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    Tiffany Wells
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    hey I been wondering if i would be considered gay, here’s why I ask I’m not attracted to men unless they look like women lol but when I dress I have this desire to be “loved like a woman” so to say 🤪 but honestly Im turned on by the act itself not by the male aspect of it. Idk that’s weird I guess anybody have any insight that can help?

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     Riley Summers 
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    Hi Tiffany. Sexuality and cross dressing is a hot topic. I for one am not big on labeling or “coming out”. My thoughts are that your feelings, actions are yours alone. So many wonderful people are racked with quilt or feelings of anxiety because of who they are, and what they do or who they share their time with.

    I am bisexual. I was before I started dressing up….I did dabble at the request of a few partners before taking it one more seriously. And I have to say those times are what really opened my eyes to what a wonderful experience it is. I love being able to live and play in both roles. But for myself and I am only speaking for me…it has allowed me to be truly honest with my desires and the person I have become

    Men and women provide very different things in a relationship. I still date both genders, but finding a women that is comfortable with my lifestyle is challenging. I have found my preference, now, is to spend my time with other males, both in drab and as Riley.

    Be who you want to be…and embrace yourself.

    Riley

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     Tiffany Alexis 
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    Although I’m still sorting stuff out this is exactly how I feel. Your subsequent posts as well.  Maybe it’s a name thing lol 😉

    Tiffany

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       Tiffany Wells 
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      I’m not upset or worried if it does I mean it obviously intrigued me and it wouldn’t change the way I feel if I was gay or bisexual. I’m just curious if it’s considered being bisexual, or gay.  I doubt it is considered gay more than likely it’s bisexual cause although I’m not attracted to men I am attracted to T girls and cross dressers. Whatever it is WE will embrace it and have no shame from it right Tiffany?! I’m here if u ever wanna chat

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         Tiffany Alexis 
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        Tiff I’m with you on this one all the way…stopped caring about labels when I reconciled with myself who I am. And who I am is attracted to the female form. I am unashamed and this would be the same if my attraction were different. I don’t get any thrill out of male traits, but I am attracted to some mtf s and cds just as much as ggs. That’s just me I guess.

        Tiffany

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           Tiffany Wells 
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          Hey when somebody is sexy, there sexy regardless of their gender get em girl

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     Mikki Monroe 
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    For me, reality and fantasy are two different things………..I am NOT into men in either places and I have never enjoyed any kind of porn, including shemale, CD’r porn….get nothing from it……….however, in my fantasy I could be very much attracted to a finely tuned CD’r who would find ME enticingly beautiful, and I fantasize the unfolding and culmination of that event…………..if that’s something that makes me bi or latent something else………….pity the thought !!!  I just have NO plans to enable that encounter………and SO knows how to bring every aspect to our life that allows me to experience the pleasures of the woman….and that really is what drives me…………

    Mikki

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     Marianne 
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    Crossdressing as such won’t make you change your sexual orientation. However I do believe from my own experience, that breaking one social taboo makes it easier to  break others. In that way crossdressing could very well let latent gay or bi tendencies surface ones mind.

    Marianne

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       Tiffany Wells 
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      Well let’s just say I’m known for breaking the taboos of today’s world! 🙂. Bring it on world

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     Danielle Darby 
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    I am very new to all this, I feel very straight. When I do dress I feel very feminine and even more attracted to women. I love my wife to dress in lingerie and she loves to dress me in lingerie. It can be very confusing but we both love it!

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       Tiffany Wells 
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      I agree I become more attracted to women as well. My SO doesn’t partake in my dressing up so treat urs good if she is understanding and supportive it a lot more fun and way less stressful! Hope u have a fabulous week!

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     Dame Veronica Graunwolf 
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    Hi Tiffany!  Sweetie….try not to get caught up in “Naming” what you are….it makes things confusing and causes all kinds of mis-understandings.

    Here is my view point on the issue.

    Cross dresser……..a male or female who wears another genders clothing styles and imitates their genetic opposite. Period.

    Gay….male to male only.

    Lesbian….Girl to girl only

    Trans Sexual…….Male or female who undertakes surgical methods to make them into opposite sex whether or not they are just starting to change or are fully changed.  NOTE TO ALL.  When you die and if you are deemed an AUTOPSY Candidate…..results will indicate in your DNA what you were born as….period. Not what you physically look like on the table.

