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Hello. Im new to this and wide has been wanting to go out in public with me as a woman and im very nervous. Any suggestions?
Hi Sarah and welcome to CDH! Sweetie……there is nothing to fear except fear itself. Take a deep breath, put on a stiff upper lip a “Carry-On”. I don’t know how you are going to dress but may I suggest something simple for your first couple of times? Pair of black flats, blue jeans, white shirt and short haired wig? Perhaps a light colored lip-stick and a bit of blush?
That should make you look quite “one of us” to the general masses. After a few times….then try longer hair and maybe a dress or fancier top. Each time you go out….it will get easier….trust me.
Get luck….I will be there in spirit urging you forward and with your wife…….you’ll do fine.
Hugs to you both…….
Dame Veronica
Well that kills what we have .Lol. All we have a long blonde hair wig, black dress, heels and stockings that what we had planned for dinner. I can walk in heels .Ive never had a problem with that im just nervous because wife wants to go to dinner and out to a bar and im just nervous because i know if something bad happens i wont do it again .And wife enjoys ut a lot and wants to do it often
Hi Sarah, welcome to CDH. I can fully understand your nervousness, as I too have not been out yet. On the plus side, at least you have some support from your wife. The question you ask, is a vicious circle! if you do go out, you will feel nervous, but if you dont go out, you’ll never know! I think how i’d tackle it, is short walks outside first, with your wife, to build your confidence up a little, gradually progress further along, maybe going further, or stopping off somewhere thats not overly busy. I will not lie to you and say that things may not happen, they could, but without experience, and I count myself in this, nothing is gained. Thanks for joining us and I wish you every success with your wife 🙂 .
Fiona xxx
Hi Anonymous!
I have over come this by going out in “hybrid mode”. That is, I wear femme clothing that is not entirely or obviously femme.
I exclusively wear womens jeans, tight and tapered at the ankle, with femme shoes/booties and obviously wearing hose or tights underneath, along with panties and cammies. I wear what I refer to as “boho-punk-cowboy” shirts over my cammies, and generally denim jackets with some embellishments on them. (Of my own design).
I know people notice the femme things, but the more I’ve done it the more comfortable I am. In fact I am very comfortable being dressed like this, and do so in front of my SO (wife), who does not accept my dressing.
Take small steps, and work yourself into it. It feels good, gains confidence and you become more relaxed. Oh too, I regularly shop in the “womens sections” of stores. This is another step (for me) in terms of “coming out” and getting comfortable with myself, which translates to being more comfortable around others. Do be prepared however, for any reactions that are not pleasant. You will learn to “look the other way”, and keep feeling fabulous!
Hope this helps in some way!
Love and hugs,
Rebekka
to prepare for the possibility of venturing out is one that many of us try to accomplish. It’s certainly a big step, one of determination and courage , one where confiniance is needed to pursue a dream that we hold deep inside each and everyone of us. Being here at Cdh with its wealth of information and our wonderful and understanding ladies really help me to follow that dream and just a month ago it became reality . It’s amazing how ones journey will be when help is there to which i am so appreciated to have and I hope you see this site as the hope you are looking for to venture into your paths through this wonderful world. And to go out with the girls and have a night out would be fabulous. Very happy to welcome you to our family.
Stephanie 🌹
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