- My voice is already feminine sounding
- Don't change my male voice
- I have taken voice lessons or am able to alter my voice
- September 6, 2020 at 9:05 am #381391KayParticipantRegistered On: March 27, 2020Topics: 1Replies: 0Has thanked: 27 timesBeen thanked: 20 times
I have only been out in public on few occasions, I have had to mutter a few word but really not had to speak a full sentence. I have been wondering how others have dealt with their voices when out and about.
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- September 17, 2020 at 2:13 pm #384652Phoebe SmythParticipantRegistered On: February 2, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 57Has thanked: 73 timesBeen thanked: 98 times
Usually I just dress at home now days. Long time ago I used to venture out regularly and I tried altering my voice but never felt it worked well so I generally tried not to speak or I would talk a lot softer and a little higher pitched.
I think. I avoid talking. Should have been on the list. I actually once considered sign language to help avoid conversations.
- September 15, 2020 at 8:24 am #384020Deni SmithParticipantRegistered On: July 14, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 12Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 31 times
I practice my femme voice by altering my voice on the phone when I’m dealing with customer service . I also , when en femme, I go through the drive through and put my order in via femme voice. I always get a ” thank you/ yes mam” . Love it! Not yet able to maintain for longer conversations.
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- September 14, 2020 at 10:16 pm #383902Alexis TresseParticipantRegistered On: March 27, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 65Has thanked: 676 timesBeen thanked: 222 times
Glammed up, I think I look female enough that, speaking softly in a brief face-to-face conversation, my natural voice tone needs little adjustment for me to be convincingly female as far as I can tell.
- September 13, 2020 at 11:49 am #383498Jessica SmithParticipantRegistered On: July 15, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 10Has thanked: 13 timesBeen thanked: 37 times
- September 12, 2020 at 9:34 am #383066Mary PriscillaParticipantRegistered On: May 23, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 32Has thanked: 29 timesBeen thanked: 120 times
I agree with the other ladies that trying to adopt a feminine voice is a wasted effort. Depending on the situation, I have tried, with mixed success, to moderate my voice to a moderate whisper or, perhaps lightening of my male voice. I have had to come to terms with my increasing desire to dress and express myself as a woman relative to being proud rather than perceptually ashamed.
- September 12, 2020 at 8:41 am #383048karley delawareParticipantRegistered On: October 23, 2017Topics: 9Replies: 340Has thanked: 1408 timesBeen thanked: 766 times
- September 11, 2020 at 1:26 pm #382873Mikayla WelshParticipantRegistered On: April 29, 2020Topics: 4Replies: 46Has thanked: 325 timesBeen thanked: 177 times
When out, I usually try to avoid talking… as I have only been out a few times, this has worked. I have been practicing working on a soft, well-mannered voice as Peggy Sue suggested, but progress is slow (as the practicing is sporadic). right now, only my wife and therapist know that I dress (and my therapist is the only person that I have talked to while dressed)…
So, it is a work in progress that may or may not result in a feminine voice… not because I am trying to hide me, but because I want to fully express herself as the women that I am.
- September 11, 2020 at 9:12 am #382829Heather JamesonParticipantRegistered On: April 1, 2019Topics: 5Replies: 317Has thanked: 479 timesBeen thanked: 1015 times
- September 11, 2020 at 8:53 am #382816AoifeParticipantRegistered On: October 11, 2018Topics: 59Replies: 297Has thanked: 734 timesBeen thanked: 976 times
I know that I will never pass, so I have never been motivated to change my voice. I don’t think there is any way to have a full feminine-immersion experience and I don’t believe things should be so binary (as loaded as that word is). Were I to go out transformed I am sure I would sound a little different – perhaps only due to happiness and fear, but I am who I am even if I get to be pretty as can be. Being someone with a gender-neutral abbreviated name, I would even continue to use that.
