- No, but I really want to
- No, I'm too scared to do that
- October 3, 2022 at 1:48 pm #680897Holly MorrisParticipantRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 88Replies: 195Has thanked: 2570 timesBeen thanked: 2371 times
One of the most absolutely wonderful things to do when we crossdress is to go out shopping! That’s because shopping as a woman takes on a completely different character than it does when shopping as a man. Men are expected to shop like they hunt — quickly. They know what they’re looking for, they find it, they buy it. Boom. Done. Like conquering a city, it’s something to be done, not something to be enjoyed.
But shopping as a woman is more enjoyable and is done at a more relaxed pace. That’s because women in general tend to take their time when shopping, because they never know what they may come across that will look cute or fashionable or stylish. And of course, when you find those items, you have to try them on, right?
That’s why I absolutely love getting all dressed and made up and then going out to the mall or to the shops to browse. Whether I find anything to buy or not, I have a grand time just enjoying being a woman out among all the other women. And if I happen to find something cute to try on, then the fun takes on an entire new level of thrill and excitement! That’s because I get to go into the inner sanctum, the area of the store is that completely off limits and taboo to men, the woman’s dressing room. I’m a woman among women now, so I get to go into that dressing room with all the other women and try on that new dress or skirt or blouse or whatever! And that ladies, is one of the most wonderful and exciting things we can do!
In the women’s dressing room, that’s where we find out if we truly pass or not, and that’s where we also find out what it really feels like to be accepted by other women! We’re all in there together, in our lingerie, trying to cute clothes and dresses and such, admiring ourselves in the full length mirrors, preening a bit, looking over our shoulders to see how the item fits and looks from behind. And if we’re really lucky, another woman, a real woman, may even compliment us on our choice, of offer to help zip up a dress or something like that. And when that has happened to me, I almost faint from the sheer exhiliration of being accepted as a woman by other real women in the women’s dressing room!
So of course, that got me to wondering…
Have you ever tried on any women’s clothing in the women’s dressing room while you’ve been crossdressed as a woman?
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- November 3, 2022 at 6:45 am #688860Rachel WilliamsLadyRegistered On: November 3, 2019Topics: 8Replies: 165Has thanked: 531 timesBeen thanked: 640 times
I was on a journey home from attending a meeting and the weather had warned up from when I left home. I had travelled to the meeting in a hybrid format in that I was wearing my guy suit but with femme underwear, tights, boobs and shoes ( had intended to remove boobs and change shoes before going into meeting ).
In my hybrid state I decided to do some quick shopping so I could wear something cooler for journey home. Selected two tops and a skirt from the sale racks, paid for them and then went into a changing room to decide which top to immediately wear and emerged totally en femme with my shirt, tie, and suit in a carrier bag.
- November 3, 2022 at 6:23 am #688854Sandy CraigLadyRegistered On: March 18, 2018Topics: 0Replies: 342Has thanked: 407 timesBeen thanked: 906 times
Yes and many times, maybe 100 +.
It is absolutely my preferred way when buying dresses, skirts and jeans. As my time is limited I need to know if something looks Great On Me (IMO) and if it fits as I don’t want the hassle of returning online purchases. I have even had store seamstresses Fit and Measure a few dresses to be taken in at the waist.
- November 2, 2022 at 4:56 pm #688761Karynn NormanLadyRegistered On: October 27, 2022Topics: 1Replies: 33Has thanked: 2 timesBeen thanked: 101 times
Today was a big yes. Went to mall and visited Torrid. The salesperson was fabulous. She asked if I needed help in finding anything. I told her I was looking at corsettes and dresses. She said she would be with me when she finished with the customer. Whe finished, she showed me the items that I was looking for. We selected a few items and we went to dressing area. When I went in room, she asked me my name. I replied Karynn. When getting into corsette and putting on my top to see how it looked, she came back and asked how it was going. I noticed it really accentuated the cleaveage and seemed to pull tummy in a bit. I stepped out of room and she said, well it brought out the girls more. We both giggled and said it is a smoother look. She then said walk back to those mirrors and you can get all angle looks. I did and went back to dressing room and noticed she had my name on door. It was really cool. Afterwards, I went out and we chatted for a bit about girl talk. What a great day.
