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This is a question my wife has asked me, and, as far as I can see, there is no definitive answer – but I find this question real food for thought.
I am really interested in your thoughts, as they pertain to where you see yourself going – maybe vs where you’d like to go with your dressing, and, if you’re anything like me, changes to that vision as life circumstances unfold.
I’ll get the ball rolling:
When first asked this question, I genuinely had no idea. I want to be able to choose my look on a day to day basis, and not feel any constraints to conform to some unwritten set of rules that I didn’t sign up for, and, in reality, do not exist.
Seems reasonable to me!
For me, it’s more than the clothes – I love the clothes, and there’s the entry point.
I don’t like the look of a man in a dress on me – the look needs to be more complete – passing as a woman would be great, but looking acceptable to my own eyes is the goal.
Once I tried it, I wanted to experience life dressed in my chosen fashion. That was the next level – I was not looking for validation from anyone else, just comfort in my fashion.
I went for walks, trying but not always succeeding to avoid other walkers so that I didn’t offend them.
As I encountered people and noticed that many smiled, and hardly anyone seemed offended, I broadened my horizons and went to shops and big towns.
The reactions were broadly the same, except for a new one, which was interaction – people talking to me, and being complimentary and, less often, hostile.
I was now experiencing some life – but needed more, and also began to crave further interaction.
Where did I want to take this?
I wanted to up my look – my makeup skills were poor, my dress sense suited me, but was very limited – although people seemed happy enough to take me as I was, I needed more from my femme experience.
At this point, I wonder why?
Most likely, I wanted the experience, but was still defining what that experience is. Like a genetic woman, I was discovering that the world of women’s fashion is a world of artistic creation, and, as with any art, you take a look at your early works, and decide that this is not an art for you, that you’re happy with where you are, or that there are exciting possibilities to explore.
I am in the latter category – so many looks that Laura can have, so many things she could do, and so much potential for interaction and connecting communities.
So where do I want to take this?
I feel like I have unlocked a princess from her tower, and she is leading the way.
There was a recent poll – which Disney princess would you like to be?
I am so Rapunzel!
Currently fresh out of the tower, still exploring, and searching for the meaning of lights in the sky which seem to relate to me, reliant on my emotional connections and inner feistiness, guided by a man who really has no clue where we’re going and is a bit of a lucky chancer, trying to avoid dangerous situations while taking risks, devoted entirely to protecting the princess.
I had more fun with this question than I thought!
Please feel free to mix a bit of daydreaming with the reality that you see – and have fun with this question too.
How far do you want to take this?
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