How do you deal with your voice.
When out in public I
- My voice is already feminine sounding
- Don't change my male voice
- I have taken voice lessons or am able to alter my voice
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I have only been out in public on few occasions, I have had to mutter a few word but really not had to speak a full sentence. I have been wondering how others have dealt with their voices when out and about.
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Usually I just dress at home now days. Long time ago I used to venture out regularly and I tried altering my voice but never felt it worked well so I generally tried not to speak or I would talk a lot softer and a little higher pitched.
I think. I avoid talking. Should have been on the list. I actually once considered sign language to help avoid conversations.2 users thanked author for this post.
I practice my femme voice by altering my voice on the phone when I’m dealing with customer service . I also , when en femme, I go through the drive through and put my order in via femme voice. I always get a ” thank you/ yes mam” . Love it! Not yet able to maintain for longer conversations.
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Registered On: February 27, 2020Topics: 1Replies: 249Has thanked: 1029 timesBeen thanked: 832 timesHave tried voice lessons on you tube and other sites but not sure it really works well. Just be yourself and speak slowly pronouncing your words along with body language. smile a lot
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Glammed up, I think I look female enough that, speaking softly in a brief face-to-face conversation, my natural voice tone needs little adjustment for me to be convincingly female as far as I can tell.
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I’ve never been out trying to pass as a woman. However, on the phone I’m almost always called ma’am. Guess I just have a feminine voice.
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I agree with the other ladies that trying to adopt a feminine voice is a wasted effort. Depending on the situation, I have tried, with mixed success, to moderate my voice to a moderate whisper or, perhaps lightening of my male voice. I have had to come to terms with my increasing desire to dress and express myself as a woman relative to being proud rather than perceptually ashamed.
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Registered On: October 23, 2017Topics: 9Replies: 340Has thanked: 1408 timesBeen thanked: 766 timesHi Kay………….I smile alot…………communicate with my eyes……..gesture with my hands…………….people seem to want to help a short quiet girl out……….I love it when a tall guy is helpful………………karley
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When out, I usually try to avoid talking… as I have only been out a few times, this has worked. I have been practicing working on a soft, well-mannered voice as Peggy Sue suggested, but progress is slow (as the practicing is sporadic). right now, only my wife and therapist know that I dress (and my therapist is the only person that I have talked to while dressed)…
So, it is a work in progress that may or may not result in a feminine voice… not because I am trying to hide me, but because I want to fully express herself as the women that I am.
Mikayla
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I don’t try to disguise my voice, I’ve tried before and I just sound silly. I’ve been told I have a feminine lilt to my voice anyway so I just roll with that and use my body language.
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Registered On: October 11, 2018Topics: 59Replies: 297Has thanked: 734 timesBeen thanked: 976 timesI know that I will never pass, so I have never been motivated to change my voice. I don’t think there is any way to have a full feminine-immersion experience and I don’t believe things should be so binary (as loaded as that word is). Were I to go out transformed I am sure I would sound a little different – perhaps only due to happiness and fear, but I am who I am even if I get to be pretty as can be. Being someone with a gender-neutral abbreviated name, I would even continue to use that.
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Registered On: February 18, 2016Topics: 22Replies: 116Has thanked: 223 timesBeen thanked: 372 timesMy voice has never changed since I was 16. However, being I am gay and do drag it does no good to try and cover it up anyway. I have known people who took voice changing lessons and they failed. Why try to change your voice when your a male anyway. Trust me if there was a way I may have done it long ago girls. I personally believe all the ads to do so are a scam and waste of money. Just be yourself!
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Registered On: January 21, 2018Topics: 198Replies: 1309Has thanked: 5547 timesBeen thanked: 4389 timesHi Kay, I’ve done a lot of singing also, never taken lessons or anything
It seems I have kind of a feminine intonation about the way I talk anyway (or so I’ve been told) and apparently also, an accent (lol right??) I just kinda move it up into my neck / sinuses and roll with it, I dont worry about it being textbook perfect or whatever. It’s kinda funny, sometimes people seem to respond with a bit of shock when i use the chest voice, i dont ever get that using the neck voice
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I sang Bass in the school choir at 15, I have mastered a high piched shreik which would frighten even the most determined rapist and attract the close up scrutiny that I try to avoid.
I have found that pointing, shrugging my shoulders and nodding vigorously from a distance sometimes work but if all else fails I sing the stage version of ‘Old man river’ and pass the hat round 🙂 .
Sal x
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Registered On:Topics: 1Replies: 32Has thanked: 14 timesBeen thanked: 117 timesI try to feminize my voice along with my appearance and mannerisms. I haven’t taken any formal lessons, but have watched some YouTube videos on the subject. TransVoiceLessons is my favorite channel covering voice feminization.
