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Registered On: July 1, 2023Topics: 11Replies: 582Has thanked: 1705 timesBeen thanked: 2442 timesHey girls!
Now ,,, I said ‘Hey girls’ deliberately because I genuinely wanted to check. Is that an okay way to greet people on here? Or is it going to offend anyone? What about ‘sister’ and ‘girlfriend’? Are those generally acceptable, even to MTF crossdressers who don’t identify as female?
The reason I’m asking is that in my 59 years, most of them involving crossdressing to varying degrees, I have never (until now) been in contact with another crossdresser. When I drop into the chatroom, I keep encountering words I’ve never heard before. I sit here with a notepad, scribbling things down and then frantically googling. It’s a whole new language for me. And as with learning any new language, I worry I’m going to make mistakes.
The chatroom has already added several words to my vocabulary – drab (love that one!), underdressing, AMAB and GG are examples!
What I’d like to know are two things:
1) Is there a single, inclusive way to say ‘hi’ to a group that everyone generally uses, and that is considered acceptable to all?
2). What other words / phrases / abbreviations do you commonly use? Just terms that are in everyday use in our community. I’ve been looking at online glossaries and they seem fairly comprehensive, although they don’t always agree about whether some terms are acceptable or offensive. One said that ‘GG’ was offensive, but I was at a loss to understand why. Maybe it would depend on the context?
Anyway – there you go. I’m looking forward to being schooled in the correct etiquette and expanding my vocabulary!
Hugs
Ellie x
(PS – personally I am loving being called ‘girl and ‘girlfriend’ on here. I’ve been starved of that my whole life, and now I can’t get enough!)
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First hi girlfriend! Now Ellie you are not wrong. Typically if you identify as a woman. Lady, girl and girlfriend are names you use to address the woman. So you are using the right terms. I use those terms myself. Other people use them for me as well. At the end of the day I identify as a woman so I’ll take all the female names and pronouns.
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I especially enjoy being greeted with a cheery ‘Hey girl’ … and after a few months on here now I’m using ‘Hi girlfriend’, ‘Hey girls’ and ‘Hello ladies’ as if I was born to it.
Loving every second 🙂
Hugs
Ellie x
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Hi Ellie. I enjoy being called either. Really being called by just about any feminine word (she, her, ma’am, lady, etc) is a rush.
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That was something I’d never experienced before joining CDH. The first time someone replied to one of my posts and said ‘Hey girl’, I felt a genuine flush of pleasure.
I’m a lot more used to it now … but it still feels wonderful every time 🙂
Hugs
Ellie x
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Learning the 2 Languages – English English and American English :
It’s right to say that here in Britain, we call what you, our US cousins, call panty-hose, ‘tights’. If you ask as to what we call what you call tights, the rather confusing answer is : ‘tights’. It’s up to the listener or reader to judge as to whether the speaker or writer is referring to what you would call panty-hose or what you would call tights. It will usually be panty-hose. What you call tights might sometimes be called dance tights to make it clear as to what is being referred to but this would only be occasionally be the case.
There are quite a lot of transatlantic differences in terminology of course. Some which are found with regard to what we wear are:
Ladies Shoes: In Britain ‘pumps’ are gym shoes, worn by both men and women. What you call ‘pumps’ have traditionally been called ‘court shoes’ in Britain but that is a term falling out of use and shoes with heels are now usually simply referred to as ‘heels’.
‘Hose’ is a term rarely used in speech in Britain but ‘Hosiery’ is sometimes used on signage in stores and in catalogues.
Ladies stockings are held up by wearing a suspender belt not, as you would say, a garter belt, with suspenders clipped onto the stocking. Garters are individual elasticated and usually highly decorative bands worn on one leg, ostensibly to hold up the stocking but, actually, purely for decorative adornment. A very different type of garter used to be worn by men just below the knee to keep their socks up – a practice which finally died out here in about the early 1950s.
Women and girls in Britain rarely refer to wearing ‘panties’, though may occasionally refer to them as ‘pants’. They are referred to as a panty in the context of ‘panty liners’ but otherwise girls and women refer to them as their ‘knickers’. Unlike in the US, where I understand that men and boys are just as or more likely to wear what you would call knickers, here in Britain the term ‘knickers’ can have the same implicit erotic undertone as ‘panties’ may have with you. Only in certain parts of northern England are men’s underpants still occasionally called ‘knickers’ in common parlance.
