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Late last night October 30th and earlier tonight Halloween night I had a coming out party and it was incredible….
Hello everyone I’m Amiliah Rougeheart, I’m a rather new cross dresser even though I’m in my thirties and I have an experience I would like to share with you all since I am still a flutter about it. As the header and title suggests I had a coming out party, I had been doing some research and inquiries by that I mean I was getting people’s views on Cross Dressers and Sexual Transitions, and testimonials from others that are further along than myself. So after some careful deliberation I decided to talk to each of my friends, supporters and family members individually about how they would feel and what would they think of me if I were to decide to cross the great gender divide, I being publicly bisexual was easy but coming out as anything more would naturally be difficult, and would get me mixed emotions, various reactions. So after two weeks of “negotiating the peace talks” I finally worked up the courage to out myself. So I went online and rounded up all of my friends and closest confidants, and I told them they are important to me but that my life was about to change and that in my mind it’s for the better. So on October 30th 2021 during a friend’s live stream session I outed myself to everyone of my friends and got abundant support and was dedicated the rest of the stream with songs to encourage my decision and images of femininity and beauty which I did not expect, unlike the day before, that led to an end of the world fight with my blood sister to whom there is a chance I will never talk to again, mind you she gave me her support for my decision but still ended our estranged relationship because of some other matters.
Anyway there were only two who had anything negative to say. And I was filled with joy.
Now it came time to tell my family…
With great Anxiety I confronted my catholic step mother about the subject matter and I talked to her indirectly about my decision I told her how my niece had transitioned and what did she think of transgender people and gender reassignment and cross dressing. She told me that as far as cross dressing to each their own if it makes me happy she is for it, then on the more intense matter she put up a wall of resistance saying “I think it is unnatural, God made us the way that we are for a reason only he knows but no matter how much we oppose him he knows best and doesn’t make mistakes, we as people do!” Then a strike of hostile curiosity in her voice why are you asking me about this, are you planning to change??! I gave her the most honest answer I could give her…No! I’m not planning to change yet, I plan on cross dressing to feel more comfortable with myself because I like feeling pretty and I like women’s clothes and always have they are comfortable to me, but gender reassignment has been on my mind for some time because I am afraid of the judgements I will get from cross dressing if I do stand out to much…. I say that out loud while I start to reflect on past experiences internally….in my head I think “ that moment was traumatizing to me and I never want to feel like that again….” “What if cross dressing isn’t enough to make me feel like myself, I do want to transition but how far is to far, after all this decision is permanent and can’t exactly be undone I want to go into it with no fear and come out of it with no regrets I best do some more research and contemplating!” But I felt encouraged over all by the positive feedback from al my peers and and friends, all my siblings were behind me though I have yet to talk to my youngest brother who is like my oldest son since there is 20 years 2 months and 3 days between us not to mention he is 3 years 2 months and 14 days between him and my actual oldest son, I will talk to the babes in due time for now I just have to ease into she situation and let them open up to it.
So there you have my coming out party story I hope you find joy and comfort in it as I do knowing that we need not be afraid to come out as who we really are because you never know what you can do until you try and you can’t assume other people’s reactions or where you will find support as they say in the network marketing industry “ invite everyone even if you don’t think they will say yes, you never can tell who is actually gonna support you and you will be pleasantly surprised when they do, and if you get a no it is never a definite it just means not right now if your product is truth everyone comes around eventually, narrow minds can be opened, crossed arms uncrossed, and locked doors unlocked, opportunities are everywhere and they are a knocking.”
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