- My voice is already feminine sounding
- Don't change my male voice
- I have taken voice lessons or am able to alter my voice
- September 6, 2020 at 9:05 am #381391KateParticipantRegistered On: March 27, 2020Topics: 1Replies: 4Has thanked: 92 timesBeen thanked: 41 times
I have only been out in public on few occasions, I have had to mutter a few word but really not had to speak a full sentence. I have been wondering how others have dealt with their voices when out and about.
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- December 18, 2020 at 1:09 am #419753HippieLadyRegistered On: December 20, 2016Topics: 6Replies: 103Has thanked: 199 timesBeen thanked: 397 times
Look this is going to sound like I am a troll. But trust me. I am the real deal. I don’t do a thing different. Just will be myself when out. I don’t change my voice, the way I walk, I am just being me
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- December 16, 2020 at 9:52 pm #419204Ellie HopeBaronessRegistered On: October 3, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 99Has thanked: 162 timesBeen thanked: 364 times
I have just been using my normal male voice to date. Ellie has a long ways to go with female deportment in general, voice change seems overwhelming right now. I have met a few other girls who do a remarkable job with their voice, and it is impressive. I’ve been told that the satisfaction and joy I get from presenting en femme is clearly present in my voice and general presentation even though I am by no means passable. That’s rewarding enough for right now, but voice work is on my radar.
Hugs and love, Ellie
- December 16, 2020 at 10:28 am #418997Helene BockLadyRegistered On: September 17, 2016Topics: 1Replies: 68Has thanked: 53 timesBeen thanked: 227 times
I am lucky; living in France and not being french give me a chance speaking with accent plus the fact that I change my voice to a higher “pitch” to be able to pass easier when speaking. So far no comments of a man in womans clothes or a woman with a mans voice!
- December 16, 2020 at 9:56 am #418992Jennifer Michelle LarueLadyRegistered On: December 5, 2020Topics: 5Replies: 15Has thanked: 54 timesBeen thanked: 101 times
My voice is naturally soft and I have little problem in that area. I learned that the key is the rest of my presentation…exuding confidence, feminine movements of my hands, head, etc. Most people don’t catch on to your voice as quickly as the rest of the presentation.
- December 14, 2020 at 5:39 pm #418312LeslieLadyRegistered On: September 14, 2020Topics: 12Replies: 108Has thanked: 735 timesBeen thanked: 584 times
I can do a sort of breathless MM voice signing happy birthday mister president. But for the last year or so my regular speaking voice has been cracking rather like I have been yelling to much, I guess the voice is going the way of the rest of me. I don’t know how much I can do.
- December 14, 2020 at 12:09 pm #418143Bobbi SueRegistered On: September 15, 2020Topics: 13Replies: 114Has thanked: 142 timesBeen thanked: 724 times
I do two things. I pick my voice up just a bit, then I copy the speech mannerism of a particular bubbly GF from my past. I honestly think cadence and inflection are more important than pitch.
(For example, females tend to pitch up when ending sentences.)
I have no training, and I honestly don’t try too hard. My theory is overdoing it is the worst mistake possible.
You can download free voice analyzers. They’re kinda fun to play around with.
- December 12, 2020 at 1:06 am #417080Kara SumtymesLadyRegistered On: November 16, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 26Has thanked: 12 timesBeen thanked: 66 times
I am aware,,, so I kind of talk a little softer & with a little researching I have done &,,, learned of how women speak I use almost the same kind of vocabulary/ different words & sentences that women use as opposed to how men talk I try,,,? &,,,well?? Do my best!!!
- December 7, 2020 at 1:57 pm #415467Michelle BrownRegistered On: August 23, 2015Topics: 2Replies: 61Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 148 times
At this time of my life<early 70 s ,but admit to 50 s when enfemme> I soften my voice as the situation calls for.Whether dress shopping or at a restaurant I do the best I am able to.Its been my observation some real ladies voices change as they age.It all boils down to the fact that I do the best I can .I will never be 100% female so I enjoy what I have as Michelle.
- November 27, 2020 at 12:44 am #411148Grace ScarlettBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: July 26, 2020Topics: 50Replies: 1386Has thanked: 6519 timesBeen thanked: 7764 times
As a youngster I always had comments from other kids about my high girly voice, so I have never really tried to alter it…just speaking normally.
I use the phone a lot at work, and so often I am mistaken for female, so I’m quite happy with that…..basically, I don’t do anything with my voice…..lucky me!!
