- Income inequality
- Workplace harassment
- Domestic violence
- Balancing housework
- How men treat women
- Legal protections for women
- Body autonomy
- Medical care
- Women in leadership
- March 4, 2021 at 8:05 pm #457749Jennifer SwansonParticipantRegistered On: April 20, 2019Topics: 49Replies: 173Has thanked: 4099 timesBeen thanked: 1203 times
Does crossdressing make you more aware of the issues women face? Consider each topic and check the ones where crossdressing has helped you understand the issues women face. Comment on any topics.
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- March 19, 2021 at 3:35 pm #466153StephanieDuchess - AnnualRegistered On: May 17, 2020Topics: 5Replies: 24Has thanked: 104 timesBeen thanked: 143 times
I have been aware of the disparities between me and women issues. I grew up in the 60/70s so these were always on the forefront. However, I did become much more aware of the issues surrounding the trans, cd and all the other labels applied to this cultural and social struggle. It was through my cd and Christian values that caused me to step back from what I thought I knew and see it from a different perspective, it was so eye opening how my own understanding was wrong and flawed in so many ways
- March 13, 2021 at 10:46 am #463245Catherine LasharDuchessRegistered On: September 1, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 13Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 78 times
Oh my.What an interesting topic.
First let Me say that there should have been one other listing;None at all.
Before the denigration starts allow me to explain.
As a child dis-respect towards women was simple not tolerated.
You did not strike a woman.
You opened the door for a woman.
Any violation was met with quick correction.
Painfully,usually,followed by an apology.
My father was a OTR truck driver and was gone for weeks at a time.
If you violated this rule while He was gone you could be assured that there would be an accounting when He returned.
Even today I still hold fast to this rule of Life.
I have worked with women,for women and as a supervisor over women and held to this way.
I have no problem with taking orders from a female boss,and never will.
This does not mean that such things do not occur,just that I have never been a party to them nor seen it happen.
I am afraid that if I had there would be an unwelcome response on my part on the offending party.
I had no children of my own but help raise my ex wife’s kids.
That was a responsibility I took seriously.
I cleaned house and still do.
Any man that does not think that a stay at home Mom does not pull Her fair share should trade places with Her for a week.
I believe that attitude would change quickly.
It is my belief that everyone’s body is their own and no other has the right to tell them what to do with it.
There is,however,one exception.
It seems to be the opinion of most people today,that the man had no part in creating the child a woman carry’s.
This is simply neither a biological nor scientific fact,except in the case of artificial insemination from a donor,such as a lab or volunteer.
It is,except for these two reason or in the case of rape or incest that I believe the father should be consulted before such a decision is made.For all life is important.
As for the rest,I have in-sufficient information to comment on these matters.
And such is my opinion,For what it is worth.
May the day find you well
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- March 9, 2021 at 3:25 pm #460027Laura Jane MooreLadyRegistered On: July 10, 2020Topics: 3Replies: 130Has thanked: 814 timesBeen thanked: 533 times
Since I started dressing again back in July of this year after a long hiatus I have become more in touch with women’s issues. I can put myself in the place of women being disrespected, taken advantage of and not being paid equally to men, for instance. Generally women’s issues interest me and I pay more attention to them in the news and I find myself watching more female oriented movies and television shows. It mirrors my recent acceptance of my feminine self. I didn’t always feel that way.
- March 8, 2021 at 1:55 pm #459535RosiebethLadyRegistered On: October 3, 2019Topics: 7Replies: 114Has thanked: 349 timesBeen thanked: 611 times
Ugh. I hate hearing stories about how men treat women. It’s just awful. I can’t imagine ever treating a woman in such a matter or another person. I can’t believe how so many men can mistreat a woman on so many levels. I’ve gone out of my way to help so many woman and give them support. Help guide them to make better decisions and find themselves afterwards. I’ve become aware these days because the more I CD I start to think about men and what it would be like to be with one but I see so much abuse it scares me from wanting to try it. I just don’t want to be hurt and I feel I connect with all the woman out there on not wanting to try because it’s so risky. It’s a very unique perspective being a man but at the same time wanting to be a woman. It’s like two worlds colliding. I was always a loving romantic with my wife but she has passed. Now I’m wanting to be the woman in a mans arm and I know what I’m looking for but I’m realizing how deceit they can be from my conversations with girlfriends. It makes me sad.
