Do any of you use your dressing as a form of stress relief?

Do any of you use your dressing as a form of stress relief?

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    • #436026
      Trisha Smith
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      Any day before today I would have said no. My answer now is not really. Cryptic right. Here is why

       

      Had a super crappy day Monday. One hit after another. Got home and there on the porch was a new nightie. Steel grey super soft. Like wearing a sheet from Purple. (Anyone with a purple bed knows the sheer joy those sheets bring)  I showered my day off slipped on my jockey bralette with my forms and slinked into my new nightie.

      Every thing just kinda melted away. I felt perfectly relaxed.  So used as therapy. No. Provided therapy. Yes.

       

      Trisha.

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      Holly Tygressa
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      I have a very stressful job and life in general. This is absolutely a de-stressor. I always find my happy place in drag.

      Holly👩‍💼

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      • #435397
        Cindy Rush
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        Me too. It has always been that way for me.

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      Araminta Purdy
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      The escape from the stultifying burdens of responsibility in being masculine (i.e., kill the spider in the bathtub) and the resisting of the more distasteful elements of that gender (agressiveness, ‘being a man’)is a major motive for being feminine.

      Araminta.

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      • #435396
        Cindy Rush
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        Great response

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      Sharon Wiltshire
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      I have been stressed for the last 50 years pretending to be male, and now I am out and dress as myself every day I feel so much less stressed.  I have had a constant anxiety that I have lived with for so long that I didn’t realise until the last 6 months.  Everyone else is stressed by the current environment, myself and my colleagues, friends and family are constantly checking in on each other for stress, but I have never felt better,  I no longer feel broken inside.  Everyone else looks worn down, and yes I do feel the stress, but it is not as bad when you don’t have that stress sitting on top of a base stress anxiety that you have lived with your whole life.

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      Polly Stewart
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      Wow, Cindy

      I did not expect the overwhelming ‘yes’ response to your poll. I, myself answered ‘no’ as I love the positive stress it gives me dressing en femme.

      Thanks Polly xx

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      • #435395
        Cindy Rush
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        Stress is a big motivator to escape reality and while dressed your able to do that.

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      Cindy Rush
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      I love reading all the different responses

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    • #429545
      Hilda Beaumont
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      I dress because I really enjoy looking like a woman but I have found that when I am stressed dressing definitely has a calming effect.
      HRx

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    • #429535
      Annette Jacobsen
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      I answered “no.” I like feeling feminine and wearing panties and a bra do that for me. Weather had me locked indoors for a couple of days. I wore a bra and forms all day for a couple of days. It just seemed so natural for me to be enfemme once I’m used to having those clothes on. But, I not aware of feeling any release from stress.

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    • #429510
      Ginny Virginia
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      Yes, absolutely, even though it’s mostly lingerie! I feel so much more calm dressed as Ginny. It is my go-to for feeling good, sexy, and happy. Even better with a skirt or a dress, but I only do that when traveling, alas!

      Hugs,

      Ginny

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    • #429504
      Krissy Richards
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      I crossdress because I have a woman inside me thats gradually taking over and I want it too. As im useless at being a male. When I was little I used to look at women with great envy all the beautiful clothes and shoes and all the freedom to be who I want to be is a major factor as ive always felt different

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      Sarah Du Hessisse
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      Hi Cindy yes I find it very therapeutic I can just be Sarah, and forget everything else. When Sarah emerges from the closet a song comes to mind for many reason’s.  Nothing Else Matters by the brilliant Metallica.

      Best Wishes

      Sarah xx

       

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      Absolutely. Know how hard it is getting yelled at over people’s money? It’s rough. I let me other side deal with it, and when I’m Annaleigh, I’m a care free woman.

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      Bridgette VonSmirff
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      After a bit of thought on this question, yes I do. I look forward to dressing. I can’t very often, so I like to plan when I can, like working from home last week. I had planned to do so the week before, and it didn’t work out, so I felt added stress. I had planned a nice evening outing with my wife for next month when my son was going to be camping with friends, but now he can’t go…covid. so now I don’t know when I’ll be able to have an evening out with my wife. That stresses me. I know I won’t be able to over the holidays, unless  for a few minutes at a time in my room, that stresses me. And when I do dress, I feel all that stress melt away, and I feel good.

