Crossdressing related, what is your next step

Crossdressing related, what would be the first thing I will do whenever I have a chance:

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  • Shave my legs for the first time
  • Buy any item(s) of women's clothing in person
  • Attend a cd/tg event
  • Fly (commercial plane) presenting as a woman
  • Underdress
  • Tell my wife/SO about my dressing
  • Come out to everybody as a crossdresser
  • Ear piercings
  • Grow my hair long
  • Spend all day dressing up as a woman
  • Go out for the first time (No contact, just walking/driving, no interaction)
  • Go out and have conversations with people
  • Go shopping while presenting as a woman
  • Go out for lunch/dinner presenting as a woman
  • I have already done everything and more. I live FT as a woman. (Didn't read your disclaimer)
  • Other (share what it would be if you want)
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      Lola Caprice
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      Go out for the first time, no contact. I’d just like to drive to a nice little park and take a walk fully dressed. The biggest barrier is just getting out of my neighborhood unnoticed. I’m considering renting a small cabin for a weekend where I can dress and not worry about who sees me coming and going.

      💖Lola

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      Abbie Normal
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      I voted ‘other’. I am already partially out to my wife. I want to come fully out, mostly so I can lose the body/leg hair. I really don’t need to dress in front of her more than I already do (just lingerie currently). Not that I wouldn’t love to spend a day with her fully made up and dressed but I could live without it. The body hair is really upsetting me at the moment.

      –Abbie 😘

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      Rayna Carlian
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      I’ve done everything(my hair was long, contemplating growing again) on this list except fly commercial while en femme.

      I’d like to take a trip where there is NO drab at all.

      All Rayna from the time I leave the house until I return from the trip.

      I nearly did this for Desert Cross Roads, I was in Drab driving to/from Palm Springs. While in PS I was Rayna the whole time.

      Taking the flight to Vegas, partying in Vegas and flying home all en femme would be a bug step for me…

      Diva Las Vegas in October coming… we shall see…

      xoxo

      Rayna

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      Lorie Anthony
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      Hi Lorie, and nice to meet you.

      I totally agree with you. Being accepted would definitely be at the top of the list.
      I didn’t include it as an option here because this list is about what we can do by ourselves, and getting acceptance is not in our control.
      We can contribute to that acceptance, but ultimately it is on others to give it or not.

      Gabriela

      You are very welcome! I see my S.O. struggling with the lack of acceptance constantly.  Sometimes from me. I  must add though, I have  often  read about feeling shunned, not included, unwanted, etc.many times, and I agree on all counts, but I will ask, has anyone making those comments really thought about the fact that us S.O. feel  a lot of the same things. Questions of self worth come into our heads quite often.  I  still say that those who have or are experiencing this confusing, yet obviously very satisfying lifestyle, and don’t lie about it, or sneak, are those people who  I  respect and admire  most. You are very strong, and in a lot of ways, I would like to be more like them.

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        Laura Lovett
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        It’s hard for everyone, but thankfully getting easier, as society is more widely accepting of the various LGBTQ whatever label you want.

        Obviously, this is one of the things that makes a cross dresser hesitate before coming out – the way it affects us will also affect those close to us.

        We have to be really, really sure that we are prepared to go through anything, just to be ourselves, hence it’s not really lying or sneaking, it’s keeping something to ourselves that we’re not ready to share.

        Neither of my grandfathers ever talked about the 2nd World War, although both fought in it. One in India, and one in the North African campaign. I have the medals, letters home and many more souvenirs of that time in my family treasure box, but none tell of the experiences – they did not want to share that. It was their way of protecting themselves and their families.

        Likewise, we think the same kind of thing. If we do it in private, it’s nobody’s business but our own. Just like women tend not to share the details of their periods with their men folk, men have things that are probably best not shared.

        I don’t mean nasty secrets like affairs or such like – cross dressing does not compare to infidelity.

        The main issue it has is the lack of understanding: We don’t fully understand why we do it (and get to the point where the reason doesn’t matter, we just understand it’s a need), so how can we adequately explain it?

        On the surface, it’s just dressing.

        There may be other aspects to the specific person – some people feel same sex attraction when dressed and only when dressed, but many do not.

        Some women, especially those who may have lower esteem about their appearance, may feel threatened – but in most cases, there is no actual threat. It’s all about the feeling, not a competition. Any competition is usually internal – the newly emerged cross dresser wants to improve his feminine look in exactly the same way that a young girl wants to improve hers.

        The male way is to throw yourself into a hobby, and it can quickly become overwhelming for the woman, as the need for further accessories is felt in order to really perfect the look.

