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Hi Debbie, I am so sorry that has happened. My wife and I are struggling through my transition plan and are separating indefinitely, but not mainly from my coming out last summer. I waited until a month before our 40th anniversary, and she had no clue I was a sometimes crossdresser.
I agree with you that we are better when our feminine side can be expressed. The problem is that our SOs can’t deal with such a drastic change. If the positions were reversed, I can’t say I’d want to stay together with a spouse who grows body and facial hair, binds or removes their breasts, and gets a genital prosthetic. I’d always love them, but wouldn’t have the same physical attraction, so I get it.
Anyway, I hope you can seek out a good gender therapist to help with understanding what you want and need. I fought it myself for decades and it’s really difficult to self-diagnose and get clarity. Too many negative memories and imprints from everyone around us wanting us to be what they think we should be; at least that’s how it played out with me.
Welcome to the site, and get active here to get support and affirmation.
Hugs,
Brie
Hi Debbie nice to meet you and happy you found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here.. Girl with being a new sister and family member here you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. look around the site read some forums and posts as there is a wealth of knowledge here .. So as Debbie travels down her girly road in life there is allways someone here to hold your hand with a little guidance .. As for making friends here there are so many ladies here from all over the world to build long lasting friendships with.. Again girlfriend nice meeting you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime..
Stephanie bass
My condolences. I hope she will someday see that you did not intend to hurt her in any way, but rather you were responding to something deep inside that you could not ignore. When you dress, recognize that it is not an evil thing, but a good thing. On the one hand, you can’t force your views on each other; on the other hand, the old saying “To thine own self be true” certainly applies. I’m a bachelor, so I can’t help much there, but there are many great gurls with SOs who can help you further. Listen to them.
Big Hugs and Kisses,
FredrikaHi Debbie
My wife was my biggest fan then last year she had a change of heart! I have been living alone since then but my sense of self, while taking a battering, has remained steadfast…
For pragmatic reasons I dress as a male though I still take the HRT meds. Have good heart… if this is your happy place then the people who have difficulty with it… it’s their problem!!!
All the very best! Love Polly 💕💕💕
Hi Debbie, and welcome! It is always so sad when I hear of a marriage being broken over something like this. I certainly don’t know the details, nor do I want to speculate since I have learned there are so many mitigating circumstances when this happens there is no easy answer as to why it happened or how it could have been prevented. I am so happy to hear you are overcoming this stressful situation and hopefully adopting a positive attitude. One of the things I discovered being a senior CD’er is as you get older you become less affected by what others think, and more concerned about how you view yourself. Interestingly enough in the process I discovered my relationships improved significantly. Hugs, Paulette
Hello and welcome Debbie. This is a great site and a lot of forums to read to help you out. In my opinion your happiness and well being is the most important thing. If you are not happy with yourself, you cannot expect for other to be happy with and for you.
Enjoy the site and make lots of friends.
Chrissy
Hello Debbie,
Welcome to our amazing CrossDresserHeaven (CDH) site. So glad you have joined us here. Feel free to explore all that our site has to offer.
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