How do you dress compared to your SO

I was wondering how we dress compared to our SO, whether or not your SO knows you dress.

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  • I dress in the same style
  • I dress in a more casual style
  • I dress in a more formal style
  • I dress in a more professional style
  • I dress in a more sporty style
  • I wear more jewelry
  • I wear more makeup
  • I have better hair styling
  • I have a bigger shoe collection
  • I have a bigger wardrobe
  • I have bigger breasts
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    • #442153
      Rayna (was Dala) Carlian
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      I wear more makeup and I dress a fair bit sluttier(sexier?) than she does… 😉💋

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      Registered On: September 27, 2016
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      The biggest differences are that I wear skirts and pantyhose, while she wears socks and jeans.

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      Cynthia Hughes
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      The wife and I have been together for over 20 years now and our styles could not be further apart.

      The Wife

      Bohemian style clothes

      no makeup

      very little jewelry

      No fancy underwear


      Casual to fancy dressing

      lots of makeup

      lots of jewelry

      Very fancy underwear


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      Patty Phose
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      I dress a lot sexier than my wife. That wasn’t the case when we were young, where we often seemed to be in friendly competition to see who could look better, sexier and turn more heads.

      Now, I still wear shiny sheer to waist pantyhose with short dresses, and mostly 4 in heels with ample breasts and pretty hair. I’m often the best dressed and best looking female around. For me that is a big part of the thrill and excitement of crossdressing.

      My wife will dress up occasionally if we decided to go out as girlfriends.But most of the time these day she will dress like a lot of the other GG’s out there. I guess to her, the thrill of wearing pantyhose, heels and a short dress is not intense like it is for me.

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        T.J. Byron
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        Patty Phose…

        I think you nailed it…I think the ladies are capturing the need to  “Attract Us” when we are young, hormones raging!

        Once we are married, security is much less in doubt, the ” venire” that attracted us to them , may disappear. Most stories here describ that situation. So when I look in the mirror, I look for the person I would be attracted toward.

        Hope that makes sense…

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          Patty Phose
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          I think that just the way it is and pretty much the way it’s always been. I have even met some T Girls who have said men like to date them because they are always tuned into their femininity. After a while. GG’s lose that and start to dress and get haircuts like their husbands or boyfriends.

          For those TG’s and I think even many of us CD’s we are always in the pink fog, love our femme side and want to express it as often as we can.

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      stephanie plumb
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      Out tastes are very different. She dresses her age – I don’t.  She dresses like an average GG, very casual at home, more dressy when out – I don’t do very casual. She hardly ever wears dresses or skirts except for work – I only wear skirts or dresses. She  rarely wears sexy lingerie, mostly your “everyday stuff.” – I wear sexy lingerie.

      Our hairstyles are similar – blonde mid-length bob with bangs-  but I have a selection of wigs, she has only one head.  Her boobs stay the same size – mine vary from a C-cup to an F-cup (rarely an H -cup.)

      I only dress in private. We have an agreement that I will never wear her clothes. That’s okay – I don’t wish to. It seems wrong to do so – a violation of her  privacy. She knows where I stash my wardrobe, and has agreed not to pry.  I did once borrow a waterproof jacket – I didn’t have one at the time. When she found out it went straight in the charity bag.

      Do I want her to see me dressed?   No … I would be too embarrassed!  Unless she insisted.

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      Mika Malone
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      I definitely wear more makeup because I need help looking more feminine. She recently noted that I have a lot more “nice” shoes than she does. One choice that wasn’t on the poll was that I dress more sexy and dressy than she does. I have more skirts and dresses than her though not necessarily more formal or professional. Most of them are rather short too. That’s definitely not her style.

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      Janice Emory
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      Hello Ladies. I find it interesting from the comments here and my own observations that most cis women prefer the casual, almost boyish, style of dress; leaving makeup and accessories at home. My wife has passed and I have inherited almost everything of hers. My daughters took a lot of jewelry but that is all. Believe it or not I fit in her tops, slacks, jeans and undies. I have created my own style and have added skirts, blouses, dresses(every day and formal), prettier lingerie and lots of shoes(heels and flats and sandals), boots and women’s sneakers. She wore nice jewelry and I have since enlarged her rings and added extensions to necklaces and bracelets. My wife wore very little makeup but I have developed a skin care routine and practice day and evening makeup techniques. Whew, now I understand the need for cis women to just be comfortable. Happy 2021 gurls.