- October 17, 2022 at 8:37 am #683902johanna lynchLadyRegistered On: August 9, 2017Topics: 4Replies: 54Has thanked: 38 timesBeen thanked: 127 times
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- October 13, 2022 at 6:47 am #682987J JLadyRegistered On: September 13, 2019Topics: 4Replies: 292Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 1095 times
I have been trying on things in the ladies changing rooms for quite a few years now. I have done it fully dressed as a male and partially or fully en femme, and have never had an issue other then occasionally having to use the men’s changing room if dressed male. I do prefer these days to shop en femme, it just improves the whole shopping experience.
- October 12, 2022 at 4:18 pm #682811Michelle NelsonBaronessRegistered On: December 15, 2017Topics: 4Replies: 15Has thanked: 74 timesBeen thanked: 133 times
Yes I have and it was wonderful.
I got dressed up as a woman one day and went down to the mall. I went to a ladies clothing store at the mall. I picked out a few outfits and the sales girl showed me to a room.
I went in and tried on the outfits. Posing in the mirror and loving the way I looked.
Next to me I heard the sales girl assisting another woman. She was helping her with finding the right size bra.
At the point it really hit me what was happening. This woman probably wouldn’t be doing this if she knew there was a man next to her in another stall. But to her I wasn’t a man I was a woman, a fellow woman also trying on women’s clothing.
I felt like a real woman right then. Like I’d been met into the sister hood. I came out and bought a dress and a top.
Everyone who I interacted with saw me as a woman. This is one of the most feminine experiences I’ve had.
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- October 11, 2022 at 6:19 am #682434Paula JamesLadyRegistered On: May 23, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 15Has thanked: 4 timesBeen thanked: 89 times
HHi All. I went into Soma and was very nervous. I wore guy slacks but a pretty blouse.
At the time the store was empty so I asked the salesperson if she minded fitting me for a bra. She was happy to do so and came into the dressing room to measure me and then to bring back several bras to try on. About this time several women had come in to buy or brouse for bras. Since the dressing rooms were so small the salesperson brought me into an open area where the women could see me trying on bras. I WAS THRILLED to be seen my other women. One of them said I was brave to let the girl in me out. She then picked out a very feminine bra and asked me to try it on! I did look “girlie” in it and she said she wanted the same style for herself.
She asked the salesperson to get her one and she disrobed in font of us to put it one. “we are all girls here” she said. This was my best day ever as Paula.xoxoxo Paula
- October 11, 2022 at 2:37 pm #682546Meghan BrandiceLadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 135Has thanked: 184 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
Holy Cow! That beats all👍😉Imagine standing next to a real GG who disrobed and bared her breasts ( and empathetic heart ❤️) to you to ‘ show all’ and you being the influencing factor for her to select the same bra☺️ After you were both fitted you should have left them on and taken her out to lunch or coffee snd had girly ‘chit Chat’😀
- October 13, 2022 at 5:41 am #682968Paula JamesLadyRegistered On: May 23, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 15Has thanked: 4 timesBeen thanked: 89 times
Hi Meghan. Yes,I did see her again. I was having lunch in the mall sandwich
shop and she came over to me and asked to join me. Of course I said yes and we had what was a typical chat about what/why I was dressing as a woman. She wanted to know if I saw myself as a real woman; was I gay; and did I ever go out fully dressed. LOL YES I said
that when dressed I did feel I was fully female. Gay? I said no but I’m not sure? When dressed since I feel like a woman I have had thoughts about being with a man (I laughed and said I am still a virgin in that regard), but I also am still very attracted to women. Then we talked fashion make up shopping….the usual girl stuff.
It was a very affirming discussion.
- October 13, 2022 at 8:06 am #683007Meghan BrandiceLadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 135Has thanked: 184 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
I do hope you link up with her again and exchange numbers and emails. She could be your best ‘ Real Girlfriend’ you ever had, and a mentor, advisor but hopefully someday be a female companion that you can both go out with together , shopping, coffee or lunch or take in a movie or concert, Please keep up updated as this is a most fascinating story Paula
P.S.where you in male drab when she saw you in the mall? It’s overdue for her to see you fully dressed Paula-DO IT👍😉
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- October 10, 2022 at 9:59 am #682270April FlowersBaronessRegistered On: September 7, 2021Topics: 8Replies: 91Has thanked: 375 timesBeen thanked: 462 times
I’ve never had an issue-thus far. From the first day out en-femme, I used the women’s dressing room in department stores and changing room at a women’s only clothing stores. In fact when out in public, I use all facilities directed at women. I’m directed to the ladies room every time I ask where are the restrooms and invited into the ladies room by woman who I meet out socially.