        Any man’s hobby has the same obsessive hallmarks.

        Give a man a fish, and he eats for a day.

        Teach a man to fish and he’ll spend thousands on fishing equipment, and go away every weekend and bring back a story of a fish that got away.

        Just my thoughts.

        Love Laura

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      Amber Jamies
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      I think I’ve taken many “next steps ” looking back over the years. I’ve only told my wife and she’s okay with it. I’ve never told another soul but have many times found myself dressed clearly in enfemme while visiting overnight at friends camps, etc. I’ve never been confronted or anything at all. So I guess I’ve just shown them who I am without having to say the words… or they already knew..

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      KHeart
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      There are two things I want to achieve this year (well probably tons more, but 2 off the top of my head right now 😛 ) I’ve wanted to get my ears pierced since before Christmas, and wore metallic studs for a while just to see how they would look. My partner really liked them, so it was a green light from her, but because of lockdown I haven’t been able to get them done yet, and I feel the momentum is starting to fade with her on the subject.

      The second thing I want to do is have my makeup done at a salon. I’ve been practicing for nearly a year, but most of what I do is just trial and error and a lot of guess work based on what did/didn’t work in the past…  Oh, and copious youtube tutorials 😛

      I genuinely appreciate when I’ve been given complements for my makeup as there’s always that bit of doubt in the back of my mind. Would be great to have a professional do it for me at least once and for me to try and take notes and perhaps learn some better techniques/tips to apply it for the future.

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      Samantha Murphy
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      I checked get my ears pierced. I’d love to do that, but keep chickening out. I’m not sure how well it would be received at work living in a conservative area.

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      Jessica
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      So many things have happened to me in the last month. I’ve been out for the afternoon dressed for the first time. It included a visit to the hairdressers for a new wig, lunch and drinks. It went without hitch with my trans friend Rachael. We are going again in two weeks. It means I have given a different answer than I would 3 weeks ago. I’m so happy I did it.

      At 69 i’ve experienced most everything that could be imagined

      Oh to be 25 again

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      Lorie Anthony
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      I am not a crossdresser but the S.O of one. It would be nice if be able to be fully accepted by everyone around me was able to be on here huh? I can only imagine that many would have chosen that. If only things were easy I suppose. Lol💙

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        Gabriela Romani
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        Hi Lorie, and nice to meet you.

        I totally agree with you. Being accepted would definitely be at the top of the list.
        I didn’t include it as an option here because this list is about what we can do by ourselves, and getting acceptance is not in our control.
        We can contribute to that acceptance, but ultimately it is on others to give it or not.

        Gabriela

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      Carla
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      So many things have happened to me in the last month. I’ve been out for the afternoon dressed for the first time. It included a visit to the hairdressers for a new wig, lunch and drinks. It went without hitch with my trans friend Rachael. We are going again in two weeks. It means I have given a different answer than I would 3 weeks ago. I’m so happy I did it.

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      Jennifer Walker
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      Hi Gabriela

      I ticked off going out in public, only this week. I selected attending a CD event, it sounds fun, but I don’t think I have the confidence yet.

      Jen.

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      Hazell Brown
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      I would love to learn how to put make up on and wear a wig. My wife likes me wearing kinky fetish clothing but doesn’t  like me wearing  bra. She loves putting nail varnish on my toes because they would be covered up by my socks.

      That would be my next step.

      Hazel

       

       

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      Jane Don
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      I so want to find regular (or even semi regular) Boyfriends –I’ve connected (online) with at least 20 over the last 6 or 8 months,but as soon as it comes time to actually meet in person-they find Reasons/Excuses to Not meet—or just lie & say I’ll meet you Sunday & disappear— This promising & then standing me up is driving me Crazy–

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      Jin Crocker
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      Actually it is nipple piercing, but ears were the closest match.

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      Tonya Leren
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      I’m torn on where my next step would be.  I would say it’s a very close, come out to everyone or going out fully dressed.. I only really fully dress as a friends and we have talked a lot about going somewhere with me dressed but I think at the sane time it’s gonna be just as hard for me to go anywhere with anyone as it is to come out fully to the rest of my family and everyone else…

      I very much want to be able to be Tonya a lot more but don’t see that Hakeem in the near future.

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      Kathleen 60454
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      I need to work on my mak-up. My now ex SO really didn’t know how to do it. My main problem is I have essential tremors in my hands and my hands shake too much to apply Eyeliner. and Mascara. With my hands shaking I did my makeup better than she did.

