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Hi Erika, I know where you are coming from. I crossdressed as a young man, then tried to deny my desire for almost fifty years. Now I am back with even more passion as Paulette. What really helped is the acceptance I have gotten from my wife, family and friends. The big turning point was when I realized I didn’t really care what others thought, then good things began to happen! I certainly can understand your challenges being as tall as you are, but don’t forget there are many CIS ladies just as tall. I have two good friends who are as tall as you and frankly they are stunning! Welcome back to the sisterhood! Hugs, Paulette
Welcome Back Erika,
So glad you have returned to us here. Feel free to explore to your heart’s content.
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Hi Erika nice meeting you and so happy you found and joined us girls here on the best CD site on the internet so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here.. As a new sister and family member you are welcome with open arms into our home as well as yours now also .. So as reading thru you have been welcomed from many ladies that i cant add to there welcome so i will say please join in the forums and posts ask many questions and chat with many ladies here there is a wealth of knowledge here to learn from good luck..
Hugs Stephanie Bass
Hi Erika
Can only identify with what you shared..Itcis ridiculous really that we have to put ourselves through these tortuous cycles. One day the world will be less complex and more accepting of our identities. I already see growing signs but many of us are trapped in situations that force our hands. Always good to talk and share and be in solidarity with one another
Joanna x
Hi Erica
Plese don’t purge again, at least talk to us first.
You aren’t abnormal
You aren’t doing anything wrong
You have nothing to feel ashamed about.Connie
xxxWelcome back, Erika. I believe that I have a good idea of what you’re experiencing. I’ve left CDH and returned many times. It’s good to have you back. Please, reach out for help whenever you need it.
Hi Erika, I too purged several times over the years. At the start of 2021 I bought all the things I wanted to begin dressing en femme again. But this time something different was going on inside me. I knew I couldn’t purge again, wanted to remove most of my body hair, and start to allow my femme side to breathe free.
It is a shame that we can’t be free to live as we think is best for us. I hate that society and religion force us into a box of our own making that never lets in the light of love and acceptance. Erika, you have all that and more here in this sisterhood! Keep the faith and be brave!
Hugs,
Brie
You might need a bit a professional advice and to open up to that trusted person, just to get through that. The release of issues is something I did when younger, I built up stuff that caused me to need counselling due to panic attacks and breakdowns. There might be stuff in your thinking that is not helping you to self accept. You can work up to THE issue with them. And we can all advise you of course.
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You can check out but you can never leave….. true!
Purged many times over the years and always went back stronger… happy to say I’ve reached a stage where I will never purge again.
Welcome back sister!
Erika,
I’d bet the great majority of crossdressers have purged at least once. If we took a poll, my bet would be that at least 80% of us have purged, only to discover that does not stop the urges from returning and rebuilding. There is the constant conflict between accepting who we are and who we and others believe we should be in order to be acceptable. Hopefully we can all reach a level where we accept ourselves for who we are. That’s the biggest hurdle. If we can’t accept ourselves, it is tough to accept others.
Secondarily, in my mind, is deciding whether to act in a way that causes us to be more acceptable to others, even if doing so defies our own desires. That is especially difficult if the others include those who are our loved ones… our spouses in particular. Emerson, Shakespeare, and others have said it best: “To thine own self be true, for then thou cannot be false to any man.” Search for and hold onto your truth, whatever you do.
Sometimes we have to make personal sacrifices for those we love. Usually, however, a loving relationship is based on honest communication and desire of both parties to please the other. Compromises and boundaries are usually achievable in loving relationships. It takes a lot of effort and does not always play out well.
I hope you can hold onto the person you know yourself to be while navigating the difficulties that can create in relationships. Most have learned that purging is not a long-term solution, although it DOES allow us to shop again and rebuild our wardrobes… not all bad! I hope you find a way to be who you are, without regret, and this turns into a win/win situation!!
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