Have you come out to your wife? Do you plan to?

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     janedon 
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    what about work—

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     Cathy Stokes 
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    I told my wife 3 years ago that I’d been questioning my gender from an early age. It didn’t go well… We barely spoke for 2 weeks, there were accusations, recriminations, tears… My protestations that I didn’t say anything previously due to my shame and guilt fell on deaf ears. Now it’s abundantly clear that my “issue” is Not To Be Spoken About, unless of course she wants a reason to have a go at me.

    Ironically I told her at the prompting of a “friend” who dropped me like a hot potato when it went wrong, and of the counsellor I was seeing at the time who ultimately was of very little help for various reasons… They both said it would re-establish trust when in fact it did the opposite.

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     Michelle Nevins 
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    Like dressing out, this took decades and finally came down to me wanting to live an honest life. I was surprised she was shocked. I had introduce cross dressing into the bedroom and expanded on it. She was accepting but my hope of her participating has not come about three years later. We don’t go out as girlfriends as of yet. Still, Β My closet is full of Michelle’s clothes. In bed that has been the biggest challenge. I was out and that meant no longer pretending. In this area she has been more accommodating. She knows I love lingerie and that in bed I’m basically another girl. She knows I want to be told what any woman wants to be told in bed: that I’m cute and sexy. My surprise came when she has asked me to wear certain nighties to bed. So we are evolving .

     

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    I have told my wife all my secrets and everyday occurrences, I told her that I have experimented with crossdressing and had sex with men and women when I was a teen and before we started dating. Yet, I haven’t told her about my recent love for crossdressing that came back very strong two gears ago. I’ve dressed up on and off since I was a 8 years old and now I just love to do it as frequently as possible, whenever I’m home alone which happens every once in a while when wife and daughter are out and about without me. On the one hand I would love to tel them and be as honest as always, but I haven’t found a good way to tell them, I don’t want to loose them and I keep kt as private as watching porn, which they don’t need to know anyways. So far, no struggles and we keep living our lives and I love my duality as private as possible. Since I have no plans of transitioning any further, I’m quite content on keep dressing when ever possible. Thanks for listening

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     Lucinda Hawkns 
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    wow had trouble getting on this morning. i thought i posted a answer on this question.Β Β  but yes wife knows and daughter might know of me wearing a bra, daughter seen a pic of me fully dressed up and showed mom, from there it was out, but i dress up in private when 2 adults kids are not home and have my fem time, wife will tell me i can do what i like to do. i am already there and loving it, but she will not see me but she has seen me more and more. but will not help with make up or sit and talk like 2 woman and ask me how i feel as a female dressed up. wife knows of my dresses, bras, nylons, make up, perfume, ear rings, heels, pads, wig skirts, blouses. i have more female cloths then she odes, i even took over her dresses for she cant fir into them any more, or even wear them, so i will

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     Lucinda Hawkns 
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    my wife found out one day when i took a pic of my self and forgot to put it away, daughter seen it showed mom. that was it. daughter might know i dress up, but i know my wife does for sure for she has seen me dress up, seen my dresses, nylons, bras, panties, pads, perfume ear rings. make up.Β  she lets me dress up when 2 adult kids are not home and i have a great time, but can share it with wife and sit and talk like 2 woman. ask me how i fill dressed up, why i dress up. for starters, she dont dress up any more like a real female unless we are going out for a wedding or dinner, i dress up more then she does and even under dress just about every day. would love to come out of the closet and dress up and be the real me but like Hanna McKnight wrote its all true. have to check her site out and read her posts.

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    Hi ladies,

    I came outΒ  to my wife before we were married, to be honest I don’t think either of us knew what would happen. Now after 30+ years she buys me stuff always asks if I want anything when she goes shopping, all I can say to you all is if you do tell your SO be honest to them and don’t push the subject, tell them your hopes and dreams but most of all keep communicating.

    If there are any partners out there who would like to chat with me or have questions please do not hesitate to get in touch. And most of all enjoy your journey of discovery.

    seasons greetings to all hugs and kisses kate

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     Giselle Reeves 
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    i came out to my wife almost 7 years ago, and after we nearly divorced over it she has become tolerant and at times almost supportive. one thing anyone thinking of “coming out” should know is that your marriage will never be the same and your wife’s trust will be gone and probably never return to where it was. also in my case our sex life no longer exists, so all i can say is thank twice, thrice and many more times before you have the talk.

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     Maggie 
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    I came out to my wife on October 20th. I couldn’t take it any more. She is a wonderful person with an open mind. She went through the usual questions before I could spit it totally out, are you having an affair? Are you gay? And I just had to blurt it out “I like to wear women’s clothes and always have!” She is very understanding and trying to accept. I have not pushed and we only have talked about it three time since the last two months. I know I have to take it slowly, but having told her is a great relief and weight removed. I no longer feel guilty, or like I am committing some crime. I feel good about this gift of femininity, for the first time truly good about it! I can relax I have been branching out and have found you ladies!