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        T.J. Byron
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        Hope you meant 2021 , not 2921!!

        My fingers do that as well… Must be electricity.

        Sorry about your wife’s passing. Would be hard for me not to let it all go & start from zero.

        Sounds like you are keeping a good shape and practicing good Skin care routine.

        I think you are correct when you point out how much Work, & Trouble Cis girls go to to look Fabulous. Almost impossible to be that everytime one looks in the mirror. We can’t as CDers, at least I can’t…I live as a Male!!

        When I get “DOLLED UP” it takes a lot of planning, and time to execute . I just couldn’t it daily, sorry.

        Later, love…Dr. T.J.

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          Janice Emory
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          Hi TJ. Thanks for the reply. I don’t get dolled up every day but I do dress since I don’t go out every day. It all just depends on my daily itinerary. I might just wear jeans and a nice top over my lingerie with sneakers and an easy care hairpiece sans makeup. I might even just lounge in my PJs or nightgown when I’m staying in. While I go out en femme, my family and friends are not aware. I am deciding who really has a need to know and will go from there. It just feels so natural living as a woman. Thanks again.

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    • #425880
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      Hi Jennifer, thanks for the topic.  My wife dresses the same every day: blue jeans, t-shirt, cardigan, no makeup, no earrings or other jewelry, no perfume and no high heels (usually runners or androgynous looking boots). Good thing our daughter takes after me when it comes to having a fashion sense.  I have much more girly clothes and jewelry than my SO.  I’ve offered to let her borrow things but she has no interest.  And no wonder when we go out together, I’m mistaken for female.  It drives her crazy.   I’d like to tell her to dress more womanly but I know that would be a terrible idea.  When we dated (about 35 years ago) she wore very attractive short skirts to show off her lovely legs.  I think the last time she wore a dress was for our son’s wedding a number of years ago.  Oh well, fond memories at least.  Stay healthy, stay safe, All the Best, Hugs, Krista.

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      Regine Rich
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      Very interesting
      My wife dresses mostly in pants and tops, Im mostly in dresses
      We share makeup, and have an extensive nail polish and lipstick collection now, lol
      She hasnt done her nails, or makeup for years, but since I came out to her, she does everyday, full makeup, nails, etc. she tells me I cant be the only pretty girl in the house, She even asked for low heeled boots, she cant wear them high, for Christmas. I got her 4 different pair, lol.
      now I just have to get her back in dresses, lol
      So, for the moment we dress differently, but I can see her “catching up”, but I will still dress more, I suppose provocatively? than her. I like to show the skin, lol

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      Jin Crocker
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      Eve dresses me. she usually makes us similar, but will make me more sultry for parties. she does love to make us twins or sisters.

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      Paula M
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      My partner rarely wears dresses, shes more often wears leggings or jeans, and never wears heels. Basically, the complete opposite of how I dress when I’m in girl mode.


    • #425359
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      I tend to wear more up to date styles. My wife is kinda stuck in her slacks and tops for work and jeans and casual wear for weekends. She very rarely wears skirts or dresses. I wear jeans sometimes when I go out, bu prefer leggings, yoga pants, or a skirt with some sort of stylish top. She rarely wears makeup, and when she does it’s just a bit of mascara. When I dress, especially when going out, it’s full on makeup for me, including lipstick even if it’s covered by a mask. I also own more women’s clothes than she does. She tends to wear the same basic outfits.

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      Caty Ryan
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      My beloved has only worn dresses on special occasions and for work, (now ell retired), on formal family occsions eg weddings or on the odd ocasion we have been invited to a formal dinner.

      The rest of the time its neat casual, jeans, tops sweaters etc.

