- August 25, 2020 at 9:04 am #377557JackieBoyParticipantRegistered On: January 6, 2019Topics: 4Replies: 8Has thanked: 14 timesBeen thanked: 52 times
For those of you that have gone to counseling what was the most important thing you learned? I fully accept my Cross Dressing and enjoy the sense of freedom and happiness it brings me and was wondering if there were any other benefits from receiving Counseling
- August 26, 2020 at 5:25 am #377833Stephanie KennedyParticipantRegistered On: March 15, 2019Topics: 9Replies: 605Has thanked: 3786 timesBeen thanked: 2208 times
Hi Jackie You learn to accept who you are so that you can stop denying that part of you that only wants out. There is nothing wrong with that part of you. She does not deserve to be treated with societies tools of shame and guilt. She needs to be nurtured and allowed to feel loved . Once you begin to love that part of you . You can begin process of being whole. Then it is up to you how you want to openly express it. It maybe full time all the time or you maybe you just have to compromise to keep others who you love, feeling secure and happy. Life is about compromise always begin with the highest expectations. Luv Stephanie
- August 26, 2020 at 5:01 am #377827Christina WiliamsParticipantRegistered On: August 25, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 26Has thanked: 67 timesBeen thanked: 84 times
Hi, like some others I found counselling really helped especially the one I found . He helped me explore deep back into my life, childhood such thoughts, wants etc . It unravelled my reasons of unhappiness and stress which were the result of me suppressing and fighting what I have now become and now embrace so warmly … my feminine alter ego that I now do love and continue to be. I have much to be grateful to the sessions as now my true self and feelings are the real me … the woman inside me is my future and happiness
- August 25, 2020 at 6:30 pm #377736Mikayla WelshParticipantRegistered On: April 29, 2020Topics: 4Replies: 51Has thanked: 346 timesBeen thanked: 195 times
Same here… i have been in therapy for about 6 weeks or so, starting a few weeks after my wife found out… progress takes time, but my anger issues are already significantly better and I hope to find out if there is more than just CDing…
- August 25, 2020 at 9:44 am #377575Marie ChandlerParticipantRegistered On: June 29, 2020Topics: 3Replies: 17Has thanked: 127 timesBeen thanked: 104 times
I highly recommend going to therapy. Granted, every therapist is different and every experience is different, but I found it helped me understand myself and my behavior better.
Talking about crossdressing was a key reason for going in the first place, but once I started digging into my life history with a professional (especially around childhood, when most of us first experience crossdressing), I discovered unexpected connections and revelations that helped put dressing in a greater context in my own life. In general, it helped me understand myself better as a whole and was not just focused specifically on dressing. Hope that makes some sense!
- August 25, 2020 at 9:31 am #377569Danielle SilverfeatherParticipantRegistered On: July 29, 2019Topics: 9Replies: 55Has thanked: 46 timesBeen thanked: 287 times
We have been in counseling for over 30 years. But until 15 years ago did we accept both the male and female parts of us. Never be afraid of telling your counselor about your crossdressing. If they can’t accept that part of you. Leave and never go back. Remember you are you. Don’t let anyone try and change. Be open about David and Danielle is greatest things we have ever done
- August 25, 2020 at 9:21 am #377565Heather JamesonParticipantRegistered On: April 1, 2019Topics: 6Replies: 337Has thanked: 516 timesBeen thanked: 1130 times
I just found it made things clearer to think through and if your in group then the acceptance of the group made me feel good too. I too fully accept myself for what I am Jackie actually I wouldn’t trade this for the world. I used to think I was cursed but once I accepted myself it opened up a whole new side of things for me. I’ve said before that I can see the world from the stand point of a woman and a man which I think makes me a more open and rounded person.
- August 25, 2020 at 9:18 am #377564SerenParticipantRegistered On: March 2, 2020Topics: 36Replies: 398Has thanked: 3375 timesBeen thanked: 1776 times
Hey Jackie, interesting question. I started mine in April just after I’d come out to my wife as a CD, to help me understand what my dressing meant and maybe help her come to terms with it. The more I explored tho, the more I realised that there was a lot more going on. I was sure there was an inextricable link between my lifelong closet CDing, my struggles with depression and anxiety, and maybe the reason why I never felt like I fitted in anywhere… I’m still talking to my ‘zoom’ therapist every week. I wish I’d done it sooner.
take care girls
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