So British women and girls are most likely to refer to their panties as their knickers, but they are sold as ‘briefs’, a term the wearers may occasionally use.
As to underwear generally, I notice that women in the US sometimes refer to ladies underwear as ‘lahngeray’. In Britain, it’s pronounced ‘lawngeree’. Both pronunciations are wrong – it’s ‘lahngeree’.
I find these differences fascinating. I hope others do.
With my best wishes,
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In another thread I described that I am often wearing compression stockings. Because they kept slipping down my upper thigh, I bought a belt to hold them up. The tops of the stockings are very thick and can’t be held up by the traditional women’s suspender or garter belt clips. To describe the clips and not confuse anyone on either side of “the pond,” I said the grip was more like that of a fireman’s suspender.
Also, in the US we tend to use the terms sheer or semi-opaque to describe pantyhose, and tights are always opaque (and often of a different knit – they are less likely to run if there a hole forms). In English English you measure the sheerness to opaqueness by denier. (In the US, denier is more likely to come from the root word deny – den
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Hi Alison
I remember reading a whole separate thread on the whole tights/pantyhose thing. Yet another example of two nations separated by a common language 🙂
Hugs
Ellie
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Hi Celeste
Just so you know, I’m not one of your US cousins (unless Norfolk is the 51st state).
Wearing knickers and a suspender belt right now …
Hugs
Ellie x
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Hi Ellie,
I knew that you’re in Norfolk, Hun., but I thought my message might help others, from both sides of The Pond, who might get confused.
Wearing stockings and suzzies feels so much better than hot, itchy tights do, doesn’t it? As you have mentioned it, may I be so intrusive as to ask : Are you a “knickers over suzzies” or “knickers under suzzies” girl?
Hugs,
Celeste x
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Oh … that’s the eternal question 🙂
I’m a knickers-under, sussies-over kind of girl. That’s despite the lack of practicality in terms of what Harriette has so poetically termed ‘toilet usage’.
Hugs
Ellie x
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I have found that I like being called by feminine pronouns. It’s like a validation of my female side.
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Just curious… I am to naïve to know.
Do GGs actually call each other “girlfriend”, say, in the same way guys call friends “buddy”? Not that I approve of being called buddy. Just curious…
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Yes they do. I’ve heard many times “Me and my girlfriend…” or “A girlfriend of mine…”.
As far as buddy, I have referred to male friends as buddy and even been introduced as a buddy by a male friend.
Here in the south, you might even hear the phrase of “‘ole boy”, such as “This ‘ole boy I know…”
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To me, your examples aren’t the same as how I see girlfriend used here as a greeting. I have never heard a woman use the word in that way before.
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Hey Harriette
Here in the UK I’ve definitely heard ‘Hey girlfriend’ used as a greeting, one girl to another. It’s always been teenaged girls saying it though, and it’s usually delivered in a mock American accent … so I’ve always assumed that it’s a reference to a TV show rather than something that they would normally say.
‘Hey girl’, on the other hand, is pretty common.
Ellie x
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On the whole I have always hated being called things like pal, mate or more recently bor. Here I think we all enjoy any name or pronoun that denotes femininity, apart from the s****y word, which gets my hackles up!
We lean towards the feminine, in writings too I have noticed, the tone is always more genteel, the use of “hugs” as a good bye instead of say “cheers” for example.
So how does it go now…..I have a LBD with an OBG and RHT stockings. A pair of louboos to finish it off…. still a MIAD though, or maybe no one would see that I was AMAB!
XOXO
Helen
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Hi Helen,
Funny I keep thinking about s***y… while I understand “painting” all M2F CD/TG ‘s with that as a label is likely intended in a pejorative context, I can also appreciate in some cases this may be their “thing” and perhaps not received as a negative? Not trying to “…stir any trouble…”; I’m just trying to discern there may be situations where the s***y characterization isn’t as offensive?
Thanks and again I’m not trying to be a troublemaker!!
Kim
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Helen, you just had to throw in something that I didn’t know, didn’t you?
RHT?
Retractable Hard Top?
Right Hand Thread?
