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    Elisa Turner
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    Registered On: September 29, 2020
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    Yes, beards.  My beard has been a part of my persona for over 30 years.  Shaving would be a big and obvious change.  Also, I kind of don’t like my face without it.  I’d almost HAVE to do SOMETHING else to improve it, and make up is so expensive.

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      Marie Chandler
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      I also have a short beard that I’ve had for the better part of a decade. Both my wife and I like it. Like you, it’s definitely part of my male persona. I will sometimes trim it very tight when I’m going to dress at home, but I will shave it completely if I’m going to dress up for a photo session or go out in public and neither happen very often. My rule is that I need at least a day to play in femme to make it worth it. I won’t shave for an hour or two of dress up. It takes about 2 weeks to grow out, which isn’t that long to me. Whenever I dress up, I always take a reference photo of my outfit. At first, having the beard was off-putting for me to see, but now I look through it and just judge how the ensemble is working. I doesn’t bother me anymore.

      I don’t shave my body at all, but I picked up a great tip from Jill Marshall on this site. I now use clippers to gradually fade my leg hair from the calf down. I don’t trim it all the way, but down do about a quarter inch. When I’m wearing maxi skirts it looks like my legs are shaved from the shin down. I like it! Here in California, I wear shorts a lot in the summer and I don’t think anyone has noticed.

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      Rei Durden
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      I can’t grow a beard to save my life but a weeks worth of stubble has been my mask for 30 plus years. As I have only recently started going out in somewhat feminine clothing I find myself obsessed over removing facial hair but I’m not that practiced at it and I always have 5 o’clock shadow only a few hours later.

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      Kathleen 60454
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      I am with you Grace. If you are going to CD as a woman then no beard. I don’t mean any offence to anyone.

      Kathleen

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      Cece X
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      I too wear a van dyke and I am not shaving it off. Presentation is not a consideration for me because I only fully dress in private, either alone or with people close to me. Any feminine apparel I wear in public is covered by men’s wear. This could change in the future but this is where I sit quite comfortably at the moment. I applaud your decision to keep your beard if that is what you prefer.

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      karley delaware
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      Hi Elisa…………I grew a goatee to off set my ponytail and keep people guessing.   With masks wearing these days, I can hide that and feel like a girl wearing  shorts with a pink pony tail band.    Sometimes  I will wear an earring to feel even more girly…………..karley

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      Regine Rich
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      Elisha,

      My hair is military short and a sport a nearly trimmed goatee.  My wife adores both, and was not a fan of the result when I explored growing out my hair.  I also love my short hair which I have had since high school. The low maintenance of the style being the most appealing aspect.

       

      That being said, neither prevents me from wearing the clothes that I find most comfortable. My preference is dresses and skirts.  And aside from work, that is my usual attire. I also do not mask that I am a man.

      MacKenzie Alexandra

      You are much more secure,or brave than I am,thank you

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      Marlene Roberts
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      Hi, Elisa. I’m in PA so we are pretty far from each other. But I do go to FL though and am going to try Ybor City for first en femme outing. Any pointers? Any accepting place in GA as I may stop there on the way to FL? Marlene.

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      Elisa Turner
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      Marlene, I’m in the USA, in Georgia.
      Where are you?

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      Roberta Broussard
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      I for one am tired of shaving. I started having electrolosis done to my neck area. Had to hesitate on my face, since I hadn’t mentioned it to my wife. Not sure if shell mind but it seemed like I should at least mention it.

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      Kay Anderson
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      My facial hair is probably my biggest dysphoria trigger. I shave at least twice a day. I don’t judge others on this, we are all free to walk our own path.

      Kay

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      Stevie Steiner
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      I had a red van dyke  (goatee? Whatever) for decades.  Lost it all last year and I love not having it, tho I hate shaving every day…..

      Is there a permanent hair removal for use on the face, I would be happy to never have to shave this mug again.  Never bothered drab me too much, but drives Stevie nuts!

      Stevie

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      Suzette York
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      This has never really been an issue for me personally as even at 59 i really cannot grow a beard.  i think it is fine for a CD to have facial hair they are just expressing themselves but as you say hard to really get the full femme look with a beard and it seems to me it say i do not want to be a girl just want to dress in woman’s clothes which again is fine and to me is what many CDs want to express themselves in a more feminine way through fashion.  Thinking about this question i also thought of women i have know who have pretty heavy mustaches and the judgement and trouble they go through in life and think who am i to judge everyone should be able to express themselves as they see fit and let there own inner beauty shine!

      suzette

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      Grace Scarlett
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      Hi girls

      Beards, personally no way, I really need the fully femme look…. ( well, the best I can manage, anyway!!)