There have been 4 instances when a woman sales clerk has walked into my dressing room to check out “how it is going” at a women’s clothing store(WHBM, Ann Taylor, M Kors) when trying on an outfit! Been surprised each time this has occurred and very lucky I was not “exposed” at the time. I’m now listening for footsteps when trying on a dress, skirt or blouse.
- October 10, 2022 at 9:49 am #682268Lauren MugnaiaDuchessRegistered On: November 1, 2021Topics: 19Replies: 490Has thanked: 6863 timesBeen thanked: 2712 times
Hi girls, yes I have many times, and always enfemme, the most recent time was this past Saturday. I also went into a costume shop looking for an outfit for Halloween. The girls at work want me to come as Snow White, the shop had several Snow White outfits in different sizes so I needed to try them on. I’m a trans woman, so always dressed. No questions asked, the sales person said, ” you can go into this dressing room M’aam” While there several other girls were waiting to try things, the sales person says, ” It won’t be long, she’ll be out soon.” Wonderful music to our ears, isn’t it girls?
Ms. Lauren M
- October 10, 2022 at 3:15 am #682194Amanda WoodsLadyRegistered On: November 26, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 103Has thanked: 181 timesBeen thanked: 436 times
Most dressing rooms are unisex, so that being said, i have tried on items of women’s clothing while in male mode, would love to be dressed as a woman though, maybe someday. But on the plus side, i think the ladies at Maurices are getting used to seeing me, and I am sure they know I am a CD.
- October 10, 2022 at 6:35 am #682234LadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 135Has thanked: 184 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
Do what comes naturally and for the store and whatever you’re comfortable with; but if you are a public going CD there’s nothing more exhilarating than being en femme and trying women’s garments on in those unisex changing rooms👍
- October 5, 2022 at 10:46 pm #681475Ellie KayDuchessRegistered On: October 4, 2022Topics: 4Replies: 27Has thanked: 109 timesBeen thanked: 270 times
Clothes are too expensive to buy without trying. I always try on dresses and skirts etc as no sizes are ever exactly the same – especially between manufacturers.
Never had a bad issue except once in a department store in Perth- I asked an elderly SA if I could try on a skirt and there were only female changing rooms and I was in DRAB mode. She wasnt too happy and told me to use the cubicle furthest away from everyone else.
Apart from that – never had an issue – Oh sorry once more – In Portmans clothing shop I was trying a dress on and the SA asked if all the ladies were ok in there and I responded yes thanks but in my male voice. I heard these two girls outside my cubicle giggling so I went out and winked at them as I went passed and paid for my new dress.
- October 5, 2022 at 12:04 pm #681395Requal JoanneLadyRegistered On: December 15, 2020Topics: 7Replies: 547Has thanked: 603 timesBeen thanked: 1852 times
- October 5, 2022 at 4:03 am #681320Diane NorthLadyRegistered On: June 24, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 3Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 19 times
I have never tried clothing in a store or anywhere else and to either buy by size or shop on-line – I must say that it’s something I have thought about so many times but am fearful it may end in tears.. I do go out en-femme quite often and as yet have had no issues but I have never been clothes shopping per se. On 2 or 3 occasions I have had a bra-fitting and that was in a small independent shop close to me – it was a most wonderful experience as I was treated as a woman and given sound advice regarding foundation wear.
- October 4, 2022 at 9:18 pm #681296Cathy FergusonLadyRegistered On: November 23, 2021Topics: 0Replies: 2Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 11 times
Communal dressing rooms are rare where I live in Australia.
Typically there are individual stalls with either doors or curtains for privacy. This means you’re never changing with anyone else.
On one occasion, there was a row of male stalls to the left, and female to the right. I was dressed but headed for the male stalls out of habit when the female attendant stopped me and said, “Madam, the ladies change rooms are the other way”.
At least she though I passed!
