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Hi girls….
I’m nothing official on this site…just a participant, joining in with a great bunch of girls and thoroughly enjoying it but……
Just lately there has been items put on here which are just ” not on”…I don’t come here to get my sexual fix!!!…I come here for fun and good advice….thank goodness the powers that be get this rubbish removed quickly…
Being a fully paid up member of the naughty corner, I/ we do sail close to the wind sometimes….but always in fun!!!!
….so come on , could we all please think about it before we write it….because I for one don’t want to read it !!!
this is just my opinion and nothing to do with anyone else….thanks for reading……grace xxx
Totally agree Grace, although sailing close to the wind is some times exciting to a point. Like you I don’t want to read about someone sexual adventures.,or read absolute filth. Conversation, support, help, company, and some humour thrown in with advice, all under an umbrella of a safe haven where we can make some amazing friends, and be what we want to be just us,with a lot love to share.
Hi all
As you may have seen I am one of the site Admins who look after the Forums and Chat Rooms areas. We are a small team who try to maintain site standards and remove inappropriate posts and individuals when and where needed.
We are not prudes by any stretch of the imagination, but have guidelines and protocols we follow to ensure constancy as well as a hierarchy of control where we can defer things upwards.
Personally, I have been busier here with some of the posts where people seem to be asking ‘raunchier’ questions and we have had a large amount of unwanted interest from ‘admirers’ and ‘trolls’ over the last few months which required an exhaustive effort from all the team on every level to overcome and manage.
Most of the time I tend to nudge people to amend their posts with a gentle word in their ear, sometimes I’ll amend posts and inform them, and in the worst scenario I’ll remove a post that is not seen to be meeting the site standards or that has become a ‘heated’ discussion.
Thank you all who are on the site and support us who moderate the posts, we try to do our best, but we are also active participants here too.
See the link that Sa*man*tha has posted please for guidance on the site
Hugs
Dawn ( Matron, WPC, and Admin)
Matron Dawn….you all do a wonderful job and long may it continue….I’m sure I can speak for others when I say, we all love you !!!
There must be more than enough places on the internet for people to get that sorta crap. Leave CDH alone!! I’ve always thought we shine brightest as a support site, and we do. A safe house for those looking for help, understanding, sharing the stories of our journey – good and bad – and, oh ya, some fun too! Everything else can bugger off.
Stevie ❤
It was once stated that there are lies, damn lies and cross dressers fantasies. (I think it was Danny la rue or it could have been me?)
I trawl through the forums every day looking for something I can reply to without upsetting the author so why bother?
What stops me is the number of people who thank the sender and send in an unlikely reply of their own!
Perhaps there should be a ‘no thank you button?’
See Danny la rue in Private Fred.
I agree. I have been a member of CDH for over a year now and i love the fact that I can have decent conversations with CD’s and their SO without the topic being dragging through the mud. I followed a few other CD sites and Reddit and I tired of them quickly. This is why I found and am almost exclusive to CDH. I also directed my wife to this site to be a SO member for insight and perspective for non-sexual discussions and articles from both CD’s and SO. I hope it stays this way since it is already an uphill climb for me to get my SO to see my situation/predicament from our perspective without it still being viewed solely as a degenerate sexual deviance. Onward and upward.
It’s unfortunate that we can’t discuss the unique relationship cross dressing and sexuality have within a couple without it degenerating into garden variety sexting. There must be ways it can be done but I’m hard pressed to conceive of a set of rules that would allow it, even then it wouldn’t be too long before somebody would step over the line.
As an example consider the popular fantasy many heterosexual CDers have of being with a man in the biblical sense, to which I might counter ‘That’s not for me per se, but when I’m dressed I’d like to explore that kind of sex with my wife’. My point that I’m sure most of you intelligent ladies already understand is with the right choice of words we can convey pertinent concepts and paint a picture that readers can fill in for themselves without getting vulgar or altering the intent of this helpful and supportive forum we have all helped create.
(3) The Simpsons – I Had Sex – YouTube
Carefull however.. we know the trolls and scumbags are out there waiting to pounce. I truly love the conversation here and I really don’t want them to wreck it.
I do understand why it can never happen Kathleen. Early on when I first joined another forum I naively made a post wondering why the topic of sex never seemed to come up, it didn’t take long before I received a PM telling me how I should check out a site I had never heard of before called ***life. Eager to learn all I could I joined up there with the intent of educating myself, long story short I quickly deleted my account after seeing things I wish I could unsee, and believe me I’m no prude.
I look some time to decide whether to join this site or not.
Then more time to start to take part in any forums, I sill haven’t taken part much, I’m taking my time
but my reason for joining this site above any other is that its first and foremost a support site and not a sex or fetish site and long may it last
Emily
please don’t be worried by my post…it is brilliant here in so many ways….it’s only recently some unsavoury topics have tried to get in, and as usual, are stamped out quickly…
Huggs, grace xx
I honestly wonder if some people even notice threads lime this sometimes.
I nearly threw up when I read a recent forum post…
Then I nearly replied – but, out of deference to my lovely sisters, I restrained myself…
😍😍😍
Love Laura
Laura, I’d say that the more people that don’t notice these sort of threads before they vanish, the better.
I am a big fan of openness, frankness and honesty in matters of sexual intimacy. I probably prefer some degree of explicit discussion simply to counteract the millennia of ignorance, misinformation and, frankly, lies. We need and deserve the truth and cannot progress meaningfully without it. I may be a bit insensitive at times with my eagerness to understand and to express myself but I do not intentionally intend to offend and do not like it when some people are deliberately and cruelly offensive.
On the other hand:
There is a need for empathy, courtesy and above all a need to be a (if somewhat shady) lady at all times. What we do affects others and affects the way cross-dressers are generally viewed.