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Registered On: August 7, 2019Topics: 9Replies: 518Has thanked: 882 timesBeen thanked: 1751 timesI am like Alice. I use a much softer tone when I speak as Paula, though some times I feel I do have a fairly feminine voice in a sort of Kathleen Turner sort of sound. From back when I was in the hospital the last time, I ended up on a breathing tube for 2 weeks due to getting pneumonia and even now my voice seems to disintegrate and go all over the place for a few minutes until I can get it cleared, so I have begun to use the softer voice for day to day, and it seems to work
PaulaF
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Registered On: October 15, 2018Topics: 3Replies: 310Has thanked: 152 timesBeen thanked: 1078 timesNone of the choices is a good fit for me. I had a group lesson with a voice coach about 9 years ago, and again last year, so I can pull off a feminine voice for short encounters, like saying good morning, or interacting with people in a store. If I had a long conversation, there are enough clues in my voice that I’m male.
I used to try to soften the voice, but I found that I could not be heard in noisy environments. The voice coach talked about resonance, about making the voice smaller. So I do raise the pitch slightly, but I try to project some of my voice through the nasal cavities. These are smaller than your vocal tract and the resultant voice sounds smaller. I don’t go all the way to sound like Fran Drescher, just enough to give the smaller resonance. This way I can project my voice louder and still sound feminine.
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Registered On: August 27, 2017Topics: 67Replies: 630Has thanked: 4 timesBeen thanked: 1808 timesBasically I dont talk to anyone.. Unless I really have to. Just go about my (usually mall shopping) business and dont even buy a coffee. (That has restroom repercussions very quickly).
Not afraid to go into the “ladies”, but why give yourself “grief” if you dont have to??
Besides all of the above, as an ex Australian Rules football fanatic, my voice was “trained” years ago at the “footy”. LOL
Caty
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Registered On: September 29, 2019Topics: 12Replies: 164Has thanked: 386 timesBeen thanked: 670 timesI to like Bettylou couldn’t answer this one. I do try to decrease the volume an raise the pitch a little. This helps give me a little bit more feminine sounding voice but doesn’t go very far and I know it. On my recent hair coloring adventure I didn’t even try to feminize my voice, I just reveled in enjoying the experience and my hairdresser was so nice. If it was not for covid I would have given her the biggest hug. I have been called ma’am over the phone so maybe my voice is close to passing already.
Sandy
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I speak in my male voice. However, similar to your body movements and general demeanor, I try to speak gently, slowly and clearly. Watch how well-mannered ladies speak and act in public, and that is how I endeavor to conduct myself in public. When a man holds a door open for me or pulls out a chair for me (I am in female mode), I thank him in my soft genteel voice. When a lady compliments something I am wearing, I thank her in a well-mannered soft voice. IMHO, if I stop to speak with someone in public, it most likely does not take them long to be thinking I am a male, which does not bother me in the least. Fortunately, I live in a big city metro area (Atlanta, Georgia) that is LGBT friendly. I rarely frequent places where heavy alcohol consumption goes on, so it is rare for me to have someone comment negatively on my female presentation. The sometimes exception is persons past 75 years of age, who will stare at me. I handle that situation with a smile and kind words, works every time.
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Registered On: October 18, 2018Topics: 0Replies: 200Has thanked: 1075 timesBeen thanked: 623 timesI sang all the ” Elvis ” songs in my band
band, * the DR ROCK BAND*. I sang 1 st tenor in high school. I have had singing lessons, how
not to go horse!! Don’t have any trouble with my female voice. I am called ” MAM”.
Dr T.J.
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Registered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 6Replies: 306Has thanked: 824 timesBeen thanked: 1249 timesHi Kay
It depends on how I feel at the time.
I soften my voice a bit, and I practice my femme voice – I had singing lessons and even taught singing when younger, so I know about voice control.
I’m not great at it, as I haven’t done much over the last 20 years, and I don’t stress about it either.
When I do karaoke, it’s in male voice, but I do like to show off a little by doing songs with a wide vocal range, like Take On Me by A ha. I’ve been practising, and can do a passable Debbie Harry (guess my age, lol!), and I believe that I can push myself to do Kate Bush’s wonderful Wuthering heights.
But speaking, I know people can tell I’m a cross dresser, so, while I use a softer voice, it’s not to hide or pretend I am a woman, but because it suits Laura better – and I will improve it in my own time.
I hold conversations with people regularly – people seem to like chatting with Laura, and it’s having an effect on male me too.
Love Laura
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Hello Kay
I am lucky to have a great male voice. I am a good singer. My Natasha voice is very good as well. No one can tell I’m a man when I am out en femme.
My girlfriend loves to go to karaoke nights with Natasha. They are BFF. Natasha is amazing.
People always cheer for Natasha…
Hugs sis
Natasha💋
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