    Bi-Sexual……these folk have no preferance for opposite or same sex. Either male or female partners are acceptable. Sexual or mental  attraction is neutral. Bi sexual could be included in Gay/Lesbian clas but is made a separent entity because of the ridgid parameters of Gay/Lesbian Definition.

    Hermaphrodite…..Individual born with both sets of sex organs. Their sexual preference is just that. Sadly these folks generally have their parents decide what they will be and surgically repaired at birth. Their psyche on the other hand can be the opposite as they grow up….leading to all sorts of mental hang ups.

    Serial Killer/Rapist/Child Molester……..I include these as they are linked to all above. HOLD ON NOW……this does NOT mean that the above also carry these traits. I have included them as sometimes they genetically share a genetic anomily which is very new on the scene of genetics and psychology. Basically it has been found that a large percentage of “criminals” have an extra x or y chromosome in their make up…. xx female, xy male. Newly found……..xxx super woman….xyy super man. Not superheros but man/women with enhanced male/female  behaviorisms.  Enough on this item as it is very new and experimentation/Study is in its’ infancy but trends are there. It is a very complicated field of study and nothing is understood yet as there are many viariables appearing to have an influence on the genetic abberation.

    I just recommend that when we look at the above classes and look at ourselves……treat it as……sexual thoughts separate from physical thoughts and mental thoughts. The public is not interested in studying or investigating our community…..all they know is what they picked up from parents/Media/   Relgion and street-talk. Hope this helps ease your mind but I know….you will find this interesting and persue the knowledge even further. LOL

    Any q’s……….my door is always open…..just drop by…tea is always in the pot.  Till then……….

    Hugs……

    Dame Veronica

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     Erica 
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    I just finished a great book where the writer talks about this topic. I found so much of it to be great insight. Just remember we are all different. Alice in Genderland. By Dr. Richard Novic it is a memoir about his crossdressing.

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       Dame Veronica Graunwolf 
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      I have read the Great Doctor. It is a great gift to be able to understand yourself. I still have not done so.

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     Tanya Dale 
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    It is confusing for me. I’m not attracted to men whem I’m not dressed and when I see a man when I am dressed (I don’t go out en femme) I’m not thinking he looks good. Whereas when I see a woman in a magazine or on the television when I’m dressed I do think “she looks lovely” not just because I like her clothes. Is it that I can  compartmentalise things? What do you think?

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       Laura Lovett 
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      Tanya, that sounds just like me!

      I don’t find it confusing any more, but I used to.

      It’s just that we’re all on a sliding scale.

      Gender isn’t binary – there are effeminate men and butch females, as well as Alpha males and girly girls.

      We’re all somewhere in our own niche.

      Sexuality is different.

      A man can be attracted to men and not want to wear women’s clothing.

      A man can want to wear women’s clothing and admire the way women dress, and not feel attracted to men.

      We are who we are, not some label that society chooses to give us!

      Love Laura

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     Tanya Dale 
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    Hi Tiffany, I had a new experience today. I was underdressed at work earlier this morning, I was wearing a bra and knickers under my drab. I met a female work colleague who I hadn’t seen for a while and we hugged. I’ve never hugged a woman when I’ve been wearing underwear and I was feeling feminine. I liked the hug but I felt different than if I’d hugged her when I was only in drab. This made me think about lesbian feelings. I don’t know but I know I liked the different feeling. I’m not explaining this well but I don’t have feelings for men when I’m dressed, maybe I do have feelings for women. Weird? Tanya.

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       Erica 
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      I am trying to figure out a lot of things. 1 is I would live to be treated like a woman by a big guy. The other thing i am working on is not feeling the need to define it. I love women. I am turned on by being a woman and if I over think it my brain starts to hurt.

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       Tiffany Wells 
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      It is hard to explain! I don’t drive down the street or go to the store and see a man and think o what a hunk of sexiness truth is I hardly notice men at all. And when I dress up the feelings don’t change I Have on the other hand been attracted to a few very passable CDs and lady boys which in turn made me have sexual curiosity and desires for them but idk I guess I’m confused on what that’s called or identified as.

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