    Iloveit

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     Lucinda Hawkns 
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    yes i have but will not go any further then dressing up when kids are not home and she will not help or see me dressed up, but she has seen me but will not let me sit in same room and talk like 2 females. she knows i have my own dresses,. make up, perfume, ear rings, nylons, panties, bras, and even pads.Β  she lets me dress up but only when the 2 adult kids are not home and not see me. i have to dress in basement or my bed room and have her not see me. but what gets me is that she sneaks in to see me dressed up.Β Β  she has seen me 1 time when i was getting dressed up and it did not bother her? then why cant i sit in same room as her and talk like 2 females and ask me how i feel dressed as a female, i am a different person when dressed up as a female for you have too in order to look and pass as a female. i feel more relaxed and less depressed.Β Β Β  so for coming out to wife i did but later in the marriage.

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     Holly Close 
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    I have told my current wife and while she “doesn’t get it” she is at least a little accepting about it. She has no desire to see me dressed and has trouble talking about it at all.

    I do not mind one bit that she it’s less than eager though because my first wife was an absolute horror story when I told her. After a nasty divorce, emotional and physical abuse, threatening to take our son away from me, and lots of time she has become almost tolerable towards me. She holds it over my head and uses my fear against me, still but for the time being she doesn’t shout slander from the rooftops.

    So long story short, tell your wife; she may leave you and I’m sorry about that, but she may be accepting and no marriage should be based on lies. I realize how frightening it can be especially if you have had terrible experiences as I have in the past. I truly believe if they love you with all their heart they will stay. If they do leave take a piece of advice from me and don’t be bitter or berate them for it, relationships are hard and a lot of work but being unhappy and married is much worse than true to yourself and divorced.

    Who knows you may end up like lucky little me and have a second chance at being yourself and happy ☺

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    SexyI told my wife that I crossdressed because it made me feel good. That I loved women so much I loved to emulate them. She told me she already had seen bras under my white shirts with a tie on, and she didn’t mind. She told me she came home one day, and their I as laying in bed asleep with a bra,panties,stockings,high heels, wig,and makeup ones she decided not to wake me up, but she toke photos of me to show her girlfriends, and co-workers. I wondered why some of her male, and female co-workers came home to meet me. Then when I had told her that overtime we went to a costume party that she wanted me to dress like a hooker,witch,nurse,or just plain woman. Then she took me, and had my ears pierced, and wanted me to get breast Implants. Now I wear my hair longhand cut in a feminine style. What a joy. Now she wants me to have my male part cut offhand redone as a vagina.

    I am a male to female pre-op transgender transsexual woman. I wear anything feminine including bras,panties,stockings,high heels,dresses,mini-skirts,blouses,corsets,gaffs,waist cancers,pierced earrings,makeup,feminine jewelry,wigs,and more.

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    No I haven’t told my wife yet, but will do so in September.Β  I stopped my CD when we married, as I didn’t want to lose her. After 15 years of gradually becoming sadder and madder, I started dressing again in March of this year.Β  At this time I have to be honest with her, as I want to take this further than an hour in the basement a couple days of the week.Β  Am I afraid of losing her, very much so; but I can’t go back to being a semi-depressed person again.Β  I haven’t been this happy in 15 years, and people are starting to notice that I’m not Mr. glum all of the time.Β  If you can’t be happy, what’s the point?

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    I really can’t tell my wife she would proberly leave me she has caught me in the past wearing a bra and panties she almost left then so not now I dress when home alone and hope I don’t get caught again

    Come dress with me

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     Lucinda Hawkns 
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    my wife found out a few years ago, will let me dress up when no one is home as in kids, tells me when i can do what i like to do.Β  that is dress up. she has seen me a few times unexpected and some times where i just let her see me all dolled up. i buy my own dresses, skirts, nylons, bras, panties, and yes even pads, make up, perfume, jewelry. i seem to have more female clothing then she does. doesΒ  she help NO. but comes to my room and tells me i have too much perfume on and looks to see what i am wearing, i am fully dressed up pretty in a dress and make up and wig and ear rings and lip stick, sheΒ  knows and lets me dress up but will not help with make up or let me sit in same room with her and talk like 2 woman and get to know my fem side. Β  Β  Β  Β  Β  Β  Β  Β  Β Β  when i am dressed up as a female i am female mode and not male mode, i am Lucinda and having a great time as her, plus it is a stress release and depression and helps with my panic attacks. Β Β  will she believe me if i told her about how i feel, y iΒ  dress up. i have the answer for them all but she will not believe me. Β Β  but as long as she lets me dress up i will not push the issue. Β  thanks for reading my post

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