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I was filling out a form today, and came up short when it asked me for my gender. I think I will leave that question blank, in this case, but it made me stop and think about what would be the right response? For gender, it provides boxes to check off for “transgender,” “nonbinary” and “other.” There was no box provided, however, for “confused,” or “it depends.”
I’m curious now, though, to know how you all have dealt with this type of question, on governmental or business forms, for census purposes, etc. Did you ever want to put down “female,” or “nonbinary,” or transgender”? Or actually do it? Or do you do that as a matter of course? And if so, when did you decide to start doing it?
A few months ago when I applied for a job at Torrid I told them I gave them both my fem name and my male name. Kinda had to because if the contacted my former employers they don’t know Cassie but do have records of Randy. Some of my co-workers there only know me as Cassie. The clinic where I go to the doctor now know me as Cassie. So far these switches have been easy and kind of fun.
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I usually put non-binary or other. The last time I checked male was at my doctor’s clinic, the form said “gender assigned at birth” and the only choices were male, female. I put checked and then wrote, ” you can’t tell? You are supposed to be medical people. It was some stupid profile form for my record file. A friend, who is not a CDer, never checks any box, but writes down “you guess”Does it matter what we put on these forms, we all know what we are don’t we, I don’t think any of us will change what we are unless we go the whole way and transition fully, anyway we are all sister’s on here X
Hugs Rozalyn X
If only male or female is offer3d, check the box of your assigned gender on your drivers licence or passport. If nothing fits, check other if available. I always check transgender if offered, otherwise, I usually check my legal assigned gender, male as it all exhausts me. yes, I hate it.
Hi Jill I’ve often been tempted to put on the forms where it says sex is yes please, lol X
You have got to laugh sometimes X
Hugs X
I appreciate the problem. If the option is there you could use prefer not to say. However there is an option to declare it is up to you what you define as and if you feel comfortable making that declaration.
It is important to remember that on any legal document that is asking for your real name and sex, without options, then that would have to be written.
I’m wondering what does “gender” actually mean/classify? I know that sex != gender so we can skip that association.
What does it actually mean to be “male” or “female”? Just because I wear clothes commonly worn by female, does that make me female? If so why doesn’t a female wearing a male shirt and male pants become “male”? (maybe because all drag queens aren’t female?)
Are we talking personality? Manners?Anyway – what I check depends on what the purpose is.
“Prefere not to say” whenever it is available
“male” when we talking legal stuff like bank, passport and so on (I have no interest in transition full time)
“cd”/”female”/”trans”/”other”/”non binary” when dealing with things like this site or keystone conference or so./kelly
Whenever I see that question on a form, I always want to answer “Yes, when and where?” but that never seems to be an option! 😉
You’ve gotta laugh…
At least some government organizations and companies are beginning to realize that there are more options than just “male” and “female,” so at least that’s a step in the right direction.
Hugs,
Holly
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