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- March 21, 2021 at 10:12 am #466972
After reading a post from Her Grace, last evening, and a reply from the lovely Py, I have not been able to stop thinking of it, and reflecting on it.
Ladies, this may be a little long and boring, so if you wish to skip it, matters not, and admins, no hard feelings if you wish to crub it.
A little history.
My wife has been sick, for over 40 years, since the birth of our youngest son, we where told at that time, if she tried again, she would not survive. Ok, we could live with 2 wonderful son’s, no issue, I had the cut done so there was no chance.
Since thn, she has had so many surgeries, we have both lost count, at least 5 times we were told there was significantly less than a 50/50 chance she would survive the surgery. The longest one was over 8 hours. Oh, and we were also told, when she was 25 years old, it was highly unlikely she would see the age of 50.
She is in her 60’s, now, and although not healthy, she is still fighting.
The reason, for my post, and my reflections, is the mantra that we have both lived by, since that first diagnosis, and it was given to us by an aunt, that literally lived 30 years on pure oxygen, in a Toronto hospital, but that’s another story.
She told us, then, that you are going to have good days, and bad days. The secret to surviving, and having some semblance of a decent life, is to make the very most, of every good day, and on the bad days, find that one ray of sunshine, because there always is one, slight as it may be, and focus, on it.
I realize this lifestyle we have all chosen, has more pitfalls and perils than one would imagine, but each trial and tribulation we survive, and conquer, only makes us stronger. And we have the best support for each of us, here, at our home, that anyone could ask for.
So, back to the question, what makes me happy?
Breathing, the fresh air, everyday.
Having my love, still at my side, for all these years, and as long as I do,
being able to make those choices, I wish to make, no matter if they are hard, or painful,
Being able to don my panties, or bra, or the whole nine yards, whether I am closeted in the house, or able to move freely in society, as Regi.
Mt heart goes out to all, who have health issues, in there lives, whether physical, or mental, I have had to deal with both, and they are no fun.
My apologies if this upsets anyone, or is too dark, and I look not for sympathy, life is what it is, and I deal with it accordingly.
Sending loads of love to you all, be happy, this is the only life we get.
Hugs, Regi👩💕 - March 21, 2021 at 10:32 am #466980
Hi Regi as we have been friends for a while and you have allways mentioned your wife as a special part of your life as like us all with a supportive wife my self included I would never change that part of my life.. As we have just past our 38 year mark and my wife has had a few health problems as you know and same Im not looking for the sympathy angle here also just an understanding from all we care about here as girlfriends that some times we are down because of situations we cant change and this is the most wonderful part of my life and as my self I would not want anything to be different here just love you all as yes my family and sisters .. So all here stop take a deep breath smell the flowers and be thankful for what you have and whats to come ..
Stephanie Bass big hugs Regi
- March 21, 2021 at 2:54 pm #467113
Thank you, Stephanie, I love you too, girl
Hugs, Regi👩💕
- March 21, 2021 at 10:37 am #466989
Making light from the dark is not to dark. It is looking past the dark knowing the sunshine is just an hour or day or a few days away. Make the most of the sunshine!!!!!
Sandy- March 21, 2021 at 2:56 pm #467114
Thank you, Sandy, and that is my point, exactly, we need to grab those rays of sunshine, and make the most of them
Hugs, Regi👩💕
- March 21, 2021 at 10:38 am #466990Anonymous
Regi…
How wonderful your wife must be. Being so ill for so long would surely cause most people to chuck in the towel and say enough is enough. She must have such inner strength and a lust for life….. to just keep going.
As for you….we all sign in here, and give and take advice, laugh and cry but unless a girls story is told, like you have done, we really don’t know a lot about each other…deep down.
You are a remarkable person, living the life you do, yet you come on here and nobody would realise your troubles. I’m guessing there are plenty of others on here with a story to tell……
So the bottom line ???
You really do just have to grin and bear the cards you are dealt, smile instead of cry, even when you are hurting, because like you said in your post….
this is the only life we get!!!!
I Love you girl….and please give your beautiful wife a big hugg from grace and tell her she is a superstar xxx
- March 21, 2021 at 2:52 pm #467111
Thank you, Grace, I most surely will.
Hugs, Regi👩💕
- March 21, 2021 at 2:56 pm #467118Anonymous
Regine,
Too long? Too boring? Too dark?
Are you KIDDING? It was BEAUTIFUL! And it brought tears to my eyes. So strong a wife. So faithful a husband. And a focus on what is really important, making these “other life” issues fade into the background in importance by comparison. I needed that. Thank you.
And know that you and your wife are in my prayers.
God bless,
Steph- March 21, 2021 at 3:21 pm #467131
Thank you Stephanie, I seem to make you cry alot? Im sorry, giggles.
when in those difficult times in our lives, is when we realize what is really important, and it kinda changes your whole outlook, if you pay attention.
Love you, and again, Im sorry about your mascara, lol.
Hugs, Regi👩💕- March 21, 2021 at 3:37 pm #467139Anonymous
Lol. That’s right! And I DEARLY WISH my mascara were running right now because it would mean I’m wearing some! Lol. 🤗
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