- March 7, 2021 at 4:56 pm #459111ChloeCDuchessRegistered On: November 5, 2019Topics: 10Replies: 299Has thanked: 681 timesBeen thanked: 1254 times
I put down ‘Other’ as I fully understood the question. My father died when I was 4 and my mother became outwardly the strong woman she probably was all along. She continued raising me and my two siblings until she remarried, by working and having sitters/housekeepers for us. By the end of the 50’s, the still infant concept of the nuclear family (as in Dick, Jane and Sally, Mom, Dad,) was way behind ours as I had full siblings, half siblings, and step siblings.
I saw first hand a woman take on full responsibility of raising toddlers to adolescents, working at a full time job, maintaining a house!! that she would not sell and move in with her parents. And all this time and into adulthood I mostly wore my emotions on my sleeve. I could never understand how a significant number of boys would act so meanly to some of the girls in our community (much less to other boys who were perceived to be borderline cases of maleness). I mean almost disgustingly mean in a lot of cases.
So, I grew up fully aware of the iniquities between the sexes, fully knowing that a lot more women could do the same or very similar jobs to what men were doing, and probably in some cases better. Yet they were continually treated like servants. I remember during that time, reading about the radical hippie groups in the 60’s and early 70’s – free love, down with the establishment – and the males would turn to the females in the group and say – hey go to the kitchen and make some meals, we’re hungry. I mean, REALLY???
That was when I realized that the problem wasn’t just confined to uptight, straight males in suits. It was everywhere. So, I married and had kids of both sexes, and the general expectations I had for each of them were exactly the same – let’s try to see what interests you, what you really feel good about doing, and what can I do to help you get better at it and help you achieve your goals, all the time showing love and support and respect and showing my responsibility trying to instill that in all of them.
I worked at one facility where there were a mix of young men and women on our ‘team’. I tried hard to treat everyone there regardless of sex or nationality or whatever, with respect, and keeping that respect until a person did something that would destroy it and then I would just walk away. And I would always take responsibility for my own actions, live with them, apologize if it negatively affected any others. My wife gave birth to one of our children and one of the women on the team gave me to give to my wife for our infant, a sweater she had knitted (she had asked if I knew the sex early on and I didn’t know why she asked until…) I almost cried.
Another job I was a contract programmer and I was assigned to work with a small team of three women including a manager to develop a group wide program that would tie a bunch of stand alone programs together. We all worked together, me writing the program and giving them parts to test and getting feedback and suggestions for additional options which I gladly provided. The department gave me a luncheon and a cash gift the day before I left to another job. I almost cried.
It should never matter who you work for or with or above or below, or come in contact with, all that should matter is that you show your respect for that other human and keep doing it. If that person starts seriously doing things for you to lose that respect, you either help that person overcome it…or walk away. And you certainly take all responsibility for any action you do, accept the rewards when you are acknowledged for doing it right, take the criticism, make the apology, and accept possible punishment when you err.
I suppose there’s some big things we can do to help reduce the issues we know are still there, but if we all do the little things and keep at it, we can make this world more accepting of all people.
- March 8, 2021 at 7:55 am #459398Jennifer SwansonDuchessRegistered On: April 20, 2019Topics: 49Replies: 173Has thanked: 4099 timesBeen thanked: 1203 times
Dear ChloeC, what a breathtaking response. You talked about everything I believe. I was the general manager of a small company with six other women working for me. I treated us all equally and we made decisions as a group. All six stayed with me for 10 years and it was a sad day when I left tearfully. Warmest hugs, Jennifer
- March 7, 2021 at 3:20 pm #459088Yael LyonsDuchessRegistered On: October 9, 2018Topics: 0Replies: 19Has thanked: 247 timesBeen thanked: 63 times
Having raised 4 girls and living with my wife I am acutely aware of female/women’s issues. Just hearing about my daughters being harased at work. If a manager came on to them and my daughter’s refused the manager’s advances then they would get the worst shifts. As a consultant I get to see how different companies treat their employees. I remember hearing this mid-30s good looking woman complain about the wolf whistles when she walked from her car to the office. She went to HR and they told her she should wear less revealing clothing. I could not believe that reply. And from HR no less. I could go on and on about what I hear and it is very disturbing.
- March 6, 2021 at 6:26 am #458341Paula FDuchessRegistered On: August 7, 2019Topics: 13Replies: 1029Has thanked: 13067 timesBeen thanked: 4059 times
I believe that being the only boy in the apartments and house we lived in growing up made me aware of some of the issues facing both adult and younger women. From just simple things like accidently ‘leaving the seat up’ or seeing grown men verbal attacks to get away with so much stuff over time. One set of apartments we lived in was funded by HUD and most of the tenants were single mothers. To see and hear how some of them were treated by ex-husbands and boyfriends was frightening to say the least. But it was also all sort of distant to myself and my sister. Our dad’s were never a part of our lives, but some of the guys mom dated were typical alpha types.
