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    • #648115
      Val’sheril Starsong
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      Registered On: March 3, 2019
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      Welcome Saleena!

      I have mixed feelings as I’m sure you do about your SO’s response.  On the one hand, that is a gift horse you do not want to look in the mouth, often a partner will just walk out once that sort of secret is revealed.  On the other… well, she obviously wants Saleena at arms’ length, as well as some restrictions on your ability to express yourself online.  If it were me I would do my best to honor her wishes even if you don’t understand them.

      Either way know that you have a multitude of likeminded sisters here, many far wiser than myself, so if you find yourself in need of guidance, fashion advice, or even just casual conversation, don’t be afraid to raise your voice.

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      • #648140
        Saleena Andrews
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        Registered On: May 14, 2022
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        Thank you for your advice. I agree, my situation could have been a lot worse. Still not out of the woods by a long shot. To make this work, we are setting boundaries and one of them is not posting pictures and I have to and will respect that.

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      Katie
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      Registered On: April 15, 2020
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      Hi Saleena,
      May I suggest that you use FaceApp if you want to post pictures? Nobody can ever tell it is you.
      Hugs,
      Katie

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    • #647367
      Danielle MacGuffin
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      Welcome Saleena! Slow baby steps is the best policy with a SO. This is just as difficult for her as it is for you.

      Xoxo,

      Dani

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    • #647345
      Amber Lynn
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      Registered On: April 30, 2022
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      Welcome Saleena,

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    • #645984
      Jocelyn Beyoody
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      Saleena be careful. If she is anything like my wife. She is building her case. I was told, on numerous occasions, how supportive she is. Only to discover she has been going behind my back to a couple of family members and friends. I am being forced to come out to all. She treatens to share it with everyone. It has become very hostile. Spewing vitriol at me every conversation. So my advice to you, and it pains me to feel this way, do not disclose everything at once. Peace meal it. Be extra cautious.

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      • #646068
        Saleena Andrews
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        Registered On: May 14, 2022
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        Thanks, Jocelyn. Seems like you are in a very difficult place. I will take your advice and tread carefully. My wife and I are both navigating this slowly.

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        • #646240
          Jocelyn Beyoody
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          I’m not trying to be a debbie downer. Sometimes, I’m so caught up in the emotional tornado, just in my own head, I forget my wife didn’t have a clue. I blindsided her with all this.  I do have empathy for her when she remineseces of when we first met.  I have to fib about certain times to keep her perception in tact. I hope there is a day we can talk openly. I have faith, afterall I do love her. I trusted her to share my darkest screte.

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    • #645897
      Jess Secret
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      Registered On: February 18, 2021
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      A big warm welcome to CDH Saleena!

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    • #645885
      Terri Anne Knoan
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      Registered On: February 7, 2018
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      Hello Saleena,

      Welcome to our amazing CrossDresserHeaven (CDH) site. So glad you have joined us here. Feel free to explore all that our site has to offer.

      The Warmth, Compaasion and Hospitality of our community members can be found throughout the site.

      Please do make use of the forums and articles or public chat room and friendships offered here on CrosDresser Heaven.

      At any Membership level, You can contact any of us via [ PM ] Private Messages.  You can find that link on each member’s Wall under their Profile picture.

      Also, you may find what you need such as Help Center or Ambassadors by using the links in the top R/H drop down 3 bar [ hamburger ] menu.

      Here is a good link to review the membership levels and the privledges for each. Such as Private Chat, Groups, etc.

       

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      Terri Anne, Ambassador

       

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    • #645851
      Liara Wolfe
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      Welcome to CDH. Wish I could give you some advise but I have my own issues with my wife.

      Hugs, Liara

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      • #645854
        Saleena Andrews
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        Registered On: May 14, 2022
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        Hi Liara,

        This is the place to seek help/guidance. I am new to this, but maybe we can help each other.

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    • #645797
      Suzanne Martin
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      Registered On: January 8, 2020
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      Saleena –

      Welcome to CDH.

      My wife knows of my dressing and doesn’t want to see me dressed, however, she is supportive in her own way.  She has heled me shop online and with fittings on things I have gotten.  I know it sounds a bit strange that she will do that when she doesn’t want to see me dressed but she says if I am going to dress I may as well look pretty.  I think the doesn’t want to see me dressed means she doesn’t want to hang out watching TV with me dressed, makes sense to me, just wish it wasn’t so.  Like you I can’t post pictures which is something I would like to do.  Maybe someday.

      Look forward to seeing you in chat.

      Take care and as always stay pretty.

      XOXO
      Suzanne

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      • #645848
        Saleena Andrews
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        Registered On: May 14, 2022
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        Thank you, Suzzane! My situation does seem similar to yours. We are talking everyday and I am encouraging her to ask me questions. At this point, nothing I lose and everything to gain with being forthright.

