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Hi Girls,
Following on the misfit theme,I have a tendency to like wearing super tight skinny jeans ,or leggings and sexy tops.
Not all the time mind you.
I have found lately due to losing 20 pounds I can wear crop tops and even show my belly off.
Now don’t get me wrong my belly isn’t perfectly flat but it doesn’t look bad.
Also I am starting to like off the shoulder crop tops and even have considered a belly button piercing.
However I am 55 years old.
My wife says I need to buy cloths that make me blend in better so I don’t get unwanted attention.
I really would like to get your thoughts on this girls And I am sure I won’t like them all but fire away.
Patty
Hello Patty, First, I do not think you are to old to dress sexy, I am sixty plus & still like to dress sexy. But, reading your letter I assume you mean dress sensibly for your age, when you go out in public. If that is what you mean then I agree with your wife. But when indoors, let your imagenation go wild, dress as sexy as you wish, I do. I have not ventured outside in public so far, but if I was to, an outfit that does not draw too much attention would be best. So, one outfit for in public & any sexy outfit for indoors, enjoy yourself, love, Helenmarie
Hi Patty,
I would say that if you want to avoid attention, you should dress your apparent age (more or less).
Just a guess, but for 55, that would be around 40, or perfect Couger dressing; sexy but refined. Presuming of course, that your wife will accept it.
Hugs,
Bettylou
Hey Patty, I would suggest that if you don’t mind attracting a little attention at times and have the body for it go for it. If you don’t want to attract any attention dress more conservative. Sometimes I wonder why some GG’s almost never have a little flash in their dress. So many dress in what I call fem drab, you know jeans, t-shirt, tennies, and no makeup. Sometimes a little flash (sexiness) can brighten up everyone’s day.
Sandy
I would say there’s nothing wrong with your look but it also depends where you are going, not the look for the bank or grocery store but if you’re going to sit on a patio for a drink with friends go for it. Your wife is right if you dress provocatively you may get some attention from people. I’ve been approached by women and asked where did you get those shoes or I get the big question, how did you become a crossdresser, I feel like saying well I filled out the application and went for a couple of interviews and they gave me this trial period, just my sarcastic side coming out and you’ll probably get some attention from men. It seems some of the male populous has had enough of the female side of the race, scary brained bitches as one guy called them and he went on to say he wouldn’t mind a woman with a man’s brain. Dating crossdressers has become a bit of an in thing so be prepared and enjoy yourself, I enjoy the attention and flattery, I take it as a compliment.
Patty,
I’ve noticed that most GGs wear only jeans, leggings and shorts now – even the elderly. And there’s another thread going about how they are giving up bras. It seems that if it weren’t for us CDs, the dress and bra manufacturers would go out of business. How about that.
Hugs,
Bettylou
Hi Patty I am with you wife on this one, I think there is nothing wrong with skinny jeans in fact I love to wear them my self and i am a little older There are so many options available to you that have a cute classy mature look. Exposing more skin only looks like you are trying to hard to get attention. Like a teenage girl. Most woman understand a teenage girl showing more skin for sure. They know why they are doing it. She is right you will draw attention negative from most woman and most of us just prefer to blend in. You can be edgy with accessories, cute pair of healed sandals, pretty hat or even cute sun glasses. I do understand your desire to live out the life we missed but reality has to be a part of our journey also. Good for you for losing the weight. Luv Stephanie
Oh oh. I think I am taboo then.
Thank you for posting this Patty!! I am, ahem, firmly established, in my 50’s and love wearing my tight dresses or that old tight faded Jean’s and top look.( a la 70’s 80’s ). There sure as hell better not be anything wrong with this ….. we are still young afterall.
Bawahahaha.
Stevie
Stevie,
“We” are not all still young, unfortunately; but I agree your are. My elder son is your age. (It’s all relative).
Hugs,
Bettylou
Hey Patty
There are some variables at play with this.
What are you comfortable wearing.
What is you SO comfy with, if you have one.
What are your intentions.
Are you willing and ready to the possible accept comments.
If you’re comfortable with wearing it, it makes you feel good about yourself, your SO is ok with it and you’re ready, why not? Many of us work hard at looking good and in just who’s opinion is that attention unwanted?
I’m in my late fifties and mostly dress for how I feel. I won’t wear crop tops unti I get my tummy back under control, but I like showing some skin and alot of my outfits would be characterized as flirty.
Be careful out there, but have fun and be as young as you want.
Olivia
Hi Patty,
I’m at the same place you are, what is too sexy for us elderly girls and at 63 I have given it some thought and decided why not, if your body looks good in a sexy short dress go for it. I recently wore my first dress that has been purchased by girls in their 20s and 30s (customer photos) and I was very impressed on how it looked on me and it made me look a lot younger 40ish. Mind you I have not been out yet and I do plan on testing the waters with a more sexier, tighter and shorter dress. I don’t want to regret one day that I didn’t give it a try.
Hugs DeDee
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And the hosiery manufacturers.I am sixty and don’t know many G.G.s of my age who wear pantyhose/ tights.My wife is 56 and still favours pantyhose when she wears dresses and skirts.Sometimes it feels like we are the only two people in the world who wear nude or natural pantyhose with the exception of The Duchess Of Cambridge who has to wear hose in public by order of The Queen.Dressing your age seems to be evolving, from what I see. Certainly lots of older women do, but I also see many who don’t. It of course depends on context, and how much attention you want to get, like at the mall might be different from a club or the grocery store . Also it depends on your body type. Just like GG’s we have to dress for our body’s strength’s and weaknesses.