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- November 26, 2020 at 4:52 pm #411056Bobbi WattLadyRegistered On: February 17, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 18Has thanked: 194 timesBeen thanked: 116 times
- November 26, 2020 at 2:42 am #410791Rachel McFaddenLadyRegistered On: November 13, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 60Has thanked: 111 timesBeen thanked: 366 times
My voice is the one thing I always fear will ‘out me’ when I’m in public. I have practiced making myself sound more feminine (at least what I think I should sound like feminine). I soften my voice, try to make my speech a bit more ‘breathy’, smile a LOT more and, perhaps most importantly, try to keep my conversations brief!
- November 14, 2020 at 7:17 am #406455Patty PhoseDuchessRegistered On: May 7, 2016Topics: 0Replies: 1499Has thanked: 1092 timesBeen thanked: 3854 times
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- November 14, 2020 at 5:08 am #406419Rachel CrossDuchessRegistered On: October 13, 2020Topics: 22Replies: 192Has thanked: 1153 timesBeen thanked: 1097 times
- November 13, 2020 at 12:48 pm #406205Brittney AndrewsLadyRegistered On: August 1, 2019Topics: 3Replies: 631Has thanked: 40024 timesBeen thanked: 1159 times
I’ve only had one outing dressed full en fem to a CD/TG accepting location, so I haven’t had to put my fem voice to the general public test. However, for about a year and a half I’ve been trying to develop a more female voice. I sing along to a CD in my vehicle and I practice matching the pitch and tone of the lead female singer.
- September 30, 2020 at 10:03 am #388897EmilyLadyRegistered On: April 30, 2016Topics: 19Replies: 726Has thanked: 3924 timesBeen thanked: 2257 times
I am fortunate to have one of those voices that when I am out dressed, it just seems to fit. It’s not really feminine or masculine (kinda like the rest of me). I do stay away from the karaoke mic though. 😉
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- September 17, 2020 at 2:13 pm #384652Phoebe SmythLadyRegistered On: February 2, 2020Topics: 1Replies: 140Has thanked: 312 timesBeen thanked: 310 times
Usually I just dress at home now days. Long time ago I used to venture out regularly and I tried altering my voice but never felt it worked well so I generally tried not to speak or I would talk a lot softer and a little higher pitched.
I think. I avoid talking. Should have been on the list. I actually once considered sign language to help avoid conversations.
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- September 15, 2020 at 8:24 am #384020Deni SmithDuchessRegistered On: July 14, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 15Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 74 times
I practice my femme voice by altering my voice on the phone when I’m dealing with customer service . I also , when en femme, I go through the drive through and put my order in via femme voice. I always get a ” thank you/ yes mam” . Love it! Not yet able to maintain for longer conversations.
- September 15, 2020 at 7:49 am #384013Deborah SullivanDuchessRegistered On: February 27, 2020Topics: 1Replies: 456Has thanked: 1923 timesBeen thanked: 1718 times
Have tried voice lessons on you tube and other sites but not sure it really works well. Just be yourself and speak slowly pronouncing your words along with body language. smile a lot
- September 14, 2020 at 10:16 pm #383902Alexis TressePrincess - AnnualRegistered On: March 27, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 86Has thanked: 1030 timesBeen thanked: 327 times
Glammed up, I think I look female enough that, speaking softly in a brief face-to-face conversation, my natural voice tone needs little adjustment for me to be convincingly female as far as I can tell.
- September 13, 2020 at 11:49 am #383498Jessica SmithLadyRegistered On: July 15, 2019Topics: 2Replies: 20Has thanked: 32 timesBeen thanked: 95 times
- September 12, 2020 at 9:34 am #383066Mary PriscillaDuchess - AnnualRegistered On: May 23, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 61Has thanked: 82 timesBeen thanked: 246 times
I agree with the other ladies that trying to adopt a feminine voice is a wasted effort. Depending on the situation, I have tried, with mixed success, to moderate my voice to a moderate whisper or, perhaps lightening of my male voice. I have had to come to terms with my increasing desire to dress and express myself as a woman relative to being proud rather than perceptually ashamed.
- September 12, 2020 at 8:41 am #383048karley delawareBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: October 23, 2017Topics: 9Replies: 410Has thanked: 1787 timesBeen thanked: 1134 times
Hi Kay………….I smile alot…………communicate with my eyes……..gesture with my hands…………….people seem to want to help a short quiet girl out……….I love it when a tall guy is helpful………………karley
- September 11, 2020 at 1:26 pm #382873Mikayla WelshLadyRegistered On: April 29, 2020Topics: 4Replies: 63Has thanked: 402 timesBeen thanked: 251 times
When out, I usually try to avoid talking… as I have only been out a few times, this has worked. I have been practicing working on a soft, well-mannered voice as Peggy Sue suggested, but progress is slow (as the practicing is sporadic). right now, only my wife and therapist know that I dress (and my therapist is the only person that I have talked to while dressed)…
So, it is a work in progress that may or may not result in a feminine voice… not because I am trying to hide me, but because I want to fully express herself as the women that I am.
