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So about 10 years ago at the age of 19 I came out to my mom as a crossdresser and she did not take it well. We ended up going to counseling together but we never truly settled the matter. It just became sort of a “don’t ask don’t tell” kind of situation. Eventually I made the mistake of trying to suppress my feminine side in order to lessen the drama between my mom and I. And for a while I was fooling myself, believing that the crossdressing I had done earlier as a teen was just a phase. I am 29 now, about to turn 30, and for the first time I have acknowledged what I didn’t want to admit just a few years ago. That my feminine side never truly went away. I may have managed to suppress it all these years, but now I don’t want to any more. I miss the feeling of wearing women’s clothes, I miss putting on makeup and going out en femme. Part of the issue I am facing now is that due to my current financial circumstances I cannot see myself moving out and living on my own any time soon. The fact that I am about to turn 30 gives me even more pressure and anxiety. I feel that I am losing out on my youth, on my chance to be the real me. I have been told before by others that if I live in her house then its her rules. But, this is very frustrating for me. I am almost 30 for crying out loud! I am an adult! I want to tell my mom that as an adult I expect more liberties at home. I want to tell her that unlike 10 years ago, this time I’m not asking for her permission to let me crossdress at home or elsewhere, I’m telling her this is who I am and this is what I’m going to begin doing so be ready for it and don’t act all surprised when you see it happen. So how do I tell this to my mom without it turning into another argument? Again, what tips do you have on how I can bring this up to her? I’m not interested in being told that I should just move out if I want that kind of freedom because I already know that. But my financial situation isn’t going to improve any time soon, and I’m not about to continue to sacrifice my happiness in the meantime while hoping to eventually be able to move out in another 4 to 10 years from now. Any tips on what I can say and how I can say it would be greatly appreciated. If anyone has had similar struggles and were able to earn their parents’ acceptance I would love to hear what worked for you. Thank you!
P.S: Just so everyone knows I am going to be seeing a counseler to talk about exactly just this, I just want to get the point of view from fellow crossdressers as well.
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