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Registered On: January 31, 2021Topics: 41Replies: 471Has thanked: 355 timesBeen thanked: 2092 timesNow I’m ok in my relationship with my wife (she who must be obeyed) I’m free to express myself much more easily. There is still the balance to be struck in the wider community which is more difficult. In some respects not feeling the need to fully present as a woman is more complicated. Rather than trying to move from one norm to another effectively I’m rejecting all norms and just wanting to be different, an interesting but quite daunting prospect.
Some small things I’ve always done. I carry a handbag. You could regard it as a man bag but it’s quite femme. I have manicured and clear varnished my nails for years. I visit the local beauty salon for massages and manicures. Since the first lockdown my hair has been growing out and now is shoulder length and swept back from my face. I usually hold it in place with a metal hair band across the top. It has created some comments from neighbours but they are beginning to get used to it.
Last week I spoke with several of my neighbours about my hair. I told them I’m considering getting highlights put in. I didn’t ask if they approved or whether I should but rather sought their opinion on colour. After some discussion bright blue seems to be the consensus which I quite like. One of the girls said she is getting red highlights to which I replied that with my silvery hair I would risk it turning out pink which might be just too much. We all laughed.
So perhaps when they see me with after my next visit to the hairdresser they will just go oh look he did the blue highlights we suggested. Wouldn’t that be nice.
Hugs
Lisa xxx
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Keep doing what you’re doing…it’s clearly working for you. Fantastic! ❤️
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Registered On: February 16, 2021Topics: 51Replies: 1101Has thanked: 3743 timesBeen thanked: 5578 timesHello Lisa.
I love that YOU decide, hairband, hair colour, hair length, handbag and nails…..neighbours, just live with it…
but…
you also chat with your neighbours, clearly they are softening and receptive, rather than having your image just thrust in their faces ..it must make a big difference.
you are your own person….which is lovely.
Huggs, grace xx
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Registered On: October 9, 2020Topics: 28Replies: 791Has thanked: 7765 timesBeen thanked: 3444 timesLisa, I love the frame your mind is in, You are becoming the “you”, you desire, which so many of us strive for, but with such varying degrees of success. You truly are special,
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Hi Lisa,
I love that you are becoming your true self. I am taking baby steps, there is some adjustment going on with my gf and I cannot rush this with her. I am also letting my hair grow. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!
Eva
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Registered On: November 17, 2018Topics: 146Replies: 1968Has thanked: 3109 timesBeen thanked: 9004 timesAnother step along the path. The mouth of the tunnel must be getting close! What next I wonder?
Hugs, Steph xx
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Registered On: February 22, 2021Topics: 7Replies: 580Has thanked: 4178 timesBeen thanked: 1762 timesLisa I love the way you are forging your own path and not conforming to societal norms, of course that path is the difficult one but you seem to be working your way along it. I particularly liked the approach you took with the neighbours, bringing them into the decision on your hair colour and not just asking if they approve or not.
Good fortune on your journey and as always you have my total support in whatever you do.
Big fat hugs
Diana
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