Basically it’s up to you, but some degree of caution should taken so as not to put you into a risky or uncertain situation.
Though my last thoughts on this subject are that simply dressing to a specific age is out of fashion.
Amy
Patty, understand that in this case your wife is the Subject Matter Expert. She’s talking to you from a lifetime of experience. We grew up with men’s rules, she grew up with women’s rules. She’s trying to teach you what women have learned. She’s doing this out of love.
Whether you heed her advice or not is your choice. But if you do get unwanted attention, you can’t complain, because you were forewarned. She would have every right to tell you mockingly, “I told you so!”
One of my favorite topics Patty, I’m glad you started it. You and I are in ‘the same boat’ here. I wear those sexy tops and Daisy Duke bottoms all the time. If anybody says anything to me about that, I simply say: “You’re entitled to your opinion”, and let it go at that. As to deciding what’s ‘appropriate’, or not for a given age group or body type, That’s merely another persons opinion. As long as what you’re wearing is ‘legal’, I see nothing wrong. By ‘legal’ I mean a persons wearing apparel must cover certain body parts that public laws say must be covered. I think the thing to watch out for here is when certain people treat their own opinions as though those opinions had the force of law. Just my 2c worth.
Patty Honey,
I am 72 and dress my mental age (16!) more often than my chronological age. I do like attention, and my wife loves to show me off and try to embarrass me in front of others. We love short skirts/shorts, thin tops, anything somewhat revealing of what is underneath. I have natural 40C breasts and figure if I have to pack the things around all day, I might as well have fun with them!
You can only be you, wear what pleases your inner girl.
It should never be taboo to dress as sexy as we feel. Now, that said, there are a few limits that some of us might want to observe, depending on where we are or who we are with. This Wednesday (7-15) will mark the 40th anniversary of my 21st birthday, and I will dress accordingly for the party my sister is throwing for me (knee length skirt and matching blouse, sensible shoes, etc.).
The weekend following, I managed to finagle the weekend off, I managed to find a couple of small gatherings in Amarillo, because the clubs are closed again, to attend. Denim mini, sheer blouse with lacey lingerie almost visible, stockings and garter, again, sensible shoes to dance in a little. It’s important if I want to keep a man interested, a little lace up high, a stocking top and garter down low, and they are putty in our hands.
Always dress how you feel you want to. Don’t be shy or ashamed if your skirt is little short or you jeans and shorts might be a tad too tight. I love working in my yard in short shorts (not quite hot pants, but you know what I mean.). Have fun and be as comfy as you want to be in what you wear.
PaulaF
Patty,
Size 4? Oh, my! I’m a 10, and after reading that, I suddenly feel like a whale.
Bettylou
Patty, if you’ve got it, flaunt it if that’s what you want!
Age is no matter – I saw a GG who must’ve been late 60s, but had a very svelte little figure, wearing a tiny ditsy dress and trainers.
To my eyes, she looked lovely.
I was wearing a tight grey T-shirt and a skirt that’s probably too short – but my thighs look good, so why not.
At no point did anyone even hint with their eyes that there was anything wrong with my appearance, which was probably more suited to a girl in her 20s or 30s than a man in his 50s – but it felt perfect on a warm sunny day!
Bottom line, check your appearance.
Do you like it and feel comfortable with it?
Might it offend someone?
If someone did comment, what nice things might you say (It doesn’t help to trade insults, in my opinion!)?
My favourite riposte is “I’m not a real woman you know!”, which I stole from the drag artiste Dave Lynne.
Hope this helps you with your dilemma!
Love Laura
Hi Patty!
I don’t know if I have the words to describe the definition of classy but I believe i know it when i see it. Of course the same goes for pornography. But my definitions are most certainly not the exact same as anyone else’s. I think your wife is worried and that means her definitions of acceptable and/or tasteful aren’t matching yours and that’s what concerns her. Perhaps a good measuring sick could be asking yourself how you would feel if your wife wore those clothes to the places you want to wear them? What’s good for the goose should be good for the other goose.
Two years ago I purchased a few pairs of drab jeans at a thrift store. I didn’t try them on. I just selected based on tagged sizes. When I got home I tried them on. One pair was a pair of skinny jeans. I felt awesome in them. My wife look at me and said “you’ve got to be kidding”. They’ve been in the bottom of the back of the closet for 2 years now. I still have them. I haven’t worn them. I don’t want to give them up.
I suggest you and your wife find a balance that works for the two of you.
Hugs
Autumn
Gurl, if i could wear it I would 😉
XOXOX,
Jennifer
Hi Patty,experiment and be sexy at home ,when out dress accordingly but it can still be sexy and most importantly.I listen to my wife because she is always right and has the wisdom .As for the belly button i am 69 and have a good body and a fair pair of pins so i have had my belly button done twice both times after a few months it migrated i did a lot of gym work and that may not have helped but since covid 19 there has been no gym and to be honest i do not think i will ever go back now so it may be time soon to try for a third time. I have had my ears pierced like forever but having my bellybutton done was for me one of the most sexy fem things and it catapulted the feminine part of me to another level.Good luck and listen to the boss. Py xx.
Patty
I think you should dress however makes you happy as far as piercings go I just pierced my ears and have had my belly button done for years.
vanessa
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