All I know is that when I wear my feminine clothing, it just feels so natural… as this is how it was meant to be. I don’t feel comfortable in drabbies…
L❤VE
Gen ❤
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For me its crossdressing and playing dress up is trying see how good you can look in your sisters clothes
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I largely agree with the previous post, unless your tg it’s playing dress up. But I believe everyone plays dress up, ggs included. When women get dressed to go out for an evening (makeup , heels etc) they are playing dress up. Their motivation may be different Ie to get attention from the opposite sex or to simply feel good about themselves knowing they look good. I don’t believe people spend that much time and discomfort without a payoff. Most of us want to look attractive in whatever we wear even in drab. I feel when we look good we feel good. It just happens to be many of us like the way we look in clothes not associated with our born gender. One nice thing being a straight dresser is having a built in audience of one. He always loves when Melanie plays dress up or whatever it is she calls it.
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- Registered On: September 12, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 48Has thanked: 336 timesBeen thanked: 195 times
Ultimately, unless you are transgender and planning to transition, it’s playing dress up.
I have no desire to be female. I’m a man that likes to wear what is considered female clothing. I like the way it feels. I like the way it looks.
I am a crossdresser. I like to dress up as a woman.
Linda
Linda,those are my thoughts exactly ,although I would like to make an attempt at being passable so I could go out on the town with my Wife.
debbie
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For me its more of a way of life. I wear 24/7 and my crossdressing is a lot different then most. I more an androgynous crossdresser. I like to mix both genders of clothing together. Example would be like. Leggings and/or skirts combined with men’s tee shirts or a dress with my beard and chest hair popping out everywhere.
See I am a Twisted Sister.
Just kinda like them 1980s heavy metal hair bands.
Hippie
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- Registered On: February 22, 2021Topics: 3Replies: 46Has thanked: 244 timesBeen thanked: 139 times
I think it’s both. Also, I’d LOVE to play dress up and have a full on girlfriends day/weekend with my wife! While she knows and supports pretty well, she doesn’t engage much. I would love to set a weekend aside just for us to go to a hotel, shop, dress, lounge, and do a girlfriends bonding weekend.
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It is most definately dressing up that is the best part, What other reason could there possibly be for becoming a lady for the day?
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- Registered On: January 2, 2021Topics: 5Replies: 575Has thanked: 720 timesBeen thanked: 1675 times
Playing dress up? Are you kidding?
I am Polly… I have to have clothes otherwise I cannot go out! I have but few drab clothes left except my most memorable of favourite items.
I have no drab underwear at all! I don’t even possess any androgynous clothing either.
I only have clothes that serve Polly… I have business suits (female style), various dresses, skirts and tops, cardigans, sweaters, parkas, lingerie of various sorts (some to tempt my wife!)… But I don’t ‘play’ dress-up.
I’m not even a cross dresser in the strictest sense of the word… I AM POLLY, a somewhat newbie woman… an apprentice woman if you will but I am deadly serious about what I am!Polly
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- Registered On: November 17, 2018Topics: 134Replies: 1639Has thanked: 2552 timesBeen thanked: 7224 times
“Cross dressing is the act of wearing clothing not commonly associated with one’s sex.” Wikipedia.
Playing dress up is ” A game or activity ( as for children) that involves dressing up in special clothing or costumes.” – merriam.webster.com and many other dictionary definitions.
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- Registered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 13Replies: 888Has thanked: 2843 timesBeen thanked: 4255 times
Merriam Webster has more to say about dressing up… It’s not just a game – it can have more serious purposes.
“to attire in clothes suited to a particular role”
Wearing clothes is dressing up 😁😍😍😍😍🤗
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/dress-up
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- Registered On: February 3, 2021Topics: 29Replies: 549Has thanked: 1338 timesBeen thanked: 1579 times
For me I love the feeling and it feels so natural now. I love being Katey and expressing myself. My desire to CD have only grown stronger. I have a huge feminine side that I’m very proud of.
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- Registered On: September 11, 2019Topics: 22Replies: 112Has thanked: 524 timesBeen thanked: 615 times
Hi Brandie
For me it is more dress up, I don’t think I could ever pass anyway and I dress in private for my own pleasure. When I first joined CDH I posted a message asking if this was appropriate for the site. So many girls on here are committed to life changing journeys I felt my desire to put on high heels and a dress somehow trivialised what they where going through. I have come to realise there are lots girls with different aspirations for themselves and all are welcome.
Jen
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- Registered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 13Replies: 888Has thanked: 2843 timesBeen thanked: 4255 times
Hi Jen
What you are doing in no way trivialises what others are doing – we’re all sisters here, honey!
