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Members, in recent months there has been a profusion of private rooms created for sex chat, some by members, some by guests. Too many members did not understand the concept of ‘private’ rooms and posted passwords or extended invitations in the public chat room. This has caused embarrassment and discomfort to other members on what is a support site. As a result, no form of sex chat will now be tolerated at Crossdresser Heaven.
Ambassadors have been directed to monitor private rooms periodically. They will enter private rooms and establish the nature of the conversation. If they are satisfied that the conversation is acceptable they will then leave the room. If rooms are password protected and the password is not shared in the public room, the room will remain private from all other members. Site authorities (Ambassadors and Managers) have always had the ability to monitor private rooms so this is not new. What is new is the hardened approach to sex chat.
There are plenty of other sites that allow sex chat so if that’s your thing, go there.Crossdresser Heaven is not a sex chat site.
For those paying members who private chat with other members and those who use the phone app. the same rules apply, as will the same penalties for those found to be chatting in breach of the rules.
Should an Ambassador discover that sex chat is happening the following action will be taken:
For a first offence: The members involved will be given a warning.
For a second offence: Members will be given a warning and banned from the chat rooms (24 hour suspension).
For a third offence: Members will be given a final warning and banned from the chat rooms (24 hour suspension).
A fourth offence: Members will be banned from chat and their account suspended, pending deletion.There will be no appeal. These actions are to keep CDH a safe, supportive and accepting place for members of the transgender community, their friends and family.
JaneS
Assistant Site ManagerTo miss jane I do hope I haven’t offended you in anyway as don’t think that have spoken on subject your bringing up an have tried stick to what’s being brought up n do hope I’m not one those who’s on your ban list because do like being on here*zena
Hi Zena, you are fine dear. I just moved your reply, which was essentially an introductory post, to the Introductions forum where people will be able to get to know you.
While i totally agree with your request for no sex chat, does that mean we can’t chat about our own sexuality in terms that wont offend anyone else? One can talk about sexual issues without the “dirty” side of it. Just a thought. Bronwyn
Bronwyn, discussions about sexuality are acceptable as long as, like you say, those discussions remain inoffensive. It’s okay to discuss one’s sexuality but not okay to try get graphic about where that sexuality might lead.
You are correct, there’s no need to get ‘dirty’.
Members, we’ve all heard the expression about rotten apples spoiling the barrel.
Despite the firm statements on CDH policy there are still members who ignore the rules and engage in inappropriate conversations in chatrooms. Please read through these rules again.
Hi Jane! God knows I am all for freedom of action and expression. I fought in Vietnam to protect and instill these rights for another nation as well as Our own. When it comes to private affairs, politics and racism……….I don’t accept that in my life. I absolutley hate the media, religion and certain individuals who preach this sort of stuff. Sex talk belongs to 2 individuals and should be private between them. I don’t mind parades but rasicim and sexual shenanigans in public are not for me. There is a time and place for everything.
I personaly have not seen any of this on the site and I thank you for your efforts to edit this out. All the chats and responses….you must spend an awful amount of time editing. I for one humbly thank you for your efforts to make this a great site.
Lady Veronica Graunwolf
Oh myy….a place to not be bombarded by porn and the constant harassment of Randy the Rando… Thank you so much for that.
I am a new member to the site. This is the only one I’ve found that has the “no sex rule”. I know I’m safe here and can finally open up about the woman inside me.
Thank you C.D.H. that’s y I like this site and not the others I’ve been on because of the no sex chat rule. It’s important to me to have somewhere to talk about crossdressing and what comes with it without sex talk. If someone want to sex chat there’s pleanty of places out the to do so. So once again thank you CDH. Steffany.
Miss Jane. I do agree with you 100 per cent. I do not use chat rooms for this very reason. I have no time for this type of stuff. I do, however, try to assist new members with the psychological issues and do get into medical question/ answering where I can but all of this is strictly done on private communication with said member with their approval. If things get dicey with Club Rules or I feel that things are getting a little risque, I will switch over to my own private e-mail for consultations. I trust that this is satisfactory within CDH guidelines…..if not, please let me know. I am here to guide/assist those who a having difficulties with their choices…..I am not DR. Ruth Westheimer.
Of course, I will continue to welcome new members and pass on any tid-bits that I feel are relevant to the general population.
Regards as always….and thank you for your vigilance with the site. It is unique and I wish it to stay that way.
Lady Veronica
That really makes me feel better knowing this. I don’t mind talking with our sisters about CD and other subjects, however I do not like all the sex stuff. I been to a few other communities and it’s just shameful.
I like the idea of not bringing sex into 99% of the forum. Simply because there are so many other things that need to be discussed. Help topics especially. But I think sex is a huge part of CDing. I get really turned on when I’m dressing up (sometimes). To me honest, it’s one of the reasons I started dressing up.
BTW, I’m only saying this because some have made sex and talking sex as something dirty and perverted. Sex is as much a part of life as breathing. I’d hate to think that just because I get horny and want to talk with someone else that’s horny, that I was a pervert. If getting horny made people a perv, then we’d all be one.
P.S. A couple of people mentioned that there were plenty of places to discuss things of that nature (sex). I haven’t found any.
I still maintain that having a site for people to interact is a good idea. HOWEVER, I DO feel firmly that “Chat Site” means hook ups and sex talk by definition. The recent spate of this indicates that sexting is just that. Maybe it would stop now if we rename it Conversations or Ladies Fashion Journal. Texting and chat rooms means one thing to people now……dirty rondevous. I am sad to say that but that is the way it is.