Radiant Heat Temperature?
It also turns out to be the SCUBA diving fish recognition code for the Atlantic Sharpnose Shark, though I can’t for the life of me see why. Surely that should be ASS?
Anyway, none of these seemed strictly applicable to stockings 🙁
Fortunately I then stumbled on ‘Reinforced Heel and Toe’, so I’m guessing that’s the correct option.
Thank you for educating me.
‘Hugs’, but definitely not ‘Cheers’ (unless you’re holding a glass ATM).
Ellie x
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I enjoy being called lady, girlfriend, girl, or any other word that denotes I’m being recognized as a member of the fairer sex. I CD so I can feel my softer side. Being called “dude” doesn’t do that for me. Any feminine greeting is fine with me.
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Hey Girlfriend,
I personally find no issue with “Hey Girls”, “Hi Girls”, “Hey Girlfriend”, etc etc. In my mind, when I’m here, I am here as Sophie (my female alter-ego). I welcome you to address me as a female.
If you must use a greeting that is guaranteed not to rub any feathers, “Hi Everyone” works but in my opinion is pretty boring.
My personal favorite for addressing a group here is “Hi/Hey Ladies”. I like to think that carries a little more sophistication than “Hi/Hey Girls”. We’re like a big family here and I’m not that picky anyhow. Call me anything but late for dinner…LOL.
Sophie
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Yes Ellie, I like being called girl or better yet girlfriend. I am not sure what all the terminology is. Especially in chat. I am fine with speaking like a women. I have read a lot of your comment other girls and you are such a sweetheart.
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Hi Julie
It’s two months now since I started this thread. Not really knowing what I was doing (story of my life) but trying to be neat and tidy, I went back to it and added in Hannah McKnight’s wonderful ‘Pink Flag’ phrase. Of course that reactivated the whole thing, which honestly WAS NOT the intention *note to self, next time, Ellie, just start a new post to avoid mayhem*
In terms of the thread as a whole, I was really pleased with how it took off. I learnt a lot in a very short time, which was very much the point, but of course the new vocabulary that I gained was never going to be comprehensive. I’m still finding out new words and phrases all the time, especially from sites such as Hannah’s. The most baffling are the abbreviations and acronyms!
Thanks for calling me a sweetheart … that makes you one too 🙂
Hugs
Ellie x
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I definitely like girlfriend , baby, sweetheart, lady , I definitely don’t want pal mate, chum , eg. Thanks Ellie Frenlee, (Sophie)v
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*Makes a careful note of what terms to avoid in future chats with Sophie*
Having someone call me ‘baby’ would be a first. I’m not sure how I’d feel about it, to be honest! Am I anyone’s baby? No. Do I want to be? I don’t think so 🙁
‘Babe’ though … perhaps 🙂
‘Sweetheart’ is good … and I also like ‘Hello lovely’ (Lucy Bancroft, I’m looking at YOU as I write this).
Hugs
Ellie x
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You are definitely a very sweet women. I love your story about telling your mother and sister.
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Thanks Julie
I’m hoping that there will eventually be a Part 3 (maybe my adventures with Tracey in the Boxing Day sales?) so stay seated.
If anything else happens on Planet Ellie in the meantime, I’ll be sure to share it!
Hugs
Ellie x
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Simply put just treat and greet everyone as a woman. Love calling one another Sis, girlfriend, Sweetie etc. After all we are women and love being treated and addressed that way. Dont think crossdresser but hey girl using our fem names and pronouns. No magic to it
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Hi Girls,
Thank you Ellie for this wonderful, entertaining and informative post!
So happy I came back to CDH!
Kimberly Anne
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Thanks Kim
*Laughs* I live to inform and entertain! 🙂
*Realises too late that people will hold me to this. On this basis, makes mental note to try and be super-informative and mega-entertaining in future*.
Kim … we’re ALL happy that you came back to CDH !
I’m really glad that people liked the thread – I actually find it fascinating that cultural groups develop their own languages like this. It helps to bind us together, and of course separates us from those ‘not in the know’. I guess that’s a bit of a double-edge sword…
Hugs
Ellie x
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Okay, this is NOT an established term but it SHOULD be.
I’m definitely going to start using it.