      Caty would not be seen dead in pants… Her “other male half” wears them all the time. She wears classy skirts and blouse combos for casual and same again for elegant mother of the bride/ballgowns/female business exec, (black skirt, jacket, tights and low heels.

      My beloved’s lingerie is all “basic” stuff too. I only do high end brands such as Simone Perele and Wacoal, (on clearance),and like others have at least three times the amount of bras, cami’s, panties, garter belts etc than she does.

      Also brings me to that well known “Cross Dresser’s Lament”.

      It’s OK for her to wear pants(and for that matter alter men’s shirts for her daughter to wear as a work uniform), but She hats the idea of me in a dress.

      Hypocrisy writ large…

      There I feel better already.





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      Rei Durden
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      My wife and I share some make up and she lends me a few items of clothing.
      I am a bit more provocative in my dressing and my ‘breasts’ are a little bigger.

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      Shreya Shah
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      These is not applicable in my case as I’m still single.

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      Hi there girls, it’s Scarlett!

      My wife and I have identical styles of wardrobes. She has me pick out most all of her clothing because she has a high respect for my keen sense of style when it comes to femme clothing, footwear, accessories, and makeup.

      If you were to peak into my closets and my sexy redheaded wife’s closets you couldn’t tell which closet belonged to her or Scarlett. And we do have access to each other’s clothes in our closets. We both return items where we found them and in the same shape we found them.

      The only difference is not the style of our footwear but the size of our footwear. She wears a size 8.5 and I wear a size 11.

      This exchange agreement we have doubled both of our wardrobes!

      Sincerely, Scarlett

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      Danielle Silverfeather
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      I love dresses and skirts. She doesn’t

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      Wendy Swift
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      Oh my goodness, where do I start on this one ?

      My wife works in an office setting, so her typical style is dress pants and a shirt.  She does wear make up but minimal, and for jewellery it is just earrings and wedding band.

      For me, total business woman outfits, pencil skirts and sleeveless tops.  Tights are a must, and full makeup, from foundation to false eyelashes.  I wear clip on earrings, bracelets, ankle bracelets, necklaces.  And my wardrobe is way bigger than hers.

    • #424929
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      I don’t go out locally full enfemme, but I do put on my best “girly drab” outfits. With that said, I have updated my wife’s wardrobe so as not to be dressier than she. Gone are her slouchy T’s and sweats when we go out. She doesn’t need makeup as she had her eyebrows and eyeliner tattooed on. She even started wearing more jewelry and cuter shoes or booties/boots while out. I just love my skinny jeans, girly tops and booties along with my jewelry and light makeup. Both of us are becoming more girly when in public and have a great time as girlfriends. We don’t really share clothes but recently she gave me a ton of “bedroom” lingerie that she had “outgrown”. At home she tends to dress more comfortable (slouchy) while I like my cute super girly lounge wear .

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      Riley McCort
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      We both share our wardrobes with each other. I do tend to wear more skirts and dresses then she does. Mainly because her professional work environment dictates pants or pant suits. I have much longer legs then hers so I tend to show them off.
      Riley 💋

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      Lee Ann Rakers
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      I always wear a dress.

      I always wear heels.

      I always wear nylons.

      Lee Ann

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      Carolyn Kay
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      My wife is a bit of a Tom boy and only gets dressed up for special occasions. Her usual daily attire is a pair of jeans and a pull over blouse. She doesn’t wear jewelry or makeup, where as I can’t get enough. She hates wearing heels and I would probably wear them all the time if I could. Also, I know I own way more bra than she does, as well as night gowns.

