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      Paula F
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      This is who I am, taboo or accepted, and will remain so until the very end.  I even have a special dress ensemble bagged in my closet that I am to be buried in.  If they ever criminalize my dressing, like it used to be a long time ago, then I will be a criminal, though it hurts no one.

      The world would be a much better place (sorry for the cliche’) if everyone would just tend to their own life and business, no one would probably care what I wore.  And, when I am presenting as myself, no one has to deal with Ole Grumpy.

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      Mae
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      HaHaaa I find being a Crossdressing Closet Girl to be a 🎢 roller coaster of emotions. I luv the dual personas. I absolutely appreciate being able to jump into my work boots for the rough and ready of the day. Then to to shower and shave, tuck with a thong, ease into some shear nylons … then like an artist’s palette … design my Girl for today’s moment. I absolutely appreciate this Liberty. I do wish I could Dress, perhaps in skirt or dress 👗 step out in heels for coffee or shopping without my world being shattered

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      Jennifer Walker
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      I would love to be able to dress when I wanted, go out shopping and socialise and be as accepted as I would be in drab, but on my few short trips out in the dark or isolated places it has given me a tremendous cocktail of emotions that I have loved.

      Jennifer

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      Suzette York
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      i think this is a great question and makes you think.  For me it is not that it is taboo, but i feel like a woman inside and it is much more comfortable and just feels right to wear something feminine.  It is a way for me to express my feminine self.  On the other had if there was total acceptance i am not sure there would be societal norms for masculine and feminine clothing – if a dress were not feminine but societies definition then i do not think wearing one would allow me to express my femininity and let me feel a little more on the outside how i truly feel inside.  i suppose i would wear whatever GGs wear when they wanted to be girly 😊

      You can really twist up your thoughts with a simple question like that.  Thank you Michelle for asking.

      hugs,

      suzette

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      Abby M
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      If it was more socially acceptable, I definitely wouldn’t feel self conscious about myself and what people think of me. I would be free to go out in public without facing ridicule or confront a loved one or family member with my secret and not fear the possibility of rejection or being disowned. Admittedly, part of it excites me that it is taboo and what I’m doing isn’t apart of the social norm, but once that wears off, it is about what it does for me. Just wearing certain things can elevate my mood and make me happy, which does wonders to cure my depression. For me, crossdressing is ultimately about being true to yourself and finding ways to express yourself. I feel like I was molded by toxic masculinity in the media and it held a form that is unattainable by me. Crossdressing provides another form of masculinity by embracing the feminine side of your personality. Things men were told not to do like being creative or showing emotion are now allowed and you become stronger for it. It is about empowering myself.

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      Dylie Wink
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      For me I guess to some extent it’s the thrill, but everyone’s different. For me personally it’s exploring a role or character I’ve only imagined. Someone I wish I was from the start. All my life I’ve been talked to a different way than other’s, like people have a certain feminine approach to me. I’ve had friends in high and low places, all the same. Not like a joke, I get respect, and I don’t have that bent wrist gay voice or anything, it just happens. People don’t think I’m gay and I’m not gay. Embracing this side of me has really helped me accept I am transgender. . Like if you’re similar.

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      Bobbi
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      Being taboo has nothing to do with it.  I dress this way 24/7/365, because that’s who I am!

      I’m repulsed by male clothing. It’s ugly, heavy,  & ill fitting.
      I also, don’t give a rat’s ass about the restrictions society has placed on us.
      I wear what I want, when I want, wherever I want!  🙂

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      Jenny Thigh High
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      Interesting question.  Yes, the taboo aspect definitely thrills me, but also makes the lifestyle harder.  So it’s a double edge sword.

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      Amanda Burton
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      Well I have always been attracted to my feminine side and feelings.  I started dressing because I enjoyed the freedom to express myself this way, the thought that its  considered  taboo never excited me to want to dress. I found that stress and pressure were part of the  main triggers. But most of the time was its  the immense pleasure and relief of simply wearing feminine clothes.

       

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      Michelle Nylons
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      I would do it far more often.  The fact that it is such a taboo is the reason I can’t.  I’m not in love with the thrill of the taboo, rather the sensual feelings from the clothes I wear.

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      Jessica Wilde
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      If it wasn’t taboo, I would dress everyday. Whilst there was an obvious thrill from dressing initially, it resonates a lot deeper with me nowadays and it’s part of the lifestyle I feel I need to express my feminine side, and so if I was able to in my social and family circle, I probably would.

       

      I may be looking through biased glasses because I’m jealous, but I just feel there is so much more choice for females when it comes to dressing and expressing yourself. The amount of clothes stores I walk past and I see a very small portion for men, and mostly drab choices (in my opinion.) And this isn’t taking into account specific shops that are tailored for makeup, accessories, beauty salons, a wide range of places that seem too closed off to venture into if you’re male, unless you’re buying a gift for someone.

