Have you come out to your wife? Do you plan to?

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     Penny Allan 
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    Registered On: July 20, 2018
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    Yes. She allows me to “dress” for bed. If I am with her during the day, she will call my female attire – pajamas

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     Gina Pratt 
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    I don’t recommend doing it on your anniversary.Β  Your anniversary is about you and your wife’s relationship.Β  Let that be special to just that event.Β  That’s just my humble opinion.

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     MacKenzie Alexandra 
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    <p style=”text-align: left;”>Anatolijus,</p>
    I would advise against using such a special day. Your Anniversary should be a day of positive memories. Now I know that positive outcome is possible, but a negative outcome is just as possible. That is just my two cents.

    MacKenzie Alexandra

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     Anatolijus Malinauskas 
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    Hi everyone I’m new here so i start straight away I’m planninmy to tell my wife that I like to wear woman’s cloth and i thinking to do it on our 10 years anniversary dinner. What do you think is it worth it to do it on day like these.

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     Gina Pratt 
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    I started dressing slowly at age 7 or 8 (more from curiosity) but progressed to outright buying and wearing lingerie at 17 and 18 (but no outer clothes) but pretty much stopped when I got married.Β  Although I snuck in a few wearing experiences, it wasn’t until 10 years into the marriage when I needed more.Β  I convinced her to role play where I could dress in her presence.Β  Oh my, that was heaven but she didn’t care for it.Β  But she knew that I liked it so it progressed until I was wearing them almost 4-5 times a week and then she confronted me.Β  She told me she didn’t like it and said that it seems that it seems that we can’t be intimate without the clothes and that it hurt her feelings.Β  Ugh… I felt horrible because that wasn’t it at all.. it was just that I felt better in the women’s clothes.Β  I love women and love my wife so I opened up.Β  I told her I loved women’s clothes and that it made me feel better.Β  It still didn’t go well and we sort of left it that I can only dress periodically and mostly not in her presence.Β  Well, after 10 years of that, I couldn’t hide my dressing any longer and told her that I really wanted to dress.Β  She reluctantly agreed to let me do it more but still insisted that she didn’t want to see me fully dressed.Β  So I did it… but hidden from her.Β  About four years ago, we had a big argument (really about something else) and she brought out my dressing.Β  Again, I told her it made me happy and that I prefer women’s clothes.Β  She realized that dressing really makes me happy and that is when she accepted it.Β  So, for the past four years, I have literally bought about 40-50 pairs of women’s shoes (mostly heels), about 20 dresses, two good quality wigs (on top of the 4-5 not-so-quality ones), lots of makeup and practice, and many more clothes (enough for a full dresser full and three feet of closet space).Β  She allows me to dress in her presence sometimes but still has some apprehension since she doesn’t really buy me things and doesn’t compliment my look (no encouraging remarks so-to-speak).Β  So it is still a work in progress.Β  It is tough but I’m so much happier that I don’t have to hide it from her and she knows that my arousal is all about her and not the clothes or any fantasies.Β  Anyways, I hope that helped.

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     Margarita Gaitan 
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    Personally, the femaleβ€”common law married to found out during a family holiday dinner, a relative got drunk and told about the cross dressing, humiliated we left during a barrage of insults and slurs. She said she didn’t care, deep down she did but she wanted to leave Colombia and her family.

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     Vanessa Marie 
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    Registered On: May 11, 2018
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    I can’t say that my wife and I have had a perfect relationship, but we’ve always had open communication. Two years after we got together, before we were married, she felt comfortable enough to open up about her sexuality. So when I came out to her as a CD, not only was she understanding, she was helpful. She helps buy my clothes and do my make up. Lately, we’ve been having girls’ days together as a bonding thing. I can’t believe how lucky I am to have this kind of relationship.

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    Yes I have. My wife is very supportive and we are the best of friends. We shop together, I prefer the privacy of our home when I dress up, do makeup.

    I am very lucky to have her as my wife and best friend. 😊

    For those who have not, I wish you the strength and courage to open up and truly be yourself.

    It is a scary thing, in the end you will be relieved. If your wife dosent understand, be understanding as well. Its a major change in both lives. Most importantly, dont force it.Β  That will make things worse.

    Ask her how does she feel about crossdressing.

    Women wear jeans and tshirts too, its crossdressing just the same.

