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- February 11, 2023 at 8:10 am #717434
I met up with a friend for lunch and they were asking all sorts of questions about what crossdressing is and how it is similar and different from being transgender. Do any of you know any good articles or other sources that I could refer her to?
Love,
Tommie
- February 11, 2023 at 8:22 am #717437
If you type
‘CiCi The hardest thing in the world’
into your web browser you get a wonderful short TEDxUCR talk by CiCi who talks about what many of us go through, I watched it when I first started letting this part of me out. It drove me to tears knowing there was somebody who had been along the road I was facing.
B x
- February 11, 2023 at 8:49 am #717441
This is good place to start…
https://allaboutcd.com/10-misconceptions-about-crossdressers/
- February 11, 2023 at 11:23 am #717464
JJ
This is a great article – Thank you
- February 11, 2023 at 9:11 am #717442
Hi Tommie,
This is the way I think about it:
Crossdressing is about clothing and appearance.
Gay, bi, straight is about sexual preference.
Transgender is about gender identification.
Transition can be physical and/or social.
Promiscuity is about none of the above.
Queer is anything outside of cis-binary culture.I identify as nonbinary, and therefore that puts me on the transgender spectrum. I do not intend to transition physically, but I am transitioning socially. I wear women’s clothing and a mix of women’s and men’s clothing. I am married to a cis-female. I am bisexual, but non-promiscuous.
Hope this helps.
– Robyn
- February 11, 2023 at 11:27 am #717466
Nicely put Robyn
- February 11, 2023 at 3:17 pm #717530
Thanks , concise and to the point
- March 30, 2023 at 5:30 pm #728569
Nicely put Robyn, love the comment saying you have not physically transitioned but have socially transitioned, love it.
B x
- April 1, 2023 at 9:37 pm #729081
Sexual preference is not accurate as it suggests that one could do either, but there is a preference. Sexual orientation is the more accurate phrase.
- February 11, 2023 at 11:21 am #717463
Some other points based on my observations, but these are not absolute:
- The vast majority of crossdressers are heterosexual men.
- Transgender people can have any sexual orientation that cisgender people have.
- Some (and emphasize on “some”) crossdressers do eventually realize that they are actually transgender. I’ve never seen any data, but anecdotally what I’ve seen here and on 1 or 2 other sites, it would appear to be a relatively small percentage.
- Again anecdotally, crossdressers tend to either dress at home or go out dressed for specific events. They tend not to be dressed a high percentage of the time. Trans folks who are out tend to be dressed nearly always, if not full time.
- In general, trans folks view the world continuously from the perspective of their target gender.
- If crossdressers do that, it would likely be temporary and related to the time that they spend dressed.
- February 12, 2023 at 3:40 am #717606
Hi Tommie,
The book “Living with Crossdressing” by Savannah Hauk is available on Amazon and is a decent read on the subject.
Hugs,
Michelle
- February 12, 2023 at 3:57 am #717609
i have that book and is a great book to get for more info
- February 12, 2023 at 4:33 am #717613
Yes, I also found it to be a good read. She had a sequel to it now too.
- April 2, 2023 at 1:48 pm #729257
Hi, Roberta. Is the sequel new material? In other words, should I read the first book and them the second, or is the first encompassed by the second? Best, Marlene.
- April 3, 2023 at 3:02 am #729386
The second book seemed to have a lot of the same information as the first. It repeated much of what was in the first book.
I would read the first. Then if you want more from this author, go for the second. Using the Kindle App from Amazon both books are not very expensive.
- April 3, 2023 at 10:28 am #729467
Thanks, I’ll do that. Best, Marlene.
- February 12, 2023 at 5:10 am #717621
I agree with the other respondents that “Living with Crossdressing” is a very valuable book to read when you have questions about crossdressing.
- April 2, 2023 at 12:45 am #729096
The following is from Psychology Today:
Someone who is transgender identifies as the opposite gender from their natal sex. A transgender person may cross-dress and may have surgery or take hormones to change their outward appearance, but they also may not. The term encompasses all individuals who don’t feel they conform to the gender roles assigned to their natal sex.
- April 2, 2023 at 8:12 am #729163Anonymous
My Husband Betty, by Helen Boyd is another good source.Read along with Living with Crossdressers
Both very enlightimg - April 2, 2023 at 1:19 pm #729248Anonymous
You’ve gotten plenty of good suggestions. I am curious about your friend’s question…is she interested in understanding the differences, such as they are, between those who identify as cross dressers and those who identify as transgender…. Or is she curious about how you would categorize yourself? And in some respects, I guess I wonder, perhaps you could ask her, if it make a difference to her whether you are a cross dresser or transgender? Either answer from her is ok. I am must curious if the answer might change her impression of you.
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