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Whether we conciously admit it or not, we all like to be seen and admired as women. Especially by someone other than ourselves looking in the mirror. After all, we spend a lot of time and energy transforming ourselves into our personal vision of what a woman should look like. So after doing that, it’s nice to be noticed. Whether that is by a man or a woman doesn’t really matter, it’s just nice to be noticed, treated and accepted as a woman. And if we’re out in public, that’s even better!
Of course, that leads me to a question…
Do you need to be seen by others to validate your femininity, or validate you as a woman? And if you’re not seen by anyone else, does that make you less of a woman?
From my perspective, it doesn’t matter. For as long as I can remember, I knew I was different than the other boys. It just felt natural to me to want to dress as a girl, and later on as a woman. Once I became an adult, I was closeted for years, decades even, but in my mind, every time I transformed myself into Holly, I was fully a woman. I didn’t have to be seen by anyone else to provide that validation, all I had to do was know how I felt and look into the mirror to see the woman that I truly wanted to be.
Over time, I did come out of the closet and was able to venture out in public. Of course it was wonderful to be seen as a woman, treated as a woman, accepted as a woman. It gave me an emotional high every time that happened, but it didn’t change anything as far as validating my feminine side or me as a woman. I always knew who I was, so I didn’t have to be seen by others to be validated in my femininity.
But how about you? Each of us is different, so what’s your perspective?
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