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    Kelly
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    I have been reading lately about a gender identity known as bigender. The classification falls under the transgender umbrella, but is not trans. is not necessarily gender fluid, and sometimes takes in cross dressing.

    It is being both genders at the same time, yet presenting male or female at different times. I am not much on labels, yet it’s sometimes comforting to know I am not alone.

    What are your thoughts on the “bigender” tag?

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      I love it.

      I don’t think it quite fits me today but I probably would’ve answered differently at some point or other, maybe still will.

      It’s a good descriptor though, for some…I’m sure.  Those help.

      Thumbs up.

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      Connie Twirl
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      I read that as Big Ender……….

      Bigender is OK – a bit like the Two Spirits concept.

      Connie

      xxx

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      Birel Galanodel
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      Kelly, I went through a phase where I felt like I needed to figure out exactly what label(s) fit me. Now I’m done worrying about that. I’ve been called non-binary by one of my kids, and that’s good enough for me. I am who I am, and I’m ok with that.

      Birel

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      Liara Wolfe
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      Interesting thought. I will have to look into this more.

      Hugs, Liara

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      Abbie Normal
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      Interesting, I probably would have described my self as that just a few months ago and possibly I’ll settle there someday. I’m just finding as I come out more that I like being a guy less than I thought. It’s always nice to have options though!

      — Abbie 🥰

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      Quinetta Harris
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      My bigendered scenario is that there are a male and female persona inhabiting a male body. I am sure that there are bigenders with a male and female persona coexisting in a female body too. But back to me, my bigendered scenario is that when one persona is active, the other is passive or dormant and both personas have enough time active to sustain balance. When one gets more active time than they should, problems can occur. So far since I came to fruition there have not been any big issues. Only small ones. I can go on and on about my bigendered scenario but I will save any more details for anyone who wants them privately.

       

      Kisses…

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      Kelly
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      Bobbi,

       

      That’s exactly how I feel.

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      DeeAnn Hopings
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      Is it only me who inappropriately reads that word as Big ender?

      Sorry – I’m not one for labels either, but certainly, our sisterhood seems to combine the two common genders in terms of behaviours – so the word suits.

      Does that mean Drag Queens are also bi-gender?

      We don’t see them as men when they are doing their act – even though we know they’re not women.

      Or is that another form of transgender (trans meaning “through”)?

      These questions are like Madelbrots, or maybe, Russian dolls sometimes!

      Love Laura

      To my way of thinking drag queens would not be bigender. It is a performance art and usually does not represent ones perspective on gender identity. Also, our perceptions from an external perspective don’t apply as it relates to how the person feels about themselves.

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      Bobbi Scott
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      I enjoy being a woman as often as is practical in my life. Being a woman brings me such utter joy. Unfortunately I must live my day to day life as a man. I am both man and woman. Bi-Gender fits perfectly.
      Bobbi

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      Laura Lovett
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      Is it only me who inappropriately reads that word as Big ender?

      Sorry – I’m not one for labels either, but certainly, our sisterhood seems to combine the two common genders in terms of behaviours – so the word suits.

      Does that mean Drag Queens are also bi-gender?

      We don’t see them as men when they are doing their act – even though we know they’re not women.

      Or is that another form of transgender (trans meaning “through”)?

      These questions are like Madelbrots, or maybe, Russian dolls sometimes!

      Love Laura

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      Celeste Starre
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      I’d say that pretty much describes me and has for a bit over 20 years now.

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      Stevie Steiner
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      Can ” perspective fluid ” be a new label?  ( sorry, another label ).

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        Stevie,

        I’m tempted to say “That depends on your perspective”. LOL.  Mine has changed over time, from closet weirdo to CD to T-girl; but only moves in one direction.

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      This is one of those questions where the answer depends entirely on your perspective.  You can be bisexual, certainly; but IMO, bigender would have to be a transient condition, as your gender identity re-aligns.  I present as male to my adult children and grandchildren, and to my church membership, but my gender identity remains T-girl.

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      Simone C
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      Kayla,

      There is a category in psychology known as  “dual-role transvestite”. This is someone (of either gender) who dresses temporarily in the clothing of the opposite gender to experience what it is like to be or to take the role of the opposite gender. There is no desire for reassignment treatment, and it is not a fetish for clothing as such.

      Like many I find the search for labels a little disheartening, still this one seems to fit me!

      S

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        Sylvia
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        Thank you  Simone ,

        I have read about this “dual role” online , and for me , this “label” comes very close at how I would define myself !

        Love Sylvia.

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      Stevie Steiner
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      More labels ….

      Honestly there are an awful lot of labels.  Seems to separate us into smaller and smaller groups.  I am in touch with my male side, and sure as hell in touch with my female side.  IIRC, 89%f.  47%m.  So I’m in touch with both.  Aren’t we all to some degree, at least?  That balance of the two, a balance of perspective?

      I will label myself:  ” Me “.

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      That’s a new one. I’m not big on labels either but that one I can live with, I think it would fit a lot of crossdressers. Thanks good topic.

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