       

      And not specifically about dressing, but I sometimes envy being left out of the conversation, or not being able to fully express my excitement or appreciation for pretty things like the females in my life are able to. It sometimes feels like a taboo for me to actually join in. When my wife and mum spend half an hour talking about matching their jewelry to an outfit, or when the girls in my friend group move onto a subject like painting nails or something and I’m shoehorned into the conversation with the guys asking how work is or what happened in the latest football match, it can be challenge. I also know it would probably be too much of a 180 to my friends if I suddenly joined in with girly topics even though I want to. 😔

       

      (ps… I’m sorry if my post seems like venting or a little bitter. I’m just having one of those days where it’s a struggle. I love all you girls xxx)

       

      I totally agree with the wanting to join in the girls conversations. I frequently catch myself about to join or already have joined the girls conversations. I’ve always been like that so none of our friends really pay attention to it and I hate football talk because I don’t like football. I’d much rather talk about shoes, hair,nails anything other than football. And yes if crossdressing weren’t taboo I would totally be dressed all the time!

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      Kimmie
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      I think this is a fascinating question. On the one hand, if dressing were not taboo, I would definitely enjoy being able to dress openly and freely. On the other hand, I think there is a certain excitement to it being taboo. Not in the sense of being “caught,” though I have fantasies about that, but in the sense of just being “naughty.”

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      Sarah Du Hessisse
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      It would still be a thrill for me, I just love having the opportunity of being someone else. The alter ego  in me just wants to be the complete opposite of what I am. If it wasn’t taboo I would

      live that way. Reality is its not but being able to be myself with nobody knowing is a nice thrill.

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      KHeart
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      If it wasn’t taboo, I would dress everyday. Whilst there was an obvious thrill from dressing initially, it resonates a lot deeper with me nowadays and it’s part of the lifestyle I feel I need to express my feminine side, and so if I was able to in my social and family circle, I probably would.

       

      I may be looking through biased glasses because I’m jealous, but I just feel there is so much more choice for females when it comes to dressing and expressing yourself. The amount of clothes stores I walk past and I see a very small portion for men, and mostly drab choices (in my opinion.) And this isn’t taking into account specific shops that are tailored for makeup, accessories, beauty salons, a wide range of places that seem too closed off to venture into if you’re male, unless you’re buying a gift for someone.

       

      And not specifically about dressing, but I sometimes envy being left out of the conversation, or not being able to fully express my excitement or appreciation for pretty things like the females in my life are able to. It sometimes feels like a taboo for me to actually join in. When my wife and mum spend half an hour talking about matching their jewelry to an outfit, or when the girls in my friend group move onto a subject like painting nails or something and I’m shoehorned into the conversation with the guys asking how work is or what happened in the latest football match, it can be challenge. I also know it would probably be too much of a 180 to my friends if I suddenly joined in with girly topics even though I want to. 😔

       

      (ps… I’m sorry if my post seems like venting or a little bitter. I’m just having one of those days where it’s a struggle. I love all you girls xxx)

       

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      Falecia McGuire
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      It would be impossible for me to say for certain after more than 60 years, but I do not believe the taboo aspect had a significant influence.  When I was an adolescent, I was drawn to some trendy and maybe even avant-garde styles that were not generally worn in my family and social circles.  These were not always feminine, but more decorative than functional and drew more attention than what might-have-been standard attire.  Two examples that come to mind are wide belts buckled on the side and penny loafers.  My mother actually bought me some penny loafers as part of our annual Easter go-to-church ensemble.  But then she hid them away until Easter so they’d be special.  The wide belt thing was something that was emblematic of a sort of tough guy persona – think West Side Story!  I borrowed a wide belt from a classmate and began wearing it somewhat covertly.

      Why are either of those significant?  Probably because it was a sort of fetish perspective on clothing that was new in my life.  I regard these as the origin of my fascination with the feminine.  Over those early years, I’d try on items that belonged to my mom and sister, but not very often or, in fact, not very compulsively.  Then, I went on with my life, school, the military, career, marriage, and parenting.  Through this period, I frequently choose underwear, clothing, shoes, and accessories that fit with youthful styles.  In those years, men unabashedly wore hip-huggers, flares, shirts-like-blouses (The Monkees), bikini underwear and swim suits, high heeled shoes, and all sorts of jewelry.  So, although some bemoan the judgments of the past, the 70s was pretty liberating for crossdressing inclinations.

