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I was wondering how many of you ladies wives or SOs speak to you or refer to you in feminine terms. For example, If my wife likes what I’m wearing, dressed up or not, she will always say I look “pretty” instead of handsome. If we’re out shopping and she sees something she’d like me to buy she will make a comment saying this or that would really look “adorable” on me. Since I do most of the cooking and cleaning, my wife refers to me, with family and friends, as her “trophy wife”. I love cooking and I’m an extremely anal everything in its place type person. If she thinks I’m in a cranky mood for some reason, she’ll say something to the effect of, Geez I’m sorry, I didn’t know it was your time of the month, or Boy, you really have your bi.ch on today. I guess you get the idea. I was just wondering how many of your wives or SOs do the same?
My wife always refers to me by my name or her man period although she has gone out with me dressed a few times she will not call me April in public at this point I believe it will change though. She will say “he” when referring to me she wont use my real name in public either. IDK she likes me in my male form not the female presentation. She has made a few nice dinners at home for April and her. It is what it is. She accepts my crossdressing is neutral no gifts, compliments, or referring to April as a woman. She will say to me personally she resents that April is more open and a better listener but she wishes I was that way in my everyday life. She does understand and support that I have a need and desire to dress and has said multiple times seems like you need to find time or space to go dress to relax. Years ago when it was impossible to find the time at home she got me a room at a Casino and told me to pack a bag and my things to go have girl time she could tell it was so needed. I love my wife.
My wife doesn’t generally refer to me in feminine terms but after a time of working on moisturizing and improving my facial skin she often compliments me saying it looks soft and pretty now. I think shes just being nice. She says she likes my earrings and ponytail too. I cook and clean so she has said several times that I would make someone a good housewife. I tell her I’m her housewife. In the past she has called me her girlfriend but not often.
Hi Audrey, that’s a great question!
For me, it kind of depends on what’s going on. My wife will tell me something looks pretty on me when I’m wearing something that may be more androgynous than masculine, or say that I’m acting bitchy if I’m being snappy, or use other typically feminine terms to describe my behavior, so in that sense, I guess I’d say she does. But as she’s never seen me completely dressed, I don’t know how she would refer to me in that specific situation.
Hugs,
Holly
My wife has used both masculine and feminine terms with me no matter how I’m dressed. If I’m dressed as Josie she will call me by that name and say I’m looking pretty and use feminine terms like “princess”. If she refers to me using my real name while I’m Josie it’s usually out of habit, which I totally understand and am not offended by since she’s known me since 1998 but me identifying as Josie only started last year.
If I’m dressed as a man, however, she likes to refer to me in the feminine just for fun, since that’s her kind of humor, the little minx. She’ll call me “girl” a lot because it makes us both laugh. Not always though, but just every so often so it’s not overused.
It would seem awkward to see my husband in a dress. She is Terri, my girlfriend come to visit. There are personality differences enough to make the role play easier.
When I dress up, my SO will refer to me in feminine terms. If I do a good job, she will tell me that I look “pretty” or “adorable”. When I bought a skirt that had a slit on the side, I tried it on to make sure it fit and she said “Oh you will look sexy in that.” She will call me Karla while I’m dressed and call me her best girlfriend.
In the evenings after coming home from work, I can’t wait to get out of my drab clothes. I will generally put on a duster and fuzzy slippers to get comfy and get into girl mode. If I get up to go to the bathroom she will ask “Are you going to powder your nose?”
However, when I’m in drab, she will refer to me by only masculine terms, so those boundaries are established. Sometimes though, even if I’m in drab and if she is shopping on line, she may come across a clothing item or piece of jewelry and say “I think Karla might look good in this.” She won’t say “You would look good in this” because the reference to Karla is in third person.
My wife doesn’t usually refer to me as Syndee. She knows it is the name that I chose for the site and what I go by here but it is not one that I really use when I am dressed. She will tell me when I get dressed up that I am a pretty girl or tell me that I look cute and tell me she likes my makeup. Other than that she still refers to me in masculine terms. My friends that know will tell me the same things if I am dressed around them but do not refer to me as Syndee. I have never addressed it or thought about asking any of them to address me as Syndee when I am dressed.
So an update on this question. It got me thinking about how I have never really asked anyone to refer to me as Syndee when I am dressed. I asked my wife if she would feel comfortable calling me that and she could hardly remember what my fem name was. She said she would have no problem with calling me Syndee when I am dressed if that is what I wanted. I guess we will just have to wait and see when I get a chance to be dressed up again what she calls me by.
My wife only calls me Sarah when I,m dressed , if we are out shopping she will say do you think Sarah would like this top etc for her birthday , no one knows our little secret
My wife uses Jeanette when I am embracing my feminine side. She enjoys being with me as Jeanette, but also embraces the masculine side when that situation calls for it. She tells me regularly, “I really enjoy being with Jeanette, she’s so much fun to be around!”
Shortly after I came out to my wife she suggested we give my other side a name. She figured it would give us a split between the two. She has used my femme name on many occasions and it really helped when we were shopping together. She would hold up something and say “ do you like Ashley would like this.” Also when asking me if Ashley is coming over today, would Ashley mind cleaning the house , does Ashley have any pantyhose I could borrow, just things like that . I actually love it when she refers to Ashley and my sister in law always comes me by Ashley when she sees me dressed.
I gave up on being called Sarah by my wife when dressed. Just by habit it’s baby. If I’m having a bad day, acting like a lil bitch she will call me her bitch. She’s even called me that in front of people at the tobacco shop we go to. In drab at the time. I just gave a sheepish smile and said yes but I’m your bitch. Later I thanked her for calling me that and reinforcing my submissive personality.
I had to think about this a bit. In general, my wife refers to me appropriate to my gender expression. There is a subtle difference, however. When I’m in male mode, she refers to Nikki as she/her always. When I’m en femme, though, she never refers to male me at all, it’s always you/yours. Gendered pronouns are used when we talk about someone to other people, but she has yet to refer to male me as he/him in the same way that she commonly refers to Nikki as she/her. In talking with her about it, she made the point that I’m always ME, regardless of how I’m presenting and that “Nikki” is a kind of shorthand to talk about my feminine aspects generally, a distinction that isn’t necessary with male me. Nikki is still new to her, so there’s a lot more to talk about that’s specific to feminine presentation. “Nikki would look great in this” versus “you would look great in this.” It works for us, is always appropriate and respectful, and there’s never any confusion about context. I suspect that the day will come when it will all just be “you/yours”. I don’t consistently use Nikki with others yet. When I made an appointment at Sephora, it made my reservation with the name on my credit card, and I used that name at my makeover. I’m fortunate that my given name is unisex and feels natural. Whether I stop using one or the other is anybody’s guess; I’m a work in progress!
My wife never does as I’m normally dressed as a guy 90% of the time. To be honest I don’t even think my wife knows my female name.
Hi girls,
Interesting question, had to think about it. My legal first name is Lauren, yes, my mom gave me a girl’s name, which caused me more than a little teasing growing up. I am transgender, have transitioned and live as a woman named Lauren. So my SO calls me Lauren all the time, but what has changed is when she talks to others referring to me, she says ‘she’ and ‘her’. Recently, talking on the phone, I said to her “That’s what I told you, silly lady!” She replied “I know that silly girl.” We are currently separated but she seems to be much more accepting of me now, so hopefully we will be back together at some point.
Hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
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