Hannah McKnight (I can’t advertise her site directly here but it’s very easy to find, and many of you will already subscribe) recently came up with the wonderful phrase ‘Pink Flag’. I was so taken with it that I contacted Hannah and asked if I could publicise it more widely.
In Hannah’s words:
‘We all know what red flags are. Big or small, subtle or obvious, basically a sign that something or someone is a BAD idea.
‘Green flags, obviously, are the opposite of that.
‘So, let’s talk about pink flags.
‘You probably don’t know what a pink flag is because I just made it up.’
A ‘Pink Flag’ is an inadvertent ‘tell’ that we’re a crossdresser. It isn’t something that immediately outs us, as a flash of panties or a bra strap might do. Rather, it might be that someone registers that you have smooth, hairless arms or legs; that someone once bumped into you, on your own, in the lingerie section of a department store; that someone makes a quickly-forgotten mental note regarding how well-kept your nails are. Individually, each of these observations raises a momentary interest but no more than that.
However, if and when we come out to one of these people, the Pink Flags all get recalled and begin to make sense. Then, folks begin to string the individual flags together into a line of bunting and say ‘Oh … yes. NOW I understand’.
Because of this, we have to be careful how many Pink Flags we reveal. Otherwise, people will start to join the dots on their own. Hannah has given me permission to quote a couple of her examples:
‘Although I don’t feel that I give off any loud or even subtle signals that I am more than I appear to be when I am in male mode, I am not surprised when someone says that something makes a little more sense in retrospect when I come out to them.
‘This is what I mean by a pink flag.
‘In the example of my sister bumping into me in the women’s department, that was a pretty big pink flag. But not every flag is so obvious. Truth be told, it’s sometimes difficult to not say something when that something is a little … well, it falls into the “how did you know that?” category.
‘What I mean is that if a girl mentions that her lipstick keeps fading I have to bite my tongue from suggesting that she use an eyeshadow primer on her lips before applying her lipstick, as the primer keeps her lipstick brighter and longer-lasting. Since most people assume I am a cisgender male, this little piece of advice isn’t something most cisgender men probably know.
‘I also find myself biting my tongue when I see someone wearing a cute dress. I have to restrain myself from asking where they got it’.
So, there we are. Pink Flags. Definitely a part of my vocabulary from now on!
Hugs
Ellie x
PS. And yes … isn’t that a great tip about the eyeshadow primer?
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Ellie,
Thank you for sharing the “pink flag” info…as I read it I realized how many of the flags I’ve put out…for about three years I kept my legs clean shaven (no one seemed to notice)…when work went from “business casual” to “casual” I started wearing femme skinny jeans to work (on one elevator ride a woman did comment “…those jeans are tight…”)… lipstick stains on cups at work too…which probably explains why another co worker out of the blue asked if I had gone to the companies “Pride Day” one year…
oh well, it just feels right!
Thank you for the Hannah McKnight web site – found it.
Kim
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Hey Kim
Isn’t ‘Pink Flags’ a great term?
I’m leaving a trail of pink flags behind me wherever I go at the moment. Shaved legs and arms (‘Oh, yeah, well it was making it hard to put sun cream on so I thought … why not?’), clear nail varnish (‘That? … it’s nail hardener because my nails kept splitting’), growing my hair out (‘Well, I’ve been cutting it myself since the first lockdown, which is why it’s been so short these last few years … I just fancied a change’).
But that’s the very definition of pink flags. People don’t twig their meaning until AFTER they discover that there’s more to you than they thought!
And, as you say … ‘it just feels right!’
Hugs
Ellie x
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I would love to wear some kind of Pink Flag jewelry all the time. Maybe a charm on a chain around my neck….hmmmmm……
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Lauren – I’m intrigued.
Are you thinking of something VERY ‘Pink Flag’ (full, in-your-face bubble gum pink) or a very subtle thing that leaves people guessing?
You’ve got me wondering …
a). what choice of charm would set off every klaxon in someone’s head?, and
b). what would just make them briefly think ‘Oh … now THAT’S interesting’ before getting distracted by a sunbeam and wandering off?
This could spawn a whole new sub-thread.
Hugs
Ellie x
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I’m just thinking something along the lines of subtle that people in our community would recognize so we can identify each other out in the wild. I guess that it would also signify someone who would be open to be approached.
