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- May 13, 2021 at 7:19 am #491631
Hi Ladies.
Do you have a different birthday for your dressed self versus your drab self?
I guess it’s different for those who are transitioning; you are your same self. But for the express cross dressers, does your femme alter ego have a discrete identity beyond a name?
Historically, I’ve never thought about it but finding a superb group like CDH was almost what Facebook would call a ‘Life Event.’ And such a release. So much so I’m thinking of using the date of joining as a separate ‘birthday’ for Jennifer. Any excuse for a celebration, a glass of vino and a spot of self-indulgence!
- May 13, 2021 at 7:47 am #491637Anonymous
Very fun, Jen. I don’t have a separate birthday for Kate per se, but that part of me definitely has a bit of a different, if not identity, let’s say way of being lol. When the Kate switch is flipped I find my point of view and way of expressing myself to be different.
Good topic! Hope you enjoy whatever day you pick xoxo.
- May 13, 2021 at 7:51 am #491641
Hi Jen As you said any excuse for a celebration. I am not sure where i fit on the spectrum anymore. I started going out when I was a teenager then hid for a couple years then came out again. The crazy world of a CD. I think now that I am a little more mature maybe celebrating the wonderful gift of life and all those lovely emotions we get to feel just accepting who we are as people. I know!! celebrating ACCEPTANCE would be my Birthday. It did not happen when I went to see my therapist I did not believe her when she said voice therapy and HRT would help with my dysphoria. My acceptance came when I joined CDH and found so many others that are and have been dealing with the same issue. Maybe the day I joined CDH is my new second birth day. Those who are transitioning also have a second birthday. The day they decided to live their life as the person they always thought they were. I did not remember my first birthday but you always remember your second. Thank you for your post.
Luv Stephanie
- May 13, 2021 at 8:51 am #491654Anonymous
Hi Jen,
And that’s an interesting idea. I try to ignore my drab self’s birthdays (the number is growing too large); so using Bettylou’s instead is a good fresh start. The only problem is, I don’t know her birthday. My awareness of Bettylou crept up on me gradually until one day, I just realized she was there, and had been for some time. And would Bettylou’s birthday be the first time I put on a dress as a kid, or when some compulsion led me to “borrow” one of my wife’s dresses for a short time about six years ago? I don’t know, and I guess it really doesn’t matter; I’m just happy she is here, now.
Hugs,
Bettylou - May 13, 2021 at 9:17 am #491663
Hi Jen, for me I class Trisha’s birthday as the day I accepted myself, which just happened to be my legal birthday. So no second birthday for me.
Love Trisha
- May 13, 2021 at 10:33 am #491715
Beyond the name yes, for me Jessica is the side of myself that I wish the world could see. Giddy, fun, sweet, kind and loving. The complete polar opposite of what my male self is.
As for birthday, no. Jessica is a part of me, and I am a part of her. Aside from our personalities being different with her being more level headed than me, we have the same birthday, we are the same person after all. - May 13, 2021 at 2:41 pm #491784Anonymous
Well I did think about it, but then I thought “Why” I am still the same person, I wasn’t re-born on a different day because I decided to wear lingerie or dresses. I have always gravitated to feminine things, indeed found that I like be feminine more and more as the years go by. But the bottom line is I am still the same person in flesh as I started out as,simply “Me”. I can’t change history so why change my birth date.
- May 13, 2021 at 3:17 pm #491792Anonymous
My first birthday will come in November 30th 3 days after my male birthday the 30th is when will be a real woman and transitioned.
- May 13, 2021 at 7:28 pm #491877
It’s been less than a year since I discovered Bridgette, and it was somewhere around my actual birthday, so I’ll just keep using it. About 3 months later I found this place and really started growing. Bridgette owes you girls so very much!
Thanks, Bridgette
- May 13, 2021 at 8:04 pm #491896
I pegged mine as Jan 1, 2019, as that is when I really felt Amy’s identity come to life. Before that I dressed up, but didn’t feel the same feminine identity.
Amy
- May 13, 2021 at 8:33 pm #491909
Hi Jen as started dressing as a very young kid have allways used my original birthdate as that was many many moons ago .. lol ha ha
Stephanie
- May 13, 2021 at 11:05 pm #491931
I have expressly stopped celebrating birthdays of any kind.
- May 14, 2021 at 1:16 pm #492105Anonymous
Hi Jen I am a Libran and that fits perfectly for Sarah’s persona she is totally open minded.
Love Sarah xx
- May 15, 2021 at 3:22 am #492246
As this side of me grew, over time, it’s hard to put an actual date on myself, so I just use the original, however, Regi seems to be 20 to 30 yrs younger than “him”, lol
Hugs, Regi👸💕
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