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      karley delaware
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      My SO does not know……………I dress a lot younger and like to show a lot of legs………long hair……………and act like a girl in her 20’s to mid 30s.  With Delaware, I am a teenager……………… her hugs ,kisses and baby talk………………karley

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      Stephanie Flowers
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      As many have mentioned and its no different here  my wife dresses for comfort period. Casual and unsex is her style. Joggers,  flannel,  functional  clothing. Going out she’s a goddess and glows a true feminine spirit as she dresses for herself. The other 99% she’s just happy being herself. Myself I’m possessed with every aspect of dressing.  Ever layer of soft materials rubbing and sliding around. Smoothest of silky hosiery,  the perfumes, shoes, heavy with the  makeup ,well gurls  you know what I mean..  we as Cders want to fully embrace our femininity as many like myself are only now realizing what we have missed. Today’s society’s woman dress to be themselves,  we dress for the dressing…

      Stephanie 🌹

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      Alison Anderson
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      I’m divorced, but can answer for my ex.  I really don’t know how to go with the style question.  She was always dressed casually, wearing capris or jeans.  She wore no makeup, and only small hoop earrings and her engagement and wedding rings.  She had more feminine tops for work, but never wore them to work; she was an OR nurse so she would bring the scrub tops to work and change there before starting and before coming home.  After she started to develop a bit of female pattern baldness, she decided  to buzz cut her hair, so any hairstyle is a better hairstyle.  And my hair was well past my shoulders by this time.  She only had a couple of pairs of shoes.

      Over time my wardrobe had grown bigger than hers.  I had more shoes.  I had more skirts (and a few dresses) whereas she had almost none.  When I went out, it was for a party, and usually with a theme so I was usually dressed nice.  Otherwise, I would dress in a skirt and top to sleep in (after a certain point we slept in different rooms, or she was on the night shift, so I could dress as I wanted to bed).  Because she wore no makeup, anything I would wear would be more makeup.  The same goes for jewelry.  I didn’t wear a lot, but even earrings and a necklace and bracelet was more than she wore.  I stopped wearing my wedding ring after I slipped on black ice on the stairs to my home and landed on my ring finger.  I removed it because I knew it would swell.  I didn’t realize that I had broken it, but after that the ring never fit over the last joint because the body added extra calcium to the bone to strengthen the broken joint.

      I’m not sure if sporty, professional or formal are words I would use.  Perhaps formal for going to parties (she almost never went out).  But definitely more feminine. Perhaps a little of “the same style” because I did rescue some of her outfits from the garbage that she didn’t wear but I liked.

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      T.J. Byron
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      At this point in our marriage, 38 yrs, we have done the ” Black tie Formal” events…kids are all married, some more than once.

      Wife not dressing for anyone but herself. She wants to be Warm, comfortable, and safe ,functional footgear. Very little if any, jewelry or makeup. She is a Natural Beauty.

      Me, I think I dress like the woman I would like to have my SO dress…stimulating , provocative and from eras gone bye…50’s and 60’s.

      Hope that makes sense. My wife ain’t going to be caught dead in a 6-8 strap girdle or gater belt with back seamed ,full fashioned stockings! My breast forms are bigger cause I bought them to fit my per portions.

      Heels…she would wear them IF was we were going to a function appropriate for them. I wouldn’t leave the house without them.

      Let’s hear comments ,folks ,if you understand what I have said. Thanks!!


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      I dress more fem than my wife. She dresses pretty casual for the most part, jeans and sweaters or sweat shirts in the winter, shorts and t-shirts in the summer. Even for work she wears slacks and kind of basic tops. She almost never wears dresses or heels.

      Although I have casual outfits too, I have way more dresses than her, and more jewelry. I definitely wear heels more than her, even if it is just around the house 🙂

      With that said, we do share blouses, sweaters, and tops. Sometimes I wear hers, sometimes she swipes mine for work. When we went to dinner for our anniversary she actually wore one of my dresses 🙂 We share jewelry a lot as well.


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      Bettylou Cox
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      This should be an interesting poll. I own, and wear a a more varied wardrobe than my wife; we have a couple of “hers and hers” matching outfits, and have shared a few tops. She hasn’t worn a skirt or dress in the past 5 years, that I can recall; and I’m trying to wean myself away from my jeans. I also use a lot more makeup—but I MUST, or I would just be a guy in a dress when I go out.


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      Well for one, I have dresses, nightgowns, jeans, leggings, tops, mens and ladies perfume and lotions.

      Wife just Jeans, a few tops and one nightgown. The only girly thing she does is carry an oversize purse

      She dresses and acts more like a guy than a woman. Me I tend to be feminine and girly, and I mix both genders together

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