Probably needs a lot more thought before it could actually be viable…..
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Firstly, I love the idea of us being ‘out in the wild’ 🙂
We’re PART of that damn ecosystem … let’s claim it!
Secondly, I’m still loving the idea of this hidden signal.
*Ellie and Lauren sit thoughtfully on their respective sides of the Atlantic Ocean, wondering what form this ‘subtle charm’ would take*
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Hi Ladies,
I’m blessed that I am openly gay and that means that I have a ‘special position’ among my female colleagues. I can very easily tell them when they wear a cute dress or have beatutiful nails. I have even told some female colleagues that I “sometimes fill in as a drag queen when a friend asks me” (I really do have a friend that profesionally organizes drag queen shows) and I told my closest colleague that I am a crossdresser. So these girls are not surprised when I join a conversation about gel coated nails… they like it.
Complementing on clothes is still a risky business though. I almost always refrain from doing it publically. #MeToo has had profound effects in my country and we’ve had quite a number of huge scandals finally come to light. So “how a man and woman should interact” has become somewhat confusing, especially when – like me – you are considered one of the girls, while your other male colleagues clearly are not 😉
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Hi Girls,
I do like Frédérique’s observation on fashion discussions with women, especially in context of #me too…which absent the context of the very real concerns of the movement, is perhaps an ironic # in terms of the crossdresser that is biting their tongue off not to say “…I love your dress – wish it would look that good on me too👗!!!”
Kim
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Yes …
1). Telling a woman that you like her dress = potential (but not overwhelmingly so) pink flag.
2). Asking where she got it = obvious pink flag.
3). Saying ‘That dress would look good on me’ = leaving pink flag territory altogether.
Perhaps, like lipstick, flags come in different shades of pink … from baby pink flags through to full on Barbie.
Hugs
Ellie x
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Yes, I would love to tell a women her dress is so cute or tell a women how much I like what she with her eyes. It would come off strange in guy mode to say something like that to a women. I am not sure if a women notices my long nails or that I shave the hair on my hands. So yes pink flags sounds like an appropriate term.
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When I was in the hospital, recently, a woman came in my room to visit another patient. She was wearing a light Sunday-going-to-church dress. At some point, I caught her eye and asked her to come over to my bed. Then I told her that her dress was nice. By the look of her husband, I doubted that he had told her that for a few years.
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I wouldn’t worry too much about unintentionally getting it wrong. You’ll soon be corrected on some sites or groups I’m sure.
One of the reasons I see it that way is so many terms and definitions in this day and age are made up or evolved within a close group so how can we possibly be expected to know and comprehend them all. I had one individual arguing that as Shakespeare had made up new words or grammatical layout which had been gradually accepted into English they would too. Soon shut ups when I pointed out that Shakespeare had clearly been more intelligent than them.
Quora demonstrates that mentality abley where there’s page upon page of people arguing the difference of Transvestite vs Crossdresser. Quite sad really.
Just say what you do with a smile lol 😊 xx
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Hi Kay
I put up the original post on July 3rd, a few days after joining. At the time I was very uncertain about everything, and had never communicated with anyone else ‘like me’.
I think/hope I’ve come on in leaps and bounds since then, and now probably over-communicate 😛
I added the ‘Pink Flag’ thing to my original post, and of course that’s reactivated it and got people replying all over again.
Schoolgirl error … in retrospect, I should have just started a new post entirely!
Hugs
Ellie x
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Or biting your tongue to prevent yourself from telling someone (maybe even someone you know), “I have that skirt/dress too.”
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Allison-
I know, I’m on a business trip this week, and i saw a woman wearing a dress I have and I almost blurted out “I have that Dress” to my collogues. I just chuckled to myself.6 users thanked author for this post.
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This sort of fits here, so here goes.
A few days ago, I was in an on-line chat lobby and somebody quipped with the expression, …blow that up your skirt…”.
Boys, if only you knew what I was wearing!
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On a work conference call someone mentioned not getting “your knickers in a knot”, I replied with “mine are very comfortable thanks”. They thought it was a metaphor, if only they knew 😊
Ps mine were comfy but my heels were bugging me 🤣
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would it be possible to add a h]glossary of terms somewhere on the site?