      I like being in guy mode too, don’t get me wrong. And I don’t always underdress either. In guy mode I’m the guy I always was. But I need to dress some of the time. I think if I had the option to dress all the time, I still would not. Just when I want to, which would be a lot more often than I can right now.

      Bridgette v

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    • #419546
      Sonia Pink
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      Like many have said , I never thought I dressed to de stress , but it does !! What can I say, when Sonia  gets her kit on ! I feel so much better and relaxed , however when I know I have to return to him ! I can feel the tension start ! So definitely yes and no .  Sonia xxx

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    • #419468
      Bobbi Sue
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      What a great question. Initially i was tempted to say no, but the real answer is probably yes. After all, if it didn’t make me feel better I wouldn’t do it. On the other hand, there’s no deep emotional trauma I’m addressing. When I’m me, I simply feel whole.

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    • #419463
      RachelAnn
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      Thank you for the topic. Like many others I would say yes and no.  Stress relief is definitely one my main reasons.  I do notice that the more stressed I am the thicker my pink fog tends to be.  That being said, dressing is definitely relaxing especially the process of bathing, shaving, filing down the foot callouses, etc.  if I’m going to dress, it usually is a long relaxing process for me and try to savor it. On occasions, it can take all day just to get to the finale of putting on my outfit, lol.  The other part of it for me is to experience the wonderment of the feminine process.  Realistically it’s unlikely that your average GG goes to the lengths I do, at least all at once or on a regular basis.  Probably only more so like if they are preparing for their wedding day or really special occasion perhaps. I guess that’s just my personality, sort of if I’m going to do it, I’m going to do it all the way and experience as much as possible.

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    • #419118
      Erin Talor
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      Im still pretty new to dressing but in the short time that I have I will admit it does make me forget about all my troubles in life for a few hours. So I guess ya it does 🙂

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      Rei Durden
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      For sure!
      All day at work when the pressure is on and it’s all I can do to grab a quick bathroom break and a sip of water, the thought of what I’m going to wear when I get home (after washing off the stink and sweat and ‘male’) is the only thing keeping me from pulling out my hair and running screaming into the street!

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    • #418995
      Helene Bock
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      When I stopped dressing in my late teens I never thought a moment that I might dress again… but just having lost my work in my mid thirties and at the time little chance to find a new job…”it” suddenly came over me after a “fancy dress” party where the husbands were dressed in their wifes clothes and the wifes in their husbands…that was the beginning again and dressing at that time “de-stressed” me completely as well as I enjoyed it very much! (and also gave me some “sexual” satisfaction)…now, many, many years later and being a “mature” woman, I continue dressing – now both for pleasure and de-stressing, so yes, I dress to destress as it gives me a wonderful feeling being “Helene”; going out and being accepted as a female!

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    • #413822
      Cindy Rush
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      hello

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      Regine Rich
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      I answered yes, but that is not quite right
      I dont think of it as reducing my stress, it just does it. As soon as I change into Regine, I am a nicer person, I feel calmer, prettier, and more in tune with myself. But, I dont ever think,”im stressed, I need to change”
      Regine

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      Stevie Steiner
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      That was easy to answer;  until I started thinking about it.  Though I like being dressed and am happy when I am, my main reason for dressing is because I’m not a nudist!!   I think being dressed doesnt help so much with stress as it does make me look a little bit cuter while stressed… 😅.  So I guess it helps a bit.

      Scented bubble bath, glass of wine, and classical music.  Now That helps stress!

      Stevie

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      • #429517
        Laura Lovett
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        Interesting answer, Stevie!

        I am a naturist – fully signed up to British Naturism, mainly because in the summer, when it gets really hot, I fail to see the point of clothing altogether – my brain cannot compute the logic of wearing clothing when it’s too hot to do so.

        I didn’t have to come out to my wife on this one – I took her to my favourite naturist beach after we’d been seeing each other a short time, and let her choose with absolutely no pressure.

        I had to hold her hand, walking from the dunes to the sea, but it only took her a short time to decide – and we’ve returned on numerous occasions at her request – it’s like being in heaven, sharing such a beautiful place with the s/o, fully as nature intended – maybe except for the sun cream…

        It’s another great way to relax – there is something deeply life affirming about being completely free of clothes, just lying in the sun, swimming in the sea – or simply walking around.

