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Now that my SO has started going back “into the office” a couple of days a week she is starting to have to wear something other than leggings and big jumpers. She thinks it is highly amusing that I am so much better at matching the dresses, jackets and accesories than she is!
She was explaining this to the teenager (who mostly doesn’t care about these things) and joked that I must be “secretly wearing women’s clothing or something” (SO doesn’t know about the dressing). The teenager who does know (and doesn’t care about that either) covered for me to which my SO replied “it wouldn’t bother me if he did“.
Sadly, I don’t think the reality would match the rhetoric if I told her the truth!
-A.
Andi…
sometimes ” in the moment “…
people speak their true feelings…can you really be sure she was just joking???…does she not suspect anything that a drab male can co ordinate her wardrobe so well……
…do you secretly long that she does wonder??….mmmm.
Huggs, grace x
Hi Grace,
I have no idea what she suspects, imagines or thinks she knows! For the longest time I have also been painting her nails and thinks I am as good at it as I am because I am just a perfectionist!
I would love for it to be out in the open but until I am confident that revealing it isn’t going to require a divorce lawyer I think I will bide my time!
-A.
Oh gosh Andi….please don’t think I’m pushy…you know her!!…
and as Chris de burgh sang…timing is EVERYTHING…
Most women are just so amazingly ” switched on “….I just wondered if she wondered why you were so ” female sensitive “….I so hope you get there in the end xx
You can’t be divorced over wearing clothes – especially these days with all the LGBT+++ support.
Never let that be a sword of Damocles, Andi!
Love Laura
Keep going- Enjoydoing those nails
!! . Maybe other attentive helping too?
Sounds promising to me !!!
Tactful and purposeful – you know the way!
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Hi Andi.
You will never know until you have that conversation. I think our SO’s suspect more than we know. You can always drop hints and see how she reacts before going for the whole revelation. You may be wasting time you could be making a wardrobe.
But oh-
“ many a truth spoken in jest” ???Sincere wishes!
Excuse me a while… this is one developing story I’m going to follow !!!!
Sincere wishes 🙂☺️Andi, I think it’s always a wise assumption that your wife knows already. If we are honest, we understand that generic women are smarter than us, well at least smarter than me, when it comes to these sorts of things…
Possibly you could make up a story for your wife about some fictional guy you heard of who came out as CD. Ask her what she thinks about it in order to gage her feelings around CD. And of course be prepared for what she asks your thoughts. It could be the start of an important conversation.
Hugs
Jules
💖🌈👩Before i told (got caught )by my wife I always picked her clothes she loved that I always picked out clothes that made her feel and look sexy. She told all her friends and family that only I could pick out her clothes and wouldnt purchase anything without my input. Yes i also got some strange opinions about participating in her wardrobe choices.After she found out she realized the reason i had so much fashion sense.I always have the sexiest dressed wife at the party
Hi Andy,
I sometimes wonder if DADT -Dont Ask, Don’t Tell – takes on a life of its own.
“No I’m not going to tell, I’d rather wait for my SO to ask”
“Well I’m not going to ask, I’d rather wait for my SO to tell”Marti xxx
Hi Andi!
Sounds like you got a pretty cool teenager in your household!
However, at first, I also saw “the teenager” as being you, kinda like a split-personality. So reading your post became a spooky read! (Cue the Psycho theme music!). I can relate.
Joking aside, yeah your SO knows, like many here have said.
Good luck!
Hugs, Barb 🤗
Btw, my two kids are pretty cool too.
It is a long time since I was a teenager in chronological years. My brain, thankfully, still thinks it is!
-A.
Andi, if your SO is half as cool as the teenager…. well, don’t sell her short! At the very least it demands further investigating. Do not dismiss what may be a golden opportunity out of hand without at least checking it out more. You can be a bit subtle at first about it if needed, but be upfront and honest above all. 🙂
Stevie
Andi,
if you’re teenage daughter knows how doesn’t your wife? I wouldnt be surprised if during a mother/daughter conversation your daughter didn’t let something slip. I suspect your wife knows more than you think and with her comment may be ready to accept. Only you know when your ready.. best of luck!
Natalie
side note. In my state PA one does not need a cause to file for divorce. You just have to prove you’ve been separated for a year then file . It’s a no-fault state.
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