- December 28, 2021 at 6:50 am #594713Bree JewelParticipantRegistered On: October 3, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 6Has thanked: 9 timesBeen thanked: 33 times
Any advice on how to learn to wear heels? Just starting out and i’d luv one day to wear those 5 inch stilettos! But i don’t think my feet or calves are ready. Should i start with flats to figure out my size and then like just get higher a lil bit at a time?
Thanks for your helps!
- January 3, 2022 at 3:23 pm #603373SutekinaLadyRegistered On: January 27, 2020Topics: 4Replies: 125Has thanked: 1770 timesBeen thanked: 419 times
It depends entirely on the fitness level of your legs. Size is easy to figure out. Go to any shoe store and get someone to size your feet. Those gizmos have readings for both male and female. They will tell you the male size, but you look and see your female fit. Getting the right fit is tricky because depending on where you buy, sizes could change by half a size or by width. For example, regular width at Ardene’s is more narrow. That one is hit and miss. Back to the fitness of your legs. The stronger your legs are, the more likely the stronger your ankles are. That’s key to heel height. There’s also foot comfort and a different pressure on your spine, but I’m assuming if you are a jogger, all those other areas will be lined up as well. You don’t need to go to flats. I’d say, if you are not physically fit, max 3 inches. Probably 2.5 would be comfortable. I can run 10k and my max height is 4.5inches for a couple hours. 4inches for all day.
- December 28, 2021 at 11:32 pm #597335Rhonda LeeBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: September 29, 2021Topics: 2Replies: 71Has thanked: 94 timesBeen thanked: 404 times
I can wear 3.5″- 4″ heels comfortably all day PROVIDED the shoe is right; some I could not walk in for 30 feet. Wedges I have had are worse than heels. Any style of shoe can be uncomfortable; it takes experimenting. I prefer slingbacks, which are attractive and easier to fit. They also show off my polished toes. Why paint toenails, only to stick them in uncomfortable, unforgiving closed-toe pumps where one cannot see them?
I have had a few bad experiences, such as the day I caught a heel in the crack between the elevator car and the landing; deliberately fell on my back so as to break the heel rather than my back as the elevator took off. On other occasions the sole has separated from the heel, forcing me to walk in stockings while carrying the shoes. The worst calamity occurred when I tripped and fell down a few steps, from the table where I was dining to the concierge, landing on the slick, hard floor below. The floors were dark and slick, and the stair lamps out of order; waitresses were told to wear non-skid shoes but still took falls themselves. I later learned I was unconscious for about 5 minutes. When lifted up my pinky finger faced due west, my fourth finger northwest, and the other digits north. Thinking I had dislocated the digits I had a friend try to pull my fingers back in place. Not smart! I was soon on my way to the ER (another fun Rhonda episode). The first doctor set my bones incorrectly so they later had to be re-broken and stapled. After 2 months of therapy after bones healed I remained and will forever remain disfigured.. my best piano-playing days gone forever. I later found better gripping high-fashion shoes, shown below. They don’t click on floors as most heels do. They cluck.
- December 29, 2021 at 1:11 am #600523Rhonda LeeBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: September 29, 2021Topics: 2Replies: 71Has thanked: 94 timesBeen thanked: 404 times
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- December 28, 2021 at 7:44 pm #594999Beth GreenLadyRegistered On: February 24, 2021Topics: 30Replies: 577Has thanked: 7302 timesBeen thanked: 3173 times
As others have said, start with smaller heels, 2″. Practice and move up to 3″. And so on, and so on. Correct size is critical, the toes get squished as it is, if the shoes are too small it will be torture. I saw a picture of Lady Katherine once with her heels off. Her toes were twisted, curled, scrunched and red. It looked very painful, it takes true dedication to continually smile like she does.
Wedges are indeed wonderful. They give you the calf exercise while being stable and comfortable. I love my 4″ wedge sandals, but they are mostly retired for the winter. My winter shoes are 3″ ankle boots and 5″ thigh high boots, both are extremely comfortable and easy to walk in. The heels are a little larger than stilettos or pumps but not bulky. I can, and do, shovel snow wearing them.
As you move up in heel height you will find that 3″ is the best for everyday wear, 4″ or more are more suited to special occasions.
Now for the real challenge. Once you have mastered the heel toe straight line you have to learn to dance in heels. And remember, girls dance backwards!
- December 28, 2021 at 8:01 pm #595005Bree JewelLadyRegistered On: October 3, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 6Has thanked: 9 timesBeen thanked: 33 times
- December 28, 2021 at 8:35 pm #595015Beth GreenLadyRegistered On: February 24, 2021Topics: 30Replies: 577Has thanked: 7302 timesBeen thanked: 3173 times
Oh yes! Fun, if a little dangerous, small steps and careful movement. Today I wore a black down jacket over a knee length red sweater dress with black fleece tights and black thigh high boots while clearing the walk. My mail carrier thinks I’m nuts, I told her it was an internet challenge!