- October 5, 2022 at 5:31 am #681337LadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 135Has thanked: 184 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
I think you may have misunderstood the answers here. No where have I ever seen ‘communal ‘ changing rooms in this country, in any store, it’s not like in school gang showers after gym- A No! Every store anywhere ALWAYS has individual changing stalls for men’s and women’s depts , except good will, which is unisex, and you knock or look under the door to see if occupied
- October 4, 2022 at 2:00 pm #681174Rayna CarlianDuchessRegistered On: March 4, 2020Topics: 3Replies: 484Has thanked: 616 timesBeen thanked: 1768 times
Sure! I use the closest fitting room to where I’m shopping.(ladies/Men’s sections)
But, I will qualify that with this statement… If it’s SUPER busy and there’s lots of Mom’s with daughters in the fitting area… I avoid it. I know it shouldn’t matter, I’m just trying on clothing.
I just don’t need some uptight mom to freak out and call 911 on me accusing me of perving on little girls.
It’s just not worth the hassle…
- October 4, 2022 at 12:59 pm #681148Fiona BlackLadyRegistered On: November 23, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 275Has thanked: 147 timesBeen thanked: 1134 times
I am always en femme when I go shopping and have used the ladies dressing room countless times. Never had a problem. It is so exhilarating to strip down to bra & panties and try on different outfits or some lingerie.
- October 4, 2022 at 12:31 pm #681142Gail RichLadyRegistered On: October 11, 2017Topics: 5Replies: 88Has thanked: 93 timesBeen thanked: 433 times
I have tried on women’s clothes in a women’s dressing room, but I was not cross dressed at the time, although I was underdressed. I have done it quite a few times at Torrid, Lane Bryant and once at Dress Barn. I let the sales person I am shopping for myself, and ask if I may use the dressing room. I try to go on weekday mornings when the stores are relatively empty, but have been in the store (and dressing rooms) at the same time as other women.
- October 4, 2022 at 12:25 pm #681141Marlene RobertsLadyRegistered On: December 9, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 256Has thanked: 3655 timesBeen thanked: 657 times
Thanks for the post, Holly.
I have never been alone and gone to try on clothes in a “female” changing room. I have been on my own and tried on female clothes in box stores like Walmart which have combined male/female changing rooms. Once in Walmart’s the sales lady was only interested in how many items I was taking in. No comment that I was taking in dresses, or bras. However I have often when shopping with my SO for clothes for her gone into the female changing room with her so that I can critique the items. Never had a comment or even a raised eyebrow from the sales ladies. So I would not hesitate to go into the female changing room if I was shopping alone again. Right now I have far too many female clothes; yes it is possible, at least for me. Need to donate to make more closet space and then shop, shop, shop. Best, Marlene.
- October 4, 2022 at 11:41 am #681128Tami FeminineLadyRegistered On: June 21, 2022Topics: 0Replies: 2Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 9 times
Yes, quite often. I prefer to buy my girly clothes in person and try them on. Getting the advice of someone who comes with me, or a sales lady, is very helpful. I usually come out of the dressing room to model whatever I try on, and like stores that have a three way mirror so I can see how the outfit looks from different angles.
- October 4, 2022 at 10:40 am #681105melissa la quintaDuchessRegistered On: September 29, 2016Topics: 3Replies: 135Has thanked: 1008 timesBeen thanked: 431 times
- October 5, 2022 at 6:19 am #681343Holly MorrisLadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 88Replies: 195Has thanked: 2570 timesBeen thanked: 2371 times
Melissa, I agree. That would be sooo wonderful! It’s a shame we live so far apart.
- October 4, 2022 at 11:03 am #681116Shelley Anne CarterLadyRegistered On: February 4, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 5Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 21 times
- October 4, 2022 at 2:23 pm #681185LadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 135Has thanked: 184 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
Wouldn’t that be a CDH ‘Girls Day out Dream’, an all-day shopping binge, lingerie, hosiery, shoes, dresses, makeup etc.- then a group dinner at a nice upscale restaurant, on to the theater or concert and finish up at a cocktail bar for drinks. Each bring 2-3 different outfits to keep changing into depending on the venture and time of day and where we’re going; but one outfit would HAVE to be a businesswoman, downtown secretary, executive nice suit or dress, with (gartered) hosiery and heel’s,
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- October 12, 2022 at 10:51 am #682740LadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 135Has thanked: 184 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
Just aDo It! You’ll feel like real woman especially if you’re totally underdressed with female lingerie and stockings. It’s a trip👍😉
- October 10, 2022 at 3:24 am #682195Rhonda LeeBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: September 29, 2021Topics: 2Replies: 134Has thanked: 161 timesBeen thanked: 664 times
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- October 4, 2022 at 10:19 am #681101Katherine BoesemannLadyRegistered On: October 6, 2019Topics: 5Replies: 69Has thanked: 432 timesBeen thanked: 359 times
I voted “other” because I entered the stores in drab (although “underdressed” – wearing a panty).
