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Hi ‘Sheer’ (do you have a fem name?)
These are 2 separate issues and both are welcome here. There are many heterosexual CD/TG on this site and all have something to say and offer to the forum.
As to being in a wheelchair, there is nothing but support for you here and again there are several members who have disabilities to manage and overcome but are still active members of the community.
I believe that it maybe the venues which you have attended which were the issue and not yourself. So if they cant see that you are a big part of the diversity spectrum then they are denying areas that embrace the whole ethos of what LGBT++ mean.
Welcome and hope you enjoy being part of the forum
Dawn xxx
Hi Sheer!
I am a straight CD. Not on a wheelchair, but in a very happy and stable marriage with a wife who knows about my CDing. (And a young kid who doesn’t 😛 ).
I tried “the other side” in the past. I went out with a guy a few times and had a relationship but I decided that it wasn’t making me as happy as being with a girl. That’s why I consider myself straight, or at most “bicurious” but without any romantic interest in men whatsoever. I like femininity, wherever that comes from.
I have many IRL friend that are CD and straight. I don’t think they are a rarity, and if men could be more open about their interest in soft and feminine clothing, I am sure that many more would surface.
I have seen CDs on a wheelchair before on the Internet. Some or Reddit, some on FL.
I feel it would be easier for me to be more open about my feminine side if I was gay, but I’m not!
Feel if I did show up with my make up on, or in a silk pink top in public people would be nodding and whispering ‘ I always knew he was homosexual in denial!’
Or maybe it’s just another preconception in my head I have to get over!!! So many barriers in here🤣
❤️Bianca
I’m a heterosexual crossdresser and I don’t worry if I fit in or not. I don’t try to meet someone’s expectations but just my own. I fit in with my self and that to me is the perfect fit. Be glad you are here, the girls here will not judge you but will be here to help when needed and to listen when you want to be heard.
Hugs,
Carla
Hi, Sheer
Welcome to CDH!
I would like to echo what my sisters here have said and have not so much new to add. There are lots of us here who are heterosexual and are at various stages of openness as we explore our feminine side via CD. I have experienced nothing but love and support from everyone here regardless of sexuality. There simply is no judging, just sharing of ideas, strategies, fashion tips, confessionals, the whole nine yards, as they say! Reach out, participate, enjoy, and explore. You will be part of this lovely family before you know it!
Hugs,
Ginny
Sheer I am a long time dresser and over the years I can say the vast majority of cders are hetro and married. Some of those have been bicurious at times but not the majority. As a gay cder here I can say I am in the minority. As far as the gay community goes there is a tolerance for drag which is entertainment and it is a minority of gays that enjoy that life experience as I have but for the most part gay men arent interested in other gay men that crossdress. Going to a gay bar dressed can make you feel isolated . The one thing uniting us all here together is the experience of being a woman and not sexual orientation. Enjoy the company here hon
Hi, Sheer
And welcome to CDH. It seems odd that the gay community has a thriving social culture, while the much larger hetero CD group does not. We have a couple of big conferences (halted by COVID) and Tri-Ess, which is in decline and also blocked from activity by COVID. That leaves us with only online activity; but you will find that this site can be very satisfying, and you can make some very good friends here, if you wish.
Bettylou
Hi Bettylou,
I think the reason the gay community has a thriving social culture is because we stood up and fought for it. Being gay and crossdressing are two very different things. The gay community is one of the most welcoming and one of the least judgemental of any community I know. Sorry if I’m being sensitive.
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Kim.No offense meant, and none taken, Kim. You all outed yourselves, and gained political clout; whereas most of us are still in hiding – at least half from our own spouses. We will never improve our lot under those circumstances.
Thanks Bettylou,
It’s so ridiculous that anyone has to fight for “rights”. Sometimes society is so neanderthal. I admire what you’re doing and you’re looking good doing it too. Go girl.
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Kim.
P.S. Welcome Sheer. As others have said CDH is the bomb.The most wonderful people.
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Kim.
Welcome to CDH Sheer, nobody here cares what sexual label you are. Nor the fact that you are wheelchair user. None of that matters at all here. If you c/dress then you have friends here, support, and understanding and a home here too. Mind you, you definitely will have to have a sense of humour, some of us are off the wall there at times (I mention no names) welcome and enjoy sweetie.
Welcome to CDH, Sheer. I too am a hetro crossdresser, though it seems in popular culture was are perceived as gay. I have had that question quite a number times when I’ve told people about my dressing. Though I a large number are hetro.
Either way, that doesn’t really matter here. This is a great and accepting place to meet and chat with many others.
Amy
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