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    Registered On: January 31, 2021
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    Now I’m ok in my relationship with my wife (she who must be obeyed) I’m free to express myself much more easily. There is still the balance to be struck in the wider community which is more difficult. In some respects not feeling the need to fully present as a woman is more complicated. Rather than trying to move from one norm to another effectively I’m rejecting all norms and just wanting to be different, an interesting but quite daunting prospect.

    Some small things I’ve always done. I carry a handbag. You could regard it as a man bag but it’s quite femme. I have manicured and clear varnished my nails for years. I visit the local beauty salon for massages and manicures. Since the first lockdown my hair has been growing out and now is shoulder length and swept back from my face. I usually hold it in place with a metal hair band across the top. It has created some comments from neighbours but they are beginning to get used to it.

    Last week I spoke with several of my neighbours about my hair. I told them I’m considering getting highlights put in. I didn’t ask if they approved or whether I should but rather sought their opinion on colour. After some discussion bright blue seems to be the consensus which I quite like. One of the girls said she is getting red highlights to which I replied that with my silvery hair I would risk it turning out pink which might be just too much. We all laughed.

    So perhaps when they see me with after my next visit to the hairdresser they will just go oh look he did the blue highlights we suggested. Wouldn’t that be nice.


    Lisa xxx

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      Eona Oh
      Registered On: March 7, 2021
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      Keep doing what you’re doing…it’s clearly working for you. Fantastic! ❤️

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      Trisha Lilly Hibbert
      Registered On: December 8, 2020
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      Lisa, it sounds like your having fun. I love the girlie chats I can have as Trisha. You do you girl.

      Love Trish

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      Grace Scarlett
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      Hello Lisa.

      I love that YOU decide, hairband, hair colour, hair length, handbag and nails…..neighbours, just live with it…


      you also chat with your neighbours, clearly they are softening and receptive, rather than having your image just thrust in their faces ..it must make a big difference.

      you are your own person….which is lovely.

      Huggs, grace xx

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      Regine Rich
      Registered On: October 9, 2020
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      Lisa, I love the frame your mind is in, You are becoming the “you”, you desire, which so many of us strive for, but with such varying degrees of success. You truly are special,
      Hugs, Regi👩💕

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      Sandy Honey
      Registered On: February 24, 2021
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      I love hearing about the small things we each do in our lives to be who we are. I think we get to a point in time where we just want to be free.


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      Eva Kelly
      Registered On: March 1, 2021
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      Hi Lisa,

      I love that you are becoming your true self. I am taking baby steps, there is some adjustment going on with my gf and I cannot rush this with her. I am also letting my hair grow. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!



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      stephanie plumb
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      Another step along the path.  The mouth of the tunnel must be getting close! What next I wonder?

      Hugs, Steph xx

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        Registered On: January 31, 2021
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        I recognise the quote and you are right.  Never get excited by the light it’s inevitably a train coming.

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      Diana Morgan
      Registered On: February 22, 2021
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      Lisa I love the way you are forging your own path and not conforming to societal norms, of course that path is the difficult one but you seem to be working your way along it. I particularly liked the approach you took with the neighbours, bringing them into the decision on your hair colour and not just asking if they approve or not.

      Good fortune on your journey and as always you have my total support in whatever you do.

      Big fat hugs




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