      Kathleen xxxxx 💋♥

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        Gabriela Romani
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        Kathleen,

        I have them too, to a degree. It sucks… but with enough practice you will get over that too! 🙂

        Gaby

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          Kathleen 60454
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          Gabriela,

          I have had my tremors since I first noticed  them when I was about 30 and I am 76 now. I am on two medication now and I can’t go any higher on the dosages.  My next step is an implant to stimulate my brain and I’m NOT doing that at my age and other health problems  I have.

          Kathleen

           

           

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      Gabriela Romani
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      I have to say that there is one thing in the list I never did, and will likely never do. Grow my hair long. When young because I was afraid about people finding out about me. Now, it is just because I can’t. OH well.
      But I have enjoyed being to do pretty much everything I wanted to do . First time out was about 23 years ago. I have traveled, attended events, love shopping, etc. And if I was able to do them, it wasn’t because I’m special… just because I had the right circumstances in my life to be able to do so. (Ok, I’m special too! 😉 )

      Love,
      Gaby

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      Shannon Marx
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      Hi Gabriella ive done a lot Enfemme. Mostly at night so i chose lunch or dinner. Would be nice to Be out in daytime, i think i could pull it off in confidence.

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      Angela Booth
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       I have worked through the list and more over many years. It has gone beyond what I thought possible as a small child with an envy of what girls wore.

      I am almost full time now. I have no idea what will happen next for me. The other day I ticked another step off the unwritten list. Due to an emergency at work, ( I am a female employee), over running I ended up attending my dentists as I didn’t want to lose my appointment. I didn’t have time to change. It went really well and now I can attend with no worries and they have changed my details to accommodate.

       

       

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    • #478995
      Grace Scarlett
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      Gabriela..

      Grace is about most of the time now…living her dream, and not really wanting much in life…in fact , what I want more than anything, is all you girls not so lucky…..to be as lucky as I think I am…

      So, I hope you don’t think this is flippant, but my next wish for myself concerning CD ….

      is getting hold of Taylor Swift’s new re recording of ” fearless” on CD!!

      Huggs, grace xx

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      MelanieElizabeth
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      My next step is definitely going out. I would love to go to a mall dressed do a little shopping then go to lunch. I think meeting up with fellow dressers for the before mentioned lunch would be great too. Attending a cd event would be awesome too. It would be great to be around so many like minded people. I was a little disappointed to see the convention in penn. was cancelled this year.

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      Paula Here
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      I vote to go out shopping.  I love to shop as a woman.  With all thebrestriction here in Ontario I think shopping maybe the only thing on the list I may be able to do this year.

      I would like to get a makeover with a lesson on how to do my makeup.  Then get ears peirced.

      To me these are the next steps in my journey.

      Have a lovely day lovely girls.

      Paula

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      Leslie
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      This made me think of about several things I would like to do in the next few months to year’s end if possible:

      get a make over to find out what shades I should be wearing and how to do my makeup correctly.

      get my ears pierced. I keep chickening out on the drive to get the done.

      get a good wig, I am letting my hair grow out but it is a slow task and my hair is very fine so it may not work anyway.

      I would love to get a proper bra fitting.

      And I would love to find some nice heels, but my big clunky feet are making that hard to find.

      And if I could go from 6’2” and 220# to maybe 5’7” and 150# I would love that the most!

      See nothing big on my list!!

      Leslie

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      Ambermaria Martinez
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      As I continue to be the woman I know felt I was.im hopping to finally come out and say it yes I am a crossdresser and I love it so much and if no one can accept me as the real me then I’m very sorry to hear that.if you say we are friends then hope you will always script me

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      Brittney Andrews
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      The choices I’ve done the first time: shaved my legs in 2016, more regularly since 2018; buy women’s clothes in person in 2015; underdressed in 2019; gone out (driving & walking / no contact or interaction) in 2019; go clothes shopping while presenting as a woman in 2020.

      My next step I voted “other” would be a make-up consult at Ulta Beauty; I want to find out what shade/tone and color will look best on me and to build a list of make-up items that I will need for an easy make-up routine. I also need to learn how to apply make-up, so lessons are part of the next step as well.

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      Leslie
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      Great poll. I would like to go to a bar with the woman who does my makeovers. She is a true friend who would help me handle the situation comfortably.

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      Krista
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      Hi Gabriela, a very nice list you’ve created.  I’ve done most of the things on it.  One that I’d really like to do is to attend a CD event.  That would be fun.  But living in the far northwest of Canada, it is really difficult to travel anywhere to the U.S. (and I’m not about to set a foot on a crowded plane anytime soon) The Seattle area is the most likely (and I enjoy going to watch the Mariners play).   There is the event in Port Angeles that I’ve thought about attending but unfortunately it is held the same week as my wife’s film festival and I’m her busiest volunteer.  But hopefully someday it will work out.  Stay healthy, stay safe, All the Best, Hugs, Krista.

