Is it easier to pass as a woman the older you get?

My last straw pool was to see what was the average age of a member here at CDH. Out of 100 plus replies, much to my surprise, it trended older then I thought it would. A little more then 70% were over 50 or older. So as my next straw poll I thought I would ask about being passably. Is it easier to look passable or more challenging? Is time helping you look close or less closer to being passable?

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  • The older I have gotten the easier it is.
  • The older I have gotten the more challenging it is.
  • I’m still young, but I find it easy to look passable.
  • I’m still young, it’s still very challenging.
  • who cares! I think I look great everyday!!
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  • #668281
    Lisa Leigh
    Registered On: April 20, 2022
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    I know when I was younger I took a lot of time on make up and body shaping. Over the years it seems that my make up isn’t as intense, some foundation, a bit on the eyes and lipstick! Not much as I needed as before. I’m not taking about a night on the town, just for a walk in the park. I don’t seem to worry about shaping as much as long as I keep the dad body to a minimum. But I do still need help around the mid section (hate to admit it). Is it easier to look passable or more challenging? Is time helping you look closer to or less closer to being passable? What do you think?

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    • #668450
      Genivieve Bujold
      Registered On: April 13, 2017
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      The older I got the more time I had to practice. My clothing, makeup, hair, mannerisms all got more feminine over time. Did I pass better? Did I ever pass? Only others would know the answer to that question. That said over quite a few years time, I never had a bad experience when out, “ Getting my girl on”
      That is why I voted, other. 😊💋

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    • #668446
      Holly Morris
      Registered On: April 15, 2022
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      Hi ladies!

      I chose the “who cares” option even though I too am a bit older. But I chose that option because once I realized that really, I’m not a fashion model (Gasp!! I know, hard to believe 😉 ) so most people really aren’t looking at me, then I didn’t worry so much about passing. When I was younger, I was always concerned about being read, and I think that translated into my actions, so I didn’t come across as a natural woman. Now, I know who I am and that’s all that really counts. And besides, have you ever really sat down and looked at all the different varieties of women that are out there? Just like men, women come in all shapes, sizes, colors, builds, and everything else, and most of them just go on about their daily business. So that’s why I don’t worry about it anymore, I’m just another woman out in the world.



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    • #668417
      Angela Booth
      Registered On: August 1, 2020
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      I am at the stage where I do not care as going out is with confidence and a look that has been honed over many years. I am like a limousine, good looking and graceful but with daily maintenance required beneath.

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    • #668356
      Alison Anderson
      Registered On: October 15, 2018
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      Because of confidence and experience, it gets easier.  Less worrying about getting caught also makes it easier.

      But my hair is longer than most women my age, and that’s before I put on a wig.  I like my wig to be at least as long as my hair (partially so I don’t need a wig cap), so it becomes more out of place the oler I get.  Also, at some point dark hair (as opposed to grey) will also start to look out of place.

      I going to go with “other” as my choice.

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      • #668359
        Lisa Leigh
        Registered On: April 20, 2022
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        Thank you for sharing.


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    • #668338
      Lauren Mugnaia
      Registered On: November 1, 2021
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      Hi girls,

      I answered the other poll and will repeat my reply on this one.

      I’m an older gal, now officially and legally considered a female, it would appear that I pass most of the time, and everybody thinks I’m in my late 50’s or in my 60’s, so we’ll leave it at that  🙂

      Hugs girls, lots of hugs, and some kisses too,

      Ms. Lauren M


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    • #668321
      Caty Ryan
      Registered On: August 27, 2017
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      I’m one of the more “senior” ones on this site and the reason I think it’s easier for me to pass these days is purely confidence” within and without”.

      WITHIN: Became very accustomed to going public, (on the few times each year I can do so). Head up boobs out, little or no eye contact with others whereever I am, shopping, eating our etc..

      WITHOUT” Dress and act like the “mature, elegant lady I strive to be. Spoiler.. Only talk to as minimum numbers of people as possible. I cant ditch the booming male me voice. Same goes for “visits to the ladies”, same reason… the voice….




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    • #668292
      Kerri Smith
      Registered On: April 22, 2022
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      Since I stopped lifting weights I’ve lost muscle mass and don’t look as masculine as when I was young.  This helps a little when trying to portray femininity.


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    • #668288
      Emily Alt
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      Registered On: August 24, 2019
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      I chose who cares.  I know I can look good with some effort.  Whether I pass or not is subjective….and it’s irrelevant to who I am.  I’m not trying to fool anyone.  I can’t erase what decades of testosterone did to my appearance.  However, there are many things I can do to more closely align my appearance with how I feel.  I do that for myself.  Not to conform to some standard.  That said, I don’t want to be seen as male.  Blending in as female, or being seen as trans, is what works for me.

      And regarding being trans, I would offer that as a third gender.  Why do I have to be male or female?  Well, I don’t.  I have no problem wearing that badge.  It’s valid for all of us.  Instead of worrying about how others see us, why not just be your authentic self?  Do the best you can.  Don’t let perfection be the enemy of good.  Get out there if that’s what you want to do.  There’s nothing wrong with a CD saying they’re trans….even if they don’t identify as such.  It’s a label most cis people understand and will tolerate.  You’re a part of the community regardless of how you identify.  That can open some doors if you let it.

      Rainbow trails…..

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    • #668286
      Managing Ambassador
      Registered On: January 21, 2018
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      to start, let me specify my comments by saying i’m 37.

      i do not worry about being “passable” (which i consider a myth anyway) as i am not out to fool anyone.  i only worry about being myself.

      i will say that it’s gotten easier as i’ve gotten older… i’ve lost a bit of weight and figured out what i like as far as clothes and makeup.  i’ve also figured out how to work with my natural hair, altho i may not have that option a whole lot longer 😅 (keeping fingers crossed on that one).  The biggest thing that’s made it easier tho, was the increasing level of self acceptance and simultaneous decreasing level of GAF 🙂

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      • #668368
        Marlene Roberts
        Registered On: December 9, 2019
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        Sorry, but 37 is not old! Try 84. Hugs, Marlene,

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    • #668285
      Kathryn Lynn Peters
      Registered On: October 10, 2016
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      Lisa, I do think it is easier to “pass” as an older woman…a lot less stuff is needed…our younger sisters have to really work at it, but us older gals can usually get by like you said with a bit of makeup and some good-looking lipstick.

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    • #668283
      Michelle McQueen
      Registered On: June 14, 2021
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      If I keep having more age issues I’m going to have to wear a full body suit… lol

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