      For other girls ???….your choice my darlings, I don’t love any of you any less because at the end of the day…there are NO rules…if you feel comfortable, go for it, be yourself…huggs, grace xx

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      Abby M
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      I have a beard. As of right now, I do not feel comfortable going outside dressed. I feel like I like my beard and would not want to shave it off. However, I feel like I would have to because I do not want to be looked at strangely. I just feel very self conscious about myself.

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      Marlene Roberts
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      Hi, Laura. Sounds like the place to be being so open, Which country and city if you don’t mind me asking? Marlene.

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      Vanessa ?
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      I shaved my beard around the time I first started dressing up.  I’d only had it for something like 2 years at the time, so it wasn’t that drastic of a change… but I do kind of miss it sometimes, and any time when I go without dressing up for an extended period of time (like most of this summer) I let it grow back in.

      I guess I’m weird in that I like the way I look as a guy with the beard, but I would never dress up while I had the beard (the only exception was one time when I dressed up before I started shaving again… but with a mask covering the lower half of my face so you couldn’t even tell it was there.)  I like guy-me with the beard, but girl-me can’t have one.  Something about the clash of male-looking and female-looking features just really bothers me — same reason I’d never take pictures of my legs, chest, etc. while I’m dressed up as Vanessa if they weren’t shaved.  Facial/body hair and Vanessa do not mix.

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    • #391650
      MacKenzie Alexandra
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      Elisha,

      My hair is military short and a sport a nearly trimmed goatee.  My wife adores both, and was not a fan of the result when I explored growing out my hair.  I also love my short hair which I have had since high school. The low maintenance of the style being the most appealing aspect.

       

      That being said, neither prevents me from wearing the clothes that I find most comfortable. My preference is dresses and skirts.  And aside from work, that is my usual attire. I also do not mask that I am a man.

      MacKenzie Alexandra

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      Molly
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      Elisa;

      My beard was young by comparison as it only go to about 16 years.   I eventually got rid of it and succumbed to the siren’s call of looking more femme.

      It was the last of the hair “below my nose” that was taken and I struggled for a good six months and then did it one day on a whim knowing that I was having a dermatologist check my skin for ‘concerns’ from the doctor.

      Admittedly this happened after I’d attended a local group, and realized that I’d prefer to present fully femme than retain the beard.

      On the plus side… Now that I’m older, the lack of beard has been attributed with taking 10 years off my appearance.

      -Molly

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      Jane Don
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      To Me–Looking fem is more important than having facial hair (beard/moustash/sideburns /hairy arms /legs ect ect) In My mind–hair is a masculine thing–

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    • #389358
      Amy Belle
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      Yes, definitely money. And time. I wish I had the time to dedicate to learning makeup.

      I do agree – it’s a personal style decision. But I’m with you – if I’m going to put the effort into dressing up, the beard sort of breaks the image for me.

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    • #389354
      Elisa Turner
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      Thanks Laura.

      I get what you are saying, but there really is a kind of visual dissonance between beards and that feminine smoothness.

       

      Personally I just couldn’t allow myself to present as a woman with a beard.

       

      That’s just me.

      🙂

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    • #389296
      Laura Lovett
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      I’ve seen guys with beards wearing lipstick and mascara, and cross dressers with beards out in public – and why not?

      It’s all about the clothes and getting a look you like, not fitting into other people’s stereotypes.

      As long they’re not immoral or involving the hurting of anyone, live your dreams. Dare to be different!

      Love Laura

       

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      Elisa Turner
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      Thanks Amy.  I appreciate that.

      The beard is what keeps me from exploring make-up.  That and money.   🙂

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    • #389256
      Amy Belle
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      I totally understand. I still have zero makeup skills either, but I made the decision to lose the beard (mostly) a few months ago when I realized it was grayer than I really wanted it to be. 🙂

      I mostly hated my beardless look at first too, but I’ve grown used to it. (And it grows quickly enough that if I get lazy for a few days, it grows back.) My wife has said she appreciates me being less prickly-faced, too.

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    • #389252
      Elisa Turner
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      Good to know I’m not alone.

      Hey, have you tried Transformation Labs hormone stuff?

       

      I’m trying to find out what works and if I have to see a doctor to start.

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    • #389250
      Erica Lightly
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      I identify with that completely.  I love my lady clothes but that’s only a part-of-the-time thing.  Hard to imagine getting rid of my beard.  Guess I’ll just remain a “bearded lady”!

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