- September 26, 2023 at 10:55 am #768797Holly MarieParticipantRegistered On: August 8, 2022Topics: 17Replies: 227Has thanked: 227 timesBeen thanked: 1071 times
In the early hours of yesterday, I went out (en femme) for a walk around my neighbourhood. The first thing I noticed was that I really don’t have good fashion sense; no matter how much I try, I really can’t match my shoes/tights/skirt etc – ho, hum. The next thing that I noticed is that – even though it hadn’t been too long since I’d done so – I just couldn’t quite get used to wearing high heels! Even before I’d gone 400 yards, my legs felt stiff, my calf muscles ached and (despite it being quite cool) I was sweating like crazy – and it was all because I couldn’t quite get the knack of how to walk in high heels on a slightly uneven pavement. I try to follow the usual rules; head up, shoulders back, keep your feet in line and swing your hips a bit – anyone got any other clues? Or should I just buy a pair of flats… which sounds like giving up to me! Is the answer just practice, practice, PRACTICE!!!? I’d really love any advice… Holly XXX
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- October 24, 2023 at 1:48 am #775328Roberta BroussardDuchess - AnnualRegistered On: July 20, 2020Topics: 7Replies: 687Has thanked: 8795 timesBeen thanked: 3534 times
Walking on an uneven surface in a narrow-heeled shoe is about the hardest thing you can do. Many girls find that wedges give the arch and muscle training that you need. Then graduate to a wider heal show of moderate height. Once you master that it’s a lot easier to move to higher and narrower heeled shoes.
However, you must only wear shoes that fit. There are many videos on how to help make a shoe fit but that’s only for minor adjusting. If a shoe doesn’t fit right, you are wasting your money. You will never be able to walk right, if they make your feet hurt after 20 steps. They don’t get better. Open toe shoes are also easier to wear than closed toe. Lots of pretty shoes out there but you have to start with a shoe that fits you right.
- October 23, 2023 at 11:05 pm #775315Greta “Moody” La FolleLadyRegistered On: August 6, 2022Topics: 8Replies: 584Has thanked: 1024 timesBeen thanked: 2107 times
Hi dear Holly
I think you just need to practice your enfemme outings. The trick to being more natural when walking in heels is to practice practice practice. The fact that you don’t feel fashionable is of relative interest, it will be the looks of other people that will make you understand whether your look is ok or can be improved. It’s just a matter of practice.
Enjoy your practice time!
XOXO from Italy
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- October 23, 2023 at 7:49 pm #775264Danielle AnayaLadyRegistered On: January 3, 2020Topics: 18Replies: 142Has thanked: 177 timesBeen thanked: 1075 times
- September 28, 2023 at 2:45 pm #769266Jill LaceyLadyRegistered On: December 25, 2022Topics: 4Replies: 366Has thanked: 442 timesBeen thanked: 1175 times
Try also to relax each step on the heel, rather than the ball of your foot. Many have spent their time en femme tip toeing around causing pain. Let your weight rest on the heel. Oh, get some almost flats too. You won’t look out of place either. I found that wedges solve both issues and are super sexy.
- September 29, 2023 at 10:13 am #769406Holly MarieLadyRegistered On: August 8, 2022Topics: 17Replies: 227Has thanked: 227 timesBeen thanked: 1071 times
Hiya, Jill; sorry, but I just plain don’t like wedges. I can see that they don’t necessarily look bad – they just look really bad on me! Yes – it’s important to walk like you would wearing boys shoes; still do it heel first and just naturally roll onto the ball of the foot.. I’m just wondering if you may be right about “almost flats” – they just seem to be wrong though; I’m a girl and girls wear high heels! I may just have to face reality though, and accept that I’m getting past it! Love you: Holly XXX
- October 5, 2023 at 6:11 pm #770726Jill LaceyLadyRegistered On: December 25, 2022Topics: 4Replies: 366Has thanked: 442 timesBeen thanked: 1175 times
Oh Holly, I wish I could say the sex appeal of heels didn’t bite me for years, still does really. I still wear heels, just not over 3.5 inches anymore and really, prefer 3 inch for a full day of wearing. The wedges just grabbed me one day, a patent black strappy pair, and I grabbed them imm3iately, and then realized just how comfortable they were and pretty sexy too! Now I wear them or booties daily. I’ll save those 4” and higher for special nights out.