Dame Veronica
If I’ve ever gotten carried away I do apologize, although I don’t believe I have.
I love CDH. It has been a great resource for me on many levels and I’d like to think I’ve helped others.
I’m all in for keeping it clean, as it were, and continue to enjoy sharing and hearing with and from other Fabulous Ladies!
Thank you!
Love and Hugs,
Rebekka
This is exactly what makes this site great and stand out from the rest.
It’s a bold, brave move – and representative of the inner strength that genuine CDs all need to find in themselves.
Love
Laura
This site is a valuable asset to the femme inside. The support from here and others going or have gone what we are going through is very helpful. Though sexuality becomes a question or internal delima, that we may need help figuring out. Sex chat is not needed. In some aspects, it can hurt someone’s process of finding themselves. Just a thought.
This is one of the reasons I left for while. I do think I understand that there are those that are still coming to terms with their desire to cross dress. However I think the line between sex and sexuality often gets blurred. It is up to all of us to make sure we provide a safe and nurturing environment for all here so sometimes are reminder is in order. Thanks.
I can see how some conversations, choice of words, picture postings and such might be easily misconstrued as sex chat. People can be inventively imaginative. I would like to believe we all know what constitutes sex chat, where the black solid line is drawn but when the mere conversation concerning sex chat might elicit an erotic response is some the line does gray. Justice Potter Stewart said concerning pornography “I know it when I see it”. I wonder if anybody ever asked the honorable judge “ How is it you know your honor”. To which the wickedly smart judge would have cracked back “by the mere fact I am sitting up here and you down there.”
Good, that’s not what I was looking for when I got on here .
I must be a little bit lucky as CDH was the first site I came across. It has been the best thing for me, able to express without being judged. Listening to all the advice and experiences has been both informative and entertaining.
That I have not been approached has been wonderful.
Thank you all on CDH,
Davina
Are topics such as “Serene and Steamy’ considered to be filled with blatant innuendos ??? I hope not, because I find it very relieving that there are OTHERS that are likewise STEAMY and hot……not saying that I don’t appreciate and endorse those that are more serene…………but my world consists of a lot of energy, and a vivid imagination. I had no idea before I came here six weeks ago that I had better make plans to get to VEGAS, or New Orleans………….I was just going to write ANOTHER open forum topic, “WHAT is Beyond after Crossdressing’……..and invite my sisters WHO can suggest to PM me, as I really would like to know…………..I can relive the glitz, glamour, perfume, the sensual dressing and suggestive comportment, and there seems to be a sameness, as many times as we do that. I want to further my feminine experience beyond this, and let me feel the real nature of femininity…………do these protocols then include ANY suggestions from those even beyond me in the universe of our culture ??? When I came here, I thought I was alone, way out on the edge……and most were far away from me in their reasons for crossdressing. Then, after several weeks and plenty of discussions, I find that I’m NOT on the edge, there are those well beyond Steamy, and I want to know what they know. Isn’t that what a site like this is about, sharing of ideas, personalities, and experiences that make us more comfortable and aware of what we may ( I ) may be missing out on ???
I would agree just outright banter on sexual escapades, or invitations to hook up, or pushing one’s ideas on a sexual nature on those that don’t ask should not be tolerated. However that maybe, if one member elects to PM another to educate or suggest something asked for, whatever that would be, should NOT be considered taboo or monitored…………….Maybe I’m not getting the thinking correct on this, I admit, I wander a bit………..but gee…………I’d like to know how to push Mikki further to her destiny and don’t know how………….and my SO agrees……………might find out something really fun that hasn’t been part of our ‘adventure’ after ALL these years !!!
Regards to all
Mikki
I have no intention of chatting about sex on here.The reason I joined this site is to talk to my fellow girls about clothes just as if I was a G.G.When I joined last year I got p.m.s from someone who’s intention was to ask me for a date.This appalled me and creeped me out.I reported the person to the Admins on here.
If you or anyone you know ever receives suggestive or offensive PMs, please copy and paste into a PM to a manager or ambassador so we can address the issue ASAP. WE rely on you to tell us when these thing happen as we cannot police all the PMs without your help. Rest assured we take these very seriously and users who abuse or violate the terms of service will be dealt with immediately.
Cyn
Well hello my new friends out there my name is Cole and I started at a young age outfits watching around the house but never actually going out of the house still doing that to this day except at times I will go out women’s jeans pantyhose on the news not wearing such girly things where I would love to wear skirt pantyhose and field so did my new friends out there just meeting I could sure use some help or some advice or coaching or you could be nice cuz at times I’m I don’t give a crap what people think but then a x i care what you think but I like at times how I feel when I’m dressed in women’s clothes I feel more comfortable and at times I can look cute
Hi Nicole! You might try introducing yourself over at Introductions and New Members. Everyone will be happy to hear from you and you may find the help you’re looking for. (I know I did!)
No loss. I guess you didn’t read what the site is about. This isn’t the place for you but have fun wherever you end up.
I have no idea what goes on in these “sex chat rooms” so have no opinion! As my sexuality is more fluid due to transitioning I would like to discuss matters of a sexual nature in an open forum at some point. As this is now a taboo subject I guess I am done here. Thank you all you wonderful ladies it was a blast. As ever I am on my own again. Bye.
You might even be called out with your ‘slip out’ comment…………….something we ALL know about !!
Shame on you !!!
Mikki
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