- September 7, 2020 at 6:25 pm #381764JackieAmbassadorRegistered On: February 18, 2016Topics: 22Replies: 116Has thanked: 223 timesBeen thanked: 372 times
My voice has never changed since I was 16. However, being I am gay and do drag it does no good to try and cover it up anyway. I have known people who took voice changing lessons and they failed. Why try to change your voice when your a male anyway. Trust me if there was a way I may have done it long ago girls. I personally believe all the ads to do so are a scam and waste of money. Just be yourself!
- September 7, 2020 at 4:34 pm #381739Sa•man•thaAmbassadorRegistered On: January 21, 2018Topics: 198Replies: 1309Has thanked: 5547 timesBeen thanked: 4389 times
Hi Kay, I’ve done a lot of singing also, never taken lessons or anything
It seems I have kind of a feminine intonation about the way I talk anyway (or so I’ve been told) and apparently also, an accent (lol right??) I just kinda move it up into my neck / sinuses and roll with it, I dont worry about it being textbook perfect or whatever. It’s kinda funny, sometimes people seem to respond with a bit of shock when i use the chest voice, i dont ever get that using the neck voice
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- September 7, 2020 at 1:36 am #381593Sally DrinkwaterParticipantRegistered On: July 15, 2019Topics: 14Replies: 213Has thanked: 45 timesBeen thanked: 670 times
I sang Bass in the school choir at 15, I have mastered a high piched shreik which would frighten even the most determined rapist and attract the close up scrutiny that I try to avoid.
I have found that pointing, shrugging my shoulders and nodding vigorously from a distance sometimes work but if all else fails I sing the stage version of ‘Old man river’ and pass the hat round 🙂 .
- September 6, 2020 at 8:55 pm #381565AnonymousInactiveRegistered On:Topics: 1Replies: 32Has thanked: 14 timesBeen thanked: 117 times
I try to feminize my voice along with my appearance and mannerisms. I haven’t taken any formal lessons, but have watched some YouTube videos on the subject. TransVoiceLessons is my favorite channel covering voice feminization.
- September 6, 2020 at 6:53 pm #381541Paula FParticipantRegistered On: August 7, 2019Topics: 9Replies: 518Has thanked: 882 timesBeen thanked: 1751 times
I am like Alice. I use a much softer tone when I speak as Paula, though some times I feel I do have a fairly feminine voice in a sort of Kathleen Turner sort of sound. From back when I was in the hospital the last time, I ended up on a breathing tube for 2 weeks due to getting pneumonia and even now my voice seems to disintegrate and go all over the place for a few minutes until I can get it cleared, so I have begun to use the softer voice for day to day, and it seems to work
- September 6, 2020 at 5:36 pm #381534Alice UnderwireParticipantRegistered On: September 16, 2019Topics: 14Replies: 1728Has thanked: 482 timesBeen thanked: 3009 times
- September 6, 2020 at 5:06 pm #381528Alison AndersonParticipantRegistered On: October 15, 2018Topics: 3Replies: 310Has thanked: 152 timesBeen thanked: 1078 times
None of the choices is a good fit for me. I had a group lesson with a voice coach about 9 years ago, and again last year, so I can pull off a feminine voice for short encounters, like saying good morning, or interacting with people in a store. If I had a long conversation, there are enough clues in my voice that I’m male.
I used to try to soften the voice, but I found that I could not be heard in noisy environments. The voice coach talked about resonance, about making the voice smaller. So I do raise the pitch slightly, but I try to project some of my voice through the nasal cavities. These are smaller than your vocal tract and the resultant voice sounds smaller. I don’t go all the way to sound like Fran Drescher, just enough to give the smaller resonance. This way I can project my voice louder and still sound feminine.
- September 6, 2020 at 5:05 pm #381526Caty RyanParticipantRegistered On: August 27, 2017Topics: 67Replies: 630Has thanked: 4 timesBeen thanked: 1808 times
Basically I dont talk to anyone.. Unless I really have to. Just go about my (usually mall shopping) business and dont even buy a coffee. (That has restroom repercussions very quickly).