Once I was out on my own after high school, if I was out I was usually dressed, and I did get a lot of whistles and call outs, which wasn’t too bad until your heard some of the suggestions the guys would toss out there, to a total stranger no less. Nothing got physical with them until they saw you were a CD, then it got scary (late 70’s to mid 80’s). In the 14 years I lived away from home on my own, I experienced 4 physical attacks, all after the men involved found out I was not a genetic female. What would they have done if I had been a woman and unable to fight back as hard as I did? I still ended up on the short end of it, but it did make me see why women can be afraid to out by themselves.
The places I have worked at are just as guilty, with their pay scale. A couple of jobs I got starting pay equal to what some of the women who had been there for several years was getting. Almost every job I have had has been predominantly staffed by women, but the promotion system is stacked, leave and vacation is the same way, having a choice in which shift you would like to work doesn’t count either, unless your supervisor is a woman too, and then it is little better. And how is it that men can ‘milk the clock’ for overtime, but if a woman does it, she gets called in to the office.
Until people finally get it into their heads that other than some physical demands are best left to the guys, we should ALL have the same considerations in society as to how much we are paid or how many hours we are allowed to work. It may be getting better, but I won'[t believe it until I see it for a fact.
- March 5, 2021 at 1:14 pm #458037Lucinda HawknsLadyRegistered On: September 1, 2015Topics: 6Replies: 1296Has thanked: 79 timesBeen thanked: 1460 times
- March 5, 2021 at 3:44 am #457863Sally DrinkwaterDuchessRegistered On: July 15, 2019Topics: 17Replies: 277Has thanked: 64 timesBeen thanked: 1033 times
My early times as a CD made me aware of how vunerable it felt to be walking about after dark as a woman, every time a man approached or followed me was terrifying. Imagine having to worry 7 days a week?
I then discovered daylight and have never looked back since. 🙂
- March 5, 2021 at 1:26 am #457831Diana MorganLadyRegistered On: February 22, 2021Topics: 7Replies: 573Has thanked: 4198 timesBeen thanked: 1763 times
My crossdressing hasn’t changed my perspective on women’s issues really, perhaps I am a bit more sympathetic towards said issues as a result of having my feminine side push my male side into the closet from time to time. But when I looked at the list I felt that I had become familiar with all of them through seeing and hearing about them in the media and not specifically via crossdressing so I will have to pass on the vote I’m afraid.
- March 5, 2021 at 1:06 am #457826Laura LovettLadyRegistered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 13Replies: 1090Has thanked: 3584 timesBeen thanked: 5273 times
Being married has totally heightened my awareness of pretty much all the issues listed.
Especially being married to a lawyer.
CDing has given me first hand insights into a few of the issues, but certainly, I’ve always thought that men have been behind a lot of them, and now I have experienced a few examples, I know it.
Makes me feel proud to be a CD, and not a macho man.
- March 5, 2021 at 12:15 am #457812Polly StewartLadyRegistered On: January 2, 2021Topics: 9Replies: 876Has thanked: 1231 timesBeen thanked: 2903 times
Being Polly has had no effect on how I see and value women. I have felt that for so long as a man that it’s not funny!
All my life I have regarded women as my equals! Some better, some worse…
Intellectually the same, better at some sport worse at others… best at children things but sometimes the pits!
They have always been my equals… always will be… especially, now that I am one of them!
- March 4, 2021 at 11:27 pm #457803MartiBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: February 5, 2019Topics: 16Replies: 222Has thanked: 864 timesBeen thanked: 895 times
I’m going to be contrary here I’m afraid.
I’ve always been sympathetic and supportive of women’s rights even if I couldn’t articulate it at times, or missed glaringly obvious examples of discrimination. It all came into focus when I met and then married my wife who was a feminist. She was determined that her two young daughters would grow up free of the issues she had to rail against as she was growing up, and I had no problem with that.
Did CD help me reach this position? – I’m not sure. For me, at that time I treated my occasional and low level CD’ing as an irritation or an itch to scratch and then forget about.
Did my ideal of equality of the sexes make me more amenable to CDing? – maybe, but again I’m not sure.
Or was it all part of a bigger picture ?
Apologies, if this is a bit political – I seem to have gone off on one.
