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Registered On: March 9, 2022Topics: 18Replies: 146Has thanked: 229 timesBeen thanked: 1328 timesLadies,
I am wondering how many of you have a wife that is intimate with you while you are either fully or partially dressed?I try to be accommodating in this regard for my husband even though it is not my preference. It seems a lot of the ladies I have talked to would love to be intimate with their wives while dressed but it is a hard pass from their wives. Genuinely curious.
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I guess it depends on her mood. Sometimes my wife would let me pick something out to wear or pick something out herself. Other times, she would start getting in the mood, feel the tights under my jeans and completely stop and roll away from me. Our intimacy time is so few and far between now that it’s a moot point
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Registered On: September 25, 2023Topics: 5Replies: 68Has thanked: 166 timesBeen thanked: 333 timesYes. Never been a problem. Makes it better for both of us wearing sexy, frilly things. :)
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That is my take as well. Sexy lingwrie is just plain erotic. No reason it can not be as erotic on men as women. My wife knows I like it and likes to please me, so ir is great in thay respecrt, but I like to pleasure her, and if she will acxept me in swxy lingerie, I.will do my best to please her as best I can. It is teuly a.qin/win situation.
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I am having a similar situation with my girlfriend, JJ, She has a very large collection of sexy bras and panties and keeps buying more and more. I think because she likes them for herself, she likes them on me too. She just bought me a sexy, lacey bra and panty set. She and I agree that sexy is sexy, no matter who is wearing.
Curiously, however, she has stated that she does not want to see me in full drag. Even mentioning dresses or shoes is a tremendous and immediate turn off for her. I can only fully dress when I am home alone. I can live with that compromise.
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Hi Betty,unfortunately my wife thinks its an abomination and if she catches me crossdressing again she will leave me. I understand her feelings but it is such a shame she is so threatened by it that we are no longer intimate at all.
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Wow. That is just so sad. I can only imagine how you feel with her saying that to you. I would think your marriage would mean more to her than just having a crossdessing hubby. Have there been other issues and she may just be adding this to them? If not she is being totally unreasonable. Really sorry that you have to face this. :(
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Sadly, I can only dress when she’s away on business or whatever. It’s sad but I also understand. I wasn’t forthcoming when we first met. I love her and it would be wonderful to be able wear something pretty in bed with her sometime.
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MyMy ex-wife wasn’t into sex with me dressed as she said I looked like a trussed up chicken.
My girlfriends since my divorce have all been willing and in some cases very keen to be intimate while I was dressed and it is really good.
I don’t think I would want a relationship where I couldn’t dress all the time.
This is a thing I attempt to test in the early stages of a possible relationship because it is important to me.
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Best times ever!!! Hope you can enjoy 😉
Xx
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My SO has been on occasion. The first time I dressed in front of her the sex was amazing but kinda fizzled from there. Other things happened in our life and opportunity hasn’t really allowed anything, the occasion i underdress we have been intimate but I’m not sure how forced on her behalf that is lol. I wish she was more into it an I’m jealous of other relationships that openly enjoy it
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My exact experience! It’s hard to tell whenever she’s going to flip-flop, but it’s clearly (and unfortunately) been more “flop” than “flip”. Maybe we’ve been intimate with me en femme three or four times ever since I told her.
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My girlfriend and I often enjoy wearing a bra and panties together, but not every day, only a few times each week. This is her limit. She will not permit me to go any further, either in or out of bed.
I wish she was open to more. She knows I have forms and dresses in the bureau. These are for DADT situations when she is traveling and I am home alone.
I have to accept her conditions. It is better than nothing. I feel blessed but also live in hope that someday I will be free to live and lie down in peace with her without limitations on clothing.6 users thanked author for this post.
My wife is intimate with me while I am en femme. However, I am careful to make sure that she’s okay with it before we get intimate. There are times when she would rather be intimate when I’m not en femme..which is more than okay! I respect her wishes. We’ve gone as far to develop code words to use when she’s not in the mood to be intimate with Ashley, and when she’s in the mood to be intimate with Ashley. The code words seem to work out extremely well for us because it allows us to break the ice easier about intimacy expectations while I am en femme.
