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So, really quick update, was walking home from town last night with my wife after having a few and we ended up talking about LBGT stuff, one thing led to another and although my tongue was catching in my mouth I basically confessed I crossdress and wanted her to know this side of me….
It went surprisingly well. Hasn’t come up this morning but she took it ok, wasn’t put off and only thing she really wanted to know was how come it took 20 years to tell her?
So, going to be taking things slowly and feel way forward, just wanted all you lovely ladies know you have helped massively with the helpful advice and being part of this forum is the only reason I have got this far in finally telling someone.
I do feel like a mental burden has been lifted and so much the better for my wife seemingly being ok with this.
Will see what the next few weeks bring and update further.
Mx
Wow Mandy, good for you. I would kind of lead her along the way with questions “what do you think about….?” “Do you think…..would be ok?” Give her some simple stuff to reflect on and continue from there. Use questions that require more than “yes” or “no” so you gain better insight into her feelings about your dressing and things she will be comfortable and uncomfortable with. Best wishes to you in your amazing journey together.
Hey Anne, I think you are right, it is just so exciting that I have done this and she seems to be ok, even indulge me in it, seriously can’t believe it. I might start asking her opinion on clothing soon as want to shop for some underwear for me but have her input. But you are right, think she needs to lead, just difficult to go slow now I have taken this huge step. Mx
Wonderful Mandy, you have come so far. I am happy things have worked out for you. It seems like only yesterday you went out for the first time. Maybe next you can invite your wife to go with you. Hugs and kisses love.
Jennifer
That is fantastic! Good for you, I wish you both well moving forward. Like some others have said one small step at a time.
Acceptance with the wife can be difficult but I was surprised how supportive my own wife was with all of this as long as I was just open and honest with her, which I found hard to do considering the habit of hiding this stuff. She wasn’t happy as she found out, I didn’t exactly tell her, but either way the weight off your chest has got to feel good. Own that!
That’s great news! I bet you feel a million times better. Just take it slow, let her adjust in her own speed.
You would be surprised just how some partners are in fact understanding and really love you for who you truly are!
Awesome news !
Lisa
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Mandy.
I just read your article. I myself had just came out to my family within the month. How are things with you and your family at this time
Brianna.
You are doing the right thing for you, Mandy
Well done – and take it slowly. It’s taken 20 years to get this far, the rest will also take time.
Relax and enjoy the journey as best you can
I came out fully last November and things are still settling, then becoming a problem, then resettling. There’s a lot of dust flying, but when it’s all been swept away, I trust that sense and reason will prevail.
It does in so-called primitive cultures; https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_in_Bugis_society
Love Laura
Congrats Mandy!!!
My suggestion is to recommend she join the spouses forum. My SO has and it’s been a wealth of information.
I’ve just recently started going out with the local group & the spouses the join us are all amazing. My SO seemed fine on the outside but was a mass of turmoil just beneath the surface. There’s a lot of contradictory info on the website & she’s probably very confused.
Talking to others in her position will help greatly.
Congrats again!!!
Patty
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