        It’s not better than being fully femme, but it’s on a par, in my experience!

        The only problem is the meerkats…

        😎

        Love Laura

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    • #406337
      Emily Alt
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      This is a good, thought provoking question.

      One might say their stress is environmental – job, family life, etc. On the other hand, stress might be the result of gender dysphoria. The need to present as one’s true gender exists regardless of environmental stresses, or lack thereof. Either source of stress can trigger a desire to dress. But psychologically they are much different.

      15 years ago I would have said I dress to relieve the stresses in my life. Escapism. Now I do it to align my appearance with how I feel. Presenting as a woman brings me closer to feeling “whole”.

      Emily

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    • #406212
      Jill Sweet
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      I can get lost inside jill, wander around in bliss and feel dreamy, sexy and fully feminine. it is a entrance to inner girl.

      jill

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    • #406209
      Cindy Rush
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      I need to get dressed some days. I might lose my mind without it!!

       

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    • #402899
      Kathleen
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      Yes yes yes. As stress goes up so does my desire to crossdress. Temporarily escape the grind and become my peacefull  and joyous self

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      Oh my, yes. A sort of escapism. Honestly, sometimes I want so badly to share this side of me with someone but sometimes I find comfort in having a little secret all to myself. 😊

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    • #396878
      DeLora
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      My automatic response was yes and that is true, I do use CDing as a form of self therapy. However, I think that is the wrong way to look at it.

      If I were in a sealed room, running out of oxygen, would taking a quick breath from an O2 tank be a form of therapy? Sure, it would make me feel better for a while, but that is because I need O2 to live. Just as I need O2, I need to express my feminine side. The reason I started to come out was that my mental health was spiraling in a dangerous way, my head was in some dark places. I have been out to my family for about a year. My mental health has been way better and my relationships with my family have been better.

       

      D.

       

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      Jocelyn Prescott
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      I definitely do. I work a high stress, fast paced job. It requires a lot of my time and energy both mental and social energy. At the end of the day I’m weighed down with decision fatigue and everything else.

      I don’t dress fully at home due to SO, but I have developed a nightly routine. I kiss the wife, shower, and spend some time applying lotion before slipping into my panties for the night. The whole thing takes away the days stress.

      When I do have time to fully dress Jocelyn has no stress. She’s carefree and enjoying sitting at home with a glass of wine and cuddling up with a good book or just chatting online with other girls.

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      Roberta Denny
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      I,voted no because I am able to dress as Roberta almost everyday.Twenty years ago I would have said yes.Back then I was working in my old office.It wasn’t a high powered job I was a clerk at the lowest grade.But as I took a lot of pride in my work I would take any brickbats thrown at my team personally.This led me to book the next day off.Going instore to buy some new clothes and pantyhose/ tights and going home to try them on served as great therapy.

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      Cindy Rush
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      Great Anwsers

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      stephanie plumb
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      Yes … and no.   I mostly don’t dress for stress relief per se, but to release the real me whenever I can. And this does have the benefit of bringing stress relief. Like other girls here the “feel good” feeling is quite overwhelming when I am able to be myself.  Sometimes the pressure builds so much that I feel I will explode if I don’t experience the true me,  so I guess this is true stress relief.

      There is a flip side though (isn’t there always?), and many of us experience it.  It is when we can’t be ourselves and this in itself causes much of the stress we feel and need to release.

      Stephanie P

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      Paula F
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      OMG yes!  The difference in my personality and demeanor and attitude is like night and day from when I get home from work as compared to 30 minutes later after I have changed into the proper wardrobe and put grumpy in the closet one more time.

      PaulaF

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      karley delaware
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      All the time!!   My work environment is with “neanderthal ” guys with woman who do not think I am too much of a man because of my short stature and build, my interest are not considered manly, my demeanor is not aggressive. I am trapped in a blue collar job for pay and benefits.  As karley, I am that short sweet girl, the guys fuss over and be  protective of………….eager to tell  and teach me things…………….the girls see me as a little sister they want to be protective of …………and also want to tell and teach me things…………….