This was in the days before I thought that I would ever attempt to go out into public spaces as a woman.
Twice I went into smaller boutique shops (situated in malls), having spotted skirts in the display window from outside.
In both instances, the lady shop assistants, though seemingly hesitant at first, were eventually completely co-operative, courteous and helpful ( on seeing, I suppose, that I was totally serious and sincere) and showed me to the changing room where I tried on the skirts. In both instances, I briefly opened the curtain and halfway stepped out, so that the assistants could view me. We proceeded to have a very helpful conversation (in both instances) about how well the skirt fit and suited me and possible alternative options.
The third time was in a larger department store, where I tried on a dress.
It was a fairly busy shopping day/hour and I had to wait in line with numerous women (holding the dress draped over my arm) while waiting for a cubicle to become available.
Nobody seemed to mind or raise an eyebrow.
PS It might add context and perspective here however, to point out that I live in a major and cosmopolitan (port) city with a well-established history/culture of tolerance of alternative sexual identities and orientations.
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- October 4, 2022 at 12:11 pm #681138Margaret LalaneLadyRegistered On: March 8, 2019Topics: 2Replies: 4Has thanked: 9 timesBeen thanked: 32 times
It’s my experience the big department stores don’t care as much, they’ve probably seen hundreds of guys try on dresses and it probably doesn’t phase them plus at the end of the day it’s a sale for them if you’re polite and don’t arouse suspicions the women shopping don’t seam to either usually occupied doing the same thing we are, the problem is getting past the mindset people are judging you (if they do that’s their problem not mine) , I prefer to get stuff on In stores (not just for ladies stuff but my male clothes too) I’m a tall dude, I hate having to ship stuff back if it doesn’t fit seams counterproductive to me…
- October 4, 2022 at 10:01 am #681094Genivieve BujoldLadyRegistered On: April 13, 2017Topics: 4Replies: 117Has thanked: 202 timesBeen thanked: 498 times
Holly, Once I went shopping for clothes en femme, I never wanted to go any other way! The sales girls were so very helpful, they helped me choose outfits that were flattering, stylish and the right colors for me. I also didn’t have to return things that didn’t fit or just didn’t look right. I had bra fittings to get just the right size and style, tried on shoes, lingerie and had a totally wonderful girly experience shopping en femme.
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- October 4, 2022 at 7:39 am #681062Deborah SullivanLadyRegistered On: February 27, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 989Has thanked: 4853 timesBeen thanked: 4319 times
Thanks Holly for the post and to make the members aware it is not so taboo. I love shopping at the malls and have my favorite stores like Macys Dillards Pennys Target as big box stores where they have been educated on handling this. I take several pieces of clothing in at once to try on in the mirror and have even had sales clerks offer advice and get different sizes of things I am interested in. I was only deterred once from a small boutique but in general they accomadate since they are only looking for sales. I am comfortable with it and still enjoy the thrill.
- October 4, 2022 at 7:17 am #681057StephaniewyLadyRegistered On: September 24, 2021Topics: 21Replies: 224Has thanked: 1050 timesBeen thanked: 1259 times
Hi Holly, fun topic. When out shopping with my wife for stephanie we have selected items to try on. I love taking them back to the ladies changing room and trying them on. A few times at Torrid stores I have put them on and had my wife and sales girl check them out. A few solo trips to the thrifts shop I found the courage to try some things on in the changing rooms but with no interaction with others. The interaction with the sales folks and my wife make it more fun.
- October 4, 2022 at 7:40 am #681063LadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 135Has thanked: 184 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
Do you out shopping dressed with your wife or alone, or in drab?