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When she’s okay with it, is she feeling you as another woman? That would be pretty nice actually. Or does she run her hands over your panty and feel you down there? I’d definitely be aroused feeling fem, wearing jewelry and pretty clothes.
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Hi Theresa ……………I’d like to be the ………other woman …………..the lipstick lesbian …………………….wearing the pretty clothes and jewelry …………………..the sweet girly one ……………karley
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My wife did twice and then never again. Like some of the other posts my stated she is not attracted to females so this does not work for her. I loved the two times we did this.
Same here, it was amazing. I still dress but our intimate days have gone forever, unfortunately.
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I am single and even though I consider myself bi I prefer to date men. And if I am intimate with a date it is as Alanna.
I want to be girly, feminine for my date and what better way than wearing something sexy to bed.
Alanna
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Since transitioning to live as Michelle I’ve only been intimate with men, but it’s an absolute precondition that I am Michelle the entire time. I will only play the “female” role and must be wearing my wig and breast forms. This sadly means that I have to keep my bra on. I’m looking forward to the day when I can take it off and be fully naked with a lover.
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You go girl.
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Michelle……, You are Sooooo S~e~n~s~u~o~u~s 👩❤️💋👩💕🥰💋
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So on and off my wife will not mind me dress as Jenny. This means a bra and breast forms then a nice teddy on with lite makeup. She even gets into it and will rub my chest and talk dirty to me. And then there is times when i try and i am dressed and she wants nothing to do with Jenny and if i say ok i will take it all off she states don’t bother she is nit in the mode and walks away.🫣😥
For me i love to be dresses, and when it comes to sex i get more accited and feel more romantic when i am dresses in nightgown or teddy of some sort.10 users thanked author for this post.
My wife did twice and then never again. Like some of the other posts my stated she is not attracted to females so this does not work for her. I loved the two times we did this.
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I did the same thing twice with my with. she didnt say anything
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Hi Betty,
To answer your question, yes, my wife is willing to be intimate with me while I’m dressed, whether partially or completely. However, I respect the fact that she married a man because she is attracted to men and not women, so I don’t dress up very often for intimacy. It’s to her credit that she is willing to indulge my fantasies now and then. I’m very lucky to have her.
Hugs, Jill
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This has been pretty much the dynamic in our house. She seems to enjoy my being dressed and the sex has been great when I am (and it is great when I am not), but I do not want, or need, to dress to often. I jokingly blame her for my desire to dress, because the sex is so good when I dress that she positively reinforces my dressed because it is so good. I have always told near she can tell me if I have gone too far, but that has never happened, so I have to assume she is fine with me being dressed. While she has never actively encouraged me to dress, she has never discourage it, and by her active participation does encourage me to dress, though I intentionally keep it limited.
That all said, it has been awhile since we were intimate fully dressed (though my wear lingerie is quite frequent), so I am looking forward to getting fully dressed with her very soon.
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I personally am very lucky to have a wife who embraces me being femme or masc. She is a bisexual woman who occasionally desires the feel of being with a woman. She really enjoys intimacy difference when I am fully dressed and smooth. Once in a while we even reverse roles and she assumes the position as a the male.
I don’t get the opportunity to dress as often as I would like and be intimate, as I still get feelings of wanting to hide it regardless of her level of acceptance.
In summary, we both enjoy the intimacy in a different and new way.
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OMG…the “almost” perfect relationship…I envy you, Jennifer…”count your blessings”…!!!
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I do. Every day. My wife is amazing in so many ways.
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Jennifer, that would be amazing to have a wife that would want to reverse roles. You’re so blessed, with someone that so understanding,do you have a awesome day today,
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My wife and I recently tried reversing the roles, and although she didn’t really care for it, it was heavenly to me. I would love to do much more often!
Hugs, Jill
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To be intimate with me en femme, my wife might want to be interested in being intimate with me at all.
She gave up many decades ago.