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- December 28, 2021 at 6:57 pm #594987Stephanie GreenLadyRegistered On: October 30, 2021Topics: 3Replies: 74Has thanked: 92 timesBeen thanked: 385 times
I wear pumps with 5″ heels. I had a pair of 6″ heels, but lost them in a purge. (Sigh. I’ve got to get a new pair.) High heels are hard on a girl’s calves. The more one wears them, the more the calves can tolerate them.
Make sure the shoes fit well when you buy them. Take short, heel to toe steps. Step one foot in front of the other. (It makes your hips move with a feminine swaying motion.) Most of all, practice, practice, practice.
- December 28, 2021 at 4:46 pm #594947Eileen BachBaronessRegistered On: February 27, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 149Has thanked: 81 timesBeen thanked: 671 times
- December 28, 2021 at 4:35 pm #594944Jillian FLadyRegistered On: May 19, 2021Topics: 7Replies: 188Has thanked: 417 timesBeen thanked: 767 times
I too faced your question and the answer is start small…PRACTICE
PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE…
Did I mention PRACTICE?
- December 28, 2021 at 8:53 am #594770Barb WireDuchess - AnnualRegistered On: September 16, 2021Topics: 14Replies: 642Has thanked: 3735 timesBeen thanked: 3400 times
Totally agree with everyone!
I was opportunistic, but stoopid! My fist pair of heels were 6”. Got them at a thrift store and they were my size! Jessica Simpson came home with me.
I have fallen down and twisted my back a few times at the beginning. NOT worth it. Eventually, I got good at waking in them, but the price and my vanity were too high.
My 3” heels are WAY easier to walk in than the sixes, but not nearly as sexy.
But walking in my 5.5ers feels amazingly sexy! Getting flushed just thinking about them! I can even run in them a bit too!
Wedges are smart! Should have done that first. And doing housework in them is smart too and I do a really good job! HA HA!!
Good luck, Bree and Happy New Year!
Hugs, Barb 🙂
- December 28, 2021 at 6:46 pm #594977LadyRegistered On: October 3, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 6Has thanked: 9 timesBeen thanked: 33 times
- December 28, 2021 at 7:13 pm #594991Carmen CruzLadyRegistered On: September 12, 2021Topics: 16Replies: 151Has thanked: 236 timesBeen thanked: 981 times
Wedges are my thing… I wear them like sneakers and can do pretty much any activity in them… they’re SUPER comfortable… may not be as “sleek” of a look as my stiletto heels, but sexy enough that’s for sure. It’s worth it to me for the look AND the comfort alone to always be in my wedges!
- December 28, 2021 at 8:34 am #594760Trish WhiteLadyRegistered On: December 2, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 50Has thanked: 72 timesBeen thanked: 205 times
Speaking from personal experience the only way to get used to high heels is to wear them…often. I started out wearing 3″ heels and stumbled around like a baby giraffe. But eventually, from practice practice practice, I became quite comfortable wearing them. After sometime I wanted to try higher heels and progressed from there to what I usually wear now. Usually it’s 4″ heels as well as 5″ if I want to look a little sexier. I wear a women’s size 10 so 4″ heels are very easy to walk in and my feet don’t usually get that tired or sore. With 5″ heels they can be comfortable but my feet do get sore after a long period of wearing them, but like most females the look definately out weighs the pain :). You just need to experiment and practice and you will find the heel height you like and are comfortable with. The nice thing with high heels is they give your hips a bit more sway when you walk and definately make your legs look very very nice. Good luck and let us know how you make out.
- December 28, 2021 at 8:29 am #594759Deborah SullivanRegistered On: February 27, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 803Has thanked: 3718 timesBeen thanked: 3360 times
I started just walking around the house doing daily activities like housework every day in three inch heels and have worked my way up when I occasionally wear a higher heel . Once you get use to it work then on the straight line with smaller steps till it feels natural. I now so enjoy walking in heels with confidence and builds up your self image when out and about
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- December 28, 2021 at 7:37 am #594735Connie TwirlLadyRegistered On: August 18, 2021Topics: 16Replies: 612Has thanked: 1104 timesBeen thanked: 2812 times
From (limited) experience, start with a 2″ heel, shorten your stride and walk the line as described by Anna. Resist the temptation to walk on tiptoe – you need to learn to trust those heels with all of your weight. Be very careful coming down stairs! Once you’re happy with those, move up to higher ones. Today – sensible shoes. Tomorrow – ballet boots!
- December 28, 2021 at 7:03 am #594722AnonymousTopics: 0Replies: 0Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 0 times
When walking, act like you’re walking on a single line (I call it the drunk test walk). Lay a thinner (no wider than 6″) on the floor and walk only on it. It builds the balance. Oh, and do be careful.
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