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There are so many questions to ask before making a comment.
Has your wife any inkling that you dress and how does the bride know about you, was it pre marriage?
Obviously wedding invites are for at least the invited and partner so it would be understandable if she didn’t want you to go based on that alone. Does your wife know these friends so again would be upset at not being invited.
Do you travel alone for any events that you could use a cover story although deceit is not a good thing.
So you either decline the invitation with respect for your wife or, as Emily suggests, it’s time for the talk.
I have gone to a wedding as the male plus one for a CD friend who needed an escort. We had a great time. She loved that I am a good dancer. She said she had not danced that much in years. She told me if I ever needed it she would return the favor. My wife was cool with it.
Hi, Lisa.
Wow, what a conundrum. Such a lovely opportunity to attend a wedding as a woman (one of the things we all dream of doing, if not being the actual bride), but your wife apparently doesn’t know so you’re not sure how to broach the subject. Well, my first question is, how open and honest are you with your wife about other things in your marriage? If you’re not, then starting with the topic of your being a crossdresser might not be the best way to start opening up to her about things. But if she does know about everything else, then maybe, as has already been suggested, it’s time for the talk. You could explain your history, how long you’ve been crossdressing, why you kept it from her, etc. and then see how she reacts and then make a decision. Of course, you’d also have to tell her how another woman knows about Lisa and she doesn’t, which might be awkward.
My best suggestion is to pass this time around, then talk to your wife, and then perhaps another opportunity may come along and you can both go together. Just think how much fun it would be to shop for dresses with your wife so you can both attend a wedding! Now that would be something to really look forward to!
Good luck and be sure and let us all know how it turns out.
Hugs,
Holly
I’m guessing the invite is from a friend Lisa. And I’m guessing telling your wife about your inner Lisa is out of the question.
How’s about
‘Do you mind if I attend a friends wedding out of town on my own? The invite was for me only as a friend.’
You will however may have to be ready for questions. If you feel this will open up to a full blown interrogation maybe you shouldn’t ask, unless you feel it’s time for full honest disclosure.
You know your wife best, and how the scenario will play out.
B x
I don’t see any possibility of concealing this if you say it’s for a wedding. You would need a trusted accomplice to say it’s a guy trip or maybe pass it off as a work trip. That said any lie that requires more than you to pass it off is very likely to be revealed at some point.
A better route to take would be to say you need to get away alone for a short time to destress, regroup, whatever….then it is contained to only you and your imagination.
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