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- March 23, 2021 at 2:33 am #467877Anonymous
Hello Ladies, I am curious if you had a choice of going out EnFemme,would you feel more comfortable with another group of CD friends. Or would you prefer to be out with the regular ladies.
I myself would enjoy them both, but would feel more comfortable Enfemme with others like myself. This could be a confidence thing i am not sure Poll attached please share your comments too. 💋SHANNON💋 - March 23, 2021 at 3:10 am #467887
Interesting question. I had to think for a minute. I want regular ggs. Purely as there is a group of gals I can’t wait to go with at work. I think a trip to Manchester is definitely on a few ggs minds and I can’t wait to join them. I think I was one of the first to float the idea.
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- March 23, 2021 at 3:11 am #467889
I don’t think it really matters to me. I’ve gone out to parties at my friend’s home. She is a GG who ran a transformation business. While a a majority of the people were CD or TG, there were sometimes a couple of men or women there too who were accepting of the community. Sometimes we would go for outings outside her home too.
My friend would often say that there is safety in numbers. While I agree, you are also more likely to be read when out in numbers (if out in public) too. If there are a lot of CD/TG folks about, someone will do something (a gesture or mannerism) that is more typically masculine, drawing people’s eyes to the group for closer inspection.
This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it is something you should be aware of. A number of years ago my friend put on a play in a hotel conference room. After rehearsal, we went out to dinner before the performance. We left dinner on our own to make it back to the hotel. As I was leaving, there were people waiting for the restaurant. As I was walking out with others still at the table, I overheard an elderly woman tell her friend, “Do you see that table of ladies over there? I don’t think they’re women. I think they’re men.” There was no malice in her statement, only a sense of curiosity. I wasn’t there long enough to hear her friend’s reaction.
I enjoy going out with other CD/TG folk because I have become friends with them, having gotten to know them from the parties I attended. But going out with cis folk (whether women or men or both) means acceptance, which gives me a different feeling. I would say only slightly I have a preference for CD/TG people, but I suspect it is because I have become friends with them.
- March 23, 2021 at 3:46 am #467895
CIS ladies would mean acceptance into the community of women. I like that.
Lee Ann
- March 23, 2021 at 3:57 am #467901
Great question Shannon
I would be happier with a night out with other CD girls. I would feel more comfortable around other CD girls, although it is only during my thickest of pink fogs I could ever image going out socialising En-Femme.
Jen
- March 23, 2021 at 4:36 am #467910
There needs to be a third option as I have no preference. My criteria is about character, and not as described.
MacKenzie Alexandra
- March 23, 2021 at 4:52 am #467915
Sultry Shannon…
Definitely with other women! Have done so before and am doing so with increasing regularity! Last time it was with five other women and one guy…
That is a level of acceptance and affirmation that cannot be ignored! Anyways, I don’t know any CDers in my city. Would I want to? Don’t know… probably not.Polly 💋💋💋
- March 23, 2021 at 6:15 am #467939
I vote for option 3 I just want to go out with friend CD or GG. I just love to be out enfemme!
- March 23, 2021 at 6:28 am #467942
I’ve never had the opportunity to go out with other Gurls– Have been out with my wife & her female friends a # of times without problems-
- March 23, 2021 at 7:33 am #467966Anonymous
Got to say both CDs and Cis ladies have their charms. I normally go out to lunch with other CDers. But I have had many great times on the town and in homes of real women.
Needed a ” Both” vote.
Dr. T.J.
- March 23, 2021 at 7:42 am #467971
I definitely prefer going out with other trans women and/or CDs. A few summers back, I’d put together a gathering for a few girls at a nice hotel. after a few hours of drinks (we had our own volunteer bartender), we decided to go clubbing in DC. As we were all pretty buzzed, our bartender ordered an Uber x, and away the five or six of us went. When we got to Ziegfeld’s/Secrets, the party was in full swing. Our group danced the night away. Bartender dude played security for our purses/drinks, so the night remained carefree. Can’t imagine having the same level of fun with other mix of people.
