- January 6, 2023 at 10:12 pm #707393Connie WittneeParticipantRegistered On: October 6, 2022Topics: 1Replies: 15Has thanked: 224 timesBeen thanked: 66 times
Greetings ladies from a out-in-public newbie! Newer to CDH too. Well, I’ve begun 2023 with more after dark adventures. Last year, just a few times dressed to gas stations, restaurant drive thrus,convenience stores.
This month, I’ve gone out four nights and experienced two delays in-store that gratefully didn’t bring remarks, giggles,stares.
Have you – in early MTF life – been unexpectedly “stalled” at a check-out counter or order pick up? If you have, how long did that last and did you endure any uneasiness or “issues” from employees or customers?
I dress to…not draw attention. Hard to blend in given my height and shoe size (low heel pumps or flats). A smile, little talk and modest clothing and makeup (for a 60+ girl). CDH thus far is very rewarding!
My best hopes for us all in 2023! 🌹 Connie
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- January 9, 2023 at 7:54 am #707928Teri LinnealisLadyRegistered On: January 28, 2022Topics: 10Replies: 101Has thanked: 226 timesBeen thanked: 487 times
Yes there have been delays at the check-out for me as well. One was the theme of an article I posted a while back ” The Story of Me- Another Attempt At Life As TERI- Volume 1″, the second was a month ago in the Hawthorn Suites in Green Bay. I was here for the “first Thursday Cross- Dressers event. I had reservations but at check-in my Debit Card decided to be insufficient, with ten people waiting in line I had to transfer money from savings to checking via cell phone and my financial institution was doing everything in it’s power to keep me on the phone. I was totally dressed from breast to shining breast, standing in the midst of other customers patiently waiting. I stayed cool, walked around the lobby not loosing my cool, and in what seemed a lifetime everything was resolved. As usual, if anybody noticed my feminine shortcomings they didn’t seem to care.
One thing to remember: If you are leaving the house as a he or a she today’s world is full of delays, under-staffing or people who just don’t give a shit, once you leave your door expect delays, not because you look pretty….just because that’s the way it is now days. LuvNHugs TERI…………what don’ kill you will make you stronger (: ))
- January 9, 2023 at 6:02 am #707915Julianna FrancesLadyRegistered On: July 29, 2022Topics: 3Replies: 88Has thanked: 24 timesBeen thanked: 412 times
This one time a while back, while shopping at target en femme (leggings, tank top, hooded sweatshirt, wig, mask, sunglasses), i was in the self checkout line, i was having trouble with my red card…..i kept trying…. wouldn’t work….i started panicking, what if i have to SPEAK to some….yikes. I was about to just leave the stuff and walk out! Finally i did it working….and i have a new card now!
- January 8, 2023 at 6:12 am #707723Patty PhoseDuchessRegistered On: May 7, 2016Topics: 0Replies: 1899Has thanked: 1489 timesBeen thanked: 5883 times
I’ve had countless delays at cash registers from slow cashiers and delays over price checks. Being in femme mode when buying more clothes is extremely exciting but it can be scary too.
To be waiting for a price check on bras panties or dresses while other people in line are looking at you, because you are holding up the line can be pretty nerve wracking. But once you are all paid up and leave the store with no unpleasant incidents, it becomes such an incredible and amazing experience and thrill.
- January 7, 2023 at 6:50 pm #707646Cassie JaysonDuchessRegistered On: September 29, 2019Topics: 71Replies: 1158Has thanked: 2705 timesBeen thanked: 5426 times
That is one of the many things that get into our heads when we go out. It is so hard, most people don’t even notice us as any thing more than just another person out there.
My first HUGE step out there was in Sept of 2020, in my area things were just starting to open up after covid. I went out as Cassie and had my hair colored at Ulta in a nearby city. I nearly got sick before going into the store but went in and had my hair done , so glad I did —everyone was soooo nice to me!! After I had my hair done I went into the nearby mall and went into a few stores. Everyone I went into the sales persons asked if I needed help. I was so terrified that they would find out I was a CD. I soon left and went home.
Today I don’t care any more, if the find out or suspect I am CD that is their problem. Heck I even have a new part time job at Torrid as Cassie. I have come a LONG way in a short time. You too can go as far on this CD/trans as soon as you get the idea that others won’t know or care.
- January 7, 2023 at 5:06 pm #707626Fiona BlackBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: November 23, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 422Has thanked: 268 timesBeen thanked: 1775 times
At the very start of my going out en femme, the first time in a department store buying lingerie and the first time at my local supermarket both had long, slow lines. I could swear that everybody was looking at and clocking me. Luckily I am now at the point where long lines are not an issue at all, except for my feet if I’m not wearing comfy shoes.
- January 7, 2023 at 6:15 am #707444Lauren MugnaiaDuchessRegistered On: November 1, 2021Topics: 23Replies: 629Has thanked: 10202 timesBeen thanked: 3507 times
Well, I’ve been a fulltime woman for almost a year now, and so far I’ve not experienced any delays in line ups, so I will take that as a good sign that I’ve been “passing”.
The only delay I experienced this year was updating my medical card and drivers license. I handed the old ones to the girl, she stared at them for a few moments, looked back at me, and started to giggle. I told her there’d been a few changes to which she replied, “I can see that, lets get you a new picture!”
Ms. Lauren M
- January 7, 2023 at 7:06 am #707454Connie WittneeLadyRegistered On: October 6, 2022Topics: 1Replies: 15Has thanked: 224 timesBeen thanked: 66 times
Lauren,such an effective and rather witty statement to address those giggles! “There’s been a few
changes.” A few😉. I smiled again reading “Let’s get you a new picture.” 🌹
Thank you for recounting your experience.
- January 7, 2023 at 4:43 am #707432Jill EdinaLadyRegistered On: January 28, 2022Topics: 0Replies: 18Has thanked: 3 timesBeen thanked: 94 times
Yes about 3 years ago on warm summer evening I was out dressed in cute little sundress and wedges. I decided to grab a bottle of wine from the liquor store before heading back to my hotel i walked in picked out a bottle of wine and headed to the cash register as I waited in line a half dozen construction workers came in line behind me I could feel the stares it was a very submissive feeling to be dressed as a woman standing with those macho men. It was an unexpected thrill I will never forget.
- January 7, 2023 at 2:15 am #707407Angela BoothLadyRegistered On: August 1, 2020Topics: 9Replies: 1398Has thanked: 5097 timesBeen thanked: 6393 times
When you start going out this is one of the problems that has to be dealt with as you feel a target if you stand still. if you didn’t get any negative issues then all is well. It’s a path to gaining confidence and realise that if you look acceptable, even if tall, then the likelyhood is that it will be okay. Let’s face it anyone knows not to mess with older girls and especially the bigger ones.
I had a young man pay attention to me when I left a store and went to the cashpoint to draw out some cash. It was daytime and a few people were coming and going. He stood about ten feet away and while I did the transaction I could see him mirrored in the glass. It was clear he was watching me. As I finished and walked to my car he walked on the other side of the road parallel to me. As I neared my car he walked across towards me. I stopped and faced him,’Can I help you’ I asked. he stopped and said ‘Are those your T-ts?’ I was momentarily stunned and said, ‘ Well they certainly aren’t yours. Now —-off’. He duly obliged and scuttled off. Now did he see me as a trans or just fascinated by boobs? Don’t mess with 60 somethings!
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