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      Stevie Steiner
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      Gabriela I really wanted to pick 2 or 3 of them, but had to pick going out full en femme to a cd/tg event, with some sisters ideally.  Sadly, just like last year, 2021 seems shot for that ☹.  Was really hoping for Pride this summer inT.O., …. c’est la vie.

      Stevie

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      Sharon
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      already out to my wife, son, friends and colleagues.  Came out to my parents and my sister this week, got my ears pierced yesterday, next step is investigate facial hair removal  i.e laser and/or electrolysis

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      Mikala
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      Hi Gorgeous,

      Today I ventured out in my skinny girl jeans, with sneakers. Silk panties and camisole Hidden to go and visit my best mate. Small step, but one in the direction I am determined to complete.

      Mikala xxxxx.

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        Denise
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        Mikala,

        Awesome outfit!  Skinny jeans are the best!  It must have been an incredible experience!  My outfit would be with tan chelsea booties.  But I do love cute sneakers too!  Thanks for sharing girl!!

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          Mikala
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          Hi Denise I am wearing my heeled knee high boots today with a pair of skinny’s, Love them.

          Mikala x.

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      Diane Rakers
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      First of all I dislike the expression “coming out”. I much prefer “sharing my story”.

      I want to share my story with more people. Prior to sharing I have a process of deciding where this person fits into my life, and, of course, are they trustworthy and, hopefully, will they be accepting.

      I have shared with 5 people so far, and I’m thinking of a sixth. She and I work at the same place so I have more to think about, but I’m leaning to a Saturday morning coffee.

      Diane

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      Layla Jones
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      Been fighting with the idea of going my hair out so its that one for me, but wow all this talk of makeovers by a pro to thats also on my to so list to layla x

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      Caty Ryan
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      As related elsewhere, shave the last of my body hair (legs and arms, its comes off tomorrow And in the last thread I also forgot to mention to have a professional makeover and then go and have a bra fitting with forms attached, en femme

      I had one lined up before Covid hit, but it got cancelled at the last minute. We have a lingerie store in the southern suburbs of Melbourne whom sponsors the local cd/tg group and is happy to accommodate “us”

      Which with the way Covid hammered shopfront retail, is hardly surprising. Our “Shekels” are as good as any ones…

      On a similat note I’m just home froma lunch in downtown Melbourne. After that concluded I went to our major department store chain, (Myer) and bougftt four pairs of hold up stockings . The shop assistant never batted an eyelid.. Just wrapped and gave them and the receipt back to me..

      Times have changed for them and me. 30 years ago I would have been petrified doing that..

      Caty.

       

       

       

       

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      LisaT
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      I’m already on countdown as “She who must be obeyed” kindly booked me an appointment at the beauty salon for a professional pedicure and massage when they reopen. I will be fully underdressed with my nails as they are home manicured and polished for the girls at the salon to improve. We have agreed I should come out to the girls in the salon (it’s like the doctors really).

      10 days to go and counting.

      Lisa xxx

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      Laura Lovett
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      Hi Gabriela

      I have done everything on the list, but am not planning to CD full time.

      I grew my hair when younger, which is very fortunate, as I no longer have the option – a bald crown with long hair is not a look I would choose.

      The next step for me, as I said in the recent bucket list thread is to put on a show as a CD – something that makes CDing stand out as different to drag, a less fierce, more inclusive and more down to earth reality which so many people share yet currently feel they need to hide.

      It would be fun to imagine that it would get a message out to the world, but it’s more likely to be just a bit of fun, most likely to be confined to small, specialist venues.

      My experience of gigging is that you’re only as good as your last gig, so you can only hope to nail it first time and get invited back!

      Love Laura

       

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      Emily Alt
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      I’ve already done most of the things on the list.  The one’s I haven’t will get checked as I transition.  I voted for “attend a cd/tg event” since I’m attending the Crossroads event in Palm Springs later this month.

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      JillianW
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      My next big step would be the makeover. I’d love to see what a good makeup professional could do with me.
      Jillian

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      Alison Anderson
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      I have done most of the things on your list.  The ones I haven’t done are fly en femme, get my ears pierced, and come out to everyone.  I do hope to fly en femme on day, and will only come out to people on a need-to-know basis.

      I have been holding up on my ears for many years because, as a blood donor, I would have been deferred from donating for a year.  It seemed too selfish given how infrequently I was dressing. But they recently reduced the time from a year to 3 months, which is more acceptable to me (especially when I sometimes get deferred because my hematocrit levels are too low).