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Sadly, you are not along….all I can add is DON’T let this stop you from “being you”…it’s OK to be “selfish” and enjoy what gives you pleasure…I DO…!!!
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I have gradually come to realize this is the worlds biggest secret.
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My wife dislikes and don’t even want to see me when I dress Feminine, let alone be intimate, But I will tell you that it would be my dream to be able to dress Feminine and be able to be intimate with the one I Love, I believe it would be very arousing , and it would take sexuality to the next level , But for now it’s just my Fantasy, Thanks for the article and your story,
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Yes my wife and I have been intimate together while I was dressed, and actually it’s extremely rare that I’m not dressed , either simple panties and a nightie or maybe even more. She accepts that it’s me and it’s what I enjoy, and if I’m enjoying it then I’m even more into it and wanting to satisfy her needs before my own. I asked her was it like being with another “real” woman? She said it didn’t really matter because she loves me and regardless of what I’m wearing she is getting what she needs from the situation. We have taken it further at times to test the waters, having her call me by my female name, teasing me and only touching me in the way you would touch a female, can’t get to detailed or graphic here though! But the simple answer is YES, it’s our normal routine now.
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That is so sweet that you have an understanding wife, and lets you expressed yourself. My wife is not that understanding.,
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It seems as if your posts here point to how you really feel. You love your husband but you are not comfortable with where things are going. Just as though we cannot change ourselves, you cannot change yourself either. So i would say either set concrete barriers, go to marriage counseling, or its time to have a serious talk.
My wife also “accommodates” me. We have set barriers and I respect them, but I do fear that one day its all going to come crashing down. Just like “i didnt ask for this”, she also didnt “ask for this”. It will be an ongoing test of our love and respect for each other. I hope everything works out for you as it does for us also. Try to keep open communication about how you feel. It doesnt do any good to keep feelings to yourself even if they are “negative”, or in other words, honest.
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Yes, my current girlfriend is very supportive. When I am not dressed,she checks on me to make sure I am ok. Our intimate moments just keep getting better. I may have to keep this one 🤗🤗
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Wife is OK with me in pantie and bra, or a nightdress. She is not into women sexually at all so me being fully dressed (she has seen me many times and is fully supportive) would be/is a big turn off for her. Best, Marlene.
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When I first came out, a handful of times. She said that, even though it was not her thing, the confidence I had in panties turned her on. Once she even took pictures and commented on my garter belt during the act. And then… she realized she doesn’t like it. Yesterday she actually reinforced that she “can’t deal with the panties thing”. She also asked if it hurt me. I half-lied and said “not really, but I would be very happy if you did like it”.
So I pretty much stopped letting her see me when I dress, and will be careful not to let her notice I’m underdressing, either (panties with clasps do help). I will also keep my dirties in a laundry bag in a nightstand drawer so she doesn’t have to wash them accidentally — even though 99% of the time I’m the one doing the laundry. My main concern is that, if (or when) my dressing goes beyond underwear, I will have to choose between being honest to myself or keeping her happy.
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When my girlfriend and I began dating last summer, she was supportive enough to buy me several panties. Now, 10 months later, I suspect the novelty is wearing off on her. She has told me that underwear was her limit, so she has only seen me in bra and panties. I wish I could wear them (and other lingerie) to bed with her every night, but I am cautious to wear them with her only sporadically.
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I love feeling pretty in lingerie. I get hard wearing pretty things. Does that happen for you as well? Just curious what might be happening. I also love to wear jewelry and that has been a problem as I guess it’s a bit too feminine.
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Off topic because it’s not regarding a wife or SO but I’m totally the same way… I love wearing pretty things and jewelry is always the first thing I think about even before nice clothing. I just love the way necklaces, bracelets and rings feel on me. I’ve only done that alone however because I’m not sure how that would be accepted. This is the first time I’ve talked about it so thanks.
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Always wear lingerie usually a panty, bra, half slip or full slip, woman’s fragrance and a woman’s robe to start. Married 45 years. I do like to throw on a lesbian DVD to move things along.