- September 11, 2020 at 9:12 am #382829Heather JamesonDuchessRegistered On: April 1, 2019Topics: 7Replies: 427Has thanked: 639 timesBeen thanked: 1532 times
I don’t try to disguise my voice, I’ve tried before and I just sound silly. I’ve been told I have a feminine lilt to my voice anyway so I just roll with that and use my body language.
- September 11, 2020 at 8:53 am #382816AoifeLadyRegistered On: October 11, 2018Topics: 65Replies: 315Has thanked: 807 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
I know that I will never pass, so I have never been motivated to change my voice. I don’t think there is any way to have a full feminine-immersion experience and I don’t believe things should be so binary (as loaded as that word is). Were I to go out transformed I am sure I would sound a little different – perhaps only due to happiness and fear, but I am who I am even if I get to be pretty as can be. Being someone with a gender-neutral abbreviated name, I would even continue to use that.
- September 7, 2020 at 6:25 pm #381764JackieAmbassadorRegistered On: February 18, 2016Topics: 26Replies: 144Has thanked: 271 timesBeen thanked: 554 times
My voice has never changed since I was 16. However, being I am gay and do drag it does no good to try and cover it up anyway. I have known people who took voice changing lessons and they failed. Why try to change your voice when your a male anyway. Trust me if there was a way I may have done it long ago girls. I personally believe all the ads to do so are a scam and waste of money. Just be yourself!
- September 7, 2020 at 4:34 pm #381739Sa•man•thaManaging AmbassadorRegistered On: January 21, 2018Topics: 388Replies: 1606Has thanked: 7093 timesBeen thanked: 6128 times
Hi Kay, I’ve done a lot of singing also, never taken lessons or anything
It seems I have kind of a feminine intonation about the way I talk anyway (or so I’ve been told) and apparently also, an accent (lol right??) I just kinda move it up into my neck / sinuses and roll with it, I dont worry about it being textbook perfect or whatever. It’s kinda funny, sometimes people seem to respond with a bit of shock when i use the chest voice, i dont ever get that using the neck voice
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- September 7, 2020 at 1:36 am #381593Sally DrinkwaterDuchessRegistered On: July 15, 2019Topics: 17Replies: 249Has thanked: 56 timesBeen thanked: 905 times
I sang Bass in the school choir at 15, I have mastered a high piched shreik which would frighten even the most determined rapist and attract the close up scrutiny that I try to avoid.
I have found that pointing, shrugging my shoulders and nodding vigorously from a distance sometimes work but if all else fails I sing the stage version of ‘Old man river’ and pass the hat round 🙂 .
- September 6, 2020 at 8:55 pm #381565AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 1Replies: 32Has thanked: 14 timesBeen thanked: 137 times
I try to feminize my voice along with my appearance and mannerisms. I haven’t taken any formal lessons, but have watched some YouTube videos on the subject. TransVoiceLessons is my favorite channel covering voice feminization.
- September 6, 2020 at 6:53 pm #381541Paula FDuchessRegistered On: August 7, 2019Topics: 12Replies: 808Has thanked: 6050 timesBeen thanked: 3136 times
I am like Alice. I use a much softer tone when I speak as Paula, though some times I feel I do have a fairly feminine voice in a sort of Kathleen Turner sort of sound. From back when I was in the hospital the last time, I ended up on a breathing tube for 2 weeks due to getting pneumonia and even now my voice seems to disintegrate and go all over the place for a few minutes until I can get it cleared, so I have begun to use the softer voice for day to day, and it seems to work
- September 6, 2020 at 5:36 pm #381534Alice UnderwireLadyRegistered On: September 16, 2019Topics: 19Replies: 2429Has thanked: 1284 timesBeen thanked: 4795 times
- September 6, 2020 at 5:06 pm #381528Alison AndersonDuchessRegistered On: October 15, 2018Topics: 6Replies: 358Has thanked: 202 timesBeen thanked: 1383 times
None of the choices is a good fit for me. I had a group lesson with a voice coach about 9 years ago, and again last year, so I can pull off a feminine voice for short encounters, like saying good morning, or interacting with people in a store. If I had a long conversation, there are enough clues in my voice that I’m male.