      I sold real estate part-time early in LE career.  I could/would wear some pretty over-the-top outfits and, aside from occasional comments, it did not appear that many disapproved.  I had a jeans suit, with flared bottoms, belt loops that would accommodate a wide belt, and a vest.  I generally wore a silky (blouse like) shirt with an enormous collar.  I had several pairs of high heeled shoes in assorted colors – black, brown, tan, and white.  I had some high heeled knee-high zipper boots that I usually wore under my flares.  I was pretty trim in those years, so I occasionally wore hip-huggers with a crop-top and a bare midriff.  The midriff thing kind of stretched the envelope, but it did not generate immediate reaction or disapproval.  One of my favorite purchases was a brown knit jumpsuit that was body hugging down through the hips and flared at the legs.  It had a with belt made of the same fabric with a square brass buckle.  Partly because of Elvis and some other performers, men’s fashion jumpsuits we’re out there for a moment.  But they didn’t catch on and I could not find another.

      So, what am I getting at?  Well, I think this was a snap shot in time when men could wear women’s styles.  It didn’t last, but it was exhilarating and satisfied most of my need to crossdress.  My answer to the taboo thing is that it is not part of my motivation.  I like wearing women’s or androgynous styles.  I really do wish I could do it all-the-time and just-be-me!

      FAM

       

       

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      Samantha Peders
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      I think kind of like the legalization of marijuana. The taboo gives you  a Feeling I was living on the edge. However most of us simply enjoy it. That’s why we do it. Maybe feeling naughty is part of it but I don’t know. I think I have always just been drawn to women and their things. I started wearing women’s clothes before I even knew it was taboo.

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      Emily
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      If it wasn’t taboo, I would still be Emily at every opportunity, most likely full time. I agree with many here who have said we would see many more men dressing. Some hide their desire only because it is so frowned upon.
      Emily.

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      Brianna S
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      If it were just common practice  many more would be doing it.  Kinda like women wearing jeans.  It started as taboo but grew to be a common thing now and almost all gg wear jeans (a form of crossdressing in my eyes).

       

      So to answer the question yes I would still be a cd.  I love the way I feel when I get to Breanna.

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        Genevïéve
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        Yup…. years ago GG’s were only in skirts or dresses. Jeans/pants/trousers were for GB’s. Nowadays, Jeans are a wardrobe staple for GG’s.

        The same for tattoos… tattoos were mainly seen on sailors. It was frowned upon for a GG to have a tattoo. Again…. nowadays, many GG’s have tattoos. My wife has two.

        Hypocrisy…….  😡🤬😡

        Gen 💋

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        Genevïéve
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        Yup… so hypocritical. GG’s wear traditional GB clothing, nobody bats an eyelid. A GB, on the other hand… wears tradional  GG clothing and he is labeled a ‘sick pervert’… 🤷‍♀️

        SMH…

         

        Gen 💋

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      Jenny Jones
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      So I probably wouldn’t have started if it wasn’t taboo and I don’t know if I would’ve stayed with it either. A part of it was that thrill when I was getting older, nowadays I just like putting them on and feeling whole again.

      I don’t know how far I would’ve taken it if it wasn’t taboo. I am trying to pass so it doesn’t appear taboo, you know? I don’t know if I would’ve gotten breast forms, hips pads, corset and the like if I wasn’t trying to appear female. I could just throw on a skirt and go out and nobody care, I don’t know if I would’ve gone as hard as I’ve had and I’ve loved that I have gone that hard.

      So the fact that it is taboo has actually pushed me and made me more.

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      Kay Anderson
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      I do not dress for excitement. Yes, I wish that it wasn’t taboo and that we were all accepted in society. There would be a lot more men dressed in feminine clothing and wearing makeup.

      As a teenager I started to really recognize my want to be a woman. But in the 1970’s, you could not talk to anyone about those kind of feelings. My family would not have been understanding and the guilt, shame and punishment would have been piled on me. Fast forward, if I was a teen today, I would be transitioning. Crossdressing for me now is making the outside feel like the inside.

      Kay

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      Patty Phose
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      I think the taboo aspect is what brings the intense excitement. Even if the taboo wasn’t there, I would still dress. I’m sure I would still love the clothes, how they feel and how I look when wearing them.

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      I remember the first time I put panties on they were my sisters and how good they felt and at time it gave me such an erection ……Now yrs later I still love dressing in fem attire only now I give erection to the guys I meet and enjoy

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      Roberta Denny
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      I have officially been a crossdresser since I was 12 in 1972.The thrill has never gone away.Since I have retired from my job I dresss more or less everyday.Due to local restrictions due to corvid that’s a lot of days.Places of entertainment like pubs and restaurants are open but we have many cases of the virus in our area.It’s wise only to go out for essential shopping.But the sort of thrill I get now is quite different to what it was before my wife’s acceptance four years ago.Prior to that my dressing was less frequent.When I put my clothes on it was mixture of exhilartion mixed with fear and guilt of being caughht.I could always feel my heart beating fast.It’s almost as if I was doing something illegal.With the benefit of hindsight it is a ridiculous notion but most of us have felt that way.Now ,when I put my clothes on there is still a modicum of exitement but it’s more relaxed.The fsct that I put on womens clothes everyday makes feel like a real womsn.The ritual of puttimg on tights,the spraying of perfume.