Not afraid to go into the “ladies”, but why give yourself “grief” if you dont have to??
Besides all of the above, as an ex Australian Rules football fanatic, my voice was “trained” years ago at the “footy”. LOL
- September 6, 2020 at 4:52 pm #381510Sandy JaysonParticipantRegistered On: September 29, 2019Topics: 12Replies: 164Has thanked: 386 timesBeen thanked: 670 times
I to like Bettylou couldn’t answer this one. I do try to decrease the volume an raise the pitch a little. This helps give me a little bit more feminine sounding voice but doesn’t go very far and I know it. On my recent hair coloring adventure I didn’t even try to feminize my voice, I just reveled in enjoying the experience and my hairdresser was so nice. If it was not for covid I would have given her the biggest hug. I have been called ma’am over the phone so maybe my voice is close to passing already.
- September 6, 2020 at 2:07 pm #381449Peggy Sue WilliamsParticipantRegistered On: June 26, 2019Topics: 10Replies: 187Has thanked: 722 timesBeen thanked: 699 times
I speak in my male voice. However, similar to your body movements and general demeanor, I try to speak gently, slowly and clearly. Watch how well-mannered ladies speak and act in public, and that is how I endeavor to conduct myself in public. When a man holds a door open for me or pulls out a chair for me (I am in female mode), I thank him in my soft genteel voice. When a lady compliments something I am wearing, I thank her in a well-mannered soft voice. IMHO, if I stop to speak with someone in public, it most likely does not take them long to be thinking I am a male, which does not bother me in the least. Fortunately, I live in a big city metro area (Atlanta, Georgia) that is LGBT friendly. I rarely frequent places where heavy alcohol consumption goes on, so it is rare for me to have someone comment negatively on my female presentation. The sometimes exception is persons past 75 years of age, who will stare at me. I handle that situation with a smile and kind words, works every time.
- September 6, 2020 at 11:43 am #381429T.J. ByronParticipantRegistered On: October 18, 2018Topics: 0Replies: 200Has thanked: 1075 timesBeen thanked: 623 times
I sang all the ” Elvis ” songs in my band
band, * the DR ROCK BAND*. I sang 1 st tenor in high school. I have had singing lessons, how
not to go horse!! Don’t have any trouble with my female voice. I am called ” MAM”.
- September 6, 2020 at 11:29 am #381428Bettylou CoxParticipantRegistered On: May 26, 2019Topics: 14Replies: 1334Has thanked: 2048 timesBeen thanked: 3810 times
- September 6, 2020 at 10:50 am #381418Laura LovettParticipantRegistered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 6Replies: 306Has thanked: 824 timesBeen thanked: 1249 times
It depends on how I feel at the time.
I soften my voice a bit, and I practice my femme voice – I had singing lessons and even taught singing when younger, so I know about voice control.
I’m not great at it, as I haven’t done much over the last 20 years, and I don’t stress about it either.
When I do karaoke, it’s in male voice, but I do like to show off a little by doing songs with a wide vocal range, like Take On Me by A ha. I’ve been practising, and can do a passable Debbie Harry (guess my age, lol!), and I believe that I can push myself to do Kate Bush’s wonderful Wuthering heights.
But speaking, I know people can tell I’m a cross dresser, so, while I use a softer voice, it’s not to hide or pretend I am a woman, but because it suits Laura better – and I will improve it in my own time.
I hold conversations with people regularly – people seem to like chatting with Laura, and it’s having an effect on male me too.
- September 6, 2020 at 9:31 am #381403AnonymousInactiveRegistered On:Topics: 1Replies: 182Has thanked: 1493 timesBeen thanked: 614 times
I am lucky to have a great male voice. I am a good singer. My Natasha voice is very good as well. No one can tell I’m a man when I am out en femme.
My girlfriend loves to go to karaoke nights with Natasha. They are BFF. Natasha is amazing.
People always cheer for Natasha…
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