- March 4, 2021 at 11:12 pm #457802LisaTLadyRegistered On: January 31, 2021Topics: 41Replies: 471Has thanked: 357 timesBeen thanked: 2096 times
It’s interesting. When I reflect I think does my crossdressing make me more aware of women’s issues or am I more aware of women’s issues than a lot of men anyway. I think the latter for many reasons primarily because I have been crossdressing for just over 10 years and I have always had an awareness of women’s issues. My wife commented recently that my gender came as no surprise in some ways as I had always been supportive and comfortable in the company of women. Some issues like women in Leadership I am less sympathetic not believing in positive discrimination but father on merit based promotion but that view is also taken by many successful women I know. On other issues such as domestic violence and workplace harassment I feel very strongly, I recognise these are areas which affect women more but not exclusively and the concepts of fairness and respect are common across gender boundaries. Housework again is an issue for both sexes. Balancing the housework is no less an issue for a single male than it is for a single woman. Within a couple it’s decided by the couple and modern trends are for a more equal division of labour. In k social history and convention leads often to an assumption that a woman will primarily take up that role but it’s by no means certain. Legislation and social trends are moving toward a more equitable position but just as there are stereotypes for women’s roles if the drains get blocked or the car need work it’s often (but not exclusively) seen as the role of the man to sort it out. An awareness of how men treat women is bound to be an outcome for people who dress and go out as women. In the 1960s men would be expected to give up seats to women, open doors for them, always pat for dates but a married woman couldn’t get finance or credit without her spouses approval and the vote was fairly new too having been enacted n Uk in 1928. Now it’s more equal but there is still tension between the sexes.
- March 5, 2021 at 12:09 am #457810Polly StewartLadyRegistered On: January 2, 2021Topics: 9Replies: 876Has thanked: 1231 timesBeen thanked: 2903 times
Lisa… I couldn’t have said it better!
I’ve been aware or the glaring inequality since years ago! I absolutely hate the toxic masculinity that pervades the world!
What is it with men… feeling threatened by their equals in everything and better at childbirth! WTF!
I’m so saddened by the shortsightedness of men… what are men so scared of? Answer me that?!
- March 4, 2021 at 9:53 pm #457791Robyn DevineDuchessRegistered On: October 24, 2020Topics: 15Replies: 604Has thanked: 1900 timesBeen thanked: 2589 times
Another good question and poll.
Like Alexis mentioned, the considerable amount of time women put into their beauty routine.
Hence why a man should never stand up his date! Seriously – shower, shaving, moisturizing, outfit planning, makeup, hair, nails, etc.
Do not make a woman go thru all that to stand her up, its definitely the quickest way to nowhere! If she’s at a bar…she’s calling up her best girlfriend, “I was stood up! Come drink with me!” And they will shop for your replacement! LOL!!
You better have a hospital bracelet as a souvenir…she might give you a second chance! LOL!!
I’ve also noticed how men treat women. Even though CD, at a gay bar I’m assumed Trans, and the gay men can be just as piggish and rude as the regular ones. I was taught by my parents to be a gentleman, and now I see why more than ever!
XO Robyn 💃🤗
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- March 4, 2021 at 10:01 pm #457796Stephanie ScottLadyRegistered On: February 8, 2021Topics: 18Replies: 246Has thanked: 706 timesBeen thanked: 1298 times
I, too, was taught to be a gentleman, and I similarly taught my son. (And taught my daughter to demand it). We could use a dose of that stuff these days.
As for “women’s issues,” I’m sure I define that differently than say, feminists would. A LOT differently.
- March 4, 2021 at 9:42 pm #457784Alexis TressePrincess - AnnualRegistered On: March 27, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 97Has thanked: 1285 timesBeen thanked: 357 times
CD has made me more aware of the significant time per day for cosmetics and for maintaining a presentable appearance, a time penalty that men do not incur and rarely even notice.
For other reasons I have learned about the significant time that wives spend at cooking, which is fun but again consumes time for an activity that husbands are free of.
With a wheelchair-bound relative a more startling lesson than anything from CD is the terribly difficult life of a disabled person, even in progressive California. Modern women don’t need doors opened but anyone in a wheelchair or with a walker certainly does, and they can use help with even little items like getting a cup of coffee.
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- March 4, 2021 at 9:36 pm #457783T.J. ByronDuchessRegistered On: October 18, 2018Topics: 0Replies: 333Has thanked: 3496 timesBeen thanked: 1365 times
Having 2 daughters, now 45 & 50 y.o., I have always been aware of women’s rights. I have also trained many women doctors. I have also employe many women in different economic phases.
All of these situations and life conditions have heightened my awearness.
- March 4, 2021 at 9:30 pm #457781HippieLadyRegistered On: December 20, 2016Topics: 23Replies: 276Has thanked: 1001 timesBeen thanked: 1044 times
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