I used to try to soften the voice, but I found that I could not be heard in noisy environments. The voice coach talked about resonance, about making the voice smaller. So I do raise the pitch slightly, but I try to project some of my voice through the nasal cavities. These are smaller than your vocal tract and the resultant voice sounds smaller. I don’t go all the way to sound like Fran Drescher, just enough to give the smaller resonance. This way I can project my voice louder and still sound feminine.
- September 6, 2020 at 5:05 pm #381526Caty RyanBaronessRegistered On: August 27, 2017Topics: 71Replies: 716Has thanked: 4 timesBeen thanked: 2309 times
Basically I dont talk to anyone.. Unless I really have to. Just go about my (usually mall shopping) business and dont even buy a coffee. (That has restroom repercussions very quickly).
Not afraid to go into the “ladies”, but why give yourself “grief” if you dont have to??
Besides all of the above, as an ex Australian Rules football fanatic, my voice was “trained” years ago at the “footy”. LOL
- September 6, 2020 at 4:52 pm #381510Sandy JaysonDuchessRegistered On: September 29, 2019Topics: 16Replies: 335Has thanked: 737 timesBeen thanked: 1491 times
I to like Bettylou couldn’t answer this one. I do try to decrease the volume an raise the pitch a little. This helps give me a little bit more feminine sounding voice but doesn’t go very far and I know it. On my recent hair coloring adventure I didn’t even try to feminize my voice, I just reveled in enjoying the experience and my hairdresser was so nice. If it was not for covid I would have given her the biggest hug. I have been called ma’am over the phone so maybe my voice is close to passing already.
- September 6, 2020 at 2:07 pm #381449Peggy Sue WilliamsBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: June 26, 2019Topics: 11Replies: 238Has thanked: 886 timesBeen thanked: 995 times
I speak in my male voice. However, similar to your body movements and general demeanor, I try to speak gently, slowly and clearly. Watch how well-mannered ladies speak and act in public, and that is how I endeavor to conduct myself in public. When a man holds a door open for me or pulls out a chair for me (I am in female mode), I thank him in my soft genteel voice. When a lady compliments something I am wearing, I thank her in a well-mannered soft voice. IMHO, if I stop to speak with someone in public, it most likely does not take them long to be thinking I am a male, which does not bother me in the least. Fortunately, I live in a big city metro area (Atlanta, Georgia) that is LGBT friendly. I rarely frequent places where heavy alcohol consumption goes on, so it is rare for me to have someone comment negatively on my female presentation. The sometimes exception is persons past 75 years of age, who will stare at me. I handle that situation with a smile and kind words, works every time.
- September 6, 2020 at 11:43 am #381429T.J. ByronDuchessRegistered On: October 18, 2018Topics: 0Replies: 282Has thanked: 2675 timesBeen thanked: 1133 times
I sang all the ” Elvis ” songs in my band
band, * the DR ROCK BAND*. I sang 1 st tenor in high school. I have had singing lessons, how
not to go horse!! Don’t have any trouble with my female voice. I am called ” MAM”.
- September 6, 2020 at 11:29 am #381428Bettylou CoxDuchessRegistered On: May 26, 2019Topics: 17Replies: 1690Has thanked: 2995 timesBeen thanked: 5662 times
- September 6, 2020 at 10:50 am #381418Laura LovettLadyRegistered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 12Replies: 757Has thanked: 2425 timesBeen thanked: 3711 times
It depends on how I feel at the time.
I soften my voice a bit, and I practice my femme voice – I had singing lessons and even taught singing when younger, so I know about voice control.
I’m not great at it, as I haven’t done much over the last 20 years, and I don’t stress about it either.
When I do karaoke, it’s in male voice, but I do like to show off a little by doing songs with a wide vocal range, like Take On Me by A ha. I’ve been practising, and can do a passable Debbie Harry (guess my age, lol!), and I believe that I can push myself to do Kate Bush’s wonderful Wuthering heights.
But speaking, I know people can tell I’m a cross dresser, so, while I use a softer voice, it’s not to hide or pretend I am a woman, but because it suits Laura better – and I will improve it in my own time.
I hold conversations with people regularly – people seem to like chatting with Laura, and it’s having an effect on male me too.
- September 6, 2020 at 9:31 am #381403AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 1Replies: 182Has thanked: 1493 timesBeen thanked: 642 times
I am lucky to have a great male voice. I am a good singer. My Natasha voice is very good as well. No one can tell I’m a man when I am out en femme.
My girlfriend loves to go to karaoke nights with Natasha. They are BFF. Natasha is amazing.
People always cheer for Natasha…
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