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Oooh … I think that would be a great idea! I think lots of people would find something like that really useful. As I said in my opener, here are a few glossaries online but they don’t always fully agree with each other, which can be less than helpful if you’re trying to learn the lingo. Also, they are not always particularly comprehensive.
It would be good too, in this ‘Crossdressers’ Dictionary’ to have some kind of indication regarding which terms are acceptable and which are likely to cause offence. In most cases it’s probably blindingly obvious, but even so it would be helpful. And perhaps a bit about the history of each word or abbreviation … it could easily turn into small book if you weren’t careful!
Maybe, if someone were to put it together, it could sent out as a pdf document whenever someone new joined the site?
Anyway … there’s something for the editors to think about!
Hugs
Ellie x
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You are repeating some of my thoughts, too, Ellie. CDH needs some organisation of the information here and there needs to be some form of welcoming package of it, for new members.
I used to maintain such a list of information links on another large site regarding a different subject, so I can advise or mentor someone willing and able to do this here.
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I think maybe even something like a wiki on the CDH site. As with all wikis, they have to be maintained and moderated, but isn’t this site already doing that to some degree? This way if there is a new term or abbreviation, it can be added or modified accordingly. Thanks for sharing.
Best,
Tamiya
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Now you can call me Ray
Or you can call me Jay
Or you can me RJ.
But you doesn’t have to call me Ms. Johnson!
Sorry, I just couldn’t resist a flight back in time to Rowan and Martin’s Laugh In.
Like most here I respond to about anything. However, I really like when I get called sister. We truly do have a sisterhood here.
Love ,
Tommie 💖
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Hey Tommie
‘Sister’ – how I love that word too.
I have two older sisters; growing up I always felt like their lil sis. The longing to be treated that way was intense.
So yes … it feels wonderful, after all these years, to have found girls who will call me ‘sister’!
Hugs
Ellie x
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Fun and interesting thread Ellie and I’ve learned several new acronyms.
For me personally, call me anything except late for dinner:) Also not a big fan of gurl though. I really enjoy hearing and seeing my feminine name since it feels so affirming and I don’t get to hear it except from my sisters here.
Hugs,
Michelle
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Hey Michelle
Seeing and hearing my female name being used is one of the many, many wonderful things about being here on Crossdresser Heaven. I can’t get enough of it.
Hugs
Elle x
(PS Have to add that in my case Ellie no longer feels like my ‘female’ name but MY name. It’s what I call myself all the time, to the extent that at work today someone had to use my boy name twice before I even looked round!)
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To my recollection GURL was an acronym that referred to us ladies who first invaded the male “nerdworld” of computer gaming. It was a clumsy combination of G (girl) and URL (universal resource locator). If used as a positive, it was a reference to girl related or semi-friendly gaming sites etc. If used as a negative it was a semi-derogative term used by males who didn’t want females playing in their playground. Currently, I believe it refers to ladies, who identify as such, online, but only online. It also connotates a false identity, whether real or imagined.
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Hi Ellie, this is a very friendly place and I’m sure everybody in here are ready to help you if you need help whether its something specific about crossdressing or its about the language in here.
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Hi Ellie. When I joined I wasn’t sure what to think when someone called me girl or girlfriend. It took a little getting used to since if in the past in male mode, anyone that called you a girl was insulting your masculinity. But I’ve become used to it and my life has changed for the better. When I’m here, I’m a girl. Not necessarily physically but for sure mentally. I also realized a while back that all of the women on this site don’t really care what you call them, because we are all understanding and respectful here. We all realize that we have something in common and are just here to celebrate it and support one another.
On to the abbreviations, it won’t hurt anyone’s feelings if they use an abbreviation that you never heard of to ask what it is. I used to work for the government and we talked in acronyms all the time, and finally composed a list that we presented to new employees for orientation so they might know that we weren’t talking in code.
We’re glad your here girlfriend!
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Hey Jennifer
‘Girl’, ‘girlfriend’ – when I get called that it’s like balm for the soul.
As for the dreaded acronyms, I work in education so we get whole emails from senior managers that are incomprehensible without an Enigma machine.
Hugs
Ellie x
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You’re off to a good start, gf. When you reach 42nd Degree Crossdresser we’ll reveal the rest of our secret language.