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    • #645780
      Paulette Parfois
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      Registered On: November 17, 2021
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      Welcome Saleena! You have found a wonderful place to come to express your femininity. I know it has been great for me. I am happy to hear you have come out to your wife. I know a lot of girls who have not been able to do so, and many are tormented by it. I can also understand her reluctance to fully embrace Saleena. My wife initially had a difficult time with ‘too much’ Paulette, though now she buys her clothes and poses for photos with her. I am beginning to realize the best way to gain the acceptance of your spouse in in slow ‘baby steps’. At least that is what seems to be working for me. Take care. Hugs, Paulette

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      • #645850
        Saleena Andrews
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        Registered On: May 14, 2022
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        Hi Paulette,

        Thank you for the kind words. A world of weight has been lifted off my shoulders. However, in doing so, I have now burdened her with it. I have reminded her that what I am today is all because of her and her standing by me. Need to keep reminding her about how special she is to me.

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        • #645868
          Paulette Parfois
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          You really brought up a good point. My wife tells me that letting Paulette have some room in my life has made me a more loving and caring husband. And that’s not bad in my book!

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    • #645747
      Stephanie Bass
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      Registered On: November 30, 2019
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      Hi seleena nice to meet you and so happy you found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy your self here .. As a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. So sorry for wifes reluctance to support you Just dont fret girlfriend as keep the lines of comunifications open between you both .. Many girls here have supportive wifes as me included there since marrage back 39 years ago .. If it would help ?? we have a group here for wifes and significant others to help with questions she might have and can ask many gg ladies as her self  that we have no access to just them if you think she might be intrested in this it could help..  Good luck girl and hope to see you around for a chat sometime..

      Stephanie bass

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    • #645740
      Tracy Silk
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      Registered On: December 13, 2020
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      Saleena, maybe private email swapping also where in Cal are you located sweetie. I am in the same situation as you are. Tracy palm springs

       

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    • #645724
      Alice Underwire
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      Registered On: September 16, 2019
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      Hi Saleena,

      Welcome to CDH.

      Alice

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    • #645700
      Stephanie Flowers
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      Registered On: June 26, 2017
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      Saleena this is certainly the place you’ll find many of the answers you are seeking. Look into our forums written by others who talk about their experiences, their questions they may ask with many offering help and advice so everyone can understand better on so many confusing topics. Sorry about your wife’s lack of acceptance. Many face this troubling ordeal but be asured  you have that support and help from everyone here .  Relax, get comfortable and enjoy being part of this wonderful community that really does care for all that passes through our doors. Very happy meeting you and welcome.

       

      Stephanie 🌹

       

       

       

       

       

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      • #645702
        Saleena Andrews
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        Registered On: May 14, 2022
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        Thank you, Stephanie, for the warm welcome. This is a great place to seek help who are going through what I currently am.

        Saleena

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        • #645705
          Stephanie Flowers
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          I did 5 years ago,  not as bad but not too accepting. Over time with much patience she slowly started to emerge in time. Many conversations when she decided to and guidelines and conditions but it’s working well. Hope in time things could become better. Hugs ❤️…

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    • #645684
      Tara Ryan
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      Registered On: April 20, 2021
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      Hi Saleena,

      Welcome, it is lovely to meet you, I hope you make lots of new friends here.

      I came out to my wife after we have been going out for three weeks and we have now  been married for many years.  We have always discussed Tara and come to an agreement about when and where Tara can come out.  I am happy to chat and offer any help I can.  Please feel free to message me anytime.

      Tara.

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      • #645690
        Saleena Andrews
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        Registered On: May 14, 2022
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        Hi Tara,

        This is exactly what I need. Shall you send you direct message?

        Thanks,

        Saleena

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    • #645655
      Christina Isme
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      Yes for those with wife’s it is difficult 😞 the wife wants it to revolve around her, and that can make things difficult. She imagines things one way, that’s where compromising needs to happen. I personally been Christina full time since I was 9 till 62. The girls 👧 in the chatt room can help you, just go into the chatt room and get to know everyone and welcome to the site

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      • #645656
        Saleena Andrews
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        Registered On: May 14, 2022
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        Thank you! Is there a specific chat room you suggest?

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        • #645658
          Christina Isme
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          Just go to the top of the page and tap chatt that one will get a good one to start with

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    • #645647
      Natasha Inaskirt
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      Registered On: August 6, 2020
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      I’m sorry to hear your difficulties, in my experience time is the best solution. Don’t push her, but also don’t stop dressing when you can.

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      • #645653
        Saleena Andrews
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        Registered On: May 14, 2022
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        Thank you, Natasha. We are defining the boundaries.

        Any advice on posting pics? Is this a safe place here?

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