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      Natalie Jones
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      Registered On: September 20, 2020
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      Andi,

      if you’re teenage daughter knows how doesn’t your wife? I wouldnt be surprised if during a mother/daughter conversation your daughter didn’t let something slip. I suspect your wife knows more than you think and with her comment may be ready to accept. Only you know when your ready.. best of luck!

      Natalie

      side note. In my state PA one does not need a cause to file for divorce. You just have to prove you’ve been separated for a year then file . It’s a no-fault state.

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        Andi DuBois
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        The teenager knows because I told them about it when they were struggling with their own issues around their own gender identity – they are non-binary.

        They get referred to as “the teenager” because we haven’t found a gender-neutral replacement for daughter that we are all happy with.

        -A.

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      Stevie Steiner
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      Andi, if your SO is half as cool as the teenager…. well, don’t sell her short!  At the very least it demands further investigating.  Do not dismiss what may be a golden opportunity out of hand without at least checking it out more.  You can be a bit subtle at first about it if needed, but be upfront and honest above all. 🙂

      Stevie

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      Barb Wire
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      Hi Andi!

      Sounds like you got a pretty cool teenager in your household!

      However, at first, I also saw “the teenager” as being you, kinda like a split-personality. So reading your post became a spooky read! (Cue the Psycho theme music!). I can relate.

      Joking aside, yeah your SO knows, like many here have said.

      Good luck!

      Hugs, Barb 🤗

      Btw, my two kids are pretty cool too.

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      • #579402
        Andi DuBois
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        It is a long time since I was a teenager in chronological years. My brain, thankfully, still thinks it is!

        -A.

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          Barb Wire
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          Awesome! Me too. 😊

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      Marti
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      Hi Andy,

      I sometimes wonder if DADT -Dont Ask, Don’t Tell – takes on a life of its own.

      “No I’m not going to tell, I’d rather wait for my SO to ask”
      “Well I’m not going to ask, I’d rather wait for my SO to tell”

      Marti xxx

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    • #579274
      Stephanie Kennedy
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      Hi Andi She knows you are different. She is testing if her thoughts are correct. Its up to you if you want to confirm her thoughts. Just continue to be you. I am sure there is going to be a confirmation day. Its coming.

      Luv Stephanie

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      Connie Love
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      Before i told (got caught )by my wife I always picked her clothes she loved that I always picked out clothes that made her feel and look sexy. She told all her friends and family that only I could pick out her clothes and wouldnt purchase anything without my input. Yes i also got some strange opinions about participating in her wardrobe choices.After she found out she realized the reason i had so much fashion sense.I always have the sexiest dressed wife at the party

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    • #578634
      Bobbi
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      Andi dear, don’t sell her short. I bet if you asked her if she’d like to see you dressed, her answer would surprise you. It’s my opinion that she already knows, & she’s giving you an oportunity to come out to her without fear of ridicule.

      “So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key”.

    • #578587
      Julie (Jules) Anderson
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      Andi, I think it’s always a wise assumption that your wife knows already. If we are honest, we understand that generic women are smarter than us, well at least smarter than me, when it comes to these sorts of things…

      Possibly you could make up a story for your wife about some fictional guy you heard of who came out as CD. Ask her what she thinks about it in order to gage her feelings around CD. And of course be prepared for what she asks your thoughts. It could be the start of an important conversation.
      Hugs
      Jules
      💖🌈👩

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      Zsazsa Pushkin
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      Andi – reminds me of a conversation I had last week with my unknowing SO. She suggested I was turning into a metrosexual because she has noticed I have started to shave my arms and use moisturiser! But the time is not yet right for me to come out – but I am hoping to build up to it in 2022 🙂 Zsazsa

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      Juliette Parfois
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      I agree with Mary. I think she knows and was looking for confirmation from said teenager. Sounds like a good time to pick up on SO’s interest.

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      Mary Jane
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      I think S.O knows.

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      Krisy
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      Maybe it’s time to ask if she wants to practice on your nails!!!

      Krisy xx

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    • #578515
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      Excuse me a while… this is one developing story I’m going to follow !!!!
      Sincere wishes 🙂☺️

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    • #578513
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      But oh-
      “ many a truth spoken in jest” ???

      Sincere wishes!

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    • #578470
      Liara Wolfe
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      Like you I would like to be out in the open with my SO. One day I will get the courage to tell her.

      Hugs, Liara

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    • #578466
      Michelle McQueen
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      Hi Andi.

      You will never know until you have that conversation. I think our SO’s suspect more than we know. You can always drop hints and see how she reacts before going for the whole revelation. You may be wasting time you could be making a wardrobe.

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      Andi…

      sometimes ” in the moment “…

      people speak their true feelings…can you really be sure she was just joking???…does she not suspect anything that a drab male can co ordinate her wardrobe so well……

      …do you secretly long that she does wonder??….mmmm.

      Huggs, grace x

      • #578463
        Andi DuBois
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        Hi Grace,

        I have no idea what she suspects, imagines or thinks she knows! For the longest time I have also been painting her nails and thinks I am as good at it as I am because I am just a perfectionist!

        I would love for it to be out in the open but until I am confident that revealing it isn’t going to require a divorce lawyer I think I will bide my time!

        -A.

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        • #578514
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          Keep going- Enjoydoing those nails
          !! . Maybe other attentive helping too?
          Sounds promising to me !!!
          Tactful and purposeful – you know the way!

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        • #578485
          Laura Lovett
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          You can’t be divorced over wearing clothes – especially these days with all the LGBT+++ support.

          Never let that be a sword of Damocles, Andi!

          Love Laura

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          • #578746
            Andi DuBois
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            No, but I could get divorced for “if you have been hiding this from me all these years… what else have you been hiding… I can’t trust you any  more”

            -A.

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        • #578467
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          Oh gosh Andi….please don’t think I’m pushy…you know her!!…

          and as Chris de burgh sang…timing is EVERYTHING…

          Most women are just so amazingly ” switched on “….I just wondered if she wondered why you were so ” female sensitive “….I so hope you get there in the end xx

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