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Is there a special handshake as well? Please let there be a special handshake!
Ellie x
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maybe the secret handshake is tickling the other persons palm while shaking hands, LOL
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Do I have to go through any rituals before I’m allowed to join the sorority? Or will someone just sidle up to me one day and pass me a note that says ‘You’re in, sister. This note will self-destruct after five seconds’?
Ellie x
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Hey girl!
You’re doing just fine in my book. Any of the polite feminine terms are good for me and probably all the other ladies here. I hope your journey of discovery is as fun for you, as its been for this girl!
Hugs for my sisters,
Jill
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I do not take offense to any word or words but can get mighty upset by the way words are used. I have no inject to say, Hi girl, but would punch somebody for saying, hey girl go get me a cup of coffee.
I have been greeted by SAs with hi honey, but would tell a waitress, “Honey, I have another drink”.
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Hi Ellie,
After registering on this site at the seventh attempt,having run away six times, I went straight to chat I and simply said “Hello Ladies” and have continued that way for two and a half years. No one has yet told me I am wrong.
I know exactly what you mean about liberating it is to be treated as a woman on this site.
Hugs,
Janet
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Love to call my GG friends girlfriends
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Hi Girlfriend,
Ellie we all love being called by Fem pronouns apart from sissy, that is a no no, we are all sister’s on here, I’ve been in the pink fog a long time since before i was a teen-ager, I’ve tried giving it up but it’s too strong to resist,
I’ve still not gotten all the meaning of all the acronym’s and I’ve been on CDH for awhile,
Some of the one’s i know are LBD , drab I’m in drab most of the time i do break it up by wearing bright coloured shirts and T shirts, there are a few other’s I’m aware of,
Hugs Rozalyn X
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Hey Girlfriend!
Love the post! I don’t get offended by Girls, Ladies, sweetheart, etc. I think it’s perfectly OK to shout out to a group “Hi Girls” or any other term that refers to the Feminine gender.
I do not like the “Gurl” much either.
Hugs
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Hi Girlfriend
I’m with you 💯 on your P.S. comment, love it when I got my Bianca on.
But I am totally at ease with friends who know all of me sometimes getting tripped up or tongue tied gendering me. I will tell anybody I like to be called how I present, but won’t get upset or angry if they don’t. Totally get how difficult it is especially for people who have known me for a long time.Personally don’t like the word gurl.
B x
P.S. Some friends have taken to simply calling me B because it’s the first letter of both my names, and how I usually sign off messages.
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I don’t see it much on this site, but have on another one, MAID, Man in A Dress. It’s what I am when I go out because I don’t wear makeup or a wig yet, just a dress and my forms.
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Ellie , I’m not sure if I can teach you any words but you will not offend me in any way . If you call me her, she, him , crossdresser, trans , it won’t bother me in the least. Yes I’m a crossdresser and love every thing involved with it. The only word I don’t like is “ sissy”. This site taught me “ pink fog” which I’d hadn’t hear of but had been dealing with it for many years. I always just said the urge to dress was strong .
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Hey Ashley. I’m totally with you on ‘sissy’ – not a word I would ever use.
I’d forgotten that I’d also added ‘pink fog’ to my vocabulary in the last two days. It seems like such a perfect phrase; I love it when it descends, but am also grateful for the existence of foglights!
Ellie x
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Hi Ellie. Great post! Heaven knows, I’m no expert. I’ve been on CDH for about three months now, and had a week en femme and a fabulous makeover recently. All this after a 35 year hiatus. But I like girls, ladies, girlfriend, sister and even girlie and hun. It all seems so natural communicating with the girls here in such a fashion. I’m sure everyone is comfortable with this, or even a bit thrilled! I know I am.
I know what you mean about acronyms. I’ve LEARNT SO, GG, AMAB, DADT, LBD, OBG, even XOXO!
Hugs, Chrissie xx.
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Question from another ‘rookie sister’ here: what is AMAB? Thanks, ladies!
Stephie
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Hi Stephie
I actually know that one, which is unusual for me. It’s ‘assigned male at birth’.
Chrissie – we posted at the same time 😛
Ellie x
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Thanks Ellie! Feels so special to get generous help from sweet sisters!
hugs, Stephie
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DADT and OBG? Help! *reaches for Google*
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