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Hi girls! I’ve been secretly dressing since I was a teenager. Probably a similar story to many of you. In my 20s, I lived alone and had the freedom to explore this side of me much more. I deeply enjoyed the peace that I found while dressed, but I’ve always done it alone, and have NEVER told anyone.
I got married to my wife of 23 years at age 29, and bottled up my desires for a while, instead finding an unhealthy release in related pornography. I suspect this isn’t uncommon, but please know I intend no disrespect, just sharing the truth that I’ve never found the courage to share.
During COVID, I found lots of alone time at my office, and began experimenting with underdressing. Again, I found peace in soft fabrics, and tucked bits (which sounds really unbelievable, but so true). I’ve slowly and cautiously made some recent purchases, and had a few opportunities to dress more completely (sans makeup and wig), and have had a few occasions to sleep dressed while traveling.
I long for more tips, and after almost 4 decades of solitary and embarrassed hiding, I’m hoping to make friends who can offer guidance and understanding.
I’m not willing to share this openly with anyone, including my wife, yet, but perhaps one day.
And with this, I make a huge step towards acceptance. Thank you for the community this place offers.
-love, Gemma 💜💋
Hi Gemma, and welcome. I think you will find CDH to be a great place to make friends and share your experiences. Let me say your cover photo is gorgeous. You certainly have nothing to worry about venturing out and about. As to your situation with your wife, I suggest baby steps, carefully ‘testing the water’ and leaving a safe exit if you meet resistance. I think the most important thing we heterosexual crossdressers can do is try to get the point across to our spouses that nothing has changed other than our desire to explore our feminine side. In fact, once my wife came to that realization she acknowledged that Paulette had made me a more loving and caring husband. I look forward to hearing more from you. Hugs, Paulette
Hi Gemma!!
Welcome to CDH hon. ❤️❤️ I have to agree 100% with what Paula said.
My wife didn’t know about Danica till after we were married for 20 years. That was 17 years ago!!❤️ I know now, that it was a huge mistake not telling her beforehand, but when the secret is buried so deep, and for so long, it’s not exactly the easiest thing to talk about.It finally got to the point where it was basically eating me up, and I had to do something. I was fully prepared for her to say bye-bye, but she didn’t. Anyway, after calmly talking to her, and answering the typical questions about being gay and changing sexes etc. we were able to find ways to deal with my hobby. That was 17 years ago. Baby steps, continual communication, and giving her the space she needed to digest the emotions she had and eventually realize that I’m still the man she thought she married except with a few extra qualities thrown in. Also it wasn’t something that I just woke up one morning and decided to do. ❤️❤️
You’ll be glad that you are here. Much valuable info. So many great ladies that are more than happy to share their experiences and recommendations for you. Your profile pics are very nice. ❤️ Happy Holidays Gemma!!🥰
Danica👠💋❤️💄💅
Hi Gemma welcome to CDH it’s nice to meet you, we are like one big happy family on here so don’t be shy come on in and join the family, I’m a mature crossdresser I’ve been dressing most of my life since i was about 8 or 9 years old when i tried my older sister’s lingerie on, I can relate to your story because mine is about the same as yours I’m still in the closet to my wife and family, I thought i could be (cured) if i got married too but once the pink fog gets hold of you there’s no going back, once a girl always a girl, I’m sorry i can’t meet up with you for a coffee ☕ I’m on the other side of the pond in the UK, I’m sure there are lots of girls near to where you live who will be happy to meet up with you for a coffee and a chat, I’m sure you will find lots of friends on here so if you have any questions just ask and the girls will get back to you, we don’t judge anyone on here it’s a safe place for everyone we are all sister’s together X 🎀
Hugs Rozalyn X 💋
Hello, Gemma. Welcome to CDH. You have come to the right place for support and advice. All of the ladies are willing to help you with your journey and your questions. Feel free to ask questions and we will we will be happy to help you. I have been dressing for awhile and I am still learning how to look my best. Hugs, Allysa
Hi Gemma nice to meet you and so happy you found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here.. As a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. Well girlfriend there is a wealth of knowledge here to access and learn from so look around and ask many questions of these wonderful ladies here telling there stories about the femme road they are on .. So when you are comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Gemma as she travels down her own girly path in life .. Now girl as for making friends here there are so many ladies to build long lasting friendships with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you.. So once again girlfriend nice to meet you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime..
Stephanie Bass
Hello Gemma welcome to CDH I am glad you have shared a part of who you are I can definitely relate to your background I am so glad you found us and made the step to become part of a family that is welcoming, understanding, compassionate, and supportive. While we are all similar and have many of the same desires we all differ on our goals or public expression and or level of personal experiences. I encourage you to explore the many forums, topics, polls and member biographies found here as there are a wide range of members all over the spectrum of feminine expression or those on the path to transition and those that have. There are also links to websites that have products and services that may help you on your own personal path of acceptance and self expression. Ultimately it is a place, home, or world were you can feel feel comfortable and confident in who you are; as being who you truly are as your authentic self of you being a man, a woman, or expressing your feminine desires feelings and or qualities. I am happy you are here and have made a choice to accept this part of yourself as self acceptance is the most important thing you can do for yourself and others. You can’t expect others to accept you if you don’t accept yourself all of you. As you are sharing a part of your authentic self here on CDH it ultimately lifts some of the burden that you may be feeling which many of us have carried for what seems like a lifetime you are not alone. I am happy you have made the step to be here. Welcome!
Hugs April
Gemma
welcome, express yourself with complete confinance. Here our ladies are so understanding and very supportive. Meet with some of them and enjoy their help and most of all acceptance to make your time here such a wonderful experience. Making friendships is so much fun and know there’s always someone here to talk to and to listen when needed. Happy to meet you and hope to see you sometime here soon. Hugs
Stephanie 🌹
Welcome Gamma
You are among friends. We’re a very loving and supportive
group. You are not alone. Stay positive and safe.
New Years Hugs
GingerI have been full time girl 👧 since I was 9 till now at 62. Well what you are doing is very difficult I am one that can’t hide who I am. You can get with us about things we are glad to have you welcome to the site
Hi Gemma
Welcome to CDH, a large and welcoming family. It’s a pleasure to meet you here.
Here you will be able to exchange opinions and information and find support to go forward in your enfemme adventure.
Have fun participating in the forums, polls and questionnaires.
Here no one is judged, but always welcomed with a warm embrace.I’m Greta, a 56-year-old CD/TG person (I’m taking my first steps in HRT); with a life a little complicated by having to hide my gender identity for too long ….. when I’m alone at home and I know I have no guests I’m Greta, if I’m at work or I have guests at home I’m Greta dressed in unisex clothing outwardly like Mr. Antonio but wearing my women’s underwear of course.
XOXOX from Italy 🇮🇹
Greta ❤️Hi Gemma (great name BTW),
Reading your intro, I identify with so much of what you say. Speaking personally, I have found joining CDH to be an incredible benefit – the first place where I can openly talk about being Gemma with others, who genuinely understand.
Good luck with your onward journey.
Gemma. 💋
Thanks girl! I’m surprised to find another Gemma here, but how lucky am I? After several years of denial after a big purge, I’m once again building up a secret stash of girly things, and taking steps to make more time to explore my desires. Hoping desperately to find friends that I can share the experience with, even if only here online. ❤️💋
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