      Dressing helps keep me balanced emotionally and psychologically by exploring past hurts and misunderstandings as the girl I think I should have been.  I think my mom wanted me to be a girl but could not communicate that because of the other boys and her mental condition.  So when dressed, I will explore  and relive  as a girl……………..karley

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      Diane Crow
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      That is a wonderful question. When I started crossdressing with any seriousness a year ago I felt a level of self love that I had never experienced before. In fact I received the love from myself that I had never received from anyone else. The loving caress of my soft hairless skin. The luxury of shaving my legs and the amazing feeling of actually feeling my skin against fabrics. The act of looking in the mirror and loving how I look. Feeling beautiful and complimented. I had never, sadly, experienced a love anywhere close to that from my parent’s, wives or anyone in my life. The simple act of experiencing the love of self was so foreign to me, any simple act of self love was a revaluation to me. Being able to embrace the feminine portions of my being have had an enormous impact on my self esteem and my creativity. Releasing the self doubt and genuinely, openly, embracing me in all its complexity is the most liberating form of therapy I can imagine. So I guess the question “Do I use dressing as therapy?” for me not just therapy or the act of therapy, but an actual reveling of the inside expression’s of the love I feel for myself, inside, becoming tangibly visible on the outside.

      Hugs

      Diane

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      Amber Scott
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      I work in a high stress job. When I get home Amber comes out. Stress levels plummet immediately.

      Love and Peace,

      Amber

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      Penny Jay
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      Like others have said, I don’t consciously dress to reduce my stress but I do feel a lot calmer while dressed and afterwards. My wife has also commented on this, occasionally saying “go and put a skirt on or something, you are so worked up right now”.

      Is it the process of concentrating on ones self, a little bit of pampering and feeling better about ones self afterwards? Putting number one first for a little while? A nice distraction from whatever situation large or small?

      Anyways, I just love it, and all you lovely ladies here on CDH 💘

      PennyJ

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      i certainly do dress to ease stress, anxiety and when dressed it is so soothing and relaxing and so calming.

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      Caty Ryan
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      Caty has been a part of my life for 40 something years. In those early years she was “stress relief” from a broken marriage and this contiuued until the turn of this century.

      A new and loving relationship came along about then and Caty had a few years sabbatical. But post that she came back with a vengance and now when she can be herself, fully made up, dressed and “out in the world”, its feeling of inner peace thats almost impossible to describe

      Escept to say. “Hi Caty, how are you today?”. Response. “Just fine thanks” I am “me”.

       

      Caty

       

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      Tabitha Tee
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      I could have answered this either way. On one hand, being Tabitha gives me a outlet for feelings I must otherwise bottle up, on the other as a closeted girl I always keep an ear tunes to the driveway lest someone come home early.

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      yes I use also as therapy. more mood relax and testosteron discipline control and   decrease.

      also  There are other reasons to be a woman.

       

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      Cindy Rush
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      Keep all these interesting views coming LOL XOXO

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      Laura Jane Moore
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      It soothes my soul and as I get older I have become much more patient with my makeup … as others have already said… the whole dressing experience makes me whole.

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      Joanne Jackson
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      Yes, it is a nice form of stress relief as it makes me happy.  Makes me whole.  On the other hand dressing is also stressful in and of itself.  ‘what will the kids say?  What will the neighbors think? Lions, and tigers, and bears, oh my!”

      I will say that, for me at least, it is becoming less stressful as the wife becomes more accepting (yay!).

      So more relief than stress these days.

       

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      It’s a Yes, and No answer for me… I don’t ‘purposely’ look forward to dressing for the thetherapeutic value… however when I’m in my panties, bra, forms, baby blue (or pink) nighty and am putting a bit of make up on, I find it very relaxing and makes me feel happy on the inside… I enjoy that imensely…

      Gen… 💋

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      Patty Phose
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      I absolutely love being Patty. I dress everyday. When I’m all dressed and made up, I feel so good. I love how I look and feel. It seems to put off stress and worries I may be having. If I go out, now I’m totally distracted from those stress and worries and totally focused on my going out, with all the fear, excitement, thrills and rush that comes with it. Being Patty is like an escape. I become someone else.

