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    Holly G
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    Registered On: August 25, 2015
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    For all the bad that 2020 has brought, this year has finally brought my wife and I face to face with dealing with my dressing.  For years she’s been in denial after finding out and it’s caused a lot of tension. This year, she finally realized that it’s not going away and we’ve started to very openly talk about it. We’ve read books together, watched documentaries, listened to podcasts, and had a lot of very hard talks…BUT this has all lead to her starting to accept me and all my colorful sides.  In fact this last week we painted our nails together…it was the first time in my life I’ve had my nails painted for more than about 3-5 hours and it was WITH my wife!  Yesterday, it went a step further and we went out with friends…we talked about my nails before going out and she left it to me to decide if I’d keep them. I told her I wanted to and she helped me with how to explain it and it went amazing!  We have great moments of bonding like that, but I know and see how she’s struggling with all of this.  I’m very very interested in meeting and talking with other girls who are in the midst of their SOs adjusting to dealing with their femme side. This means so much to me and I would love to have others to talk to about this.  Please comment below for everyone, but if you’re in this situation PLEASE friend and private message me!  I’d love to have others to talk to on this!

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      Danelle Tino
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      Very interesting Emily you’ve seemed to reached a great place in your

      marriage how great that must feel.

      I’ve been in the closet with my wife up till recently when I start ed to shave my legs & body & she kind of excepted it,& little by little I’ve been buying shoes & nylons & it has not been an issue.

      We don’t have sex so I try to explain that by my dressing, Danelle has taken her place as the other women who can give me some relief.

      Hopefully I can completely dress when she’s home & all the closet stress

      will be gone..

      I think by slowly revealing Danelle.It has  brake down a lot of barriers .

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      Holly G
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      Thanks for the insight from the other side Mandy, I think we’re always a work in progress! This is such an unknown for both my wife and I, it’s nice to hear when others have made progress even though it was not expected.

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      Mandy Wife
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      I would say I’m a work in progress and always will be!

      I’m so much more accepting and supportive than either of us ever thought I would, given we’ve been together for 30yrs and there has been times where certain “interests” have always been there and at times I was not accepting of them so it’s always a learning curve, for both of us!!

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      Sandy Jayson
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      Holly, Great to see your wife bend a little and help you.   I hope she sees how happy this outing made you.  Don’t forget her, her feelings and thoughts will probably all over the place.  Keep the communication lines open and love her so much.  Hope for both of you that she will let you continue to explore this side of yourself.

      Sandy

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      Paula Here
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      Hi Girls,

      My wife discovered my Crossdreaaing just before Chritmass.  We have talked a few times.  I dresses in front of her a few times, t shirt jeans, high heels.  She has since told me she does not want to see this side of me. I have been underdressing and doing my best to be discreet.   The other day, she came to me and talked about not knowing if she can accept me dressing at all.  She even talked about moving out.  I don’t want her to move out.  But I don’t want to give up Paula.

      She has calmed down for the moment.  I hope she will come around and let me dress in front of her.

      My hope one day is to go out as Paula with her by my side.

      For now I am happy she hasn’t packed up and moved.

      Loved all the stories it gives me hope.

      Paula

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      Holly G
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      Olivia, my wife still hasn’t reached the point where she’s ready to see me so it’d be a bit of a challenge for her to pick out my clothes! 😂

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      Holly G
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      TJ that’s funny! My wife won’t touch my nails! She says if I want them then I need to do them but she has offered advice while we did them together 😂

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      Olivia Livin
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      Hi Holly,

      I think maybe for more than a few its a continuous evolution of acceptance, as we travel further on our journey they try to evolve with us. My gf is wonderful with most things but still has some added anxiety with the thought of someone being ignorant while we’re out and about, I try to make it easier by allowing her to pick my outfits sometimes if we are going out together, it seems to help.

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      TJ Laber-Tea
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      Hi Holly,

      For my wife it was a big shock to her and she was very unsure about things for a while. I think it was after I came home from my first shopping trip and she saw me happier than I usually would be. (I never enjoyed buying drab lol)

      I think it was a shock to both of us, whilst I don’t dress fully on femme around her (we have a 5 yr old daughter) but she accepts my stealth drag, tie die or tiger print leggins, tshirt dresses and bobby stockings lol

      Recently we visited Brighton and was ok with me wearing mascara and my platform trainers.

      I don’t think she is ready to shout it from the rooftops, but in only a few months she has been very supportive with make up tips and doing my nails when I screw them up 🤣

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      Tiff Any
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      Holly , my wife has said much the same , she now lives with my mistress also 🌹🌹

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      Holly G
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      Cassie, I haven’t even thought about taking HRT or anything like that.  The big step for me is my wife is getting me laser hair removal for my chest and neck for my birthday with the understanding that it’s completely for my femme side. I totally get the idea of losing her husband. My wife told me that I have to understand that she is now married not only to me, but this other woman and that’s really hard for her to wrap her head around because it wasn’t part of the original plan, but like I just said, she’s still trying to understand and work with me.

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      Holly G
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      Tiff, that’s great advice! I’ve actually come to realize that myself. Once that topic is at the forefront, it can be hard to discuss anything else and then you can just get completely overwhelmed.  The other side effect I’ve found from that is it keeps it in the forefront of my mind making the desire to dress even more!

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    • #381847
      Seren
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      Hey Holly!

      this is great news! Similar situation here, working it out slowly 💕

      I sent u a dm

      Seren xx

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    • #381823
      Darlene Davinport
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      My magnificant other is truly exceptional.  She has known of my crossdressing since our third date.  When I introduced her to Darlene she first thought I had another girl living with me, but after demonstrating my dressing for her she was relieved.  She enjoys having Darlene live with us. Now as we reach retirement age she is even more accepting.  During the day I wear skirts and revealing blouses that accentuate my perky teenage breasts.  At night we watch a girl flick in flowing robes.  I am blessed.  That was not the case with a previous girlfriend or my ex-wife. Both of them eventually ran away.   My current fiance is going slow towards marriage.  She has had two husbands and I one ex. We are not in a hurry, which makes our journey even more special.   Darlene is her housewife, and she is my outdoors spouse.   We share a single wardrobe except for shoes.

       

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      Cassie
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      My wife and I have just started going through this. It has been little steps and it started with me painting my nails. My wife and I talk about it a lot as she sees how happy it makes me. I told her I wouldn’t consider anything like HRT for at least a year so we can figure out if this is just me having fun or something more serious. This helps her too as for now it is “just clothes” as she put it. There is nothing permanent so far and I am not “killing her husband to become her wife”. It is a different way to look at it for your wife. I don’t know if that helps.

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      Tiff Any
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      Hi Holly , little steps as Emily mentioned & continued communication with each other , but don’t have CD as the only topic you talk about. Things can & will become overwhelming , we’re several successful yrs down the track , the rollercoaster is occasionally riden but nowhere near as often. Listen to each other and if necessary work on compromises . 🌹🌹Tiff

    • #381808
      Emily Alt
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      It’s great to hear stories like yours Holly. I’m really happy you and your wife are communicating. Little steps. Hopefully with time you’ll have more frequent opportunities to express yourself.

      Emily

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