Additionally:
I like to flirt. If I see someone who looks particularly pleasing I like to express that pleasure. I try not to be too crude and If I am, I am sorry. Otherwise I just LOVE femininity regardless of the other person’s sex.
Araminta.
Araminta…”the shady lady”
love it !!!
I love to discuss proclivity but won’t be Woo’d otherwise some may have it infamy….
Our matron can’t be woo’d……
Oooeerrr…stop mucking about!!!
Mucking about “That a pound”
Yes….I know it’s HARD TO BELIEVE, but even as we discuss this…a post called ” if a guy made love to me” has been removed from the forum….it’s really beyond belief…and to be honest, I really have had enough….I don’t need this c**p in my life
I should add that if someone wants to private message me about their sexuality or mine, I don’t mind. Nobody does, so I don’t expect much anyway.
However, if you are just going to be, shall we see, suggestive or importuning, without any flair or imagination, my interests will be:
Why do you do this?
What do you expect or hope to accomplish?
Are you just abysmally lonely? (Aren’t we all, really?)
Do you get a thrill from being shocking?
Does it make you feel empowered? Why?
Are you just desperate for human contact and lack the social or conversational skills to initiate a conversation?
I would like to understand.
Araminta.
Are you just abysmally lonely?.
you are so dry, you should be a martini…haha
Reminds me of the lovely German person who went into a bar and asked for a Martini.
The barman asked “Dry?”
The gorgeous blonde fraulein said “No, just the one, please…”.
Then a Roman came in and asked for a Martinus.
The barman asked “Don’t you mean a Martini?”
The Roman said “If I’d wanted a double, I would have asked…”.
Another Roman came into the bar, held up 2 fingers and said “Five Martinis please”.
A giraffe walked into a bar and ordered 6 Martinis.
Shame on you for waiting for a punchline, this giraffe needs help!
A man starts choking on the garnish in his Martini.
The barman asks “Are you alright?”
The man recovers a little and replies…
“Olive.”
#GetsCoat
Haha…brilliant….
Name : Laura
Hobby: Roman around bars!!
That was the post I was referring to, Grace.
Wish I could think of something funny to say, but posts like that make me lose my sense of humour for some reason…
To be honest…some of these authors are showing a pattern….see their other topics
sooooooooooo… tell me…
these posts are searchable from Google.
Trolls see them, and come into the site to get in on the flirty and the “sleeping with”.
how do I delete a troll doing the same thing without being a hypocrite?
things that detract from our mission, whether it be politics or “had a date and slept with…” are just that, distractions from our mission.
don’t get me wrong, I like flirty, I like images that “inflame the soul”, but things that attract trolls and detract from our primary mission of supporting the needs of the CD/TG/TS emotional and counseling support do not belong on this site.
take them elsewhere.
Omg…searchable by Google…I didn’t know that, not that I am worried about me!!
…but what you are saying is that every bit of ” dodgy stuff” that gets through can snowball!!!????
we live and learn…
Thank you BJ. xx
yes, the dodgy stuff can snowball.
I’ve seen it many times, like in chat, when someone is posting a lot of images, all of a sudden we’re besieged with trolls…
Thank you BillieJay x
Hi girls I’m laughing my socks off at all the lovely jokes, keep up the good work please x I love coming on CDH because of all the wonderful people on here, i know it’s a safe place to come to and share my love of cross-dressing with like minded people,
Can i join you in the naughty corner Grace
Hugs Rozalyne x
Roz…once you are sent to the Naughty Corner three times…your a life member!!
from……”Carry on Cabby”….
Hattie Jacques, after she is given a fur coat: “Oh, it’s lovely.”
Sid James as husband: “Genuine mammoth, that is.”
Hattie: “Oh, don’t be silly.”
Sid: “It said so on the shop window ‘mammoth fur sale’.”
Grace xx
I’m with you all the way, Grace. Since this is a “free” site, we will attract folks who are looking for a hookup site or other cheap thrill. They are always here, then gone in a couple of days because of the great work our moderators do to keep us PG-rated. And I truly appreciate their work. If I wanted the other stuff (I don’t), I would go to …… hub and get my fill.
Hugs,
Bettylou (and Ziggy)Thanks Bettylou
even with my vivid imagination, I just cannot conjure up a picture of Ziggy try to access pornhub……and long may it remain that way!!!
HI Grace,
I couldn’t agree more.
I know a lot of our C/D ing has a sexual side to it and there is nothing wrong with that.
I love feeling sexy its a part of being feminine.
However This place is set up to be a place we can talk and share about wonderful feminine things and gain friendships In a safe and clean manner and be safe .
I think our staff does great job keeping this place safe and clean and allowing us to skirt right up to the line of what’s not acceptable.
I know they struggle to not offend us for being over the line and at the same time protect us and keep this place wholesome.
Thank you to all the staffers that struggle everyday to protect us and at the same time not offend and insult us.
I know my self I love feeling sexy and talking about it from time to time.
I hope I dont make you staffers jobs any more difficult.
As Grace said lets think a bit about what we are about to discuss and consider our fellow CDH mrs and our wonderful staff that works so hard to give us this great site.
Patty
Steph…don’t start me off on ” carry on films”….where no entendre is left undoubted!!!
Doctor…..I dreamed about you last night nurse
Nurse…… did you doctor???
Doctor…..no, you wouldn’t let me!!
Carry on dressing!!!
Can I put forward Sammy as……….
Constable Constable
Casting “That a be a pound”
Infamy Infamy
How about Kenneth Williams, played by Stevie Steiner, Joan Sims, played by Stephanie Plumb.
Anyone seen “Cooking Fat”
Oh yes Emily… brilliant…..
Dann Dann, the sanitary man x
Dreams “They are extras” how much? “That a be a pound”
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