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      Roberta Denny
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      I love the feelings I get just trying to be the most woman I can possibly be.

      Lee Ann

      I love the feelings I get just trying to be the most woman I can possibly be.

      Lee Ann

      That is exactly what I feel.You have hit the nail on the head there.

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      Lee Ann Rakers
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      I love the feelings I get just trying to be the most woman I can possibly be.

      Lee Ann

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      Grace Scarlett
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      Hello lovelies

      If we were accepted, grace would be grace forever, never returning to the dark side ever again. I have such a strong feminine side just bursting to get out!!!! I dress because I want to look and feel pretty, a feeling that is impossible in drab. Grace could do my job just as easily, if ONLY she was allowed. I do agree there is a ” rush” when I am out and about, but there are also nervous glancess, worried moments and stress…..I would swap the thrill to kill those feelings off anyday…plus all my closet sisters would be FREE….. wouldn’t the world be a far better place..

      Grace 💋💋

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      Genevïéve
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      Hi Michelle…

      For me, dressing up is not about the taboo/thrill, I just absolutely love the feeling of being girly and all that goes with it.

      That feeling of inner happiness and contentedness while dressed is very addictive.

      I have always felt that I was a female in a male body. So for me, wearing female clothing and breast forms feels very natural. It completes me.

      Dressing provides me with such tranquity… I don’t use dressing as a means for excitement… I seek an inner peace

      Gen 💋

       

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      Yes I agree with you, excitement is part of that. that’s why i thank female to male crossdressing isn’t a major theme as male to female one

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      Christina Roberts
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      Hi Samantha, me too the same as you commented….. i dont see a sexual satisfaction but just love and embrace so much more the woman in me.

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      James Brine
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      The taboo nature does come with a degree of sexual excitement for me. I’d trade that away any day to not have the shame & anxiety around it. If I could have started more when I was in my teens then in my thirties that would have been great. I shave far more often now then in my teens.

      I’m sure I could still find other ways to be a bad girl if it so crossed my mind. Those may also be less taboo thus more available as a result.

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      Samantha Roarke
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      If cross dressing was not taboo, I would dress on most days, but maybe not all days. I don’t dress for the trill or sex, but because it’s just a major part of who I am as a complete person.

      -SR-

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      I think the attraction to the cloths comes first the longing to slip into silky underwear, the delightful nylons, those sleek and sexy heels, that skirt you long to try on. That’s where it starts.

      That said as there is a taboo behind it and at least for most of us when starting out, and probably for many years and some forever, wanting it to be a secret past time there is going to be a frill behind it.

      This frill we get is addictive tho to a point I think, you see I found in the past you push yourself that little bit further to regain the frill that has become boring or numbed, Myself i used to dress up when i was a teenager and go out at night round my local park down to the beach, venturing further every time i got braver but mostly to chase the frill.

      I have been on the internet crossdressing sean for many years and seen so many men come out to there wives after years of being in the closet, then when there wife accept them they then talk about wanting to go further pushing boundaries some till the wife leaves them. i think this in away is from someone that thrives on the excitement of dressing taboo as you call it, the acceptance of the wife to do just what he was doing before he told her then becomes non taboo and normal practise so he chases that feeling by adding another taboo to the mix

      For me tho I have felt the excitement of the taboo and overcome it im sure hands down that if it was not taboo it would literally mean i would have been more at ease dressing over the years and would probably be dressed en fem more often then not

       

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      Michelle Last
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      I am also a very masculine guy, so I can’t pass as a woman. But I feel so feminine when dressed. Right now I am fully dressed (bra, panties, pantyhose, and dress) but I am not wearing a wig nor makeup and I have a beard, but I still feel very feminine.

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      Regine Rich
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      My desire to dress has nothing to do with sex, or the Taboo. It just feels so nice, to wear soft, silky things, and feel ,,not like a women, but more womanly? does that make sense? I am a very “manly” man in my other life, and this brings out a very private and intimate part of me, so, my answer would be yes, most assuredly, I would, now that I have started.

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      Debbie J
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      A variation on the answer I’ve given many times. When I started it was for sex, and the fact that it was taboo definitely helped. Now, if I could dress at the moment, it would be for relaxation.

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