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Oooo! Eager to hear more! Tingles just reading your post!
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Pretty perfume can be lovely, I think.
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I love perfume. Subtle and not overpowering. I fantasize about being kissed and only then can he smell it. And it turns him on even more kissing my neck. You get it I’m sure.
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We are both in our late 60s and early 70s my wife is fine with me being more of a woman than a man. We have not been intimate for years now our relationship is much more like best girls friends rather than husband and wife. I think we are very happy and would rather be girl friends.
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Hi Betty, I have to say how envious I am of all you out there that have the chance for intimacy with your SO. As somewhat excepting my wife is with Sherri, there is no way she will be intimate with her. It is truly a wonderful thing that you share your intimacy with him and care for his feelings.
Sherri
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Hi , yes we do get intimate , she likes to be in bed with her girlfriend as she calls me , it adds a bit of spice to things and brings us closer together
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For sure Sarah, that’s what dreams are made of, you are truly blessed
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Ex wife was on and off. One day great with it, the next throwing, literally throwing a fit about it. She was very controlling and looking back, I think very uncertain of her own sexuality. My wife is ok with my dressing around the house. Not so encouraging, but consistently ok. We tried intimacy a few times with pantyhose and she found she was not comfortable. So, I dress for all but sex. That is a compromise, but one we can both be happy with.
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I wasn’t active from courtship until our kids were grown. There was banter about role reversal but that’s all. For us it started in the bedroom and grew from there, it’s our thing now. I still go at her pace in terms of public dressing — while pushing the envelope, of course.
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For us, it’s sort of a down the middle approach. She’s fine with me wearing anything I feel pretty in, teddy or nightgown, although I don’t really like nightgowns lately, it seems old fashioned and I prefer something shorter, also lighter and lacy. Bra is okay but no forms. Jewelry is okay too, which is great because I love the feeling wearing necklaces, rings and bracelets. No wig or makeup. I feel pretty lucky actually. She looks pretty in lingerie or even flannel jammies so it’s okay she doesn’t really share the same passion although I do love it when she has a long silk nightgown on and we snuggle up.
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Dear Betty
What a fantastic question. Well done for bringing this up. It is obviously generated a lot of interest based on the large number of responses.
For my wife and I, we are intimate both ways, girl on girl and the more conventional husband and wife. My wife says my dressing does not really ‘turn her on’, but she understands my needs to be dressed and to be as much as a woman as I can. So I am often (usually) dressed: lingerie (and even heels) or night wear (but always a bra) and often makeup and wig. But I also want to cater for her needs and this involves nudity on both sides. Afterwards however I do dress up in a nightie/bra again and we continue cuddling.
So we look out for each other’s needs and desires – but this is true for all aspects of our joint lives, not just during the most intimate of interactions. This is what makes an enduring and happy relationship – things cannot be only one way and selfish (even though the dressing is sometimes overwhelmingly compelling).
I do like Lisa L’s idea of matching lingerie and night clothes. I’ll have to make that suggestion to my SO.
I would like to give my heart felt praise to all the tolerant, accepting and even enthusiastic SOs who allow us ladies to be so in all aspects of our lives.
thanks
Christine
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I love that you can put on something pretty again after you both make love and then just cuddle and fall asleep together in each others arms. That sounds very romantic and loving. You’re very lucky to have found her love. And also in this way of course.
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The short answer is yes, we are intimate while I am dressed frequently. Mostly it is lingerie, but I have been fully dressed except for wig and make up in bed several times. She always enjoys it and has very intense orgasms as do I. We have a great sex life when not dressed as well. My dressing, and her exposure to it has been slow in developing, and I always give her veto power which she has never exercised. She is pretty indifferent to it, and is just as happy with us being naked as dressed.