You understand the desire to dress in a way that is not traditional for the male sex, and that makes you a valuable member of this site.
I assume that you also are curious about why you feel that way, and how to take the next step, if you have one in mind – in which case you’re no different to the rest of us, except for the fact you’re different and individual… oh you know what I mean!
Big hugs!
Laura.
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Ultimately, unless you are transgender and planning to transition, it’s playing dress up.
I have no desire to be female. I’m a man that likes to wear what is considered female clothing. I like the way it feels. I like the way it looks.
I am a crossdresser. I like to dress up as a woman.
Linda
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- Registered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 13Replies: 888Has thanked: 2843 timesBeen thanked: 4255 times
For me, the desire to dress in girls clothes came first, and I got into acting and dressing up purely for the chance to wear the clothes.
Unfortunately, none of my acting roles have given me that opportunity – although I enjoy acting, dressing up and being someone else for a while – it’s always a disappointment that I never get a female role. There isn’t much call for a 6’4″ lady, not even in pantomime. The dame part usually goes to a guy who is properly shorter than 5′ 10″ in my experience.
It’s a sad case of “Why am I never the bridesmaid, still less the blushing bride”.
#violins
Love Laura
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- Registered On: January 20, 2021Topics: 7Replies: 106Has thanked: 372 timesBeen thanked: 515 times
This is actually a great question Brandy!
For me personally, it definitely started out as ‘playing dress up’. That time when I was a child I put down to curiosity and intrigue. At the time, I wouldn’t have understood what it really meant.
When I gave into my thoughts at the beginning of this year and dressing, it was definitely the feel of the clothes, the bra, the panties that did it for me. Wearing them gave me happiness and pleasure that I hadn’t felt before. I did this for a while and it was great and I believe during this time, it was nothing more than dressing up.
Then I hit a point where I wanted more. I wanted to wear different outfits, different shoes and I think this was the turning point from dressing up to being a crossdresser. For the first time in my life, I was thinking about clothes in a completely different way and as items to love rather than taking all of about 10 seconds to choose a t shirt and jeans or a suit (back in the olden days when I sometimes went to an office hehe).
For me, soon as I started thinking like a woman, that was the pivotal moment. When I started thinking that things were cute or pretty and wondered if a dress would look good on me, it stopped being dress up.
To clarify, I absolutely love the dressing up bit. I love the clothes, and I’m excited for the other bits I’ve not tried yet like make up, nails and jewellery. They all make me feel gorgeous, beautiful and femme and that feeling is amazing.
But, what I also love now is the fact my mind is also changing and that shows me I’m growing as a crossdresser.
Love Rachel
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- Registered On: October 15, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 122Has thanked: 64 timesBeen thanked: 571 times
It was playing dress up, when I was staying with my cousin ( a girl a year older than me).She had lots of hand down clothes that her mom gave her. Everything from lingerie to skirts and dresses. She even had heels that were outdated. After some coaxing she got me to agree to let her dress me in some of these clothes. At first I refused because I was a young boy and I thought that wearing women’s clothes were for girls and not boys She was able to convince me to at least try and I agreed to let her.At first I wasn’t to enthused about it, but she applied makeup and a wig that changed the way I looked from a young boy into a passable looking girl. She showed me how to walk in heels and sit as a girl dose by crossing my legs. The deciding thing was that she let me wear her panties and her bra. This changed my mind about letting her dress me up. My voice hadn’t changed yet so when I spoke I sounded like a girl She convinced me to go to the movies with her as a girl and thats when I realized that I enjoyed being seen as a girl She interduced me as her cousin from out of town and everyone was convinced that was who I was Thats when I became a crossdresser. Of course it was years later that I acquired my own female clothes and lingerie and I’ve been wearing women’s clothes ever since. So Brindle, I guess that it started by playing dress up and escalated into me being a crossdresser. I hope this helps you understand that there is a difference between dress up and crossdressing, at least there is a difference for me I actually attended her wedding dressed en femme and I was one of her bridesmaids. She was the only one who knew that I was a crossdresser
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- Registered On: February 22, 2021Topics: 4Replies: 124Has thanked: 1264 timesBeen thanked: 287 times
Wow Jannie, I enjoyed reading your story so much, I am so envious of you for having such a wonderful cousin, to show you how to dress at a young age and also introduce you to the mysteries of makeup early and then your first public outing as well! I wish I had had someone to tutor me at that age, that’s for sure. And to cap it all off you were a bridesmaid at your cousins wedding – how much fun was that? My hat’s off to you Jannie you have lived the life that many crossdressers dream of, I hope you are still loving it and may it continue to bring you joy.
With much admiration, Diana 💋
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