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      Scarlett398
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      Yes, my crossdressing is definitely a form of stress relied. However it’s much much more than a stress reliever to me! It’s absolutely essential to my happiness and mental well-being and that’s why my wife is so supportive of my thrill of crossdressing!

      XOXOXO Scarlett

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      Abby M
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      I have been working on my physical and mental health due to the time I have related to the pandemic. I had always wondered about this and finally acted out on my impulses. I honestly felt that how I have been conditioned by society that when I do something, I’d just be like I’m glad I tried it but it isn’t for me; I honestly kept thinking that I might feel a little bit sick about it or something. To my surprise, every time I try on something new I feel good about myself. I feel confident and sexy. I feel like it is doing wonders for me, I just feel like if I revealed what I am doing to others in my life that they wouldn’t be so understanding. So while I feel that what I am doing is therapeutic, I’m doing it privately.

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      Heather Jameson
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      Definitely, I find it very relaxing to dress as it lets me express the real me. No ugly clothes, some pretty stuff and Heather just shines on through. I used to commute 45 minutes to work and used to love wearing a nice pair of heeled boots in the fall and winter, if I had a bad day put my boots on for the drive home and felt much better by the time I got home.

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      Alyssa Blair Harris
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      Interesting question and one I’ve been thinking on recently. I am currently quite rundown and stressed and haven’t dressed in some time. In the past, a good dressing routine has helped me alleviate that. I answered “yes” but as another poster as Mary Ann says, I think its more a case of feeling whole. Not dressing, feeling slightly scared almost of re-engaging with the femme side, is part of the reason I’m not relaxed. So, it would be a therapy to dress, but not because it is therapy, but because I am lacking it in my life at the moment.

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      Deborah Sullivan
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      I prefer enjoying both worlds equally. I love the transformation which allows me to be myself

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      Mary Ann Summers
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      I agree with Suzette…I do not necessarily use it as stress relief, It is more like I’m incomplete and scattered when I’m not Mary Ann. She makes me whole and then the world makes sense when I am completely her. I just feel more in my element so therefore the stress of my living my life as my male self seems to melt away.

      I hope that somehow make a little bit of sense.

      Hugs, Mary Ann

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      Anonymous
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      I chose yes. When I put on makeup, a wig and clothes I feel like my true self. There is a feeling of being congruent and complete.

      Besides dressing being therapy, my therapy resulted in dressing. The more I worked on myself, the result was Kay stepping out from the shadows. Kind of a two way street.

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      Debbie Werner
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      JOJO
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      Absolutely, it has been that way for years. Besides relieving stress it allows me to be my true self and that is a form of therapy.

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      Kelli Marlowe
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      Absolutely! Something to look forward to at the end of a long day of work/errands

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      Laura Lovett
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      Yes, that’s a big part of my reasons for dressing.

      The feeling of the last finishes to the look is so de-stressing that I feel joyful to step outside and get on with living, freed from my day to day worries – it’s like a holiday from myself, except that I am being myself, only in a more authentic, happy and relaxed way.

      Small things become sources of wonder and enjoyment, nothing seems to be a problem with no solution – I dream up solutions to all kinds of things that seem minor road blocks in my male life, most of which seem to work.

      One issue I do face from this is that prolonged periods in drab make me question whether I’m imagining this phenomena… My male side can get so negative without a regular dose of Laura!

      Love Laura

       

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      Anonymous
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      I guess getting to see me complete externally provides some therapy , I’m feminine inside so adding the makeover gives me as close to full female as I can get.

      It’s certainly relaxing & soul filling 🌹🌹😊😊

       

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      Grace Scarlett
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      Hello Cindy

      I do agree with Suzette, I am definitely 100% more relaxed when dressed, but there again, when I’m out and about En femme, there are elements of stress in that too…so it’s a bit of a mix really. ( fighting for the last bargain on the sale rail with two other girls can be a smidge stressful… especially if you don’t get it..haha)  ❤️ grace xx

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      Suzette York
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      Cindy,

      Not sure that i would say that i use it as a form of stress relief and there are times when even dressing is very stressful.  However, as you say since i feel more at ease and natural dressed en femme i do find that i am much more relaxed and feel more myself when dressed and even for a bit afterwards having had some time to be my authentic self.

      hugs,

      suzette

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