I came to dressing well into our marriage, and very slowly. I always had an interested in all things feminine, and put on mom’s things a couple of times as a kid, but then nothing, and no desires for many years. The first time I wore my wife’s pants was when we were engaged and she was out of town. On a total lark I put them on and wore them all day. That evening we were talking on the phone and I admitted I was were a pair of her sexy panties, that I was aroused and we had phone sex. I didn’t wear anything for many years after that. I always like nice lingerie, and bought things for her frequently then one day asked if I could wear her panties while we were in bed. She was fine with it, and seemed to enjoy how turned on I was. I admitted how much I liked wearing them and she just said that it did nothing for her, but if I enjoyed it then fine. She said they were just clothes.
I have added items over time and she has always been fine with anything new. I am sure to let her know how much I enjoy it, and I make sure she is well satisfied in bed as well. I started wearing more and more outer wear and while not really keeping it a secret, I kept it well out of her view. I finally just told her I like to dress en femme and if she ever had a problem with it to let me know, which she has not. Her only comment was I probably should go out in public, which I admitted I probably shouldn’t, (I didn’t tell her I do). We were having an intimate dinner with wine at the time and were both wearing sexy lingerie and silk robes when we were discussing this and the evening quickly moved first to the back patio after losing the robes and on to the bedroom for some passionate sex. Since then I have worn matching bra, panties, garters and stocking plus a black dress and 3″ heels for more amazing sex. She seems to really go out of her way to please me when I am dressed as such, so while she has never openly encouraged me to dress, she certainly has never shown and discouragement. I blame her for much my desire to dress en femme because every time I do she makes me feel so go that I just can’t help myself.
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It depends how far I take it. My SO enjoys being intimate when I wear sexy lingerie without all the other stuff to help me try to look more feminine. When I’m fully en femme trying to look as passable as I can with breast forms, wig, nails, full makeup, ect she is NOT interested. We can dine, watch TV or movies, generally hang out and she’s totally cool with it but no intimacy. I completely respect her boundaries and appreciate the support I get from her considering that we were married 30 years before Lola came into our lives.
💕Lola
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My wife and I had done it twice. The first time for her was more of a curiousness about what it would be like maybe with a woman. The second time she was not into it and said she has no bi or lesbian inclination so I have never pushed it since.
I know she would if I asked but I’m going to wait for her to ask about it first.
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We have been intimate in both aspects. We love each other the same either way.
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Hi Betty,
My wife doesn’t understand why women want to wear women’s clothing, let alone her husband. When I came out to she said married a guy and wants to be with that guy. In our house intimacy and crossdressing are like oil and water … they will never mix.
Cheers,
Robin
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Robin I know the feeling, and I completely understand
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At the risk of sounding like a humble brag, I have to say YES! My Miss adores Nikki in all the ways we spend time together. She’s bi, and last weekend she said the most amazing thing to me. She said “I’m missing being with a woman, and I want a girlfriend again. Will you be my girlfriend, Nikki?” I was floored and moved and excited all at the same time! Our date nights are going to be super fun!
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Nikki; you are so, so lucky – and it sounds like your Miss is as well! I can’t imagine being in your situation – I just wish I could be. My wife (who I love beyond belief) isn’t bi – though she has had people saying they thought she was bi or gay in the past. I would say that a lot of folk have a fantasy of being in a threesome – but when you are two of the three involved? Oooh, yeah, baby… Better stop now, or I’ll have the Powers That Be throwing me out of CDH – just hope I’m not too late…… Holly XXX
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Nikki, I had a bi girlfriend who said almost those exact words to me. She is actually the one who started me dressing. Too bad the relation flamed out.
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My wife isnt into getting intimate with Ellie but she is happy for me to wear lingerie to bed. She is happy to cuddle up and all that with me wearing satin PJs or a nightie but not sex.
Years ago – back in the 80s before we were married she was staying over at my house and her clothes were on the floor from the night out before. She was into wearing stockings and suspenders then, so after an intimate session in the morning I jumped out of bed and put her suspender belt and stockings on. We often messed about like this in the early 80s – crossdress scrabble (whoever wins a word gets to choose which item of the oponents clothing to wear and we swap) and things like that.
So then I jumped back into bed and we got intimate again which was ok but halfway through she undid the suspender belt I was wearing – letting me know she wasnt keen on that, and I felt a bit bad and never did it again.
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