How does dressing affect your lifestyle compared to drab

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  • I eat healthier when I am dressed
  • I sleep better when I dress
  • I am happier when I dress
  • I smoke less when I am dressed
  • I drink less when I am dressed
  • I use fewer substances when I am dressed
  • I don’t smoke, drink or use substances when I am dressed
  • There is no difference in any of my behavior when I am dressed
  • I smoke, drink or use substances more when dressed
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      Laura Lovett
      Registered On: March 26, 2020
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      Hi Jennifer

      I am definitely happier and healthier when I dress.

      It’s more to do with mental health though – my mind goes to ecstasy (not the drug!) when I’m fully femme, made up, jewellery, etc, and my problems enter a new perspective, ie, lessen on the whole, and a new feeling of clarity enters my mind, and I feel better equipped to deal with life’s challenges.

      A day of dressing will fix my somewhat broken temperament for at least a couple of weeks. Long story.

      Because I achieve things during those couple of weeks, the decline thereafter is less noticeable each time. The impact on those around me is noticeably positive, which feeds back to myself.

      This has been the story ever since I fully came out 2 years ago, and seems to only improve, on the whole. There’s still a lot of work to do, but when I compare now to 5 years ago, I’m stunned. When I compare now to the dreadful place I was in during my teens, I’m amazed I’m here to tell this positive tale.

      I cannot say enough about how my previously hidden “habit” that I was so ashamed of for decades has changed my life for the better now that I have fully embraced it.

      I love my inner femme – and all my sister femmes who I’ve encountered both here and in the physical world.

      In one notable case, both (HR!).

      Love and kisses, Laura.

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      Stephanie Kennedy
      Registered On: March 15, 2019
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      Hi Jennifer I am without a doubt much happier and have so much more energy when in the fem mode. I enjoy people much more and love to chat more, I guess you could say i feel alive. The whole man thing is just too boring. I have done it. been there.not interested anymore. Time for a new life to begin. Luv Stephanie

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      Patty Phose
      Registered On: May 7, 2016
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      I love dressing. I always have. I love how I look and feel when dressed. That’s why I do it.

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      Wendy Swift
      Registered On: May 11, 2020
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      Being Wendy is like an escape for me, an escape from the drudgery of work mostly.  Dressing up allows me to totally forget about work and just enjoy being Wendy and being in the moment.


      House chores as Wendy is also much more enjoyable too.

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      Deborah Sullivan
      Registered On: February 27, 2020
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      As Debbie I am more content and at peace with daily activities and encountering people. I love the dynamic of relating to other people this way but dont think it has any effect on my sleeping or drinking behavior

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      Peggy Sue Williams
      Registered On: June 26, 2019
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      I have always believed that the inability to express the female parts of my personality in earlier years played a major factor in my alcoholism.  By prohibiting my female self to come out on display, it created a raging mental conflict within me.  In turn, that conflict found some relief through using alcohol to the point of extreme intoxication.

      I took my last drink in 1991, and it has been a very long journey, getting to where I am today.  I cross dress, on the average, two days a week.  My personality has never felt more in balance!

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      Caty Ryan
      Registered On: August 27, 2017
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      Being  Caty is an integral part of my being and I feel very relaxed when I can be her “top to toe”. IE Full make up, hair and clothes, shoes, jewellery etc.

      It’s nearly as good when I underdress 24/7, with bra on and breast forms at night. (My So and I sleep in separate rooms).

      I’ve never smoked and I love a good Aussie red or white wine and the occasional beer. Male me and Caty do not differ in our wine consumption, at dinner each night I usually have at least one glass.

      In fact this topic has made me long for the days before we downsized to a retirement village.

      “Caty and I” had a dedicated wine cellar and when my SO would go off for a weekend family visit, there were many times where Catherine Louise sat in the cellar with a glass of red and “bikkies and cheese” and “contemplated” her collection of fine Aussies reds and whites.

      No imported stuff for this “gel”

      Happy dressing (and imbibing)





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      Olivia Livin
      Registered On: October 22, 2018
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      Its not just about the clothes and wearing them to me, so I’ve read this as have things changed since I’ve come to accept my enhanced mixed gender self.

      I feel much better about myself and do tend to look after myself more. I no longer use alcohol to try and mask the world and many of the stresses that I sometimes found hard to deal with. I used it at times to lower my inhabitions, so that I could feel less self concious, be more spontaneous and freer with with my emotions. Liking and believing in myself has made these things my normal state.

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      Jo Jett
      Registered On: May 8, 2020
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      I like to underdress , wear silk or satin nighties… short ones ,and I wear ladies jeans… I am much more gentler and easy going when dressed… more relaxed… not that I was wild and crazy or mad or mean before. I never have smoked or used substances, occasionally have a drink , and we eat healthy and exercise… life is just good

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      Sandy Jayson
      Registered On: September 29, 2019
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      Hi Jennifer, I said I am much happier when dressed.  Unfortunately I am sometimes have trouble sleeping because of it , I keep thinking what i can wear next and where.



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