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- March 23, 2021 at 7:44 am #467972
I also would enjoy being out with both CD girls and regular ladies. I have only been out with my wife and we have had a lot of fun. I think it would be great to be able to go out with CD girls.
- March 23, 2021 at 8:13 am #467985
I enjoy both myself also
- March 23, 2021 at 10:55 am #468074Anonymous
Hi Shannon.
I would prefer mixed…
CDs so we could meet and compare…. everything…
and regular girls to keep us on our toes and well advised…
best of both worlds!!!!
Grace ❤️
- March 23, 2021 at 11:10 am #468079
Well said Grace
- March 23, 2021 at 11:10 am #468078
Both are appealing but I chose gg since I could see and talk about how close I came to being looked as a gg gf
- March 23, 2021 at 2:47 pm #468183
Would like both.
- March 23, 2021 at 4:27 pm #468242Anonymous
Hi Shannon i would feel a lot safer being out with other C/dressers at first, at least till I’m confident enough to be out there as Rozalyne, if i could be accepted by other people then it wouldn’t bother me to actually be in a mixed group,
Hugs Rozalyne x
- March 23, 2021 at 4:33 pm #468250
I have been out with other CDs only a couple times and it was wonderful. These were recent acquaintances at a CD get together. There was definitely a sense of comraderie amongst us.
Also been with some GG friends once and that was really nice also, especially since they made me feel welcome. In that case, I had known these ladies for some time, so that surely helped.
I will gladly accept the next opportunity to do either.
- March 23, 2021 at 5:56 pm #468287Anonymous
Hi Shannon. Nice topic, thanks!
I guess that the answer depends a lot of the circumstances. Been out both with cis-female friends and with cd/tg friends. Both types of outings can be a lot of fun!
Say the outing was to a mainstream bar or club. Would likely not feel at easy with cis-femal friends because they would likely want to interact with guys, dance, etc. I would definitely not be up for that. In a similar scenario I have enjoyed being out with cd/tg friends. (Believe it or not, I have some! Haha!)
But dinner and a movie or coffee or wine and shopping, I have found it more enjoyable with cf friends!
Gabriela
- March 23, 2021 at 6:03 pm #468291
I enjoy going out with both groups and have on several occasions. But I have also gone with mixed CD/GG, and CD/male groups with several of each sub group.
The most relaxing was the CD only group, while the group with GG’s was definitely the most obnoxious and loudest, we were attending a Chippendales show that night.
PaulaF
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- March 23, 2021 at 8:57 pm #468360Anonymous
I have always felt comfortable in groups of women when in guy mode; Bettylou has never had the opportunity to be in any groups of any kind, but dying to be part of a CD group.
- March 24, 2021 at 1:58 am #468401
I would love to go out with a group of like minded gals. I would also enjoy going out with “regular” gals who were open minded enough to watch my back and include me. I think being out with like minded gals would be so much fun because of the shared experience, fears, hopes, and dreams. I have been invited to go out with a couple of “regular” gals for a night out once our restrictions are lifted and fully intend to take them up on it.
- March 24, 2021 at 6:20 am #468460
Interesting poll but I did not vote-Why?
I think because going with people whether trans or GG women makes no difference to me. A friend is a friend.
In my situation it’s more often with those in the trams world but I think this has more to do with the fact I know so many. I have done things with couples and there family and many times when out solo I may end up at a club with a m/f couple or group of friends-more often women that I randomly meet.
Out is out, fun is fun!
Sandy
- March 25, 2021 at 5:03 am #468879Anonymous
Hey Sandy C.
Looking forward to our next outing SOON!!
LOVE ‘ YA….
Dr.T.J.