- September 27, 2023 at 12:24 am #768926Coleen EdinburghLadyRegistered On: November 27, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 89Has thanked: 668 timesBeen thanked: 369 times
Are you wearing the correct size and width. Remember women’s feet are a lot thinner than ours. If you try to put a wide foot in a narrow heel recipe for pain. Women who wear flats most of the time find wearing heels occasionally a painful experience. I found small heel 2” to start with practice till you can wear all day. Then increase the height of your heel again practice and keep going till it becomes natural.
- September 28, 2023 at 10:01 am #769223LadyRegistered On: August 8, 2022Topics: 17Replies: 227Has thanked: 227 timesBeen thanked: 1071 times
Now getting round to viewing the many replies I’ve had to this question; thank you, ladies! Pretty sure I’m wearing the right size of shoes – though as I wear a size 12 (I think that is 46 in Europe and 15 in the US?) my choice is limited… I own a pair of size 12 sandals that seem far too big, plus a pair of size 11 sandals that seem perfect… and a pair of size 11 thigh boots that are, frankly, far, far too snug… I think your point about wearing heels occasionally is probably the one that hits the nail; keep wearing heels and they will become second nature. My calves have only just recovered – so it’s time to put them through hell again! Love you all: Holly XXX
- September 27, 2023 at 12:14 am #768924Frederique BoisdouceLadyRegistered On: August 4, 2023Topics: 7Replies: 75Has thanked: 214 timesBeen thanked: 428 times
What I found to be very useful, is swaying my arms around my body to the front and back. Not like someone speed walking, but graciously in round arcs, fingers pointing down. As a result, the hip swaying feels and looks very natural and you don’t need to concentrate on your hips. Instead, you can concentrate on putting one foot in front of the other, which is difficult and unstable, but – to my view – essential for the real feminine high heeled walk.
I must say that I had no difficulty walking in high heels from the start, but that may have to do with doing Tai Chi every morning for the last 23 years, which gives you very strong ancle muscles and a good sense of balance.
Good luck with your practice, but also: have fun!
Big hug, Frédérique
- September 26, 2023 at 11:29 pm #768921Clarissa CrossLadyRegistered On: July 17, 2021Topics: 8Replies: 284Has thanked: 2708 timesBeen thanked: 1089 times
I use wedges or block heels for training and then I go for the spikes now and then when I feel for it.
Practise is the keyword and also instructional videos on you tube.
Jus go for it, its so wonderful to walk in heels.
- September 28, 2023 at 10:40 am #769231LadyRegistered On: August 8, 2022Topics: 17Replies: 227Has thanked: 227 timesBeen thanked: 1071 times
Wonderful to walk in heels – who could argue with that? But I really don’t like wedges or block heels – any heel more than 1″ width just doesn’t seem right… No real idea why I don’t like wedges, no matter how slim the wedge may be – they just don’t look right to me. I think that the only answer is indeed practice, PRACTICE, PRACTICE: let’s just hope that my hamstrings can stand the strain! Holly XXX
- September 26, 2023 at 11:11 pm #768918HarrietteLadyRegistered On: April 22, 2023Topics: 16Replies: 982Has thanked: 3517 timesBeen thanked: 2408 times
“I just couldn’t quite get used to wearing high heels! Even before I’d gone 400 yards, my legs felt stiff, my calf muscles ached” Holly
There is a lot of info here.
What was the height of the heels, though? If you hadn’t practiced in the heels for a while, maybe they were too high.
If the heel was a spike, then you would be less stable than if you wore, say, a block heel or wedge.
How stable are your ankles? Any other foot problems? As we get older, our calves and hip flexors become weaker and aren’t as mobile. Do backwards leg lifts for your hips and lots of calf raises for your legs, to strengthen them.
Then, of course, practice as much as you can.
I hadn’t exercised for a few days, so I went for a midnight walk around my neighbourhood, before going to bed. I wore a new wedge that I hadn’t worn outside yet. I learned a few things about them, too. Practice whenever you can.
- September 28, 2023 at 10:51 am #769232LadyRegistered On: August 8, 2022Topics: 17Replies: 227Has thanked: 227 timesBeen thanked: 1071 times
Hiya, Harriette: perhaps easiest just to answer things in strict order. Heels: about 4″ spikes – not keen on blocks or wedges. My ankles and feet are as fine – though I don’t think they look even 1% as good as a genuine 18 year old GG could do without even thinking. Leg lifts and calf raises… that sounds like a worthwhile idea, but I reckon that practice is still the best policy! Thanks; I love you. Holly XXX
- September 26, 2023 at 8:30 pm #768898MelodeeLadyRegistered On: August 6, 2023Topics: 1Replies: 94Has thanked: 108 timesBeen thanked: 470 times
There certainly are times to use “The Walk.” Narrow, short, gliding steps with the hips rising and falling drawing every eye for miles around, however…
Uneven pavement is absolutely not one of them! lol This goes for cobbles, pavers, dirt…anything except exquisitely engineered flooring! In the above conditions, the best you can do is your regular walk, but with slightly smaller steps.
