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I was on CD H before. It was right after I finally figured out I was a CD.
I’ve had some ups & downs since then. Some purges. Stops and starts. But I went to counseling and was able to “come out” to the counselor. Things have steadily improved. It was so cool, I came out to her and she didn’t run screaming from the room. And it felt so good to get that off my shoulders. My wife knows but is not supportive. Sort of tolerates.
No desire for anything but to dress up every once in a while. It’s calming and relieves that inner pressure. I have nothing to prove. Don’t want to do this full time (family and stuff).
Hi Dani, reading your message is like looking in the mirror. If you feel like a good talk to share experiences, I’m here for you.
Love,
Catarina
Welcome back. Glad you’re making progress with a counselor. Try not to purge but put your wardrobe away until you need it again.
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I’d love to hear about your counselor sessions if it is helpful for you to talk about. I’d really like to talk to a professional about my dressing but I’m just not sure how to make that happen without raising a bunch of red flags at home. Welcome back.
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I can tell you some. Without getting too bogged down my childhood sucked. I have lived with and fought with all the repercussions of that childhood all my life. In the middle of the CD self discovery I really started having some “dark” times. I knew if I didn’t get some help soon I was going to be in some real trouble (depression).I found a good counselor on the first try. I had been dreading going just for that reason. I’ve had some good counselors over the years and bad ones. I couldn’t take it very well if I got a bad one. The thought of spilling my guts to more than one person really made me afraid. I also suffer from very low self esteem, actually I’m a hot mess. LOL.
Anyway, I’ll get back to the subject, I found a great counselor. She is a great person. Has a great ethics and is very professional while still being very compassionate. Very soon into the whole process I felt the overwhelming desire to “come clean”. CD friends strongly suggested against it. But I just knew if I was going to spill everything I had to spill EVERY thing. I won’t say she wasn’t shocked – but she hid it well. And more than anything she showed me compassion. She didn’t criticize, or judge. She didn’t encourage and she didn’t discourage. It was perfect and it was incredibly liberating. We hardly discuss it anymore. Not really necessary. We have moved on to tougher issues.
I think we are a collection of “things” – parent, child, employee, male, female, young, old, emotion(s), aches & pains, so many things. Some of those things when denied throw us out of balance. Sorry for the long wandering answer! 🙂
Welcome back Dani, nice to meet you.
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