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    Vanessa Law
    Registered On: April 19, 2012
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    Ahh, the age old question – do you tell your wife about crossdressing?
    Back many years ago before I married I shared my secret –

    As daunting as this is, after I transitioned I realized that it’s far more difficult to tell your date about your past πŸ™‚

    Have you shared with your wife that you crossdress?

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    Profile photo of Rose Rose 
    Registered On: September 15, 2016
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    I’ve been out to my wife since I started exploring about 15 months or so ago. She’s been fantastic about it from the start. At some point in September, I came out to my daughter (she’s 15). Totally uneventful. I’ve been procrastinating telling my son (14). Logically, I was quite sure he wouldn’t give a damn; but fear doesn’t really care about logic, and so every time I planned to tell him, I chickened out.

    This past weekend, I bit the proverbial bullet and told him I was gender fluid – that sometimes I liked to paint my nails or wear women’s clothing or put on women’s shoes or whatever. He shrugged. I spent most of the day Sunday with my nails done in a pretty pink. Nobody seemed to bat an eye about it.

    So… Β my logical mind was right all along, and I feel silly having given in to the unvoiced fears in the back of my head…

    A Rose by any other name...


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    Profile photo of Erin Erin 
    Registered On: November 27, 2016
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    I talked about this with my wife before we started seriously dating as I didn’t think it fair for her to know only part of me, it was really hard to do but she was fantastic about it and responded that she would rather know the whole me and not just a part of me. Since then I still feel a ‘society based cultural guilt about crossdressing’ I just can’t help myself. My wife is amazingly supportive and we have even been out ‘girl’ shopping for make up and clothes for me. What is really nice now is that occasionally she will see something out and buy it for me, and I love trying it on and showing it off to her. We even have pyjama nights with matching sets which is really cool.

    I still find it difficult to acknowledge her open acceptance which is my hang up not hers and something I hope time will heal or actually is healing as I slowly beat back years of suppressing my feelings as I did in a previous relationship. My life is really good now and I love the fact that I am comfortable with my crossdressing and it is who I am.


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    Profile photo of Jacinta Jacinta 
    Registered On: November 23, 2016
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    Yes I have.

    As I posted in my intro story, I came out to my wife, and as strange as it may seems it improved our relationship.

    I had been basically denying myself for the years of our marriage, and it was finally taking a toll. Β Between various things I basically was shutting myself away and hiding from being social.

    I made the decision to accept that I was transgender, and then spend the next week getting up the nerve to tell my wife.. Β Boy was that scary.

    But it was (at least for me) the best thing I had done. Β She already had some idea apparently, but had never mentioned it to me. Β And was completely accepting and supportive. Β Even supported me going out and spending a fairly large sum on a new wardrobe, so I could present fulltime.


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