When you reach your lovely engineered flooring destination, then you can turn all those other parts on and wow the locals. ;)
- September 28, 2023 at 10:56 am #769233LadyRegistered On: August 8, 2022Topics: 17Replies: 227Has thanked: 227 timesBeen thanked: 1071 times
Wow the locals? In my case, it’s more like “Make the locals feel ill”… Gliding steps, however, sounds like very good advice; try to keep the walk as one smooth, continuous and almost floating motion, rather than taking individual steps… another thing to remember next time I try. Holly XXX
- September 26, 2023 at 6:28 pm #768890Alison AndersonDuchessRegistered On: October 15, 2018Topics: 18Replies: 1247Has thanked: 981 timesBeen thanked: 5268 times
First, don’t walk one foot in front of the other. That makes it hard to keep your balance. Second, don’t swing your hips either. Again that will throw off your balance.
Instead. stand stomach in, and chest proud. Think of being “at attention” with your core, but loose in the arms and legs. What this does is to raise your center of gravity. Women have a higher center of gravity than men, and that causes their walk to be different (whether in heels or in flats).
When you walk, keep your feet near the center line, but not one in front of the other, and not one crossing over the other. You’re not a model on a runway, you want to walk like an average woman. With your higher center of gravity and narrow walk, you will start to feel a natural bounce in your rear as you walk.
Make sure your hands are facing your body and hanging loose. Let them swing naturally as you walk.
When walking, make sure to put the heel down first and roll to the toe.
These methods work whether you are in heels or flats.
Try to practice in flats or lower heels, before moving on to very high heels. The higher the heel, the smaller your step has to be. If you are walking on uneven pavement, smaller steps will also help you keep your balance. Glance down to make sure you have a firm footing, but don’t lean over to look down or you’ll definitely lose your balance.
- September 26, 2023 at 10:56 pm #768915HarrietteLadyRegistered On: April 22, 2023Topics: 16Replies: 982Has thanked: 3517 timesBeen thanked: 2408 times
“Women have a higher center of gravity than men” Alison
With their bigger pelvises and fat around their hips and thighs, I always thought that women had a lower centre of gravity. Men have their wider shoulders and muscle mass up top.
At least that is the way that I remember it.
- September 26, 2023 at 7:11 pm #768893Cassie JayLadyRegistered On: July 10, 2023Topics: 6Replies: 88Has thanked: 457 timesBeen thanked: 415 times
Excellently put Allison. Method and result. Totally agree and starting with with small heels will help your calves and ankles get used of the new position they need to be in.
Wear low heels as often as you can around the house and you’ll be walking naturally and comfortably in no time and the increase in heel size will be easier, comfortable and natural.
- September 26, 2023 at 4:58 pm #768874Bianca EverdeneLadyRegistered On: April 11, 2017Topics: 38Replies: 1166Has thanked: 5280 timesBeen thanked: 5364 times
Spot on Holly, practice, practice, practice.
Sounds like you have the technique fine, just need to get the muscles and joints used to a different way of walking.
I remember taking videos of myself walking up and down in the house to try to get it right.
The vast majority of women struggle if walking any distance. Only those who wear them regularly, and whose legs have adapted, are proficient over longer distances.
- September 26, 2023 at 3:09 pm #768858J JLadyRegistered On: September 13, 2019Topics: 13Replies: 1110Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 4696 times
Yeah, time in heels, just like seat time in.a race car are key
Start low and build up. Ladies didn’t put on 5 inch heels their very first time and wear them.all day…it takes time and practice.
- September 26, 2023 at 11:24 am #768804Venus EnvyLadyRegistered On: April 9, 2022Topics: 0Replies: 104Has thanked: 83 timesBeen thanked: 444 times
- September 26, 2023 at 11:17 am #768802Samantha RDuchessRegistered On: January 17, 2023Topics: 4Replies: 225Has thanked: 281 timesBeen thanked: 884 times
Hey Holly, I’m afraid practice is all we can do! i have gotten better in heels, but not there yet, I’m wearing them a couple of nights a week. And all I did was a little research and LOTS of practice.
Do not give up, you got this girlfriend!
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