- March 24, 2021 at 10:54 pm #468806
I didn’t vote. I enjoy being out by myself. If I had to choose one, it would be with other gurls like I am. In fact the only one who knows for sure is a girl that crossdresses who I confided in, while I was on vacation. She was totally surprised when I told her that I’m a crossdresser. She said that she would never had guessed, if I hadn’t told her. We discussed our thoughts on crossdressing and both agreeded that it’s more accepted now that it used to be. There’s even venues like CDH that are just for crossdressers like us. Before this pandemic I had been looking at a cruise from Tampa Florida that was especially for crossdressers and their significant others. But the pandemic happened and that ended that I was looking forward to being with a group of crossdressers and being able to find out their views on this lifestyle. I think that it would have been interesting to sail as a female for the entire time on the cruise. Maybe it will still happen after this pandemic allows the cruise lines to start up again. I can only hope that it gets back to the way it used to be. Keeping my fingers crossed
Janine
- March 25, 2021 at 10:21 am #468986
A CD only cruise? Wow. Please post if you find another one, thanks. Marlene.
- March 25, 2021 at 12:03 am #468818
I’ve gone out by myself mainly, but almost always been invited to join various groups, CDs, GGs, mixed groups of all sorts of people – and made some wonderful friends in the process.
I don’t have a preference – I feel comfortable with anyone who feels comfortable with me, regardless of appearance or anything else.
I can’t help it… I just love people (platonically – I am married!).
Love Laura
- March 25, 2021 at 7:57 am #468949
I like both groups depending on what we are doing. I am completely at ease though when I am out with my gg friends for the feeling of total acceptance and mindset. I have a feeling that I am just one of them enjoying everything that women do and talk about
- March 25, 2021 at 8:18 pm #469203
I voted to be out with other CD’s, but honestly I’ll go out with anyone right now, if I could!
However, more seriously, when we able to go out there was a group of us CD’s along with a number of our wives who would meet for dinner a couple of times a month. So that was a mix of CD’s, GG’s, and a few full TG’s as well. I suppose the tables look like a large group of women.
Hopefully those time will be returning.
Amy
- March 25, 2021 at 8:49 pm #469208
Wow, the responders to this question demonstrate such courage and confidence. I am encouraged.
I definitely am non-passing, as I maintain a goatee, so I would be afraid to be out in the general public whether with a group or even worse be out alone. I would very much like the opportunity to go somewhere in man drab and once I arrive be able to change into femme wear and hang privately with a group of other passing and non-passing CDs.
I understand that pre-Covid there was a group here in New York City that met privately for Wednesday dinners. If it resumes, hopefully I would be welcome there even with my facial hair and bushy eyebrows. I have also thought about trying to start a social group of passing and non-passing CDs. Unfortunately, the two CDs I have met so far were more interested in taking off their clothes than wearing them. That was a bummer for me.
- March 26, 2021 at 5:49 am #469338
Hey, honey – cross dressing isn’t female impersonation, it’s all about the realness.
If you want a goatee/dress look, there’s no reason why not.
Do your own thing, lovely!
Love Laura
- March 26, 2021 at 11:14 am #469457Anonymous
I love ladies chlothing better than men’s chlothing
- March 26, 2021 at 12:24 pm #469480
Especially the undies Samantha😊
- March 26, 2021 at 10:14 pm #469704Anonymous
Honey, see my response above to Samantha. Just days ago, I wouldn’t have paid your suggestion much attention. Thursday, I picked up a 5-pack of (predominately) cotton bikini underwear and I am NOT going back! They are so suh – weet! 💋
- March 26, 2021 at 10:10 pm #469702Anonymous
Samantha, this is more of a poll dance than a poll question 😂! I just picked up a sleeve of Sweet Treasures (predominately) cotton bikini panties and have officially worn my final pair of men’s underwear! 💋
- March 28, 2021 at 12:52 pm #470292
I am also “phasing out” mens underwear, cotton granny panties for everyday and of course special panties for special occasions.
- March 28, 2021 at 7:21 pm #470484Anonymous
Honey, I will have to be desperate to switch back! These undies are so comfy, it feels like I have nothing on!!
Another reason to LOVE BEING A GIRL!! 💋💋
- July 11, 2022 at 10:45 pm #662045
I have repeatedly been close to making that decision over the last two years or longer. However, my professional/social/family circumstances compel me to preserve my male persona and I am haunted by a fear of say, in an emergency situation, being found to be not completely clothed in the attire of the social consensus of “maleness”.