      Also, I want to be able to hide it when out in a conservative community.  It would seem odd for a man in his 60s to suddenly get his ears pierced, and I’m not planning on coming out to them, and I don’t want to come out having to explain myself.  If I was 20 or 30 years younger people would accept it.  But I have long hair, and I have been wearing it down for years, so I should be able to hide a pair of studs until they heal and I can take them out for short periods if I needed to.

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        Sandy Jayson
        Duchess
        Registered On: September 29, 2019
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        Alison, Bettylou is right. I got my ears pierced as a present on my 66th birthday. I live in a small town in Iowa and have a few comments on my ears but nothing negative and soon forgotten by all.
        . Sandy

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          Alison Anderson
          Duchess
          Registered On: October 15, 2018
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          On one level, I know you’re both right, no one said anything when I started shaving or waxing my arms and legs.  But I also know the people from my religious community, some of whom are conservative, and some who may be talkative, which will make the intermediate time a bit longer.  I’m introverted, and don’t like drawing attention to myself, or have to give a half truth “I just wanted it.”  But as I said, I can likely hide it under my hair, which will lessen its visibility.

          With my birthday coming up, I’m giving it some serious thought now.

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      • #478465
        Bettylou Cox
        Duchess
        Registered On: May 26, 2019
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        Alison Anderson wrote: ” It would seem odd for a man in his 60s to suddenly get his ears pierced, and I’m not planning on coming out to them, and I don’t want to come out having to explain.” No problem, Alison; how about a man in his 80’s doing the same? I got two or three comments from guys at church, but nothing bad, and most have just ignored them as routine.

        Hugs,
        Bettylou

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      Alexis Tresse
      Princess - Annual
      Registered On: March 27, 2020
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      Next is to shop en femme, a repeat activity. In the past year (my first year CD) I have done half of these activities and I am nothing special. My goal for a new activity is a photo shoot.

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    • #478291
      Laura Jane Moore
      Lady
      Registered On: July 10, 2020
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      I would like to get a professional makeover. I have a place picked out that is pretty close to me and they offer an overnight option.

      • #478306
        Leonara
        Ambassador
        Registered On: October 13, 2015
        Topics: 4
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        Laura Jane, go for it .. you will love to be pampered during the makeover… I have had two!

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    • #478251
      Sandy Jayson
      Duchess
      Registered On: September 29, 2019
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      The next thing for me is likely to get a make over once things open up. I have already done many of the things on your poll.
      Sandy

    • #478244
      Trisha Lilly Hibbert
      Baroness
      Registered On: December 8, 2020
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      Hi  Gabriela, I voted other. I’m currently growing my hair, gave been for 4 months, the entire time I’ve been dressing. Currently I need to get my eyebrows threaded, buy some fem glasses and work on my voice. Those are my current goals.

      Love Trisha

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        Trisha Lilly Hibbert
        Baroness
        Registered On: December 8, 2020
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        Update. I had my eyebrows waxed today. I finally see Trish in the mirror now.

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        Polly Stewart
        Lady
        Registered On: January 2, 2021
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        Trisha! Just been thinking about that myself during the week and have already seen one pair of absolutely fabulous frames for myself!

        Love Polly 👓🕶

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          Trisha Lilly Hibbert
          Baroness
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          Polly I have one pair picked out just been to pick another. I usually buy  2 incase I break the first pair, which often happens.

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    • #478238
      Eva Kelly
      Lady
      Registered On: March 1, 2021
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      I voted grow my hair long. I am currently letting it grow, it’s just taking such a long time. They say a half inch a month. It’s half over my ears and fairly long in back. I want it to my shoulders or maybe longer.

      Eva

    • #478237
      Bettylou Cox
      Duchess
      Registered On: May 26, 2019
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      I really want to attend a CD/TG event, but my wife’s disability makes it difficult to arrange the time for it. As for the others, I don’t fly, wife won’t let me tell the kids, and no hair on my legs to shave. And I do all the others, (except live full-time en femme.

      Bettylou

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        Rami Love
        Lady
        Registered On: November 30, 2018
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        I ticked off getting my ears pierced. I am pretty much on my way to living full time as a woman. I have a weight goal, electrolysis to complete and voice feminization and I am there.
        Love
        Rami

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        • #482315
          Bettylou Cox
          Duchess
          Registered On: May 26, 2019
          Topics: 21
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          That’s great, Rami; it’s amazing how much a little thing like earrings can add to that en femme feeling. And I need to work on my voice, also.

          Hugs,
          Bettylou

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