- October 4, 2022 at 11:22 am #681122melissa la quintaDuchessRegistered On: September 29, 2016Topics: 3Replies: 135Has thanked: 1008 timesBeen thanked: 431 times
Usually in drab, sadly. I’m getting braver, so I may pick a time and place and try it en femme soon. My wife would never agree to shop with me for women’s clothing.
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- October 4, 2022 at 5:55 am #681024Shelley Anne CarterLadyRegistered On: February 4, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 5Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 21 times
I had bra fittings in an NYC salon and often try on clothing in my local women’s boutique. It’s an enjoyable experience and brings on an exuberant feeling. Truly makes me feel like the woman I want to be. Thank you for sharing this poll.
- October 4, 2022 at 2:56 am #680995Angela BoothLadyRegistered On: August 1, 2020Topics: 9Replies: 1281Has thanked: 4737 timesBeen thanked: 5798 times
Trying on clothes in a changing room was one of the taboos that I had difficulty with when I first started going out. I was always unsure until one day I was in a store looking at dresses and found one I liked. I was with my mother and as I was holding it up against me an assistant pointed me to the changing room and said, ‘Madam you can try it on, we do have a dressing room’ and the rest, they say, is history….I don’t bother to ask any more in the larger stores but may just ask in smaller boutiques, but no issues. Some bigger stores have an assistant who checks you in and I have not had any problems and it is nice when you occasionally engage with other women there. Shopping as a woman is a much more relaxed affair. I meet up with a friend for coffee and it is a ritual to visit a clothes shop nearby and have a good browse and chat with the staff. It’s a socialevent whether anything is bought or not.
- October 4, 2022 at 5:23 am #681015LadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 135Has thanked: 184 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
Yes I know the feeling well, some years ago after being a regular buying customer at both The Fashion Bug, Dress Barn and Payless Shoes they treated me as a normal female customer and greeted me and called me by name’ Meghan’ and were always helpful in selecting and ringing up my sales for me. They always even unlocked the dressing room doors and said, there you go Meghan’ go try them on’! I even took out a store charge card and felt just ‘glorious’ being one of the females shopping there. In Dress Barn they even had posting for hiring position as sales clerk and I kiddingly remarked I should apply to be a new ‘ female member of their staff’! The assistant manager said “ why not , it would be fun to have you work here!” I was floored- but declined feeling that would really be pushing the envelope, Find memory!
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- October 4, 2022 at 7:19 am #681058Angela BoothLadyRegistered On: August 1, 2020Topics: 9Replies: 1281Has thanked: 4737 timesBeen thanked: 5798 times
Sometimes you need to push the envelope Meghan. A dear friend of mine offered me the chance to work in her shop to build my confidence. I did it for a while unpaid, and when one of her S.A’s left I was offered the paid role. I shredded the envelope…..
- October 3, 2022 at 9:47 pm #680972Margaret LalaneLadyRegistered On: March 8, 2019Topics: 2Replies: 4Has thanked: 9 timesBeen thanked: 32 times
- October 3, 2022 at 7:51 pm #680961Baroness - AnnualRegistered On: September 29, 2021Topics: 2Replies: 134Has thanked: 161 timesBeen thanked: 664 times
I agree. This is a special thrill!
I usually get help from my SO in picking out and assessing outfits. But a couple of my favorite times include:
– bra shopping with my daughter; I was tended to by a saleslady when she asked my grandson if he wanted to join his Mama. He loudly exclaimed for all in the store to hear: “That’s not my Mama; that’s my Papa!”
– shopping at Dillards for a bathing suit in preparation for a cruise, my SO told the saleslady that the suit we sought was for me. The saleslady then escorted me to a private dressing room in another area of the store and brought outfit after outfit for me to try on, offering helpful comments on each.
– at another Dillards, when shopping for a butt pad the saleslady not only assigned me a dressing room, but located the product vendor, who gave helpful tips on various types of shapewear garments.
As to asking permission, store policies are not uniform. I was escorting a newbie and asked a Belks saleslady if it would be a problem using the ladies’ dressing room to try on bras. She thought it fine but later got reamed out by her boss, being told that men needed to use the men’s fitting rooms. I think it best to use stores which train their employees so as not to embarrass customers… stores like Macy’s, Lane Bryant, Dillards, Sophia, Dress Barn, and Victoria Secret, among others, are sensitive and can be relied upon to treat customers with dignity, avoiding negative experiences for staff or customers.