    Plan a day to go shopping, let her know what you like. Dont be afraid to express a certain like of a style. Make the connection with her. She also has to understand, that this you, and you feel that this is also important to yourself.

    When I first started crossdressing, I was 5-6 years old. I always felt more comfortable being around the women in my family versus thr men.

    Some even thought I was gay, but not like a flamboyant, just a quiet guy who enjoyed listening to them.

    There was a time I thought I was, and experimented with it. Ultimately I prefer women.

    My wife knows this, I was up front about it. The more she knows the more she will understand.

     

     

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     MacKenzie Alexandra 
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    Registered On: May 20, 2016
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    what about workβ€”

    About what are you asking, Jane?

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     janedon 
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    Registered On: January 19, 2016
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    what about work—

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     Cathy Stokes 
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    Registered On: April 25, 2018
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    I told my wife 3 years ago that I’d been questioning my gender from an early age. It didn’t go well… We barely spoke for 2 weeks, there were accusations, recriminations, tears… My protestations that I didn’t say anything previously due to my shame and guilt fell on deaf ears. Now it’s abundantly clear that my “issue” is Not To Be Spoken About, unless of course she wants a reason to have a go at me.

    Ironically I told her at the prompting of a “friend” who dropped me like a hot potato when it went wrong, and of the counsellor I was seeing at the time who ultimately was of very little help for various reasons… They both said it would re-establish trust when in fact it did the opposite.

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     Michelle Nevins 
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    Like dressing out, this took decades and finally came down to me wanting to live an honest life. I was surprised she was shocked. I had introduce cross dressing into the bedroom and expanded on it. She was accepting but my hope of her participating has not come about three years later. We don’t go out as girlfriends as of yet. Still, Β My closet is full of Michelle’s clothes. In bed that has been the biggest challenge. I was out and that meant no longer pretending. In this area she has been more accommodating. She knows I love lingerie and that in bed I’m basically another girl. She knows I want to be told what any woman wants to be told in bed: that I’m cute and sexy. My surprise came when she has asked me to wear certain nighties to bed. So we are evolving .

     

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    I have told my wife all my secrets and everyday occurrences, I told her that I have experimented with crossdressing and had sex with men and women when I was a teen and before we started dating. Yet, I haven’t told her about my recent love for crossdressing that came back very strong two gears ago. I’ve dressed up on and off since I was a 8 years old and now I just love to do it as frequently as possible, whenever I’m home alone which happens every once in a while when wife and daughter are out and about without me. On the one hand I would love to tel them and be as honest as always, but I haven’t found a good way to tell them, I don’t want to loose them and I keep kt as private as watching porn, which they don’t need to know anyways. So far, no struggles and we keep living our lives and I love my duality as private as possible. Since I have no plans of transitioning any further, I’m quite content on keep dressing when ever possible. Thanks for listening

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     Lucinda Hawkns 
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    wow had trouble getting on this morning. i thought i posted a answer on this question.Β Β  but yes wife knows and daughter might know of me wearing a bra, daughter seen a pic of me fully dressed up and showed mom, from there it was out, but i dress up in private when 2 adults kids are not home and have my fem time, wife will tell me i can do what i like to do. i am already there and loving it, but she will not see me but she has seen me more and more. but will not help with make up or sit and talk like 2 woman and ask me how i feel as a female dressed up. wife knows of my dresses, bras, nylons, make up, perfume, ear rings, heels, pads, wig skirts, blouses. i have more female cloths then she odes, i even took over her dresses for she cant fir into them any more, or even wear them, so i will

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     Lucinda Hawkns 
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    my wife found out one day when i took a pic of my self and forgot to put it away, daughter seen it showed mom. that was it. daughter might know i dress up, but i know my wife does for sure for she has seen me dress up, seen my dresses, nylons, bras, panties, pads, perfume ear rings. make up.Β  she lets me dress up when 2 adult kids are not home and i have a great time, but can share it with wife and sit and talk like 2 woman. ask me how i fill dressed up, why i dress up. for starters, she dont dress up any more like a real female unless we are going out for a wedding or dinner, i dress up more then she does and even under dress just about every day. would love to come out of the closet and dress up and be the real me but like Hanna McKnight wrote its all true. have to check her site out and read her posts.

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