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    Leah Santini
    Registered On: January 5, 2018
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    Okay I continue to have this problem. I’ve mastered walking in heels including stilettos (up to three inches), but I haven’t figured out how to stop my heels from slipping out the back. I’ve purchased some straps for my heels to hold things together but I’d really like to be able to wear classic pumps without any straps.

    I’ve tried pads in the toes, pads around the heel, and pads in the soles all to no avail.

    Do I simply need to buy slightly smaller size shoes and put up with the toe pain? We girls do have to suffer for our fashions, after all!

    Any thoughts would be appreciated!


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      Bianca Everdene
      Registered On: April 11, 2017
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      I do buy them a bit snug to prevent slippage.

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      Registered On: March 23, 2016
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      Hey Leah. Do you happen to wear hosiery with your heels?

      It took me years to realize that wearing tights, pantyhose, or even knee highs were causing my feet to slip and side in heels, and my walk became more slippery, and awkward.

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      Lara Tucker
      Registered On: September 29, 2021
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      I will have to agree with Jocelyn also. Shorter strides help a lot. Also putting one foot in front of the other, which helps that hip swivel too. The only time my heel comes out is if I “man stride”.
      Hey it can happen to the best of us: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VwLa-Y3gKl8


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      Teri Linnealis
      Registered On: January 28, 2022
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      Leah, I have a nice pair of heels that also would do what it could to leave you in a pile of humiliation on the floor. They slept unbothered in there lair until I read this post yesterday. Someone suggested adhesive. I thought “what the hell do I have to lose”. I use 3 M industrial doubled  sided tape (available at Walmart in hardware) for adhering fake nails. I cut two 2″ long pieces and stuck them in the heel of the shoes, slipped my feet in and stepped down hard. I walked around the house for 3 hours with not one heel slip. I do not know how hard it will be to remove the adhesive residue but it sure beats throwing away some very nice shoes. Hope it works, Hugs TERI

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      Suzanne Martin
      Registered On: January 8, 2020
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      Leah –

      I have the same problem with my pumps.  I have the toe stuffed with some cotton batting (the stuff they stuff pillows and stuffed animals with) and it seems to work okay.  I have to admit though that I only dress at home so any walking I do is minimal.  You may want to look at buying a wider width shoe in a smaller size.  I did that and it worked out well.


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      Stephanie Green
      Registered On: June 23, 2022
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      I’ve worn pumps with 4, 5 and 6 inch heels and haven’t had a problem with my heels slipping out of the shoes as I’ve walked.  I wear a size 12.  All of my shoes are made buy Pleaser.  The shoes fit well, snug but not too tight.  I kept trying on shoes until I found ones that felt good on my feet.

      Jocelyn makes a good point about taking short strides.  I keep my stride short and put one foot directly in front of the other with each step.   I started doing that to  make my hips sway as I walk, but I can see how it would help keep my heels from slipping out of the shoes.

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        Stephanie MacNeil
        Registered On: January 31, 2022
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        I agree with Stephanie and Jocelyn that shorter strides and controlling your walking motion can be part of the solution.  I used to have an issue with my pumps (usually 3-4.5 inches) sliding off my heel until I started shortening my stride, letting my hips sway more and keeping some light downward pressure on my toes.  As a guy, my walk is utilitarian and trying to get from A to B fast.  Dressed as woman, I’ve changed that to a deliberate, slower, controlled motion.

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    • #662302
      Registered On: January 9, 2021
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      I feel your pain Leah, literally! I must be guilty of wearing shoes that are too small because they don’t slip but my feet hurt for weeks after keystone. Two full days in heels may just be too much for me. Lol

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      Jocelyn Beyoody
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      I had a similar Problem. I thought it was shoe size. Went small, down one size. It worked. My toes suffered tremendously, especially with certain styles.
      On a night I went out dressed. A girl told me me stride was too long. Girls have short, deliberate strides. Since then, I don’t even slide out of my mule’s.

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      Cerys Burton
      Registered On: February 2, 2021
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      I use sticky silicone style heel grips, I bought them off Amazon. They sit under the heel of you foot and run up the back of the shoe. So they cushion as well as grip. search for Ballotte invisible heel grips.
      It’s all very well people saying try different sizes and brands…. I’m a UK size 10. I don’t get a lot of choice 🙂


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        Camryn Occasionnel
        Registered On: December 10, 2018
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        Hey, thanks for the tip, Cerys! I have this problem Leah describes. I checked Amazon, found the Ballotte heel inserts and they’re on my Save-for-Later queue.

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      Stephanie Bass
      Registered On: November 30, 2019
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      Hi Leah please keep us up to date with your results as i have a few pairs that do the same not all as a size 11 womens most fit well but a few brands do slip thanks ..


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      Celeste Starre
      Registered On: June 26, 2018
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      I would suggest keep looking.  Shoe sizes often differ from one brand to another.  If there are free shipping and free returns then you can try a bunch of different brands until you come up with one that works.  If not there is always Ebay. I must have sold well over 100 pairs there over the years for one reason or another.  It also takes some time to break in a pair of heels so if you find a length that works without slipping but the toe area is a tad snug it will improve over time.

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      Michelle Isgurly
      Registered On: October 12, 2021
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      Try using some max hold hair spray in them, works for me

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      Brittney Andrews
      Registered On: August 1, 2019
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      Hello Leah; if cobblers/shoe-smiths can stretch leather shoes a little to make them wider or longer, I wouldn’t see why they couldn’t shrink or collapse them to make them smaller so your heel won’t slip out when you take a step.

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