Some have suggested it wise to call ahead if in doubt. I concur. By doing so I avoided a wig shop that frowned on male customers. As a courtesy to staff and sensitivities of female clientele, not all of whom are comfortable undressing in an area where there are men, I feel it best to stay out of sight of other female shoppers to the extent feasible, and perhaps call ahead, especially if seeking a clerk’s attention for a bra fitting or such. Accomodations can often be made after hours or at least when a shop is not apt to be terribly busy. It is always wonderful to receive help or a compliment from another woman, but unless approached, I think it best to assume that a woman would prefer privacy and to respect that privilege to the extent feasible.
- October 3, 2022 at 8:48 pm #680968LadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 135Has thanked: 184 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
Well put, play it store by store , their rules by rules, it’s their home turf and yes you are a customer but also a guest there and must consider other customers and staff sale people who may have never Seen a CD or know what we are. Play ball and fairly
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- October 3, 2022 at 7:19 pm #680958Marg ProdueLadyRegistered On: March 16, 2022Topics: 0Replies: 247Has thanked: 999 timesBeen thanked: 925 times
Hi Holly, Thanks for this interesting question. If I’m shopping and I see something that I like, I try it on in the first open dressing room. No problem, easy peasy. Just don’t be rude and forget to rehang things that you don’t want. Marg
- October 3, 2022 at 4:43 pm #680929Alice UnderwireLadyRegistered On: September 16, 2019Topics: 97Replies: 5593Has thanked: 7617 timesBeen thanked: 14620 times
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- October 3, 2022 at 2:16 pm #680910LadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 135Has thanked: 184 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
I’m with you, been one that’s done those hundreds of times over 50 years, in the past 10 or so they got to know me as a regular (albeit CD) customer calling me by name in several specialty dress Shops, The Fashion Bug, and The Dress Barn, as well as my regular store manager young girl at the now defunct Payless Shoes. One of my greatest thrills was going in the formal/semi formal ladies’ section of Macy’s and looking at cocktail and dinner party gowns, I told the middle-aged saleswoman that my husband is a corporate Vice President, and we host many semi-formal cocktail parties’ and dinners, banquets a year at ‘our Country Club’. She offered to keep handing dress and gowns over the stall half door to try on, and when emerging with a couple rear zip ones, offered to zip up my back.
WHAT A THRILLL!!!!!!!
She didn’t have a CLUE, oh I love pretending to be and impersonating a woman in public,
Ya Gotta DO IT!
Public going Meghan
- October 3, 2022 at 2:07 pm #680907Bianca EverdeneLadyRegistered On: April 11, 2017Topics: 31Replies: 988Has thanked: 4170 timesBeen thanked: 4317 times
Yes I have.
Some here may think I shouldn’t have to but I ask permission first.
I see myself and assume others see me as transgender. Not afraid or ashamed, just want to make sure the store staff don’t think I’m doing anything inappropriate. Once or twice the sales assistant has checked with the Manager, but I have never been refused.
Gone are the bad old days when I would buy something in the hope it would fit, and be too embarrassed to take it back when it doesn’t fit.
No harm in asking, what’s the worst that can happen, they say no and lose your business.
- October 3, 2022 at 2:22 pm #680911LadyRegistered On: April 15, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 135Has thanked: 184 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
In this new normal day and age Of Diversity gender bending acceptance, equality, and Inclusion, they can’t say NO! They would be libel for discrimination and gender/sexual bias and would have to allow it by law. The smartest more honest way is to be direct Up front and ask! Say” Look, I’m a CD, but also a potential customer whose money is as good as anyone, I want to do business here,” “Is it alright to privately go into your changing room and try this on?”
- October 3, 2022 at 1:56 pm #680905Caty RyanBaronessRegistered On: August 27, 2017Topics: 123Replies: 1126Has thanked: 8 timesBeen thanked: 4589 times
No outer wear, but I loved going into a department store, and browsing amongst all the pretty bras, then taking 3 or 4 of them into the dressing room. Not long after that occured, I was personally fitted for a bra in an upscale lingerie shop….A loooonnngg…way from home.
Happy dressing, (in the dressing rooms)
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