- March 26, 2021 at 1:44 pm #469523
I would love to find a group of fellow cds to go out with. It would be nice to have others to socialize with in person. Trade tips and stories with each other would be so much fun. Maybe after the COVID thing is over.
- March 26, 2021 at 2:44 pm #469560
That would be wonderful couldn’t imagine not being with girls like me
- March 26, 2021 at 3:00 pm #469570
I voted with other CDers. I belong to two CD/TG support groups in my area. One of the groups has social outings on different nights each week. I had planned to join the Thursday night outing, but then COVID stopped all outings. There are a couple of CDers whose wives also attend, so I will also be interacting with GGs. I’m okay with this as I know they will accept me.
- March 27, 2021 at 1:36 am #469730
How about regular ladies with CD friends, among the bass/baritone hum would be the ladies tinkle of laughter as we swap beauty tips 🙂
Sal x
- March 29, 2021 at 1:44 am #470573Anonymous
Love to have a good girly night out en femme with other CDers – the chat should be interesting!
Diana
- July 10, 2022 at 1:16 pm #661625
It’s kind of a combination for me because I’ve gone out with my ex-girlfriend and a couple of her friends who knew and that was wonderful we had a great time and then another occasion I’ve gone out with a couple of other crossdressers also had a great time and then I’ve had occasions where it’s been a mixed group crossdressers women and men and the only thing I’ve ever asked from anybody that I hang with you respect me and I respect you so really it doesn’t matter to me as long as we’re friends and we’re respectful of each other we can hang
- July 11, 2022 at 5:19 am #661796
I have met and socialized and partied with other CD’s or what ever we were called back then since I was 18. Some of the parties were really ridiculous and really over the top, but most of my interactions with other girls was a lot of fun.
I’m totally fine with being out with regular ladies too. I know it’s silly stupid and shallow but I get such a thrill out of being femme, showing off my legs in my pantyhose, heels and short dress and being out as one of the girls.
- July 11, 2022 at 5:43 am #661801AnonymousLady
I’ve been out with other CD’s and had a great time but would prefer going out with a group of cis girls because being accepted and treated equally by them would be wonderful validation. I could observe and learn their movements and attitudes as just one of the girls. Girls just want to have fun!
- July 11, 2022 at 11:59 am #661913
Hi girls, I think both situations would be fun, but I’m left with the option of going out with other CD in femme, being able to go out and have a girl’s day with others who share this wonderful and beautiful lifestyle would be fantastic, just amazing, plus without It would certainly be a perfect opportunity to develop self-confidence in the safety of the group, the truth is that it is something that I hope to be able to do one day,
greetings to all - July 12, 2022 at 4:20 am #662070Anonymous
I’ve not met another crossdresser in the few times I’ve been out. Albeit, I have met several transgender and straight-up gays and lesbians (pardon the pun). That’s probably because I tend to go to gay and/or lesbian bars where I’m certain I’d be more accepted, rather than “normal” establishments.
That being said, it would also be nice to have a core group of cisgendered female friends, as well as a bunch of CD and trans friends, so I could go with whomever to wherever I wanted to while en femme, as long as acceptance was universal. A girl can dream.
BTW, I voted “a group of CDs”
- July 12, 2022 at 4:32 pm #662305
Regularly I might prefer other CD’s but on occasion I would like to go out with GG’s. I have so much to learn and hanging out with the professors would greatly enhance my learning curve.
- July 12, 2022 at 5:20 pm #662311
I feel more secure and safe visiting public venues with another CD/Trans person. But being out on a date with a guy who knows my identity and accepts me as a woman is even better.
- July 14, 2022 at 3:19 am #662601
I guess it depends on where I want to go to. I definitely enjoy the company of other CDs in places I know to be open to us. On the other hand for shopping trips to a mall or just the city I would prefer the company of a GG. To take advantage of their knowledge of female stuff and to let them do the talks.
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