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      Alice Black
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      Registered On: January 18, 2020
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      My wife is disabled so I wind up doing almost all the household chores. I do them in normal drab male outfit. My fem play time is earlier in day as she sleeps late.

      Alice

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      Ashley Konners
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      Registered On: August 15, 2020
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      Morning ladies, I wouldn’t say I’m the house wife but I do a lot of the chores around the house.  I’ve always helped out with house work and since coming out to my wife at times she will ask if Ashley could clean the house and has no problem with me dressed at anytime. It’s a win win for me as I enjoy doing any of the chores while dressed femme so much more. I’ve made many meals fully dressed , done all the laundry, cleaned the house. In our case it isn’t a trade off as I did a lot before she knew I was a crossdresser but rather a way of me enjoying it more. I think that some SO’s who don’t except it , don’t change there mine even if it does mean taking on the house work.

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      Auroras Livingfem
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      Registered On: May 22, 2020
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      Now retired been helping doing house shores I told her I would do even better if dress and she said what if next door neighbor comes to ask us for some kitchen items I’m most the one to open door so sometimes I washing dishes even I always looking at outside curtains semi closed If I missed someone coming and knocking and I have no chance to hide (but at the same time wanting to somebody even my neighbor see all dressed) I think one time I wrote a time wife was not home had like four hours to myself I open patio door and she saw me but has never mentioned besides I been trying to have a talk but don’t know if I will open a new problem with my wife we been neighbors for over two decades I’m always the handyman when she and her sister needs our help she doesn’t drive but her sister and sometimes I offer to go grocery time ( now that I’m the desígnate shoppers)she sometimes goes walking to do her nails only once went to give her ride back her sister asked me but had not very much time to tell her about that “time” and if I could tell her about my Xdressing but we haven’t had a chance and I just which maybe she’s approve of my dressing and help me tell my wife well let’s see what happens happy dressing Auroras Livingfem

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      Stephanie MacNeil
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      Registered On: January 31, 2022
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      I think some of what may be getting lost in Michelle’s post is that the offer being contemplated is doing ALL of the chores in exchange for being dressed.  And probably also doing them well and going above and beyond.  I think that’s a reasonable offer to make if your SO is on the fence or needs more of a tangible reason to accept.  It won’t work for all SOs, as some will never accept, but I think it’s worth a try.

      For me, this is an ironic subject.  I dressed once or twice to do housework and my wife realized how much it helped me stay on task and get enormous amounts done.   So when we agreed I would stay home, she was the one who insisted I dress as a requirement.  We aren’t typical, and this is bound up in our  FLR.  She enjoys the power of all of it, and the visual of me ironing or dusting in my dress and heels is very much part of that power.  Sure, it’s based on the power imbalance of a bygone era, but it works for us and the exchange of that power is what makes it exciting.  I love my wife and I’m glad she is getting that.  I wish more women could experience what she does.

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      Cath N.
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      Registered On: June 18, 2020
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      Chores and responsibility do not have gender or a dresscode. If they did, does it mean that I don’t have to do any on the days that I wear trousers? Or that I should ask for some sort of reward for doing what must be done? Maybe cleaning the toilet should come with an all-expenses paid cruise around the Med. But it doesn’t, and it still needs to be cleaned.

      The point you are missing is a crossdresser “offering” to do something that he should be doing anyway might sound like a negotiation between parent and child, when the parent is setting up a chore chart. Already have one of those, don’t want another.

      To me personally, it’s an anachronistic visual and a sexist pov. I do not look kindly on either. Both need to do chores equally and expect no other reward other than a clean house to chill in at the end of the day.

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    • #637721
      Michelle Smith
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      Registered On: March 22, 2022
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      I’ve commented before that my gf gets irritated with me wearing a dress doing housework however I will vacuum, dust etc wearing men’s clothing occasionally. Recently we were on vacation in Mexico where housekeeping women wear dark blue skorts and a grey blouse. I asked her if an outfit like that would be more appropriate for my cleaning. She just shook her head and said no. I also have a maids outfit I offered to wear but that didn’t go over any better. Oh well

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      Peta Mari
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      Registered On: September 30, 2020
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      We have a 50/ 50 house chore rule. I make the mess. My wife cleans.

      ***joke.***

      We do things according to our strengths. The one chore I always do is empty the toilet bucket. ( we use a compost toilet.) Not exactly a job to dress up for.

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      Anonymous
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      I didn’t know chores had a gender,

       

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        Michelle Davis
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        Registered On: August 19, 2021
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        I agree that chores don’t have a gender and wouldn’t be a wonderful world if everyone felt the same way about clothing.

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      Eileen Bach
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      Registered On: February 27, 2021
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      We share domestic chores all the time, though I don’t see the need to dress female to do so. As if doing laundry or vacuuming is ‘women’s’ work only. Thus, demeaning the women that do these chores because they have to be done and the Putz watching sports could care less how the house looks.

      One great advantage of having a CD husband is that he does share these chores willingly. Dressed or not. I meant dressed female or not, LOL! Personally, instead of hubby as a maid, I’d rather have a buff, pool boy feed me grapes, Champagne, and manicure my toes. What husband?

      Terri has her weekend days doing chores I’d rather not do. All the grocery shopping and other time-consuming errands. She loves being out in public, interacting with store clerks/cashiers she sees every week.

      Addressing Michelle’s original post, suggesting he get pretty to do chores. There are times I know he had a tough day at work, I may suggest we have a girl’s evening. TV, wine, and snuggles. I work too and have tough days as well. My relaxation comes later on with a happy husband.

      Hugs, Eileen

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      Kim Dahlenbergen
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      Registered On: November 18, 2019
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      I suspect that some partners, understandably, object to any presentation or behavior by their spouse that diminishes the apparent masculinity of their SO. Some even feel themselves in some way less of a woman, if their partner engages in cross dressing.

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      Elaine
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      I use the ‘house keeper’ rationale for dressing en femme.  I do all the domestic things – cooking, cleaning, laundry, dusting en femme whenever I can, whether wife is home or not.  She seems to respond more positively if I am working on the house rather than just sitting around.

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      Stephanie Bass
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      Registered On: November 30, 2019
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      Hi Michelle as this is just one more femme thing i like to do its in my heart to be the other lady in the house as wife thinks there are two of me and one of her so i get two thirds of the house chores.. And wife sees that it makes me happy to help her do things as Stephanie she is super and supportive so easier on her with things as we are both getting older and sometimes a maid is a lot of help to her and she looks super cute doing it he he ..

      Stephanie Bass

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      Jill Quinn
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      Maybe it’s a simple as they’re in a relationship with a man, not a woman, and what will her friends, family, and neighbors say? “Your husband stays at home and dresses in women’s clothing and does housework? What are you people?!? Some kind of freaks? Perverts?” It May be tough for us to come out to our SO’s, but it must also be tough for them in some cases to admit their part in such an unconventional relationship. We all have lines we simply won’t cross, and for a lot of women, this may be one of them. Just my thoughts.

      Jill

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